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Has anyone ever experienced wanting to be exactly like someone? Even a crush?

I’m really trying to sit with the discomfort of the Harm OCD urges. The other day it felt like I was about to snap and act on my thoughts and it scared the heck out of me. Now I can’t shake it. It feels like because I didn’t act on them, I’m missing out on something. How horrible is that? It’s freaking me out. It’s also coming in that I don’t have a choice and I want this to happen. If anyone has any tips, I’d greatly appreciate it because I’m very terrified. I’m trying to accept it and move on but it’s super sticky.

years ago i was told i have ocd. i speak with a mental health nurse weekly and he said i don't have ocd because i don't do rituals and now i feel like well what do i have then all my life i was told i have ocd and to be told this has made me feel weird 😢

Its done, i dont know if ive done something awful one night intoxicated, im looking for evidence all the time, looking on facebook etc, looking at any evidence possible but the crime i feel I committed would put me in prison and is awful, i just hope I haven’t done it.

I was diagnosed with IBS at the top of this year, and my ocd panic attacks coincide with when my stomach is not doing well- but then it becomes the chicken or the egg I can’t tell if the stress is coming from the pain or if i’m creating pain with stress!! Anyways- just curious anyone else struggle with tummy issues of that variety. I write this as I try to make sure I don’t pull myself into another panic attack due to the feeling in my stomach, but instead try something new.. like write in this forum! Hope you all have a great day !

I keep seeing posts on here about people saying that they its its ocd and that deep down they know they’re straight but they cant get rid of their thoughts and that triggers me soo much. Because I don’t relate to that deep down feeling and deep down I feel like im lying to myself and that I’m in denial and that I would be happier living my “true self”. And even when I say that I love my partner and that if this was true I couldn’t have stay 5 years with him my mind tells me well yea but when you kiss him you dont feel much and when you tell him that you love him you feel like you cant get attached. I’m just soo down. And the thing is when I wish for something like “ I just wanna be normal” or “ I just wanna be straight” it feels like im just like the people that are in denial and I tell myself no you can’t wish for that because that’s not you and you can’t change that about yourself. Ughhh i’m sooo tired… can anyone relate?

Hi everyone. I've been struggling with post partum OCD for about 18 months. My OCD themes tend to me around POCD. I've been going to therapy since last December and I feel as tho I'm still in a constant loop there are times I do really well then times are just really bad. Can anyone give me some tips on how to help this. It just makes me feel like such a bad mom to have these types of thoughts

There is a sense of panic…urgency to breakup…..I don’t feel confident , there are so many questions coming up….. what do I do? I feel I can’t do this anymore….i just not able to ignore these thoughts and feelings….i feel nothing is going to get better….but I also can’t hurt him by breaking up. So many what ifs questions….i feel hopeless….i feel like I just want to exit. I don’t even know what do I want anymore. But I also know I can’t hurt my bf like this. Please anyone gone through with this..any wisdom any advice will be helpful

Idk what any of my feelings mean now my groinel responses have gotten way worse when it comes to men’s private areas sometimes it’s stronger in different times of the day idk what to do does it actual mean something like do I like men cause that’s my hocd is making me feel but Ik k would never like men sexually can someone help

How can I do erp for my relationship ocd? The break up urges are insane and it is breaking my heart because I love my partner so much 😞

First things first and that is thanking God, my family, my support system, my NOCD therapist, Paulina, the NOCD community, and Mr. Stephen Smith. Honestly, 2-3 years ago I was a "mess". I was scared, in the dark, confused, felt alone, and didn't know what was going on with me. I lost track of time whenever I hit rock bottom but I know the start of the break up with my ex fiancé was what kickstarted me hitting rock bottom 3-ish years ago. I felt horrible because I could see the hurt in my loved ones eyes that wanted to help me but didn't know how. I'm honestly so grateful that God blessed me with my mom and dad and surrounded me with loving people. Without God and my support system, I don't know if I would be where I am today. My mom invited me to this recovery program that is centered around Christ. It's a bit focused on drugs and alcohol but you can still apply some of the faith lessons to your life. That program was where I accepted Christ into my life and where my journey with God began. I truly believe God has always been working in my life giving me the courage and strength to continue living. To help me rest on the days OCD is too much for me. Of course I have to thank Paulina for being the true definition of what a therapist should be. As you all know, OCD is scary. People often misdiagnose us, or don't understand how hard it can be. From the first session with Paulina two years ago, I felt a sign of relief. I feel understood. She has challenged me to do things I would've never had the power to do on my own. I truly wish all therapist had the passion and drive she has to help those with OCD. Then, Mr. Stephen Smith who happens to be the CEO of NOCD. I have no doubt in my mind God worked in his heart to get me back into NOCD. A little over a year and a half ago I tuned 26 and fell off my parents insurance. Which meant I could no longer see Paulina. I was very upset because at that point n time I was 6 months in and felt I as finally improving. I spent a year trying to find insurance that were affordable, or accepted. All failed. It was around this past April I had given up. But NOCD made a post with howie Mandell and I shared how lcd changed my life and next thing you know I'm back with Paulina. I truly cannot thank NOCD and everyone who makes NOCD possible for saving mine and countless other lives. Receiving this badge brought tears to my eyes. It's almost unbelievable. Seeing this, I was like wait....I've done all of this? I really came this far? I'm not one to boast and I always feel like there's so much more for me to do and overcome that I often look past what I've gone through to get where I am today. Honestly, receiving this badge gives me a little anxiety because idk...I don't truly feel I've conquered OCD. But I also am hard on myself. I have to remind myself that the goal of OCD recovery isn't to see how many days we go without triggers, or intrusive thoughts. I know that recovery is based on us taking the power from the OCD by living our life. Being an OCD Conqueror doesn't mean I'm OCD free. In fact, just remember today I faced harm OCD at the gym. I have to remind myself what recovery of OCD truly means. That recovering from OCD is taking our life back. I know there's still going to be triggers that lie ahead of me and hard times to overcome. But I know I have my tools, NOCD, and my support system to see me through. Guys, I promise you it gets better. I know it's not easy. In fact, September I was under constant attack by POCD but I am still here. Continuing on with my day. I still struggle, so I don't want it seeming like you have to be perfect or "symptom free" to conquer OCD. Step by step is all we can do. Continuing therapy and ERP. Resisting to urge to give into the compulsions. Because that's what breaks the repetitive cycle and drains the power from the OCD. I pray we all continue to gain our power and confidence back that the OCD took from us. Thank you all for making this environment feel safe and easy to share. I know that I am never alone as I have God and a community of individuals who can understand each others pain. 💚

