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I told my last girlfriend of 16 months I suffer from Pure OCD sexually intrusive thoughts, and she ended our relationship.

I am a Catholic Christian, and something that has been stressing me out today is the topic of the Final Judgement. One of my OCD fears is cheating on my boyfriend and now I’m having crazy thoughts like “what if I cheated on him, and then on judgement day God judges me for it, and then me and him are eternally separated?”. I’m also really afraid to get married (the fear comes and goes) because I am afraid I will let my OCD sabotage it. I’m afraid I’ll let the shame and guilt get to me and I’ll confess to things I did not do. Ugh. Does any of this make sense?

I struggle worse when we leaves for work in office. I’ve been struggling with this for so long and I’ve made no progress. I keep pushing back therapy again (I tried ERP twice) and I got a little better but not much. I’m scared, hopeless and unsure. I do not care if I am bisexual, but I just really want to be with my husband and have kids. I do think women are so beautiful and get turned on by them in porn. Although, I just can’t actually picture myself being sexual with them or in a relationship. My brain gives me this deep feeling I’m just in denial. But when I get out of my head, I realize I love him, his humor, his intellect, his values, and kissing and cuddling him. So why do I have this strong nag I’m gay if I love all those things? I just want to live peacefully😔 we are trying for kids soon and I am getting freaked out. I really want a family with him. He will be the best dad. I had a not so great dad so that’s all I want for my kids. He’s also the BEST to me too. This makes me suicidal when I think of not being with him. On the outside to everyone I look fine, but truly I am not (usually) 😔 again I even accepted I’m bisexual but even that feels so odd at times. Please help or give ideas/insigt.

I'm in a living relationship with a man I plan to marry in the near future. My OCD struggles include obsessing over past scenarios with other men. There are times when I interacted with my boyfriends' friends with whom I felt attracted to, and then walked away feeling like I flirted with them because of how I felt towards them and acted shy or something. There is one particular scenario that is driving me crazy. I went to a party with my boyfriend. His friend who I find attractive was there. During our interactions, I noticed that I was thinking that "I hope he likes me" or "Maybe I'm his type." I didn't say anything flirty, but I can't help but think that I acted flirty because I wanted his attention. I remember coming put of the bathroom and hoping that the friend was still around. This causes me so much guilt. I never had any intention of actually trying to be with this guy. I wanted him to like me and find me attractive. I was drinking, so maybe this played a role in how I acted. I love my boyfriend and am completely satisfied in our relationship. He knows about my OCD and I've confessed lots of uncomfortable stuff to him. He wants to help me. He says the only time I need to confess something is if I did something physical with a guy. However, this haunts me and I feel the need to confess this to him.

I’m seriously considering not bothering to have a relationship. After being single for twenty years at forty one and having a relationship that lasted less than twenty four hours I think why bother. Relationships just hurt. I don’t understand her thinking and why she said she’d been interested from the start. Why lie when you know how vulnerable I am? If anyone wants to complain about anything relationship related do so in the comments.

Hi guys :) I am new to NOCD after seeing an ad for it on tik tok and am really hoping this app helps me find ways to help my OCD thoughts. Growing up, I always thought OCD was limited to being overly neat and tidy but it turns out, after going undiagnosed for 25 years, I have been diagnosed with OCD based on my obsessive thoughts. It feels as though I am unable to turn my brain off when I’m obsessing about something - tonight I was that I realized I forgot my pair of my favorite leggings at my parents house and wanted to wear them to work tomorrow. My obsessive thoughts took me down the rabbit hole “what if the dog eats them” and other ridiculous thoughts. I couldn’t stop thinking about it. I also exhibit relationship OCD, constantly thinking “am I with the right person”. This usually happens after me and my partner hang out. During the hangout, I feel fine but afterwards, I begin obsessing over every little detail from the hangout and it feels like I have no control over my thoughts. If you have any similar OCD qualities to the ones I described, feel free to comment and we can be in touch. I don’t know anyone who has OCD and am looking to find people who experience similar things to me and get through these thoughts together.

