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My ocd keeps telling me that i will make someone pregnant if i dont do the compulsion and i actually fall for it,what can i do? Accepting them is so scary what if someone gets pregnant by me all of a sudden?

real guilt versus ocd guilt (created by ocd worries) or both. I cant figure out if there is really a difference. either way my mistake and then the partial lie about it when I opened up about the mistake is eating away at me. I feel the need to confess even more to my partner, but if I can't recall every fact, will it even help? or will it make us both doubt myself even more. I know I left details out theres no explanation for what I did or why I didnt open up fully about it and now I feel so guilty I cant take it. And all I want to do is tell my partner every single detail and let him decide if he wants to break up or not because if I think about him doing the same thing id be distraught. I dont know what to do. Everytime I begin to think about this I get so deep into the spiral that it feels impossible to do anything. And im alone during the day for the next 4 days while i dont have work and everyone else has work or school. im scared to be alone and im scared to keep living my life if it will always feel like im living a lie. I dont know how to deal with this. I was doing fine and then it all hit me like a truck. I cant stop ruminating and i could really use some effective tips anyone has.

I don't know what's real or not or if I'm overacting. My mum slapped me, hit me over the head, tore my shirt, smashed my phone,pushed me onto the ground etc and she denies most of it and tries to twist it like she says I fell instead of that she grabbed me and pushed me and she doesn't remember when she would slap me for stupid reasons when she was frustrated.

Dose anyone else do this I don’t know if this is just me doubting my religion but I have been buddhist my whole life and now I am wondering if I should convert to Christianity I don’t know why. Is it my OCD or just me? Because I haven’t wanted a different religion in my life.

there’s this guy i’ve known since we were both kids, we became friends and “dated” in middle school for like a week. throughout middle (and maybe high school, at least on my end) we both sort of had mutual crushes on one another but never acted on it. he’s had a few girlfriends over the years and usually i would try to just get over him. however lately he’s just been on my mind more than i want him to be. like i’ll just have random thoughts about him or he’ll show up in my dreams and i don’t understand why, i haven’t talked to him in years since we started college. i’ll get feelings that feel like jealousy (i think more at the idea of other people being in happy relationships) and start to imagine what could’ve happened if we’d gotten together or i start to worry about future relationships and whether or not i’ll still be hung up on this dude, if we were to reconnect, if i should still be hopeful of something happening between us later etc. when i see pictures he posts with his gf i have thoughts like “she’s not good enough for him/i hope they break up” and it’s very confusing because i don’t think i actually believe that myself. i don’t want these thoughts at all and i don’t even think i still have feelings for him. he’s just there in the back of my mind and it’s been this way for years. i would like to be in a relationship and frequently imagine romantic scenarios and then he’ll pop up, i guess because it’s just familiar, and sometimes i don’t even push the thoughts away. i feel guilty for this because he’s in a relationship and i don’t want to be having thoughts or what feels like fantasies that i’m indulging in about this person, i really just want the images and constant reminder of him gone. i just want to know if this is ocd related and how to handle it.

