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My son has OCD and I’m starting to catch him lying about thing related to OCD. For example, he’s always gotten good grades and he’s bright but with OCD he misses a lot of school due to anxiety. When he misses school he needs to make up his work. I’ll remind him to go to x teacher and get with them about the assignment. After school I’ll ask him about it and he’ll say she wasn’t there or that he talked to her and they made a plan. He recently admitted that sometimes he’s lying about what really happened. He said the teacher will have said to come at 1:00 but OCD said he could only go at 2:33 or 2:34 (very specific) so since the teacher wasn’t available at that time he didn’t go. I’m trying to understand a way to help with this. Some sort of ERP he could do and help with understanding if I should be concerned there is more lying going on. Any tips?

I find I am a perfectionist in a lot of things but at the same time i am sort of lazy and get overwhelmed easily. That sort of creates a deadly combination so when for example I have to brush my teeth I just don’t do it. I put so much pressure on how I should brush my teeth. I count for 10 seconds in each area and it takes forever I hate it, but if I don’t do it that way I feel like I am lazy and it makes me feel like I am gross.I create an environment where I constantly feel like I am not doing enough so I just get nothing done. Now that I have sort of excepted that my way with things doesn’t have to be perfect all the time, that my life is sort of going to be an organized chaos, I actually get things done. I don’t specifically brush my teeth like I used to, I just do it, and I have been sticking to that. My room is probably never going to be universally clean all the time, there is going to be clutter, like in everyone’s room, thats okay clean what you can. I love baking but I stoped because I focus too much on cleaning up while I do it so I don’t enjoy it anymore so nowI just take a break when I finish and clean up afterwards. Is it easier and more organized and to do everything perfectly in one go? probably, but that’s not how my brain works and that okay. Things don’t have to be perfect all the time and I am still figuring out that I am not doing things half assed, I am doing them how I like them to be done, in a way that makes me happy and sticks to my goals. It is still hard to not get back into that mindset that everything needs to be done perfectly or I feel bad, but I am working on it and it works.

My wife is very upset and when she finally told me why, she told me a bunch of things but one of the things is my OCD. She said my daughter will never have a normal childhood because of me. My wife also said that all she ever thinks of about what I want and my OCD and I never let her think about herself. She can't go out and do anything without making sure she's safe due to my contamination OCD. She said I only thought nk about what I want. I told her I can't help it and that my OCD makes me this way. She told me she doesn't care and basically told me I make her depression worse.ost if due to my contamination OCD. She tells me I'm not a burden when I say I am but then says these things to me. Any chance of being happy today will not happen now.

I’m sitting in my car right now. And I was fishing. Like I was having a good time and I called my mom cause she’s watching my daughter while we go and I got an intrusive thought when I saw my daughter. I’ve had this before. But when my daughter was younger her eyes are so dark they’re almost black and one day I was playing with her and I looked at her and demon popped into my head cause her eyes are so dark. I didn’t interact with the thought even though it terrified me. And I haven’t thought of it since well it just happened again when I called her and demon popped into my head again when I saw her for some reason and im freaking out I feel like im going crazy. Im scared I have some type of psychosis or something and I might hurt my baby. I have a therapist but I don’t have the money to see her right now. I NEED someone to tell me im not crazy. I know we shouldn’t ask for reassurance but I need it. This is scaring me so bad. I don’t want to hurt my baby. Im trying to have a good time and this happens. Plus im 12 weeks pregnant so my hormones are going crazy. I wish I was normal. I just wanna enjoy my baby and I can’t even look her in the eye. What’s wrong with me.

tocd is kicking my butt and i just relapsed so hard. couldn’t stop doing compulsive body checking and taking quizzes to see if i was an “egg” or not. got a neutral result on the quiz implying i may be trans and now i’m panicking, even though the quiz was really weird and had a lot of questions that Didn’t have to do with being trans at all?? like it was asking me if i thought gay marriage should be legal and then giving me my results partially based on political opinions as well so i Know it’s bs but i couldn’t stop. i’m so scared. i want to feel at home in my body again. i experienced body dysmorphia growing up but i don’t ever remember feeling like i wanted to be a male. was curious as to how it would feel a lot of times when i was going through puberty alongside my friends (a lot of which were male due to similar interests in gaming) but it was never an actual desire. but now i feel like it was and i’m in so much distress. i’m going to try to sleep it offf because i’ve had worse episodes with this theme before (to the point where i was considering offing myself) and i just don’t want to entertain the thoughts any longer. so miserable. any advice?? SPECIFIC advice?! not just “don’t honor compulsions”, etc..

