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I just got diagnosed with OCD and anxiety today and prescribed Prozac. I’m feeling happy I’m finally getting help but a little cautious about moving forward with medications but I think it’s very necessary for me.

I am struggling bad tonight. My partner focused ROCD is flaring up so bad. I get very triggered when my husband shaves his beard (and he has to because he’s in the military ) because he has a bit of a double chin, not because he’s overweight but because he has a bit of an overbite/ overjet, which predisposes him to make it look like he has a double chin. I am hyper fixating on it so much and it’s making me so sad and bitter. I hate this. I’ve been looking at old pictures (partly to remind myself of when he had a beard, which is my preferred look). It gives me both relief (because I know he can always grow out his beard when he gets out of the military) and partly it gives me stress (because that’s not how he looks right now). This hyperfixation is making me feel like I’m not attracted to him and I’m getting so depressed over it. What do I do? It’s not like I can will myself to be more attracted to him in this moment. I know he’s a very attractive man and a lot of women would kill to be with him, but I can’t get this out of my head. 🥺

i completed my 15 minute free call and got scheduled with a therapist next week. i’m so afraid i won’t be able to hold out until then, that my thoughts will continue eating away at me and something bad will occur. i don’t know how long i can take it without having someone to talk to or give me a diagnosis. i’m afraid to tell my parents or close cousin about this topic, so i really have no one right now. thoughts?

Hello. So for the past month and a half i’d say, i have been feeling really depressed and anxious especially about my relationship. Before this started me and my boyfriend were fighting a lot but i still looked at him like the world stopped spinning. One night after an argument, me and him were kinda just sitting around and i got this feeling of “do i have feelings for him anymore” ever since that night i haven’t been able to completely shake this feeling. I still enjoy his company and love when he texts me and i love cuddling and all that stuff. I have realized more things/toxic traits i had to work on with this feeling of anxiety which is a good outcome. I have thought about breaks or breaking up but deep down i felt like that wouldn’t solve anything. I could be having a great time and think only positive thoughts about life and my relationship and then all of the sudden think “do i like him” “is this real or fake love” “is being single better” but in reality i want to be with him and see myself with him even though lately i feel like it’s hard to see the future ever since that night. I keep trying to get a therapist but the wait lists are extremely long. I just really need some advice or someone tell me how to fix this and how to become me again because it’s really starting to take over my life and i feel like a totally different person.

I get intrusive thoughts about harming my daughter. I’ll get an intrusive thought and then I’m my head I’ll say to myself “I don’t want to hurt her” repeating until I feel better. Well “what if I want to hurt her “ popped into my head and now I’m second guessing myself. I have doubt. I know if it came down to it I’d never hurt my baby but the fact that I doubted it is like replaying in my head. I’m scared. I want to cry. I feel like I want to turn to god and ask for help but I’m scared to cause that could mean I’m being delusional. I’ve never been super religious but grew up with a religious family so now that I want to turn to god I’m like am I being delusional? Is this my OCD? I know I’m not supposed to ask for reassurance but I need to know if I’m going crazy or something. My heart hurts. My brain is tired. And I’m scared.

I feel like for as long as I can remember, my intrusive thoughts are in the form of questions. This morning, I couldn’t help but think “What do I want out of my life?””Do I want to be in a relationship with this person?””Am I making the right choices?” With every decision I make, I worry about other options, I feel like I am constantly worrying about what if this happens, what if I didn’t do that. I work with my therapist who encourages that I have issues with judgement. Because of this, I think I can never be 100% confident or assuring in myself or anything I do

Please I need help I want to be sure if this is real ocd, I had a dream 8 months ago about two gay guys having sex after that night my life changed I felt like I have turn gay and that I was not attracted to women any more this made me feel so uncomfortable and depressed I avoided hanging out with my male friends because I think maybe I will feel something down there. I even avoided watching tv and movies because I feel like I will get attracted to the characters, everyday I kept on analyzing checking my past if I had any experience before checking my past relationships asking myself questions. Even in my sleep I think what if I’m gay and I have been denied what if this is really who I am I have never questioned this before just after that dream I felt like the dream meant something to me im even afraid to call my friends because I think maybe I will feel something down there. Normal when I’m a call with my girlfriend or any girl I always feel something big down there but ever since this happened I don’t, I even try as much not to think of any sexual fantasy I had with my girlfriend or other girls because I feel like an image will just pop up. And sometimes it feels like anything I have an intrusive thought I kind feel something down there but I keep questioning do I like this. Why I’m I getting this if it doesn’t mean anything. Before that dream my life was normal I like girls a lot and I always think of girls but after that dream it’s hard to control my thoughts I get feelings I don’t even understand.I always check to see if something is going on down there even in public even at home even when I’m sleep🤦‍♂️I stopped a lot of things just because I don’t understand myself I try as much not to dream out it but it keeps coming. Now its telling me the thoughts are okay I feel comfortable with it on like before and it’s confusing me now i seriously need help please I want to know if it’s ocd or not google has done more harm than good 🤦‍♂️

