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I’m currently in a very dark place I need some help. Are there Christians on this app who have got over the fear over the unforgivable sin? It makes me want to die.

I don’t know what to do, I feel so lost and feel like I’m losing my mind… I don’t know what to do, I am still getting the terrible thoughts of “God is telling you to kill someone” and I’m literally mid panic attack, I keep trying to reason with logic because it even says in the 10 commandments “thou shall not murder.” So I don’t even know why I’m getting these thoughts… ugh… people say that intrusive thoughts trigger things you care about the most, which mine would be Jesus & the people around me, which is why I get the harm OCD about people I care about the most.. someone recently said that I could be schizophrenic and now I’m terribly worried that I could have that.. I am so terribly afraid of becoming “crazy” and doing horrible things… can someone please give me tips to help this, and or message me?

I’ve been struggling a lot recently with intrusive thoughts that have really taken over my life. Lately, I’ve got so much thoughts that tells me people I care about, like my mom, won’t have a life after death because of me or my thoughts. It feels like my mind convinces me that these thoughts are true, and the fact that I can’t feel my usual anxiety makes it even scarier. I’m terrified that not feeling anxious means I actually want these things to happen, which I know deep down isn’t true. I’ve had constant anxiety for pretty long and now the last few days I haven’t been able to feel anything. I’m unable to feel any of the love or connection I normally do for my family and friends, and even my anxiety feels dulled. This is so unsettling because in the past, my anxiety acted as a reassurance that I didn’t want the horrible thoughts my OCD was throwing at me. Now, without that, I feel completely lost and afraid that I’ve lost myself. Has anyone else experienced this emotional numbness or a disconnect from your feelings? How do you cope when your OCD thoughts feel so real, but you can’t feel the anxiety that usually comes with them? I would really appreciate any advice or experiences you could share.

Someone had told me that my religious ocd/harm ocd intrusive thoughts, could be caused by paranoia or schizophrenia, and now I can’t stop thinking that I’m losing my mind and that I’m crazy… my religious ocd sometimes says “God wants you to harm someone.” Or “God is the almighty and can control you and make you do these terrible things” even though I know deep down that’s completely absurd.. it even says it in the 10 commandments.. I’m so lost.. I hope I’m not actually crazy.. I don’t want to hurt anyone..

For anyone struggling with religious OCD/ scurpulosity?

I’m struggling with my moral scrupulosity OCD. Whenever a therapist has assigned me ERP in the past, I feel like it goes against my values. Like I obsess over being a good person, following the rules, and in general not causing harm in the world. And I’m asked to do things that go against that? Does anyone else struggle to reconcile these ideas? I want to get better so shouldn’t I follow the therapy.. But also I feel like it makes me hate myself even more. And provides more fodder for my OCD. Is anyone else stuck?

I was raised by very strict parents and have always longed to Ben independent and have an adventurous life. I originally wanted to be a nurse because that provided the lifestyle I was hoping for. I didn’t like some aspects of it and my father also wasn’t really supportive and tried to sway me to be a teacher. I never really wanted to be a teacher but I kind of felt forced to do it. Also, I’m not a confident person, I’m very fearful. It took me a long time to learn how to drive. Partly because of having overprotective parents who infantilized me. But then also partly because my natural fearful and cautious personality. There’s nothing I want more than to be free and have adventure. But there’s also nothing more terrifying to me to be free and have adventure. I am now a young adult but still live with my parents. They have control of my life and I don’t have any friends. I thought about changing careers so I could be financially independent. But sometimes I think I should just stick with teaching. I just don’t think I could be financially independent which is probably exactly why my father wanted me to do it. He always says I should stay at home until I get married. I’m not going to go into a philosophical discussion about feminism vs traditional gender roles, but like I said I’m a fearful person, and if there was someone to just marry me so I could escape living my with parents who mistreat me I would be fine with that. I guess I’m just wondering what to do. I want to be free but I’m also terrified of making any decisions on my own. Terrified of the outside world and I have horrible ocd. I was also raised Christian. I still am a Christian but I don’t believe in a strict set of rules you must adhere to, to please God. Does anyone know what I should do? I have dreams of adventure but the dreams paralyze me because being alone in the world is so terrifying? I’m also afraid that God would be upset with me. It’s like my parents treat me terrible but I’m afraid of being alone. I am the scapegoat of the family and have always disagreed with a lot of my families ideas. I believe in Christianity but I’m not very traditional or family oriented like my family is. It’s hard to be around my family because I disagree with all of them but I’m also scared to be on my own in the real world.