Hi I’m currently suppressing the urge to vomit and hide in some hole and never come out 😃😃 so, I’m traveling technically today since it’s 1am right now, and I have to go on an airplane, and it’s not even just the airplane that triggers my ocd, it’s the airport itself, it’s so official and security stuff scares me bc like, theres a reason they have security. I’m really tempted to start googling “how likely is it for a plane to crash” or “how to survive a plane crash” and the urge to tell my dad that I love him and to take care of my pets if I don’t come back. Why is my mind like this. Wtf. I want to enjoy my vacation, I also don’t want to have a panic attack in an airport, which has happened before lol. I’m traveling with my mom and my sister, my mom understands ocd and has some knowledge on how to handle it, my sister does not at all. How do I calm myself without it being a compulsion?? I mean, is it okay if I calm myself with prescribed medication and like trying to tune everything out, or is that feeding into the ocd? Because my usual compulsions would be to repeat “it’s okay it’s okay it’s okay” over and over again in my head, and “I’m safe I’m safe I’m safe, nothing is going to happen” and I try not to do that anymore, or just simply not go because of the fear, BUT I’m going because I’m not gonna let ocd take away anymore of my life. I’m just scared and I don’t really know how to cope with this, any advice?

I’m not sure if I wanna take medication for OCD. I’m afraid of having some serious side effect. When I got Lexapro my dad threw away the paper with the side effects but I searched them up and didn’t wanna take it. It took me about two weeks to finally start taking it. I was so afraid of taking it because of the side effects and because I had this one thought that I was scared I would act on because with Lexapro my anxiety was gonna go down and I was afraid that if it went down I would end up acting on my thought. I would be like “what if it ends up making me leave my partner?” So I didn’t wanna take it. Then when I saw that if you stop taking it out of nowhere you can relapse? I’m not sure what the word was but basically everything could come back but stronger.

I constantly feel let down and disappointed by my boyfriend. I feel like he has legit reasons for what’s happening but I don’t believe him anymore and have so much doubt. I guess it is OCD. This is so difficult cuz my feelings feel real but logically I know what he’s saying makes sense. I’m going in circles.

I've developed a new obsession with skin tone and whether it affects my dating prospects. I'm a South Asian 19 year old girl in canada. I was on reddit on tinder insights and this 24 year old woman who I'd say was an average looking white woman! without any provocative pictures had a 50% message rate and a 60% match rate. I'm not sure what my match rate was but I know my message rate was around 30% from my 80 matches in three days. Hers was over a span of a much longer time than three days. Though I've remade and deleted my tinder profile and it hovers around 30%. Unless she was texting them first. Her pictures weren't sexually provocative and neither were mine. I've spent a lot of time obsessing over colorism. Stats show it doesn't seem to impact indian women very much so maybe I'm overthinking it? It's a really tiring obsession. It's a random chick on the internet. Though there was a black girls tinder insight where she had a lower match rate (consistent with statistics for black women since they face worse racism) but she also had a 50% text rate. Not sure why my text rate was so low. Maybe there's a stereotype of blondes being more promiscuous? Or does it have to do with my skin? Ugh I'm ruminating over colorism and whether this is the reason

So I obsessively question my relationship, etc and look for ways to soothe the panic regardless of being very clear on the fact that I would be super sad if me and my fiancé broke it off. Yet I still obsessively tell myself/fear that it is in fact not just ROCD/anxiety and that it’s how I really feel and then I panic about that all over again. This seems to be a very common theme. Any tips or advice? God I need help

I’m not sure if this is ocd related but I have been having a really hard time. I have been just struggling really bad with keeping up with a routine for my two kids and keeping up with household tasks and most importantly, keeping up with connecting with them. I’ve been so sad the last few days just feeling guilty that I have no interest in spending time with them (but the thing is I do, but I look for any opportunity to put them to bed or occupy them instead of playing with them) and I am feeling mom guilt and just wanting to improve every part of my life and because it’s all so overwhelming it feels impossible :((( I also have suicide and harming my kids as a theme, so this contributes to that. I have thoughts like life is so repetitive and boring and I should just Jill myself (they are not desires, they cause me anxiety) and then I have thoughts like what if I get so tired of being a mom that I do something to my kids (my worst nightmare, they are my everything. These thoughts make me very anxious and in turn they make me sad) I was doing so well with my mental health until I got strep and took antibiotics :(

What is your response to someone saying "I'm so OCD", "Everyone has a little OCD", or when you say you have OCD they say "me too"? I want to educate people because they probably don't know how harmful they're being but then they try to defend it by saying they get "really anxious" when things aren't clean. So what are some responses that have worked for you? I've noticed saying that I am "diagnosed with obsessive compulsive disorder" is more effective than saying "i have ocd." People seem to take that more seriously.

