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I was curiously looking through the comment section of a YouTube video about OCD and saw something that horribly triggered my OCD and now I can't stop worrying about it.

I had been doing well for many months with SO-OCD, but then I broke up with my girlfriend and I’ve been in a really bad lapse for the past month. I’ve been doing ERP but it’s still really hard and I feel awful. The holidays make it even more stressful. I can barely leave the couch and my anxiety is high. Anyone else struggling or those who are doing well have words of encouragement?

Hey everyone, so I’ve been diagnosed with and trying to manage OCD for nearly 6 months now and I’m finding it difficult to figure out how to get around my mental compulsions and rumination. It seems harder to me to recognize a mental compulsion over a physical compulsion and to stop doing it, though I’m sure both are equally difficult. Any advice for dealing with these? I’ve been trying to practice may or may not statements but sometimes it’s hard to find the right one. Thanks for your help!

How do you guys manage your OCD when you’re triggered?

This all started a couple months ago with my. I had my first panic attack & about a month later I was in a constant panic attack with intrusive thoughts about death & how nothing mattered to me even though I have people in my life that I love & do in fact matter to me. I was so scared of death but the panic & intrusive thoughts were so bad I wanted to die at the same time. Fast forward a couple months, I have been out on sever different medications, started feeling pains & odd feelings in my body and high led to some racked up medical bills after getting X-rays, CT’s, brain mri, & even gone to the GI to see if it’s something wrong with my gut since they say your gut is your second brain, they keep saying “everything looks good” but it has caused me to not be able to work efficiently & gets in the way of normal every day things like having dinner with my wife & having to box it up & leave the moment the food hits the table. I’m constantly in a state of “do I need to go to the er or is this just panic” everyone says it’s just panic but it feels so much more serious & I cannot shake it. Yesterday I was doing a task that HAD to get done & I felt like I would either vomit, pass out or start sobbing any second, it took EVERYTHING in me not to & when the task was done I released the tears. I constantly will just randomly start sobbing… so many things going on with me & I can’t seem to find myself anymore. Idk how to go about this.

I went through Reddit today and found some server that is supposedly „against p3dos“ (fun fact: they are NOT“ and bc both me and another person got mad at how people were being protected by the mods for literally saying that AI CP could be a „good and legal thing“ me and this dude started messaging abt how much we hate p3dos. But my brain keeps telling me „you’re one too bro stop lying you’re just like them.“ and it makes me feel so ashamed

Does anybody have any tips on how to manage deserved guilt and OCD at the same time? I actually carried out some awful actions in my relationship 3 1/2-4 years ago and absolutely deserve to feel guilt and shame. But now my gf says it’s time for me to move on, I’ve punished myself enough, that I deserve to be happy, etc. I disagree and feel like I deserve everything I’m feeling, and will forever. Opinions on the internet have solidified this for me (most people’s opinion about my event online seems to be that I deserve to think about what I did for the rest of my life, that I don’t deserve love, that my gf should leave me, etc.). I’m scared to go against those opinions. Sorry for rambling, I’m just so stuck between trying to move on for my girlfriends sake and rehashing the past every day to try and understand/fix my faults. Any advice would be appreciated.

me, work friend, and attractive coworker were sitting in lunch room on our break. my friend poked me in the side and i jumped because it tickled. attractive coworker was amused by this so he did it to me a couple times. when he did it to me, i secretly got aroused. i ended up poking him back. i didnt get aroused by doing it to him but i feel i shouldnt have done that at all. he did it to me a few times more over the next couple months. i did it too, i didn't think too much of it because it was something playful everyone did to everyone any ways even amongst same sex. but i shouldn't have done it at all because of the mild thrill i sometimes got when he did it to me HELP I think ive cheated and need to confess to bf. it was just pokes in the side and i do it to friends any way but in retrospect i shouldnt have done it to him.

What are your tips or what's the advice you'd give to someone starting their journey towards healing from ocd?

