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You know how when people are afraid of something they know they should try to do it still. Afraid of talking to your bf: just do it! Afraid to make a phone call: do it! My problem is that it's often not anything in particular I'm afraid of so I get stuck on figuring out what I should do. And when there's nothing I should do, I try to figure what I want to do. All free time is spent figuring out what to do, and I don't know how to do exposures for this. Would it be to just do anything? And then my problem is how do I figure out what this anything should be!? Don't know if this makes sense, but I truly need some help with exposures and ways to deal with this. I just want to do something but keep compulsing instead because I don't know whats the right thing, or how to decide.

Pure O - OCD and Racism - need a friend Hi. I really need someone to talk to who is suffering from the same thing as me. For years I have had all types of OCD. Then the last year I developed a fear of racism and ocd. I am afraid i will say something racist. The only thought that goes through my head is that i will say something racist, and i get a severe panic attack. However once i start talking i calm down, and all thoughts disappear. Then the conversation is over and the fear is right back. I just started medicine, and therapy but I am afraid I will never heal or get better. I wanted to talk to someone who is going thru the same.

Does anybody find themselves trying to seek out the intrusive thoughts? My brain is finally settling down and focusing on positive things but because I’ve been struggling for the last 2 months and having those thoughts is all I’ve know, I find myself seeking out those thoughts to try and prepare myself for them if they happen I’m the future. But it’s just silly to seek out those thoughts. Please tell me I’m not the only one that does this 😔

sexuality can change & mine has changed because of my so-ocd. it’s been eight months of thinking about liking certain people that now i actually just do like them. i enjoy the thoughts i get, maybe i don’t enjoy the fact that i enjoy them n maybe i don’t enjoy them emotionally. but my body enjoys the thoughts sexually very much and even then the thoughts make my mind turned on and enjoy them as well. it’s very scary. and i wish it wasn’t true. but i’ve definitely conditioned myself to change my sexuality. and now i’m just going to hide in my room for the rest of my life because i absolutely hate what i’ve done to myself

Hi friendly friends! I’m new to this. I’m seeking some stories of hope & advice. I’m 23 & lost my brother in a traumatic way at the age of 12. Have always struggled with anxiety (been told GAD) about my health, the future but this past year it’s been on maximum overdrive. I’ve been in a healthy & mainly happy relationship for almost 4 years but now that it’s time to plan for the future I have developed ROCD. “What if I’m too mentally ill for him?” “What if I’ve lost ability to love?” “What if he’ll never move in with me?” I’m also scared when I scroll through social media I’m not living my life to the fullest. I don’t like my job and want to leave it all & travel the world or move to California. However, I’m not an independent person hate traveling alone etc. I’m scared I have been misdiagnosed & am doomed to be unhappy & have doubts constantly. Before this happened (around December) I felt so sure he was the one now I am constantly nervous and googling articles & seeking reassurance. I guess I would like to hear of hope & other people having successful lives & relationships with OCD. Hopefully this isn’t considered a compulsion? Oh well.

I feel no love for my partner... no romantic feelings.... 😞 I know I am still in love with him. I am really depressed... my partner says I seem angry.., I am angry.... I am angry at myself for letting it get this bad... I love him I really do... he’s my gin gin (he’s a ginger) (nickname) I think about how I use to be and I want to feel that way for him again... 😢 why why can’t I love him..... I don’t like the idea of being with someone else... or him for that matter.. I can’t tell if I am just super numb and that I am reading too much into it... or I am just completely in denial.... I want my relationship back to normal again... I want to be in love with him bc it felt amazing when I was and I wasn’t scared like this bc I knew I loved him more than anything in the world... I want this to be ROCD. 😭 I miss making love to him... I miss being happy.... 😞 my ROCD was getting worse last year and then my partner had that talk that turned my life upside down.... 😞😞 Has anyone ever Doug so deep to the point they feel nothing at all!?

Considering switching therapists/frustrated by “core fear” questions Sorry to post again in quick succession—I had a pretty frustrating therapy session today. I had a therapist ask me to try to uncover my “core fear” today. It’s not the first time a therapist has asked me this, and it (at least for me) feels incredibly unproductive? Like, I have a neural network that inclines me towards obsession, I feel like I know how it formed, I’ve looked at my emotional history EXHAUSTIVELY (it’s literally a compulsion), and now I just want structure and guidance to help me take steps to stop ruminating so that I can allow that neural network to atrophy. But instead I have to use up a bunch of sessions doing psychoanalysis on whether I’m afraid of being alone??? I guess I’m asking whether I should try a different therapist. I feel like I’m asking for very specific help and I’m not getting it.

*TRIGGER WARNING* Hey all, I hope you’re having a good day and know that you’re not alone in this battle against this hellish mental disorder. I just wanted to ask a quick question, not meant to seek reassurance, but rather to seek community and see if my thoughts aren’t as uncommon as I feel they are. If you’re worried about triggering your OCD (for reference, I have Harm OCD, with worries of hurting people I love and random strangers), I ask you not to read this in case you worry about me planting new thoughts for you to worry about. However, any responses would be appreciated. I just have a couple of thoughts that really bother me as of late with Harm OCD. Thought #1: “I’ve never harmed anyone before so how do I know I don’t like hurting people?” Thought #2: “I won’t be able to restrain myself forever.” Thought #3: Moments of my brains shouting “Just do it!” in response to a harmful thought, such as when driving and seeing pedestrians. This also happens when I’m speaking with others, and can include saying offensive things to others as well. I’ve been working with a NOCD therapist for a few months now, and things are definitely better than they were, as I’m functioning better on a daily basis, but I’m still having issues since recovery isn’t a straight line, and I’m currently having a worse spell. I’d just like to have a sense of community. Thanks for reading and I hope you’re doing well, we can all get through this.