Guys are these thoughts me I need help they can’t be me😢

Does anyone take any medicine to help with this? I started taking Prozac and it just seems to be alittle worse and head fog. Depression. Etc.

I’ve been recently diagnosed with OCD but just wondering what jobs do you do or recommend to do with OCD? It’s pretty nerve racking for me and causes anxiety trying to find something I’m going to be comfortable doing with this condition. I just know I have a really big heart <3 Thank you

I’ve been posting a lot about my new job I officially started working at the register this week (I’m working retail) and everything was okay, I had some really bitter customers and one customer who accused me of cutting up their credit card the day before (which isn’t true because I wasn’t scheduled that day) which really shook me but other than that everything was going fine until it was an hour before I go home and I started feeling really dizzy and nauseous I have to stand up for 5 straight with no breaks and I made the dumb decision of not eating before my shift because I was worried it would make me feel sluggish anyways I started seeing black and felt like I was going to puke so I quickly finished helping a customer and then had to quickly leave my register and call for my manager. I basically fell on the floor and I thought I was going to puke, my manager came running over and helped me and I felt so bad and embarrassed. She took me to the break room and got me some snacks and water after I told I haven’t eaten all day and she told me that it was most likely my blood sugar dropping. She told me that has happened to her before and I just couldn’t stop apologizing I felt so terrible and embarrassed I tried to move away as quickly as possible from the customer area. She told me that it’s okay and that she’s worried I am going to super overwork myself because I am already working way harder than people who have been there for months. I will admit that I am a perfectionist and that I always want to be the very best and be as convenient and easy as possible. I still feel like I am a failure and embarrassment though, my manager wanted me to go home early because I only had about 15 mins left in shift and so I went home and my mom was so angry with me, she didn’t even ask if I was okay or anything she just assumed I was lying to get home early and that I’m just lazy. I’ve been having intrusive thoughts now that I’m going to fired and that now everyone hates me at work. I am also really upset with how my mom treats me and doesn’t believe me. I am just feeling like a failure right now :(

Has this ever happened to anywhere where you pick up an object (maybe an object that’s caused you distress) and you had an intrusive thought at the same time or deliberately imagined an intrusive thought but because your holding the object it makes it seem ever more real like that ‘could have happened’ or if it feels like an urge and your holding an object it feels ever more real, I’ve been worrying about it all day. I’ve been stuck on ruminating about these ‘smothering thoughts’ and last night I went to go to sleep and I picked up my pillow to fluff it up and my mum was sleeping next to me and as I picked up the pillow I was aware of the intrusive thought and then I deliberately imagined the smothering thing about my mum while holding the pillow and it made it seem more real like I would actually do that or like the feeling of doing that and now all day I’ve been worrying about it because I’m worried I’m evil and would do that or could have done that or in the future will. When I went through a faze where I was scared of being around sharp objects I couldn’t even pick up a knife because it as scared I would suddenly lash out on an ‘urge’ 😖🙁

Is it normal to find someone else attractive. When I get this thought or feeling.. whatever it is.. I feel as though I’m about to act on something. Or I guess my fear is that I WANT to act on something even though I know I don’t want to because I love my partner and family and I don’t want to jeopardize it. But I still get this urge when I find someone attractive and so my best idea is to avoid them. Does this happen to anyone else in a long term relationship/married? It makes me feel horrible and I hate having to confess this.

i've been worried i'm pregnant for a while now. it's really misplaced and makes no sense because i'm on birth control, but i can't stop obsessing over it. my ocd keeps giving me thoughts that are like "what if your boyfriend did something to you without you knowing and that's how you got pregnant". i know that he definitely didn't do anything to me but i'm so scared. i want it to stop because i feel so bad that i'm getting these thoughts questioning his character.

I'm having such a hard time right now because I had accidentally clicked on one of those sponsored links on Facebook as I was scrolling and it brought me to the web page to buy that specific product. I backed off of it right away but I get so scared that if I happen to even visit one of these pages for a second that I'm going to get the virus or malware on my device and that they'll be able to get my information and my account numbers and everything else. I've been dealing with this fear for quite some time. In every single time the slightest thing happens I find myself downloading an app to run a scan on my phone which I'm not even sure if they even really matters or not. Sorry for the long post, I'm just having really hard time and needed to get stuff out there and vent. Stuff like this makes me not as hopeful that I'll be able to get better.