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Hey guys so I finally started doing erp for soocd, 6 long years of battling and I had the BEST week of my life, symptoms gone everything. Then suddenly I get hit with the what if my bf is cheating on me and holy this has hit me like a truck. I’m convinced my bf doesn’t love me he’s going to break up and he’s cheating on me, even tho he’s amazing. I need to ask for reassurance every second of the day and if he doesn’t reply I freak out convinced he’s gonna break up with me. Has anyone had this ? My poor bf is never going to get a break and I’m afraid this is going to ruin us. We have been together for a year and it’s honestly been a year of just struggle and pain because of my ocd, it’s attacked our relationship and everything. I want it to stop. Any tips?

Hello everyone, I'm just now hearing about the various types of OCD. I was diagnosed with Bipolar 1 in 2007. I always suffered from anxiety since early childhood as I grew up in an unstable and abusive home between 2 households. I have insecurities with relationships both with family and friends. I tend to feel unworthy of love or respect which makes ppl take advantage of my efforts to make friends or ask for help. I wasn't shown much respect as a child which explains a lot of my symptoms of anxiety and depression. I feel like I was punished and blamed for not reporting my abuser as a child which haunts me to this day 50 yrs later.

Hi, I’m Lukas, 21 years old and am going through some sort of a crisis at the minute. Some time ago I had an argument with my boyfriend after lying to him about something. After weeks of worrying and overthinking I finally found the courage to tell him the truth, as I thought that would make me feel better and less guilty, which it did (he also want mad about it). However now I’m back to worrying as my mind is telling me that I did some other things, such as sleeping with someone other than my boyfriend. I’ve been finding myself spiralling for a day now and gradually start believing that I actually did cheat on my boyfriend, which I know deep inside me is not the case. However I keep questioning my memory and don’t know what to do. I have the urge to tell him, even though I know that my mind is just playing a trick on me. For instance I spent the entire day today with my friends and family, but despite that I still have the feeling that I did something just like what I previously mentioned, which is next to impossible. I just don’t know what to do, I don’t want to lose my boyfriend. I really need some help and/or advice.

Hey, this isn't really ocd related but I just wanted to know if anyone else has MDD ( Major Depression Disorder) it's also known as Clinical Depression. I also have OCD as well. But if anyone else has MDD, I'd just like to hear any advice on how to get over those tough days dealing with it or sharing your story with it. Mine just have been bad for a lil while now and today it just feels pretty unforgiving to me. I have work soon but idk, I just feel so out of it. And my bf and I are taking a break as of last night cause sometimes I just feel so different that I need to figure out who I am or what. I just get very numb or almost like a zombie almost? I can't quite explain it. But yeah I didn't know where else to ask and thought I'd ask here real quick haha. Thanks for anyone who replies. I just feel stuck, It's like I have the key to open the lock but my will power just won't let me I have looked on YouTube to look for people's experiences cause I like knowing I'm not alone in this battle. But I didn't really see videos besides Dr's. Telling you what it is lol where I'm looking for someone telling their story and what has helped them. I like supporting those videos cause it helps the community get more recognized.

Just a quick question for anyone on here today. Does anyone else's OCD get more prominent when they're mad?? Not necessarily "mad" but just frustrated. For example, I'll be having an argument with my girl and the intrusive thoughts just seem to arise way more frequent and severe i guess is a word i can use for it. They just pester me a lot more when I'm frustrated rather than just sitting around playing a video game or something. Appreciate y'all wit the feedback. Have a good one.

I have a boyfriend I’ve been with for 11 months today. He’s great, caring, kind, funny, etc. But he’s very aggressive when he’s mad or jealous and he is the rudest person I’ve ever met when we fight. He has squeezed me, grabbed me, pulled me, and today he hit me on the head with a water bottle, not hard, but not very gently either. I’m assuming he thought it was funny. We are 16, our families are close, so I wouldn’t consider this too serious because we’re young. But he never listens to me when I tell him, “that hurt!” He laughs and will most often say, “i barely tapped you.” He is about twice the size of me, and I’m starting to completely resent him, and honestly, I’ve told him that. For the most part we are very healthy, we have lots of trust and communication, we work things out beautifully too but he’s just too damn aggressive and won’t listen to me all the amounts of times i cry. he’ll call me names. I’m admittedly not the best girlfriend, i have a lot of baggage and trauma from my past that causes me to have an avoidant attachment style and have a rage problem. I understand the mean words he uses, but he should never ever be aggressive to me. I just need another side to this. I need someone to comment what they think so I can show him, because he just thinks he’s done nothing wrong and that I’m just dramatic. I know a lot of people on here are adults, so I’m asking for help.

I struggle a lot with ROCD and I'm so worried that I'm burdening my partner with these issues I have. He hasn't told me that or anything but I'm so worried that I'm letting him down by being so scared. Anyone relate?