I wanted to figure out a way to explain how I feel in the easiest way possible. I thought maybe I could divide how OCD makes me feel into colors to help others understand. If you can relate let me know :) or drop in the comments what code you are experiencing right now. You are not alone and you deserve to be loved 💚 🟢Code green- no anxiety, feeling like I am alive. Feeling happy. Feeling like my true self. Thoughts are rare. Anxiety is rare. Feeling loving and loved. Laughing, being productive. Spending time with friends and family. Making memories. Watching any movie. Listening to any song. Going to any place. 🔵Code blue- feeling less anxious. Able to function and be around triggers. Able to continuously believe I am someone with ocd and anxiety and life will still go on. Knowing and fully believing I deserve to be happy. Laughing, smiling, being myself. 🟡Code yellow- anxious but functioning. Getting through the day with triggers. Having moments of panic but still getting through it. Thoughts still there causing anxiety. Some moments of intense fear but not enough to stop function. 🟠Code orange- struggling to function. Panicking but still have moments of relief. Not wanting to be around triggers. Understand everything will be okay but not feeling that way. 🔴Code red- drop everything, all energy goes into not spiraling. Putting all efforts in so I don’t fall apart. Extremely painful, feeling sick. Crying. Having panic attacks. Feeling like I don’t want to live. Can not function. ⚫️Code black- emptiness. No feelings but fear. Feeling like life is not worth anything. Looking in the mirror and not seeing a human. Not being able to feel emotions. No laughter. Crying. Pure loneliness. Feeling like the world has ended. Nothing exists. If you have read this far thank you :) i want to say that since therapy and understanding OCD I rarely ever fall to code black anymore. I know that OCD is tricky and will try to tear me down but I will not allow it. Stay strong friend. If OCD is tearing you down right now, SCREAM AT IT! Do not allow it to ruin your day. You deserve to be with family and friends. You deserve to have fun and create memories. You will feel happy and safe again. Dark feelings are not for forever.

So a couple weeks ago I was sleeping and laying by mom and she accidentally touched/squeezed my boob twice like at two different times or twice in a row and I talked to her about it and I moved past it like never thought about it again and then the other night I was laying by my mom again and she squeezed or touched my boob and I’ve been obsessing over it ever since and I even talked to her about it and she said it was an accident and she would never hurt me. But I’m upset because I feel and and think “she touched you on purpose” or “shes bad” “she sexually assaulted you” and I don’t wanna feel this way about her but for the last few days I’ve been obsessing and researching because i don’t know what to call this and I have severe ocd as it is. I mean I can convince myself of anything literally. I thought I liked my mom in a sexual way before like I had a crush on her. Anyways it’s really distressing and yesterday I was crying about it while hugging my mom’s sweatshirt because I love her so much. It feels like there’s a voice in my head telling me that my mom is dangerous and that she touched me on purpose. I don’t want to feel scared of her or uncomfortable around her, it makes me upset. I would not be here if it wasn’t for my mom. She has never done anything to hurt me and she’s a teacher. I love her so much and I just don’t understand why I can’t believe her when she said it was an accident when touching or squeezing my boob. I’ve always been comfortable changing around my mom or if I think there’s something wrong with my private areas like my vagina I’ll show her because I worry a lot and need someone to tell me it’s ok. Also this is really tmi but when I was younger I had some issues with my vagina like yeast infections and my brain is telling me I was 10-13 during this time because I knew I was older but I’m not sure what age, anyway my mom would Check my priv area and apply cream for me or use q-tips to get like white stuff out of my vagina. IM SORRY THIS IS TMI BUT I FELT I NEED TO SHARE TO EXPLAIN IM SORRY. Anyways I have never ever thought twice about this stuff but now my brain feels like it’s pulling out past memories as evidence to say my mom is bad and dangerous and that she’s sexually abusive. I even talked to my mom and she said she did that stuff to take care of me and my body especially my vagina. Why can’t I believe her? Again I never thought of this memory until now. I have never thought my mom is dangerous, I’ve always been comfortable around her and I’m 19 so why is this happening now? I’m just upset because I love her so much and would not be here if it wasn’t for her she’s my bestfriend. I just can’t get rid of these thoughts and feelings that she’s dangerous and bad and sexually abusive. I love her so much and she even told me she would never hurt me and her touching and squeezing my boob was an accident. Why am I not believing her or why am I feeling and thinking this way?!😫🥺😢😭

Has anyone been prescribed medical marijuana to help with their ocd?

