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How can we use erp to help us if we doubt ourselves? Also there is a medication for doubt?

I feel like im a bad person... not because of the thoughts. When i have thoughts about harm someone i feel excitement, and i get in a fight with my mind cause i know its bad thing to do, but my mind still gives me.feelings of excitement and says you want this to do, would be fun. I feel like this isnt ocd...noone every told that they feel like theyre excited over these thoughts then they scared...and if i dont do it i get sad and then i get sad over getting sad that i didnt do it...cause thats bad... Help me im tired of this, i start to believe im a bad person. Normal people, or even people with ocd doesnt have these feelings, i feel like my concience and the dark side of me are fighting...it doesnt feels like it wants to save me from a potencial danger, its more like it wants to convice me to do something bad and thats not ocd and i feel terrible about it

I’ve found with my own experience of battling with ocd for the past 5+ years, is that while the anxiety caused from the intrusive thoughts may feel uncomfortable and almost as if there’s an itch you aren’t scratching, TRUST when I say that those feelings go away when you ignore the compulsion. Those feelings eventually walk home like a disappointed child that his friend wouldn’t come out to play. Then, you feel the true relief. Not the “I just did the compulsion so I’m okay for the next 5 seconds” relief. The “wow, those thoughts truly were lies and those feelings were truly falsely triggered. Life is good. I can do this.” and for my fellow Christians out there, God says clearly in the Bible to “take every thought captive” so for you guys I would say to pray every time you feel that anxiety and say “God, I give this thought to You and I trust that You will handle it.” Watch what He does :) ocd can be debilitating, but it can also be defeated. Stay strong. Every one of you reading this right now are warriors for even getting up another day and fighting this. Don’t worry though, it’ll all pay off soon enough :)

My ROCD has been so bad. I am married and I feel so disconnected to my husband. I am having thoughts and fantasy’s about a “crush” I have and it does make me happy to think about them. Which I feel guilty about. I guess I just miss that newness feelings and I am sad I’ll never have those feelings again. Can anyone relate?

I am awake in the late night as I type all of this out.. I don't think I can ever forgive myself for the past “private time” to loli content and other explicit comics / fanfics with adult and really young cartoon characters couple of times unknowingly when I was 12, and 14 and occasionally unknowingly when I was 17-18. (Ex. Marge and Lisa) I had stopped three years ago, and I'm 21 now but I'm getting intrusive memories of doing it and I immensely regret it and feel triggered by it… I didn't know what the content was in any way at the time or what it represented… and while I avoided most of the content, the videos of them had millions of views, both the videos and the fanfics / comics were on public sites, and some of the creators said they were 18 in some of the videos, so I thought it was safe to watch... I hate myself forever. And you people should hate me too. I'm worthless. I'm a disgusting creature who deserves nothing but the upmost anger and disgust from you all….. god help me.…. just recently I was watching hentai for the first time in a while, hoping to find regular stuff with women my age or above and I kept stumbling onto loli again. I got triggered and I left the videos immediately of course, but it's giving me memories back to those moments and it's making me feel like I want to watch when I dont. I skipped it of course. I hate this POCD (if this is even POCD) and I hate myself and you should hate me too… It’s making me feel like I’m not anxious about the real event OCD intrusive thoughts right now and more intrusive thoughts of being in denial because of the lack of anxious feelings… 😞😞😞 I know the real events (especially the real events when I was 13) that trigger my real event OCD were horrible and I regret them horribly… and my POCD and real event OCD is telling me that I’m a P and a m*lestor and making me feel like I’m accepting it… plus my intrusive thoughts are giving me false memories of either events that didn’t happen or my intentions during the event and saying that I’m worse than a p or a chomo… 😭😭😭 I don’t ever want to ever be a P or a chomo or anything like that in any way… my POCD just keeps telling me that I’m a P or a chomo or in worst case a child r*pist when I don’t ever want to ever be those things in any way 😭😭😭 it’s giving me intrusive thoughts about more details of the real events and this feeling in my head that hurts…  I don’t ever want to ever be a p or a chomo in any way… I don’t ever want to harm anyone, especially children… I don’t ever want to ever be anything my intrusive thoughts tell me I am…

Today I woke up and told myself I wasn’t going to engage with the intrusive thoughts, I went downstairs and I was trying to avoid having intrusive thoughts about suffocating my cat with the pillow, but I kept feeling tempted to have the thoughts and thinking ‘maybe you do like the idea’ and I started worrying and thinking what if Through the thoughts I know how it feels to do that (because when your having the thoughts/ruminating it feels very real, almost like it’s already happened or I’ve lived through that) and now I’m desperate to do that or what if I’m secretly curious about how it feels to do that that’s why I can’t ignore the thoughts and keep feeling tempted to think about them. Or I was thinking what if through the thoughts I like the feeling of doing that but I have a conscious so now I have evil desires but I’m a good person so I don’t want to do it. I feel awful I don’t know what to do, I feel like I’m believing this notion more and more everyday, I hate this and don’t know what to do

My POCD and real events OCD keep telling me that I’m a sex offender based on the extremely horrible real events when I was 13 when I dont ever want to ever ever be a sex offender in any way shape or form..