…waiting for someone you already meant spiritually… it’s hard. I just want to physically be with them and I can’t. Even with all the knowledge I have about them…temporarily cope. Having activities/self work has helped a lot, ive created healthy boundaries with myself while remaining completely open in expressing myself. Perfection doesn’t exist So here I am having a hard time tolerating… tolerating that they aren’t physically here… yet?. …also I sincerely hate intrusive OCD. At least I grinned at this meme 🥴. I’m going to 💤 ✌🏼 yall.

Hi all, recently became stuck on the idea of my wife and I splitting up, and the impact on our dynamic and our child. We have a very healthy relationship, and have been together over a decade. I love her completely and am typically a golden retriever type partner. She's everything to me and then some, which is why these thoughts are so distressing. I've never done therapy, and recently tried antidepressants which spiked my anxiety through the roof so I stopped. I've been dealing with with this for about 3 months. In my constant googling I came across Pure O and ROCD, and based on all I've read seems to align with my experience. This may be reassurance seeking, but would love to celebrate success stories of others who have been able to overcome the intrusive thoughts and find peace. This feels like such a lonely subtype because I can't fully share with and lean on my best friend who I'm used to telling everything to. I'm also not used to needing support. I'm usually the supporter.

Is it ocd or is it denial I don't get what ifs and I wasn't diagnosed with ocd I went to the pych twice and part me just doesn't want to be tru that I'm might be a p and using ocd just for me not to believe it. Im going to go again and if they say I am a p I'm going to end it because that's a scary thought and I'm also worried about my relationship with my boyfriend he is 6 years younger then me and I'm 27 and he's 21 I met him when he was 19 turning 20 and I was 25 turning 26. I'm tired and I don't want sympathy I just needed to type this out it's been getting on my nerves a lot and I think everyday of breaking up with him fear of judgement. He does act very immature I don't know what do with my life myself and the people around me and making friends is not my cup of tea everytime im around new people I feel like I'm hiding a big secret and I don't want to get close to anyone and just makes me feel bitter because people just be normal and not have these intrusive thoughts pop up and lm like why me why why me. And I just push everyone away I can't stand myself either I'm fat and eating is what really what makes me happy no one knows what I go through and I can't talk about it I'm afraid of getting shunned or that I won't get better and actually seek help that I know I need I've feel like I have no control over my life I'm 27 no job I don't have my own place my sisters are doing better then me I probably sound selfish I want to get better and it if is just ocd it would be a sigh of relief and I can work through my issues. I have more I want to say but this part of my truth

I was drunk once when me and my boyfriend had sex, he wasn't, but while being sober I told him that I am okay if we have sex while I have had alcohol. Afterwards, while still drunk, I told him that I think we shouldn't have sex whole I'm drunk anymore just because I feel sick afterwards from the alcohol and also just because I decided that it was overall not a good idea in general (nothing bad happened but I did get super sleepy.) My ocd has recently though hyperfixated on the idea that my boyfriend has sa'd me when I don't feel like he has (other posts give explanation as to that situation.) is this bad?? I was drunk again and we teased eachother but it didn't go father than that and when I told him we should stop, we did. jokes were still made and stuff but otherwise nothing happened. I feel like my ocd is just getting worse and worse about this whole thing. making me feel things about him I don't actually believe and think things happened that didn't. please give me advice

Conversations about cancellations and public figures being rightfully criticized for saying slurs when they were younger makes me unsure of how I should feel about my bf’s past. He said bad things like the f word when he was in middle school and it used to be normalized in his high school for non-black minorities to say the n word, including him, and a couple times since being with him he has accidentally said it. Idk it’s just conflicting… I think it’s wrong and he also knows that and is anti-homophobia, anti-racist, etc. but I don’t think it’s okay when people just write it off as “they were too young to know better” because I don’t agree with that. I guess it’s just something that I need to accept is a gray area.

I’ve been stressed a lot and not well rested… I’m feeling paranoid about everything and feeling like I’ll die if I don’t get reassurance. Idk if it’s ocd or valid fears, I know the patterns are the same as all my other OCD obsessions but these ones don’t fit into exact categories. Like, paranoid I’ll loose my job and be homeless, paranoid I’m doing a bad job and all my friends aren’t my friends and actually can’t stand me. I’m alone, I can’t talk to my sisters. Even if you can’t get reassurance, everyone needs someone in their life to talk to and to be there for them when they’re going through something hard. I feel like I do so long as what I’m struggling with isn’t to hard or too extreme, when I feel I need someone the most, that’s when I feel I can’t turn to anyone. And experience has taught me that, not just my own fears. So I isolate and the thoughts I’m having lately, I know the patterns of OCD, they hit all the sudden like a ton of bricks and it’s immense anxiety and thoughts that I should kms. Or that that is the only way out of the terror my life brings me. I am also AUDHD and have a very hard time functioning and holding down a job, much less getting a new job!!! I feel like I’m drowning and everything is overwhelming to the point of not actually being able to handle it. I’ve been sober for 10 days and don’t want to mess it up!!! I know reassurance won’t help in the long run, but if someone here could help me see I’m not alone, that would help in the long run. Thankyou.

