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Anybody else have obsessive ruminations about their partner being a “moral” person? It doesn’t relate to God or a higher power but rather being obsessed about my partner not causing harm to others/ fighting for social good.

I recently had a dream that i was romantically in love with a child, but we didn't do anything sexual. I've never had a dream like this before. But now when i recall on how i felt in the dream it's like i felt a romantic attraction. And i remember the feeling, it feels so real.. I wonder if the romantic attraction was just a figment of my imagination and OCD or I'm actually a pedophile. I've struggled with pocd for a while, but I've never been sexually aroused by a child. Does anyone have any answers?

I’ve been struggling with POCD since I was 18 years old, I am now 22. It’s terrifying how quickly it switched from my ocd focusing on a fear of pregnancy, to magical thinking ocd, and then to POCD. I’ve been suffering with it so much so that I’ve convinced myself and have lost friends due to confession compulsions. I have major issues with ruminating, and it frequently goes hand in hand with my relationship OCD and my Suicidal thoughts OCD. (Worrying my partner will leave me because what if I am, and that I can’t take this anymore so I have to __) I often experience things like shame, guilt, grief, and intense emotional pain that manifests itself into nausea and heartburn and sometimes headaches. I’ve tried everything, so this app really is my last resort. I wish to find community here, to know that what I’m facing I’m not alone in my battles with. I know that I’m not, so why does my brain work so hard telling me I am? I love children, I always have. But I get so afraid of being near them. I want to get better. I want to be able to spend time with my family again.

Does everyone really have em too?

I’m not 100% sure that I have OCD, but I do have PTSD and some new intrusive thoughts were triggered a couple weeks ago. It feels like they have changed my whole perception of my life since then. Every experience that should be fun or relaxing is tainted with the horrible dread I feel when these thoughts creep in. I was really enjoying my life for a while before these new thoughts started and it feels like I have lost contact with that version of myself and my life. I’m afraid of these thoughts tainting things that I want to stay good and pure. I’m just feeling really lost about how to soothe myself and dig out of this

Had a new type of OCD though today which startled me and out of nowhere. “You can’t handle it.” You will eventually lose control no matter what you try and do.” Anyone else have this? And tips on how to fight back so it isn’t as strong next time?

Can it take a week to a month?

It wants me to engage in compulsions surrounding school in September to ensure I won't be a failure. I also am in the middle of my spring semester, worried about my math class but still pushing regardless. Anything? Guys please answer, this is scary, I'm afraid what will happen if I don't do the compulsions that I also have to do now and in September

Im worried that I abused him and that’s why he snapped and treated me the way he did. My boyfriend and I met when I was 15 and he was 20. We dated for two years and I told my parents both times about us but he broke up with me both times because he was in love with someone else. They banned me from seeing him because they said he was horrible and a loser but I didn’t believe them so I saw him anwyays. Two years into it he was begging for me to come back even when I had a boyfriend so I broke up w my boyfriend to be with him. He told me that he actually didn’t wanna be in a relationship but eventually we ended up together but I told him that we had to be careful because my parents would break us up if we were together and they found out. He said he wanted to see me so I bought him tickets to seee me but I told him if my parents found out we wouldn’t be able to see eachother. They found out and he broke up with me because he said I made him fall for me all over again just for my parents to not let us be together. He said he would come back if it was meant to be etc… he ended up coming back and I took him back but he would leave and I would beg for him back I would tell him if he got his shit together by not being an alcoholic and gettting a job we could be together but my parents weren’t gonna let us be together untik eh did that and he said it was my fault for leading him on. I ended up taking him back but said we couldn’t be official until he got his drinking under control and he called me abusive I knew I was gonna tell my parents at some point but I wanted to wait until I knew for sure he got his drinking under control or actually got a job or went back to school like he promised he would so I wouldn’t be telling them just for him to break my heart again and then banning him from seeing me forever. My dad had told me before I went to school if I got back together with him before he got his shit together he would make me drop out and force me to come home. I told my bf this and he never really said much about it and at first I said it would be years before we could be together if he didn’t wanan change but I told him that if he got his shit together I would tell my parents and we could be together. He ended up getting his shit together and I said that I would tell my parents. He applied to school and I waited for him to actually start going. He ended up going so I told my parents but first I eventually realized my dad couldn’t actually kick me out of school but I kept it a secret for about three months because I was scared he would break his promise to me again/ cheat on me again . I ended up telling my parents because he said if I wanted to be his girlfriend I would have to go to Florida where he lives and in order to do that I would have to tell my parents cuz his parents disnt want him to date me unless my parents were okay with it. So I told them and they ended up being okay with it. We dated for three months and then broke up with me. Am I the asshole?