Lately I have been feeling like I may not have OCD, maybe I’m just crazy and manipulative. I have been diagnosed with OCD for years now and tend to struggled a lot with relationships. My therapist has told me that my behaviors in relationships are caused by ROCD but sometimes I just feel like I’m a bad person. I am finally with a very nice person after an abusive relationship and I thought some of those symptoms may go away because this person is different but they’ve only gotten worse. I am so easily triggered and convince myself that my partner doesn’t like me and can’t handle me. I end up trying to break up almost weekly. Things will be good and then one small trigger blows everything up and i feel like I’m dying and can’t control myself. I don’t know if i’ll ever be able to be in a relationship

Right before my period I spiral SO bad. The intrusive thoughts and anxiety get worse. Can OCD be hormonal? Or have a connection to hormones? Why does this happen? Also side note, when I get an intrusive thought and the hit of anxiety I’ll clutch my fists or my pants. Is this normal? I think I do it to make sure I don’t hurt anyone. Does anyone else do this

I just saw 666 twice in a row and it scares me so much. anybody else??

I was reading a book on OCD my therapist told me to read and in the book they have a test to see if you have ocd and the questions all seemed like a stereotypical view of OCD and i felt like i only related to one or two questions and now i’m sitting here thinking you don’t really have ocd or your mental compulsions aren’t actually valued compulsions and now i’m sitting here high thinking this was all a lie, my diagnosis was a lie, and i don’t have OCD that this was all me.

I have a thought that I don't remember whether I did some action in the past or not. and I constantly want to give myself an answer, because this is actually important for my relationship. prehistory: at the very beginning of the relationship with my current boyfriend, there was a betrayal on my part. in the first 2 weeks of our relationship, I still did not understand whether it would be a long relationship or not, and my ex invited me for a walk, and we kissed. The kiss was for a few seconds, but still. At first I didn't feel any remorse, but the longer I dated my boyfriend, the more I realized that I had made a mistake. I told him about it, he accepted, did not scandalize, supported and we continued our relationship. We've been dating for almost 4 years. We were both 17 years old at the time. Now we are 21. And a few months ago I remembered that situation and I was carried away - I began to think that maybe there was not only a kiss, maybe there were two kisses, or maybe something more, or maybe I kissed not only with this ex, but also with someone, began to write to different guys if I had anything with them during a relationship with my boyfriend. it seemed to me like I could not trust my memory and I definitely forgot something. I constantly told my boyfriend about these thoughts, he said that this is all nonsense, why am I making up my mind. and I just couldn't trust myself. it seemed to be true. How does classic OCD work in others? delusional thoughts that have nothing to do with reality. I have a different situation - there really was that kiss, I confessed to the guy, but was there anything else that I decided not to remember?or my psyche erased these memories. I went to a specialist for help, they told me it was OCD. but when the thought arises, I really have the feeling that it was so. I take antidepressants prescribed by the doctor, but still there are thoughts, and they are always different. I also have compulsions, constantly checking my phone, where I was that day, what messages I wrote, constantly checking my Google browsing history. I have this condition since August 2022. When I started taking antidepressants, everything seemed to improve, but it seems that everything returned again. if I could rely on my memory it would be much easier to get rid of it. and so, I just don’t understand if it was true, or if it’s OCD. I just can't stand it anymore, I consider myself a terrible person. I don't deserve my boyfriend. It's very hard for me. Yes, we were young, everyone makes mistakes, but I consider myself a traitor. I'm sick of myself. I hate myself for doing that. We had a difficult relationship, my boyfriend did not cheat on me, but he thought about his ex-girlfriend and wanted to return to her. He had thoughts of cheating on me. But he did nothing. I had a different situation, I did it unconsciously, because I'm stupid. But I know it doesn't excuse me. He even went to a psychotherapist, because he constantly thought about her and wanted to return to her and did not know what to do. Now I don't think I've kissed anyone else, I've realized it's not true and my OCD. (Thanks to my psychiatrist) But now I began to constantly remember what happened that evening. Was there another kiss that evening? I'm just obsessed with remembering everything. I don't know what to do, do you think I'm a bad person? Am I a cheater? Thanks for the answer in advance, I feel very bad, thank you for this application. (sorry for the mistakes, I'm from Ukraine)

i woke up this morning and laid there just thinking. mind was like what if these thoughts are not thoughts and i’m making myself think these things and i’m like why would i think this like what is going on. why now am i sitting here wondering why is this happening.