Does anyone have any tips on how to move on from intrusive thoughts when you’re constantly afraid that if you ignore them God will be mad at you?

It’s another sleepless night accompanied by my most painful obsession: what happens after we die? It’s not so much a mental debate, rather than a panic provoked by what I believe to be absolute. I’ve struggled with religion, and I still do. I was raised Christian, but didn’t find much belief in God after my father passed before my teenage years. I’ve considered myself agnostic with an open mind to religion, but for as long as I can remember, the most logical afterlife scenario to me is nothing. Just. Nothing. Pitch black, no consciousness, nothing, just as it was before you were born. And this TERRIFIES me. I don’t want life to end! Sure I’ve had my struggles in life, certainly had moments where I’ve wish I didn’t have to live, but the idea that one day I’ll never experience life again makes all the bs worth it. I’d rather live a life of constant tragedy and struggle than to simply cease existing. I’ve had this obsession since I was in elementary school, before I even knew what religion and death truly were. Before I ever experienced death in my family, I’d be crying and panicking to my mother in the middle of the night about how I’m terrified to die. It went away for a couple years, but the last couple months it’s been resurfacing out of nowhere. Whenever I have a calm and quiet moment, this thought pops in my head. Like a little devil whispering reminders with the sole intention of causing panic. I try so hard to think of something, anything different. But no matter what, the dread of death persists and it’s all I can think about until I’m hyperventilating repeating “no no no” to myself, desperately trying to calm down and fall asleep. I’m so tired of this torture. How do I stop this obsession? How do I come to terms with my inevitable fate? I’ve tried finding solace in religion but I can’t force myself to believe in something I don’t just to find comfort in death. I want there to be something more after death, but how do I believe it to be true? I want to believe in an afterlife, whether heaven or hell or reincarnation. I don’t care. I just want to live life without this fear of what comes next.

Hey y'all, I've been noticing a lot of people on here are religious. It's been years since I've been religious myself, and I'm just curious as to whether it helps and how it helps with OCD.

Our quest for certainty in the universe demonstrates our intrinsic recognition of a source or entity that possesses Absolute Knowledge, often referred to as The All-Knowing or Allah (God in Arabic). When we cease our pursuit of identifying this source of certainty and instead embrace uncertainty, we are, in essence, submitting to this deity—known as God, Allah, Elohim, and by other names. This submission is an acknowledgment of the existence of a deity that holds the Absolute Truth with certainty. May we all find healing through our submission to The One Source of Truth, whom we call God or Allah

I started seeing every little thing as a sin. Or at least things that will bring bad karma. Everything, even little things like listening to music or enjoying a meal. In my eyes, everything everyone is doing is mostly sins and it terrifies me to death. It scares me to the point of paralysis and I can’t even do anything anymore because everything is a sin in my eyes. I’ll definitely spiral if I think about it more, but if I don’t, I feel like I’m lying to myself. I don’t even have confidence that this is OCD anymore. What if I’m right (I’m not necessarily wrong according to my religious doctrines, not that I’m a 100% sure) and nothings going to help me, not even therapy? And if most things humans do are sins anyway, what’s the point of anything? (See how it starts relating to an existential crisis) I’m terrified that no one’s gonna be able to help me anymore. I feel like I’m at wits ends. I don’t practice Christianity btw. Any insights or even “me too”s would help.

Does anyone else feel like they think these horrible things on there own or on purpose. I feel like I'm intentionally trying to hurt god and the holy Spirit now and idk what to do. I feel like I'm becoming my worst fear. Idk what to do I feel like I'm losing touch with myself and idk what to do. And I'm really worried God is going to turn his face from me or I'm going to do something I am going to regret. I'm not really sure whats happening to me, but I'm scared I'm going crazy.