Hi guys! I believe I have an OCD since I was around 12. I remember then I had a lot of intrusive thoughts about religious things and I had a counting compulsion (I thought that If I don't count to 8 in specific moments, someone gets hurt) During later years it was really changing - I stopped being religious, so the OCD theme also stopped. Then I had I reckon SOCD, harm OCD and many others. But for know my main topic is ROCD. But because of the fact that this is my main intrusive thoughts topic I start to have this awful thoughts that this is not OCD, I'm just with the wrong person and I need to accept this fact. This is really struggling for me, because i really love my bf and Im in the healthy realtionship but Im so tired of having this kind of thoughts, sometimes I cannot sleep because of them. Also the fact that I've never been diagnosed (I cannot go on theraphy right now unfortunately) is another trigger because I have thoughts that I dont really have OCD, I just making this up, because I cannot accept the truth. Is there someone with similar experiance? Or maybe someone who can have advice for me?

I’ve been having this thing going on where I can’t remember if I did something and I retrace every step and everything I did. And the something that I “did” is an intrusive thought. For example, last night my father in law was outside until the early am and I had an intrusive thought like what if I went out there with him and we did “stuff” and I just don’t remember. I don’t know why my ocd is obsessing over this, this isn’t the first time. I don’t know what to do ): I know I would never do something like that so why is this happening? I can’t stop rethinking everything to make sure nothing happened. Please leave your thoughts

Hi so I just want to kind of explain my story and if there is anyone here who has experienced this before I would love if you replied 😁. Last year around this time, I experienced the worst anxiety and it’s when I discovered I had ocd. I had horrendous rocd with my ex boyfriend. We broke up around March, and the ocd got better and better by the days, there were some days where it BARELY ever even appeared. I fell in love with my guy best friend about 2 months ago, we confessed and have now been together for almost a week. As soon as we confessed to eachother, I started having my rocd thoughts again. This time it’s a bunch of thoughts about my ex boyfriend who I have been over, along with other meaningless guys I’ve talked to. I don’t know why this is happening, I have loved my boyfriend for so long and why all of a sudden when we made it official my rocd has to make me question every feeling I have ever had with him. I’m just hopeless and I want to live in the moment with my boyfriend without my brain telling me I miss all of these guys and want to be with them instead.

Does anyone get unwanted sexual thoughts? I get them frequently and I didn’t know what subtype to add them into because it didn’t fit the “children” one they had as an option. I get these with family members and it makes me feel horrible and disgusted with myself. I used to get them when I was younger and I didn’t know what it was at the time, I just remember that I felt really icky and grossed out. I know these thoughts aren’t me but lately it’s been getting worse and I’m not sure how to stop them. I’ve never outwardly confessed this to anyone, but I know this isn’t me. And I want to stop these thoughts. If anyone has any suggestions on how please help.

Do you have this feeling that everything must ne perfect in your relationship or you have a problem and you need to break up? I went with my boyfriend to the New Years Party yesterday and everything was fine, we were having fun. Then it comes to the fact that all of our friends go dancing and my bf is now not into dancing at all (because of his health he doesn't wanna dance, because he is not comfortable with that). And then I had a lot of intrusive thoughts that I'm not having fun because of that, what If I want something who will be having wild fun with me, even when he wanted me to go dance with our friends and he is completlty okay with sitting alone for a while, I felt a lot of guilt and I had thoghts like I should be with someone who is having fun with me, we are young and I want to party and maybe its just not a match (and we are together for a couple years and he is amazing bf) I've almost cried 2 hours at the Party because of the fact not everything is looking exactly like I wanted. This is not the first time I had something like that - its always when anything is happening not exactly like I imagined. If someone maybe had that? Maybe you can tell me some tips or a good words, because for now on the one hand I feel guilt that I could even think that and on the other hand I still have this thoughts that I just need to admit that I need something else

have y‘all ever experienced emotional dependency on a friend? like when you are feeling down, they are the first one to go to for emotional support. and when they are busy / can’t give you attention right now, you feel sadder? i’ve always been like that but now this collides with my so-ocd and it’s the worst 😔