(Trigger warning bc my parents are bullies lol) After six months of applying to and visiting various places, I FINALLY heard back from a grocery store. Set up an interview for tomorrow. I was overjoyed, felt my life was finally looking up, and I went to tell my family. Everyone was happy for me, that is, until my dad found out. Cue two hours of yelling, insults, and tears. My dad told me if I work at a grocery store, then that means he and my mom failed as parents. I was told I was better than this, that I should not be aiming for places where former criminals go. That I would be bullied and harassed by employees because I’m “smart” and “better than them” (the audacity of my dad to suggest I was better than anyone w a lower education was nasty af). He told me they wasted hundreds of thousands of dollars on me in college expenses just so I could work in a grocery store (MY FIRST job ever by the way, because I wasn’t allowed to work until I graduated college). He told me working part time for “experience” makes no sense and that no successful place will want to hire me after seeing I worked at a grocery store after college. My dad told me I should be at some successful firm as an economist, even though that’s NOT what I want! He asked why I even studied economics to begin with, when what happened (although he will claim to not remember) is he MADE me major in it, telling me I can pursue my true passion (graphic art and theatre) after I get a good degree. I was LIED TO. Everything I did was to impress him! Studied tirelessly in school, got all A’s, went to the college HE asked for, went for the degree HE asked for, all to get metaphorically slapped in the face because I chose an easy first job. Now I have zero motivation for this interview tomorrow. Sounds like my dad is not allowing me to work there. He told me that if I do, then I am not allowed to quit for six months no matter how much I get bullied or harassed, and that he won’t save me. He’s also going to put me into driving school so I will have no time to work (which makes sense, but it’s a long story why I don’t have my license…). And he’s also going to make me apply for jobs HE wants me to be in. Guys, I’m going to fail this interview…I was so happy. I thought I was doing good. Now I feel like an utter failure.

so I just wanna know if the ERP is working or not. I still have a lot of repetitive thinking, but I don’t get anxiety around it anymore. I’m more or less emotion wise. Just get annoyed and tired that it is still trying to be repetitive in my mind. So I’m just curious is the ERP working or do I need to push a little harder?

So I'm doing erp and it's going well or at least it was a thought arrived this morning it said "what if the reason your not doing that action is because your scared" and I was like well yeah because that's not who I am and then it moves on when ocd is gone and the fear "what if you do that action" and I started to panic any advice now I'm worried about the future about a what if question I know I'm not in to or like at all. Because it goes against who I am.

I feel like me and my best friend and ending for many reasons but when I talk to her about it she says it’s really all in my head and she doesn’t feel it at all. What is going on??

Try to stay off of social media and the internet? I don’t want my OCD to get worse or attached to something new so I don’t have any social media and limit my internet access. I know this is a compulsion but I think it’s also self care…. Maybe. 🤔

But nobody even replies on your posts

Today was so nice, I had a girl who I’ve like for so long at my house today and she was hugging me and laid in bed with me. My heart was racing everytime she laid with me. Life didn’t feel real. She made me hard every time she was on me. But then when she left I got the scared thought that what if I don’t really love her and what if I’m gay and bring a guy home one day. What does this mean.

I feel like I’m at the end of my ropes. I feel sick to my stomach that my false memories might be real. I have so many memories of assaulting children and raping people that I can’t tell if it’s real or fake but it FEELS REAL. IT FEELS LIKE A REAL MEMORY AND EVERYONE AROUND ME THINKS ITS JUST IN MY HEAD. I can’t continue thinking I did something so egodystonic. It makes me physically ill. My memories feel real too real. What do I do how do I LIVE WITH THIS PLEASE SOMEBODY HELP ME

Anyone else get groinal responses when they see a child in public and get fears something might happen? That happened to me earlier at work today. I felt super uncomfortable and my mind is telling me I like children. I don’t even know how I got ocd. I’m a bodybuilder and I don’t understand etc this is happening

This is the first time I’m posting here but I really need to. Basically, I have known this boy for about 4/5 years now. We usually just talked on snap as we were too shy to meet irl. We were just friends. He did have feelings for me for a long time it I didn’t until recently. I did him really bad as 2 years back, when I got into a relationship. I blocked him out of no where. I know it’s really bad and a messed up thing to do but I was dumb. I hurt him a lot. A year or so later I realised my mistake and reached out to him again with an apology (me and my ex broke up by this time). I helped him get a job with me. So we started working together as well. During this time once again I didn’t have feelings for him. But sometimes he would flirt and stuff. I’m kind of a bitch. A few years ago, and even a few months ago I’ve said a few bad things about him behind his back to other people. Like bad things. Just to give you guys an understanding I’m 18 atm. Old enough to know what’s right and wrong but I still messed up quite a bit Recently, we have started working a lot more and meeting in real life unlike before. And I have caught feelings in the past few weeks. We both confessed. Aren’t official yet as I’m worried about my parents finding out (I’m not allowed to date). I feel really guilty tho. Whenever I talk to him, I remember the past and the things I’ve said about him and just want to confess. I’ve confessed a lot of things already and he’s told me that the past doesn’t matter. But I still feel the need to confess. I know for a fact that my feelings have changed a lot towards him. I feel like I took him for granted in the past and his attention for granted but I really really like him now. I’m started to love him. But these feelings of guilt keep coming in my way. Please help me.

Does anyone ever get scared that they are going to be stuck like this forever. Or that eventually you wont be able to fight against the thoughts and it just sends you into a spiral. Also sometimes it feels like an urge to act on these thoughts and its really scary and i dont know how to deal with this and im just really scared and i just wanna get better. Any tips?