Hello everyone! I'm from Bangladesh and I'm 22 years old. I'm a Muslim. And I've been dealing with this religious ocd issue for almost 2 years now. And my issue is about modesty. So there's a term called hijab(head covering)in my religion and I've always seen woman wearing it and I've always known that it was an obligation but I wasn't bothered by it because I knew my intentions weren't bad. But one day while I was sitting in my prayers matt a thought came that "I don't wear hijab and I'm doing sin". It came just one fo a sudden and point to be noted is before having this thought I was actually having some continuous argument on this topic with some of my friends. So after that thought I went mad and I started to research online a lottttttttt, I mean I used to invest 24 hours, I even used to calculate while I would be sleeping. So at one moment I fought out it wasn't an obligation and I was relieved but then the issue arrised that "maybe my intentions are bad behind wearing any outfit, maybe I wear outfits to attract boys and maybe I wear them only for boys" this kind of thoughts. So the issue becomes even more complicated when I try to say "no I don't want to look pretty in front of boys at all" and this is a total contradiction kind of thinking because I do wear and go Infront of people either they are boy or girl to look good, so I can't really say that I don't want to look good in front of boys but when I include boys into this, this is very triggering and sounds really bad. Then I found a scholar who said that "A woman would wear something to show it, and this is very normal" so after hearing this my anxiety went off but then it shifted to something else. So one day I was looking in the mirror and was trying to sit with cross legged to see how I look. And one of a sudden I felt like I'm an arrogant person and by sitting cross legged I'm trying to show my superiority. And arrogance is a hugeeee sin in islam , people with an atom of arrogant can't go to heaven. So it was extremely suffocating and anxious. I would search online that "how we can tell if someone is arrogant?", "If a girl sits with legs crossed are they arrogant?" And this kinda questions and many answer would even say that "Yes they're arrogant" so it is even more triggering. Then I had even removed one of my pictures in Facebook where I was standing with a cross legged pose and it triggered me. And I actually make stories in my head from my childhood. For example"I'm crying to death in real by imagining someone really close to me died but in real they are alive, I'll put myself in many characters in those imagination like Maybe I'm a very successful woman and I've many servants in my home lol." So I'm the arrogant phase this "imagination" started to work like poisen if I imagine myself as an successful woman who is so rich , I would see myself treating so badly the poor people and with the servants and to lower my anxiety I would even try to act extra nicely with those people in my imagination. And me sitting with cross legged actually had a reason like I want to look confidence, bold, strong, someone you know valuable. So there is a mixture or something there which I actually want and that looks so much like arrogance. And I've struggled a lotttt in this theme then idk how it just turned of and while I was researching a lot another theme came which was "what if my religion is not correct? What if there's no God? And how I would even know ever that God is real or my religion is real?, Did the prophets really ever exist?" And yeah nobody can find the truth because for sure I can't go back to the past to see what was real and god wouldn't come to earth to make me understand that he is real. So I started to reaseaoto prove I'm in the right religion and this kinda things. And at one point it was soooo terrible that at one side my faith is shaken and at another side I used to find myself seeking forgiveness even in my sleep. It was this huge. I used to face a lot of anxiety while talking to someone from a different faith than mine. I remember one day a girl of my class came to me who was a Hindu and was talking to me and inside I was continuously calculating "Why im Muslim and she is Hindu? No no I'm in the right religion, there's nothing to worry" this kinda thoughts. And I even used to have some disturbing images and words for Allah while praying. And idk how I calculated and this theme had stopped. But I'm still stuck on my modesty issue. This is the only theme I've now. I've searched a lot and I've known Allah haven't prescribed any specific dress code for woman but woman should be just modest. So everything is fine but I doubt my intentions a lotttt!!! I feel like there's a huge mess in my intentions. And maybe I only want boys attention and I can't even deny that, but if I'm not denying that, that doesn't mean I want that. So this is sooo confusing. And my modesty matter is not only about me being sinful but it is also about myself that I don't want to be that kind of person who is always thinking about boys and boys! I don't want to. I have seen many girls saying that they wear for themselves and this really makes me sad, I mean I used to consider myself like them as well but now I don't have the courage or confidence. And many times I won't even believe it is ocd, I feel like it is a message from Allah to change me because how bad I've been in my whole life. And i would even be afraid to look good Infront of someone I like. As if I'm such a characterless person. And some scenes from my past events would come related to my modesty like in 2013 I was 10 years old so I just randomly had liked someone and I scene is being replied that "how had I flipped my hair in front of them?" It feels very lousy as if my act was very seductive or something bad. And I wish it was false, I just wish. And as I said I make stories in my head I also make stories with those I have ever liked like celebrity, someone from my region or friend and would create romantic scenes. So now this also make me realize that I actually wear or talk or whatever I do in front of boys it is to provoke them sexually and I just seduce them and my intentions are bad. And there are days when I wouldn't feel any anxiety and that is also scary as if I don't have ocd and everything is real. And sometimes I even feel afraid to be cured from ocd because then everything would be on me and I'll actually be responsible for bad acts. And I've not taken any medicine or therapy or anything, I had went to a counselling session in Bangladesh but it was such a worst experience. And I actually found out it was ocd through myself actually and the doctor also had confirmed that I've ocd. And another thing I forgot to tell is that I've also been suffering from panic attacks for the last 6 years now. In my whole Religious ocd Allah feels very contradictory to me. As if what I want Allah doesn't want that and what Allah wants I don't want that. And the second one is so bad to even think I mean I'm nobody to say I don't like it. May Allah forgives. Thank you so much for your time and sorry for this long text. I'm really struggling!