I'm feeling really confused. I watched some porn as an exposure to just accept what I feel ( therapist suggested looking at sexual material but dont compulse). I'm a woman but feel like I'm aroused looking at womens breasts. I've always felt it but hated it, I feel it even more now but at the same time I feel aroused by a man and woman having sex. Everything feels more confusing and it doesnt just seem like a gronial response. I feel like everything I've feared is coming true but it's also confusing. I also don't feel super aroused by men's bodies but yet would like to have sex? Just feel confused where this leaves me...

Hey everyone — I wrote this in my journal the other day and I’m curious if anyone else experiences “talking in circles” or not being able to “get to the point” when answering a question because you think that a lot of information is necessary to answer it. I have this problem with schoolwork. Instead of a one-sentence answer, I’ll write a long paragraph explaining details that are relevant but aren’t necessary to answer the question. This entry is out of context, but I think you’ll get the vibe: ‘I want to say that I understood what you were asking. You were asking, “What has helped you to make progress in the past?” I understood why you were asking that question: so that you can help facilitate me in following the plan. I suppose I just didn’t have a good answer. And when I tried to answer, the thought I expressed branched off into another semi-related topic. I feel as if I can’t get a clear thought through. It makes me feel like I am stupid and unable to hold a followable and intelligible conversation. And then I understood what you were doing in response: you acknowledged what I said respectfully and then found a way to circle back to your original question which I didn’t answer very well. And then I would try and explain my answer to the original question again, but I had no direct answer and it led me off onto another path. I feel as if my cognition makes it difficult to hold a cohesive, purposeful, and coherent conversation. I want to apologize because I feel like I’m waisting time instead of getting to the important questions / topics. I really, really wish I could just put my stupid thoughts together in a concise way so that I could answer your question. I am painfully aware of my circling thoughts and overly-detailed responses that are difficult to follow. I am very self-conscious of it. And I am very well aware of which thoughts are normal and which are disordered. That’s why I always say, “I know that’s disordered.” I get afraid that people will think I’m crazy. I don’t know why this happens to me. Maybe it’s OCD, anxiety, or maybe it’s some other disorder that I’m not diagnosed with yet (ADD)? I’m also unsure if I talk like this all the time or if it’s only when I get anxiety or when a lot of thoughts that I want to express come into my mind at once. The same thing sometimes happens when I do my schoolwork. I get anxiety that what I am saying is unintelligible and that what I am saying makes no sense. I wonder if more medication will help or if this is just how I think. And I bet I’ve repeated myself numerous times in this script. So I’ll stop writing. I hope my point came across and I hope I was able to express all that I felt the need to say.’

I’m feeling even worse now.... it feels like people think I’m a disgusting pedo or a MAP in denial when I dont want to be 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

I hate my life so much... it’s like no one can either see or wants to respond to the posts I’m making... I wanna die... huddle up in a corner.... I just want someone ANYONE to listen to my story....

I’ve got to wear a heart monitor for 14 days and I hate it. In between that time I’m thinking about starting Zoloft. It’s been staring at me through my cabinet but when I almost had 4 panic attacks in the cardiologist of all places I’ve had enough. I’m tired. I’m exhausted. I’m sick of the thought loops making me think I’m gonna pass out, get sick (even tho I have strep rn), seizure, stroke etc. my brain keeps taking me places I don’t want to go. I’m scared of meds. I’ve been on them before. But I can’t continue like this. I’m sick of being sad and scared

TW I don't know how God could use me....I mean God probably didn't know I was gonna be a dipshit and do something stupid.......its unfathomable to me if he did know and it was part of my plan for life :( .......I can't get thoughts out of my head...an image.....no peace....no joy.....Life is hard to live with if you have no peace.....God please help me.

Hey everyone, I’ve been dealing with violent intrusive thoughts/images and even urges. And in this very moment, I feel very anxious, desperate and I feel an urgency to my thoughts. I don’t know if this is a normal thing, but sometimes it’s hard for me to look at people, I don’t know why but it makes me uncomfortable. Maybe because I don’t know if I would be capable of harming them or not. I’ve also been avoiding hanging out with people lately. This feels so real that I’m afraid it’s not OCD, I feel like it’s not OCD and it’s scary bc I haven’t been diagnosed yet. I hope anyone can respond to this.

Hey Guys, after a traumatic event I had a feeling/thought if things around me are real or that I am not real. Ever since I have been obsessed with that thought. I have felt detached from my environment. But I know disassociation and derealization are triggered with anxiety. But I still feel this way when I'm not anxious. Can my thought obsession about feeling disconnected make me feel disconnected? Thanks!

Keep watching awaken into love and nothing is hitting me... 😞 I feel the need to really break up with my partner! I don’t wanna be just friends but that feeling keeps coming up!! I feel panicky and I have no real reason to break up! I am just freaking out!

My OCD is trying to make me think I have a crush on someone I don't have a crush on. Is this even an OCD thing? It feels so real but I hate it!! I tried not giving into rumination about the thoughts or other compulsions but then I felt like it was definitely true 😣

Is it just me that when someone gets mad at me, it's like my relationship with them starts from square one? I overthink them being mad so much that I can't move past it, and I look for the tiniest little signs that they're still mad at me deep down. For example, my boss got MILDLY annoyed with me because I didn't see a message she sent this morning, but my brain is treating it like she's been on the edge of firing me (she literally just asked why I didn't respond, and reminded me that I needed to be online for 9AM, then we MOVED PAST IT). When this happens, it would literally take the other person to come up to me like 'I'm sorry for getting mad - you don't need to worry about it. I didn't mean to get annoyed' for me to move past it. It takes me MONTHS to get over the tiniest little spat. So so done.