Hey everyone. Just struggling and reaching out for help again. I appreciate anyone who can reply.

it just feels true right now but I just feel numb and like I don't even care to do compulsions. My boyfriend also isn't treating me well right now which makes stuff worse wahhh

I keep thinking about a decision I made while under the influence of alcohol and to this day it still hurts me to think I’d do something so stupid. It went against my morals, my life and the way k belive and think. At the time I was in this depressive state where I didn’t care about myself, I didn’t care about anyone else and the thought of allowing myself to let people in was scary because they’d just leave again so I looked for a release of connection through short periods of time, getting it anywhere and with anyone without a care and once I woke up from who I’d become I sort to change it and I have. I’ve learnt from my mistakes I take responsibility and I’ll never do such a disgusting thing again. I’ve met the absolute love of my life during the wake up call, it was the day of the wake up call/ biggest mistake of my life and now I can’t associate meeting him and this day as the same thing, it’s like because they both happened at the same time I’m not allowed to say meeting him was the best thing in the word, even though it was and had forever changed me. He’s like exactly who I’ve been dreaming of and I’m becoming a better person alongside him. But these mistakes still hurts to think about and I don’t know how to move past it, I’m scared I’ll never be allowed to

I guess I ask this because people say if you are facing distress and anxiety, its HOCD. So i got this when i turned 20, i remember I got a panic attack from it and was very upset about, before I knew about HOCD i would look up how to be straight and not gay. Ive been dealing with this for over a year now, but it feels like i dont face anxiety or stress, or worry, or distress anymore, and now im questioning if i ever felt it. The actions that I do and have done every single day for over a year, is looking, googling, researching(usually on the same website and topic) talk to my mom and sister about it ask for reassurance, they have told me that this has caused me distress and anxiety ect. Whenever i use to take the are you gay quiz, and it told me I was straight, I would get happy and excited(even tho at times it felt like I was forcing it). I post questions, I debate, argue, and analyze my thoughts all the time even though it feels hopless and feels like I lose. Compulsions and ruminate I believe I do a lot, my ocd tries to make me doubt it, but whenever I do compulsions or rumination, it feels worse, like the gay feeling feels more real and true, I dont want to be gay but it feels very real.

SometimesI feel like my brain functions differently than others, I receive information in a different and more analytical way, which makes my understanding of social interactions and the way I react to is kinda weird and slow, so lately I keep ruminating about how I might look to others and what if I’m actually looking like a creep for my weird reactions to them, I try to act natural and to blend in with them but I can’t help but feel like a creepy weirdo who doesn’t know how response well, does OCD makes it hard to interact with people?

Please tell me some Prozac success stories I’m starting it tomorrow! Feeling hopeful because I was doing ok on Zoloft and have been much worse since I’ve been off so we’re trying a new med.

Please forgive me in advance. I do not want to offend anyone on this platform so if I'm not politically correct, I am sorry. My bf of almost 2 years comes from a lower economic status than I did growing up. His father has intellectual disabilities from childhood trauma and abuse. His nieces and nephews have some disabilities as well. My bf and I have talked about marriage in the future. My OCD makes me focus on the possibility that if we marry, we may have a child with disabilities because of it running in the family. I know I sound judgemental and that does bother me. I know I'm not perfect so I shouldn't seek perfection in others or judge ppl but it worries me. I look for things wrong in my bf too, worrying that maybe I missed something and maybe he has something I didn't notice. It sounds ridiculous as I write this. Am I alone in this issue?

The thoughts feel so real. I feel like I'm denying everything just to hold onto what I'm comfortable with. The depression is crazy too; it feels like none of my ERP work matters because I'm just in denial.