I’ve dealt with Scrupulosity and ROCD. Initially it was Scrupulosity then when I got into a relationship in the later half of 2023, ROCD got into the mix. ROCD and Scrupulosity integrated where I would have thoughts like “God doesn’t want me to be in this relationship” “if I stay in this relationship, I’m not listening to God” “God will leave me (spirit wise) if I don’t leave.” I was diagnosed with OCD in 2023 after coming into therapy having thoughts like “God is telling me to leave my job and I’m not listening” “God is telling me to sell my car and I’m being prideful” “im reading books too much than reading the Bible” “Im idolizing my hobbies over God.” OCD Got better then got worse. My faith is not where it was in 2023. Im not reading my Bible anymore, im not doing Bible studies, im not listening to worship music. I’m not doing all of the things I was doing in 2023 now here in 2025. My partner and I in the beginning did Bible studies, went to to church together and sometimes prayed together. His relationship with God still looked different than mine at the time though. He didn’t place his faith in the Bible, he saw It as a book of wisdom but not something we put above our spirit. He saw his relationship with God personal and strived to live like Jesus than necessarily worship him. From 2023-2024, I had struggled with my faith after receiving my diagnosis. And I remember crying constantly, crying out to God in prayer but never got answer . Slowly, I started to stop reading my Bible, slowly stopped praying constantly, and slowly stopped listening to worship music or Christian content. My partner has also had his struggles. After moving out of his parents house, he slowly stopped doing these things too. Here in 2025, I’m questioning what the problem is and how to fix it because I feel like I’m going in circles even in therapy. I feel like I can SEE God more working in my life but I don’t FEEL him as much. It’s weird and it’s something I’m struggling to understand. I feel like all things are at play here, my relationship with my partner and his relationship with God, my struggle with OCD, my true relationship with God and how it’s much different now. Sorry this is long. I really want to give as much context. Two years into my relationship, a family business on the rise, the idea of marriage in the mix, I’m not sure how to move forward in my life. It stresses me out constantly and most times I don’t know if this is an OCD problem or a real problem.

I had a crush earlier this year I didn’t actually feel guilty at the time bit now its all i can think about Why would i find someone attractive and interesting like that other than my partner? We didn’t flirt but i did look forward to speaking to him at work (hes a colleague) The crush died and life went on but now my boyfriend proposed im flooded with guilt- what if i cheated and just forgot? I love him and wish i didnt have that crush :( Anyone had a crush when in a relationship ??

TW: intimacy stuff So, I'm on some support discord servers and on one there's one person who's been very helpful and seems mature and good with helping. Today we talked about some of my issues and ended up talking about my intimacy and sexual issues because I was having relationship related scares. I told them how I'm super uncomfortable with porn because I don't like watching people and I've never been intimate and don't do too much exploration because that's just not something I enjoy. For me intimacy is all emotion based so just doing it to do it feels wrong, even when I stuff for myself at the end I just feel sad and disgusted. Basically he tried to help and give advice and told me to try watching different type of porn. I tried to explain I don't like looking at people but he insisted I should at least try. I said OK and left. This really triggered because it made me feel like I was indeed weird for not liking such things or not being wired like everyone else. Now all I can think does me not wanting to watch sex stuff and please myself or sleep with people make me weird? I'm now super upset and spiraling even tho they did genuinely tried to help me. I just feel pathetic and like a weirdo :< (Context I'm demisexual so I'm only interested in intimacy with someone I have an emotional connection, once I like someone I usually get so said more interested in intimacy but when I'm on my own I don't see much joy in it)

Is anyone's pocd so severe thst being around children of sny age gives you groinal response. Not only that but extremely sexual intrusive thoughts and phrases that are foul. Like there's no way this is just ocd.

So i have pure O ocd, with rocd. And recently on my 75mg of zoloft, the thoughts have started to spike so bad again. Like in the beginning. Does anyone know what dosage of zoloft has a therapeutic effect. Because my zoloft was working so good on 75 mg, to the point I completely forgot about my thoughts. Then i started talking to a guy i super like. And worried the thoughts would come back./ missed a dose/ so they did. Please all advice!!!