I've been struggling with obsessions for such a long time that make me feel like I am not good enough or not the right kind of person to be doing my creative hobbies. Sometimes people are really mean to me and when I feel hurt for a long period of time, I feel super guilty about it, thinking that I'm in the wrong and that the mean person was "right." I've had a horrible nervousness, nausea, and sharpness in my chest because I'm so emotionally strung up over these intrusive thoughts and I blame myself for it. Everything I do makes me feel guilty... like I know the truth is that I'm an incredibly kind, responsible, and empathetic person, but whenever someone is frustrated at me for something that's not my fault, I still attack myself as if I am being irresponsible. When someone has been really, really mean to me in the past, I have always been overly apologetic and kind before breaking ties with them. In some cases I didn't break ties with them at all, like with my older sister who always looked down on me. Now I really regret being so nice to mean people, but then I second-guess, like, "you're just saying that to avoid responsibility!! Ugh, stop being so self-righteous!!" and my brain tells me constantly that I'm prudish and people will hate me for that. Arrrgh!!! I just want to like myself and be normal!!!!!! I've had a really stressful week so thanks for just taking the time to read that

I’m currently in one of the worse OCD flare ups of my life. I’m trying to hold on so I can work and support my family. Purposefully triggering my obsessions during ERP sounds terrifying. I’ve heard “it gets worse before it gets better.” I can’t afford for it to get worse. How much worse can I expect my symptoms to get?

I have my exposure hierarchy. Thing is, I have to face a lot of my high distress exposures daily l. My triggers are seeing any type of mark on my 1yo son’s skin. Ofc I see things everyday (birthmarks, bruises, change in pigmentation (yes I see even the subtlest of changes), etc and then ponder what if this mark represents a serious health condition of which I fear)zz i face these triggers daily when I change his clothes, nappy, bathe him, and have him in shorts/shirts/topless. I look at his skin so much and touch it that now he swats my hands away and says no. He even lifts up our shirts to look at our tummies and points to blemishes we have. I feel terrible! I don’t want to give him some type of insecurity or ocd tendencies about skin too! If I’m not in close inspecting, then I’m ruminating and glancing at it. So I’m faced with my exposures all day every day, despite my hierarchy. What do I do, how do I go about this successfully!? I’m otherwise doing these compulsions for hours on end.

I constantly get feelings that I’m promising God things or somehow making deals with him. I don’t mean to but I can’t stop. It’s an intrusive thought that replays constantly. Anyways, I was watching the fights tonight, and I got it in my head that if one fighter didn’t win, I would do my most common compulsion, which is holding my breath for 2 minutes straight. I know that sounds crazy but it used to be possible for me. I could go almost 2:30 when I was at best. (I used to do this compulsion constantly) I feel as though in this agreement, I said that “either (I’m not comfortable sharing the consequence) or I have to hold my breath for 2 minutes straight”. The fighter I needed to win LOST… and now I feel as though I must do the promise or the consequence will happen. Please tell me anything, I’m desperate for help. I also fear as if I don’t hold my breath for that long or atleast try to I’m somehow weak.

I really want to have a family someday with my boyfriend. I’m so scared POCD will keep me from that. Can anyone share success :(

Hi guys, this week has been tough on my relationship, a good portion of which is because I’ve had a lot of insecurities. Last night my boyfriend and I got into a sort of big fight and I ended up saying that a fear of mine is that he doesn’t love me as much as I love him and now I feel myself getting very anxious because that was obviously a very vulnerable comment to make out loud and I usually have more of a tough exterior and I have this idea that he is going to look at me differently because what if I sounded desperate? I obviously do not want reassurance but I do want maybe some words of comfort. I feel myself getting panicky the way I have in the past after a fight and I am at a place where I think I can prevent a spiral from happening.

What do you guys do when you do something wrong? I don't know if it's ocd but when I do something wrong I just can't let it go, it was months ago now but I think about it everyday and it's just consuming me. And I don't even know if it can be guilt/shame ocd because I actually did the thing

Can I get trustworthy and supportive friends on here that is kind and we can talk on what's app or over the phone i will be supportive too perefarable a Muslim female due to my own kind of ocd . am not discriminating please dont get me wrong please. but regardless of your religion we can still be friends don't mind having multiple friend s I don't know if they do that on this app

Any one here is on paroxetine paxil I wanna ask a few questions please

Okay so im pretty much just putting this out there to see if anyone will comment and help me. This is my first and only baby I will be having. I have pretty severe ocd with multiple themes and have for years it fluctuates from better to worse you know like this disorder usually does but especially with this pregnancy it has been so bad. It got bad in the second trimester and then it got worse in this last trimester. Idk if it’s because I’m just anticipating his arrival so much so my minds just left to wonder and create scenarios regular and intrusive, of what it’ll be like to be a mom and have him here and also to be exposed everyday to a source of anxiety for me. My stress level is so so high almost everything triggers a thought for me everyday and i ruminate on all of them everyday. I try not to but right now it feels impossible eventhough I know it’s ocd. So what I’m asking is any mom, dad, parent whatever on here I need advice on managing this with a new child. He is about to come out and I’m so anxious about how this will affect me I want to be a good mom and of course ocd makes me worry what if I’m just constantly anxious around him and can’t function and don’t want to be around him? What if I hurt him or want to? All the terrible what ifs and worrying that I won’t be able to enjoy being a mom that this shit will take any enjoyable part of the experience away from me and just make me miserable so please anyone who’s been through it before just tell me how you managed or are still managing what you did to prepare/how you cope? Any advice is appreciated. Thank you!

I’m tired. Tired of having to control everything. I don’t want to control. But i’m scared that my HOCD is real and that if i let go of control i will hurt someone. How do i get the rumination to stop. I feel so numb right now

Why OCD feels so real?

I keep getting anxious about this one situation, I have all the facts and they all prove my ocd wrong but I’m still getting anxious about it even when the facts point to this thing not being true. It’s so scary because it’s a really serious thing, but I have all the facts and they point to it not being true but my ocd is still saying ‘what if?’ Someone help lol