Anyone else have a hard time discerning conviction vs OCD? Been in a relationship with someone for 2 months now. We’re both believers in Christ and are active in our communities. It started off with me experiencing relationship OCD where I was struggling with doubts of my attraction towards my partner but now I’ve started to wonder if God doesn’t want me in this relationship. I’ve recently been having thoughts that I’m disobeying God and that all of this is happening as a result of me ignoring him. I’m having a hard time understanding whether I’m intentionally ignoring a conviction or if OCD is the culprit. This sucks, haha.

I was talking with a relative. We were discussing our commonalities. Im muslim revert samd my familys christians. My brother was talking about God being a father and as muslīs we dont believe that. I didnt correct him and just let him talk. But i didnt want to create arguement but i worry should i have corrected or educated him becsuse they dont know that.

TW: Mentions of pornography To start off, I won’t get into all of the reasons, however I am personally against pornography, especially in a relationship (these reasons are not related to my OCD). I am single and have found this boundary very hard to navigate especially in the current dating scene and it has caused me a lot of distress. I am extremely ashamed to admit it, but a few days ago I viewed something online intentionally and immediately felt so much guilt and regret for doing so, I am absolutely disgusted with myself and I feel like such a fraud in my beliefs. How can I ever expect to find someone who matches these standards if I can’t even myself? I feel so hopeless and angry with myself. I know that I messed up and the fault is 100% on me, but it is taking such a toll on me. It’s all I can think about really, everything in my day to day life reminds me of this issue and the guilt and disgust I feel for abandoning my values like that just stings. I can’t enjoy doing anything these last few days and I feel especially hopeless in my future dating prospects, an issue that normally bothers me anyways. I want to be able to move past these negative feelings and forgive myself however I feel as though I don’t deserve it at all, I am very lost on what to do and am just stuck in this endless loop of thinking.

I feel like i am fighting against God all the time and that He is against me. It’s painful because i love Jesus and want to serve Him. Can anyone relate? I don’t want to fight against God, i want His will to be done. I want to walk in the freedom that God has given us in Christ. I know there is nothing wrong with skateboarding or taking care of my body. These are the themes i tend to struggle with. I guess this is just scrupulosity but i still feel like i am rebelling against God and He doesn’t want me to enjoy these things. Life is more than this. It’s about serving God and others. Just struggling and want to overcome. To have a good relationship with God instead of feeling like this all the time.

For people who are religious. How do u meditate on the Bible to counteract negative thoughts and feelings, because I feelike the negativity is winning and like the truth of the Bible is not sinking into my heart.

I love and believe in Jesus. I always have believed in Jesus. I don’t know why my thoughts are saying that I don’t believe anymore. I think it might be because I feel like I’m so close to a breakthrough from OCD and spiritual warfare, but I have no idea. I feel like God is going to deliver me soon, so the devil has been attacking me more. I don’t know, but I seriously am so scared. If you’re a Christian, please give me advice.