Been having a hard few days. I’m visiting my long distance boyfriend and have had a lot of rocd thoughts since getting here. I just got this intrusive thought / feeling like I am not in love with him anymore / actually grossed out by him, like I don’t want him to touch me or kiss him. I hate this feeling and I absolutely love physical touch. Trying to picture our future no longer feels right like it used to since this relapse and I am just so worried and don’t know how to stop ruminating today 😣 posting here for some extra support

I had a dream and I feel very hopeless. I'm not sure if it was big portion or just the end of the dream but their was something romantic (it's uncomfortable to even type omfg) with my brother. I was just thinking about how since my brother is getting older, we have more in common and can be like actual friends. This is just so unsettling and rn I just want to stay away from everyone like my intrusive thoughts have been so bad and I'm tired man. I truly have gotten tired of fighting my brain and can't differentiate my thoughts from intrusive ones.

Has anyone’s OCD effect their sex life at all? I have SO OCD and it really have effected the intimacy with my bf because I get in my head to much. I think I need to work on that the most :(

I have recently started to have more frequent bouts of sexual dysfunction with my girlfriend, used to happen once in a blue moon but now seems to be unpredictable (one day yes one day no) and has been causing lots of stress which leads to increase in dysfunction i think (vicious cycle). I take clomipramine, increased dosage 3 ish months ago and this begun about a month ago, also unfortunately began using nicotine again around same time but plan to stop next week(dont know if this is relevant). I have been quite stressed about this and other things and when it comes time to perform, i cant even focus and am just worrying things wont work or something is wrong. I just want to go back to normal and not have one more (large, personally) thing to worry about. Any tips? Im a healthy young male who excercises regularly.

Personally ive never wanted to date someone younger then me. Ive always wanted to date someone my exact age or older (not too old) because thats just how ive been. (This post has become triggering and a bit of a vent :( But-since my real event happened. Ive been constantly googling and reading comments on other social medias about age gaps. Specifically two year age gaps. Without going into too much detail i had a a group of online friends and we were in this age range (16-18.) because of the things that happened my pocd is extremely bad and even though i never had any desire to date any of my younger friends or any of my friends in general my ocd has latched onto this specific obsession with age gaps and it makes me sick because of what happened specifically with one of my younger friends, even though i never dated or ever wanted to date them. They were always just a friend. But this obsession is still there and im really struggling with it. And i feel gross and nasty for even being friends in the first place which isn’t right because they and my other younger friends i knew at the time were nice people. Now that im writing it all out i just keep comparing myself to my cocsa event that happened to me when i was a kid. I wont go into detail obviously but the kid that hurt me then was also two years older than me (i was 8 he was 10 :( And maybe this obsession is also because of that? Ik when my real event happened i kept comparing myself to him and how im like him now-my brain is telling me im just asking or sympathy ot worse as excuse as i mention this but i dont want to believe that-i dont even know what im talking about anymore im just very triggered right now. I just feel like what happened lumps me in with that kid now. I feel like a few people on here can relate to this obsession with age gaps? If you do how do you deal with it so you can stop? Because it seems that even telling my brain and reminding myself that i never want to be in that kind of relationship-it still doesn’t matter. Has anyone had experiences like this i hate feeling like im the only one

I use self pleasure as a coping method…temporarily release/relief. I can become hyperactive within a day that can lead to days… tbh I’ve done this since I was a child and well to unknowingly but feeling wise … temporarily cope with feeling lonely. Inexperience with another human… that sort of “regular relationship “… romantic ~friendship kind if it even exists or I created and still yearn for. I realize I don’t want to response in this way even overworking my self doing other activities outside of sex. Reality is I’m not perfect… I try to create new ways to cope, still use some old things as well but… sometimes nothing works. I also know It’s not meant to fulfill this part of me. I don’t want them to b/c well there passions first & coping methods 2 if you understand what I mean. I get sad just saddens… frustrates me at times both because what else am I suppose to do? act? or say?. I’m in an ever-changing relationship with myself … I’ve made some profound growth for the best of me…welp this is just something I can’t control nor change, I just deal with daily. Dating/spiritually is just too … 😶 no words. Falling in love with someone, they feel the same but there’s long distance and other factors… both wanting to do anything to support the other but one understands burnout/burdens just self-health is important (me). I love them more to not want them to work even harder if anything choose them self … b/c that’s love too 😩… ugh jeez… This is my first entry here b/c why not in the moment … I feel comfortable using this space as another outlet I guess. If any one else feels this way, learning about yourself through relationships or not being in one either way I’m not perfect and well you’re not alone. I get lonely too. Note: this kinda all over the place … if you understand well thank you. 🪞🫶🏽

Has anyone ever acted on their thought. I used to make them pop up out of self destruction and now I feel they’re not intrusive but a part of me now and I acted on a thought and now ocd is telling me I’m gay and I can’t be with my bf even though I know even though I don’t feel it I don’t like women.