I think I got dumped. It is less than 24 hours and she is making excuses and now ghosting me. I mean she has Asperger’s but she responded with “I’ll probably see you”. We haven’t been anywhere or done anything for me to upset her, I suppose she just changed her mind. I’m a big believer in Karma so I just see this as something better down the road. It is a shame though because she was an intelligent woman with hobbies, interests and opinions. I was kind of fascinated with what was to come. In fairness she wasn’t mean and although I’m disappointed I am not hurt. I’m used to this now and I see the humour in it. Happy New Year lol. 🤣

You know what I really hate about this stupid disorder? That up until my first stuck intrusive thought (when I was 26), I knew who I was. I was happy. I had goals. I had friends. I was the most confident I’d ever been. Then from that very moment, it’s been 10 years of me being anxious, losing my life, losing just about everything. Not even sure who I am anymore. Questions after questions after questions of wether I’m attracted to someone, sexuality, ROCD, SOOCD. And not once have I felt myself. How can a healthy, happy 26 year old man go from one day knowing themselves to the next, 10 devastating years of not being able to think about ANYTHING OR ANYONE else except my theme? How?! I hate it.

Sometimes I'll see sexual content throughout the day. I have a crush on someone but I feel like it's lessening a bit because we aren't really talking. I doubt she feels the same way back but it's still kind of there. I still see sexual things online and it's mostly not intentionally. I've been mindlessly scrolling Instagram and sexually implied things have come up, whether it's fictional characters or celebrities. I even have thoughts about sexual things like porn. It feels like I'm slipping. I really don't want to watch porn but I've been feeling so low and worried about my health concerns I've just been mindlessly scrolling Instagram with nothing else to do. Now it feels like I'm hurting this person even though we aren't even in a relationship or that I'm being unfaithful to myself. Don't know if this is ROCD or if I'm just not ready for this at all

do y’all ever feel like this MUST be real? like it FEELS real. i got an intrusive urge to kiss a female on the shoulder. ruminating did not help me to get rid of that feeling. it feels like i want it. but i do not want to want it. i’ve been dealing with this subtype for almost a year now and it gets worse day by day.

I’m so confused and it’s infuriating. My head and my heart are constantly at war with each other. One minute I could be so sure of my feelings, and the next I’m second guessing everything. I don’t want to mess it up this time. He’s been my biggest supporter the past couple months, I’ve grown a lot with him. So why do these thoughts keep coming back. Im undiagnosed and my biggest fear is that I don’t have OCD and these thoughts are true. I can’t do that to him. I feel so lost.

Who else is battling this Monster alone? I'm really struggling with feeling alone today. I've been divorced for 5 years and I'm scared that I won't be able to find any body to even be close with because of my OCD. I really just need a friend that understands or can relate. The holidays have been extra hard and my therapist is on vacation. My mind is going through a long list of things to latch onto so I am doing exposure. But I'm exhausted, and just feel like I need one of those hugs that makes you feel safe.

I have a fear of intimacy, like, if a boy that I like likes me back, I get terrified. I did some research and ended up getting triggered. Someone in the comments of one of the videos I was looking at said to someone with the same fear that they could be "lithromantic"? So i researched this, and while, yeah some of it applied to me, my soocd was telling me that I wasn't straight and that I'm lithromantic and that I'll never achieve happiness with a man because of this. It makes me feel in denial and just as scared as I was about being gay. Like, i'm straight. And I just think my ocd makes me think that my fear of intimacy means I'm lithromantic, but I want to find joy in a man's compliments, I just can't because of the fear of intimacy and hocd. So it makes me prefer men not saying anything. Can someone help? X.

Anyone else feel so depressed because like I’ll share what I need from my husband over and over and he continues to neglect me? He works all the time and even when he’s off he’s never present. He’s always leaving the house and doing things or just doing everything BUT quality time with me and I’m pretty sure that’s my love language. It makes it hard when I have OcD on top of that because then the only time I do see him I’m trying to get support for my thoughts and he just gets frustrated and sometimes he’s used my OCD fears against me and I feel worse for them. I feel so alone, I’ve tried to tell him how neglected I feel, but he just says he feels the same, sometimes he apologizes, but then he doesn’t really change anything. I don’t want to have to beg my husband to spend time with me or fill my needs, I’m so exhausted. And OCD and depression on top of it while having no family support, just makes me feel so utterly depressed. Anyone?