there’s a thing i do, and it’s repeating mantras to myself like “i’m a good person” or “i would never do that” or “i am never going to hurt anybody” and i just wanna know if those would be considered compulsions? if so, how do i stop? 😣

I don't think I've struggled with this one before. Bilut the person I've been dating for 9 months now, I just recently opened up to about my ocd and let him see me at my "worst", during an obsessive breakdown. I have told him that I was afraid to show him because I thought he'd think I was crazy and broken and then leave. He said he doesn't think that and that he loves me the way I am. But since I have trust issues from being lied to from my last 10 year relationship, I have a hard time believing him and not over thinking. Since then, I'm over analyzing everything. He didn't respond to my "I love you so much" text. I made a comment the other day about how "I hope I never have to use a dating app again" and he didn't say anything at all. I'm overthinking his silence. I told him on two different occasions that I was struggling and all he said was "I'm sorry". Small things like that... He's a very sweet, kind, loving guy. Very patient and understanding. Man of few words. I don't want to address this because I don't want to come off as needy or crazy. I feel like I've come at him with small things or vulnerabilities so much in the last few weeks I don't want to do it AGAIN. Not sure if this has happened to anyone else

These last few days my ocd had been maybe the worst it’s ever been. Currently, I am trying to do schoolwork assignments but I’m having a hard time reading because my mind is reading too fast and just skipping over the words then I feel frustrated like I have to go back and read the words carefully one by one with the same brain effort put to each word. Then I feel like I need to go back and look at how much I’ve read up to now and how much I need to read still and compare and it’s a never ending cycle of frustration. My mind is also racing about negative past events on top of that

Has anyone even happily had a relationship with their gf/boyf after having rocd with them

I literally had a sex dream abt my abuser and I feel disgusted after waking up or just shocked bc now I feel now and how I felt in the dream are different.. and it’s weird bc I it’s like i didn’t know it was my abuser but it was yk? Like he was clearly physically present but I didn’t feel that vibe or aura abt them so I thought it was a different person but but physically they looked like them and I feel so disgusted bc I remember the details and I feel so ashamed bc I felt the dream and i saw myself like it :((( idk what that means bc now I’m kinda worried that means I had sexually feelings for my abuser deep down but I woke up like chill until I remembered and I felt disgusted ofc but I feel like I’m so used to anything being a possibility like maybe I do think or that like the ocd exposure thing that I feel bad that I kinda am not scared as much anymore? But it still concerns me bc I feel so disgusted by it now and even more bc my groinals and I still feel it like bleh :/

I get anxiety every single time I have a stomach ache and you know how often I have a stomach ache every single day I get anxiety every single day about the same things and even more things but it’s not just that so much things trigger it and I feel so misunderstood like people think oh you have a fear of throwing up well no one like throwing up or get over it but it’s not that simple I’m traumatized like I’d rather do something I absolutely hate than throw up. I literally avoid everything I can’t eat this can do that can’t share. i have to take vitamin c everyday to improve my immune system I don’t like travel because I’m scared of motion sickness I get scared on rides thinking someone will Throw up on me I cant drink even though I’m underage and alcohol is disgusting but still I can’t be around little kids because they have too many germs. I always think I have a fever and I’m constantly checking my temp. I’m constantly feeling my head and my cheeks to make sure they’re not hot. I get scared to go to my cousins house because they are always sick I can’t eat at certain restaurant i have to check dates on food. I can’t wear certain clothes. i have dreams of myself throwing up. When I get intrusive thoughts/ images about me getting sick or someone else. I Literally can not function on certain days from the past I got sick there is so much more how will this ever stop how will I ever be able to function I avoid so much and I literally miss out on so much things because of this like I literally want to shut down in my room and never come out that’s how bad it is. I have this extreme fear of getting sick/ vomiting and OCD has latched onto that fear ever since I was little and I have to do all these compulsions and this is just a list of some of the things I have to do. Anyone else relate?

does anybody else experience more OCD like symptoms when they feel as though their life is getting out of control or a big change happened? when I feel as though things are getting out of control, I obsess over the things that I can’t control. Such as food, cleanliness, and the list goes on and on I’m sure you would understand.