I came to work and everything was good, i was happy and suddenly a huge ocd attack got me, it feels like how i felt when i couldnt handle ocd and those thoughts like how i handled the situation is back even that i went through this before... idk why but now i cant move on, somehow my reaction is still so much focused on thw ocd and i start to get angry cause i cant focus on something else and i feel worse. Maybe im tired and thats why i got hit by ocd, idk but what i always hate that no mather how many times i watch a video or use that in my life, i still forget how to react and then im like this... im trying not to make it worse but its really strong and i get anxious cause i didnt felt this almost a year...

I habe the feeling that Ill never improve. But not because of my ocd but because of my morals. I suffer from horrible thoughts sometimes and I always fear that i enjoy them especially if they are sexual. I dont want to habe these thoughts. But its so difficult to live with someone and your thoughts always tell you you are just exploiting her for her body which I dont want to. But at the same time I admit that I find her attractive.

I spend most of my waking time resting my groinal reaction and making sure I cringe at what my obsession is. I’ll look at photos, read things online, etc… I’ll have a groinal response, but I will also cringe and shudder every time. This isn’t enough though. I keep doing it, and have to repeat it because I keep getting groinal responses/erections. Mentally, I’m pretty sure I’m disgusted and repulsed. But physically, I keep having reactions. I’m just scared because if the groinal responses mean it’s true, I can’t go on. I just can’t. I would refuse to be a person who was “okay” with something like that. Can anybody relate?

I am really struggling right now with harm OCD urges. It feels like I either 1. Have to 2. Want to or 3. Am going to do the harm thought. I start panicking and it feels like I am going to do it. My arms tingle, I freak out and then it feels like there’s no choice and I get even more terrified. I don’t know what to do because it feels so real like it’s going to or has to happen. I’m not sure where this is coming from but it feels like it’s not OCD. Any advice would be great.

Any recommendations on how to stop skin picking? :(

I was more social in highschool but i made the mistake of taking off college and work to babysit my niece and nephew and it really took a toll on me i ended up being a homebody for 3 years now , I’ve disconnected with my friends , except one . We literally hangout every single day but only if we’re smoking getting high to escape. I dont have relationships with my family really, like i live with my mom, dad , and two sisters but i dont tell them anything about my life cause i feel they will think im overreacting or “ it will be okay just throw yourself back out there” and just not understand how hard it really is . I dont talk to the family outside of my household because talking to people is really awkward to me and thats how i lost my friends , i cant seem to keep conversations going and cant keep an relationship. I feel as if i have to know what to say and think about what to say when talking to somebody cause im scared of just looking stupid . I know sounds dumb right ? Me being shy and having anxiety and depression has missed me so many opportunities in life and i feel like im just wasting my days being sad over life and how im feeling and the thoughts racing through my brain constantly. I literally think about past events and future and even have conversations in my head that hasn’t happen so i can be prepared. Literally dont know why im like that lol. My head sucks. Im very insecure which makes it even harder on me i hate the way i look and don’t believe what anybody says but compliments feel nice. I hate my mind and always thinking negative thoughts on a daily basics. I hate where im at in life literally doing nothing with my life . Like i WANT better i NEED better but i just cant 😭 i will literally get soo damn sad going to a grocery store or even out to eat or doing anything dealing with people other than the people i live in the same house with or the one friend i see everyday. I know i need therapy but im not sure how to say everything like i even prepared for that and had conversations with a therapist in my head lol but i just cant find myself to go get help and im mentally and emotionally drained. … i really just think i made this post to vent or meet someone that mighttt be the same lol idk . Just wanted to write it out and let some people see it since i cant vent …..

I don’t know whether i have false memory ocd etc. I use to have OCD when I was growing up but then I thought I left it behind however I had one night very intoxicated and I don’t know if I’ve committed an awful crime, I have not officially got a diagnosis so don’t know if what my brain is telling me is true, what do you all suggest I’m waiting for a referral to see a therapist

my muscles keep twitching. i don’t really exercise a lot anymore— i used to until the anxiety came. i’m scared. i kept looking up tiktoks on ALS and MND (something which i SHOULD NOT HAVE DONE.) i know it can be due to vitamin deficiencies (i’m taking daily supplements), stress (if i’m not having a full on panic attack then i’m convinced i’m not stressed), and lack of sleep/dehydration (probably the cause). i’m scared. so so scared.

Hi. I wake up very anxious, i feel disconnected from the world so now i know it’s not only from my bf so it kind of calms me down to know it’s not him, but i also feel so convinced i want it to stop, im scared i dont want to break up, but it feels like it’s going to happen, or that is time because its been 2 yrs. Please help, how can i manage this when i feel disturbed and very convinced like we not connected, and many more things that are hard for me like intimacy, im always in my head. Please any advice