All sorts of things bother me. I can’t even name them. I feel so alone, and I don’t really have many hocd thoughts. But I keep thinking about what’s wrong with me. I really wouldn’t want to be asexual or aromantic — I feel like there is a desire inside me to be close to someone, more intimately, safely. Of course I often think about sex too. I’m 21, and it honestly hurts that even people younger than me experience love, relationships, closeness. And I feel like I can’t, like I’ll never fall in love. And at the same time I hope I’m not a lesbian :( I hope I’m not just forcing myself to be straight, like what if I’m only imagining that I’m straight. I feel like I can’t talk about the topic of men with anyone — I feel anxiety and start getting uncomfortable because I feel like I’m lying to myself, that I’m not straight. And I’m scared that this is a sign that I’m not into men. Because if I were straight, I probably wouldn’t have these feelings, right? But then I imagine a man’s hands caressing me, hugging me… and I actually tend to imagine intimate things with a man. But in real life I don’t like anyone. And if someone would told me to try to find someone, to download a dating app for example, to reach out to someone — suddenly I feel like I don’t want to, like I want to run away, and I start feeling sick. But at the same time I have no desire to date women either, I’ve never wanted a relationship with a woman. I’d rather not even think about it. I keep testing it in my head. Whenever love or relationships are mentioned, I feel like running away. But why do I feel some kind of longing inside, or want to not be left out of that feeling? To also have the chance to love, to experience a relationship, maybe even s*x if I felt trust and closeness. But I really don’t understand any of this anymore. Maybe I’m just too emotional today and it hurts me inside. I really wouldn’t want to find out that I’m a lesbian. Because I’m not even interested in looking for women. I never have been. I never had a reason to. I only admired women and wanted to be like them and yea i like my friends but that’s it. It troubles me. I guess I don’t know what love is. At the same time, why did I have that thought recently about that one man, a long time ago — just the image of him giving me a kiss on my forehead, and then later the idea that he gave me flowers, and it made me cry. I felt it in my chest. And even when I remembered it later during the day, I didn’t feel uncomfortable. It felt good. Like it warmed my heart a little. But I’m scared that it’s fake. And what if men actually disgust me. 💔

Need to hear the success stories of people who actually conquered their fears, who can actually sit in discomfort and bear the uncertainty without trying to researching for the triggers or outcomes of their assumed fears.Has anyone in this group had actually done that ?? The tips to get over OCD are everywhere available but am looking for someone actually done that successfully.Coz I have almost lost Hope that i can ever recover am fighting with OCD for the past 18 years.

Hey, everyone! I wanted to see if anyone else has experience or advice for this sort of thing. Sometimes I become extremely paranoid that my best friends of about a decade secretly hate me, and that they're all talking behind my back. I know this might not necessarily be OCD, since I hear that a lot of young people go through this. However, I know that my OCD only makes it worse with the rumination and fear. Does anyone have any advice on how to go about this? Thanks for reading!

like the title says, i don’t want reassurance i just desperately need some guidance but my posts keep getting blocked even though i’ve posted like 3 times just now :/ if someone could hear me out that would be really appreciated!!!!

Whenever I see cute social media posts about relationships and romance, I feel like I shut off emotionally and go numb immediately. I start thinking "Why don't I want that" or "Why don't I feel that way" when I actually do feel that way at times. It's so upsetting and makes me think I need to break up with my boyfriend :( The "maybe, maybe not" strategy is really difficult for me because I'm too hyperaware of the circumstances of my feelings. Is there something I can do to ease into accepting my doubts and thoughts?

I don’t want to stop talking to him but I also enjoy flirting / conversing with other men . I feel guilty about this and don’t know how to handle this situation. We’ve been on and off for over a year partly due to my ocd and partly due to his own issues . I feel like I keep sabotaging it but I also feel like my needs haven’t been met lately and it’s like at his convenience but I get so anxious ab him moving on w someone new im so possessive of him but I also don’t want to commit it’s so horrible

I feel like some days im doing amazing then I fall and I’m not getting better. Just now I was resting my mind you I’m on my lady days and I suddenly was resting my eyes and felt like an adrenaline rush and was awaken scared and my heart started to go fast but physically felt light and a lost of energy like almost slightly numb. My heart was fast and I’m wearing a heart monitor (instructed my the doctor) for 7 days and everytime I have a symptom of a fast heart rate I’m supposed to tap it. And record my bp. I struggle with low bp. And it’s been a long time since I’ve actually been scared. I’ve tapped on it multiple times and what is that supposed to do save me? I feel like there’s something wrong and idk if us girls whenever we have our lady days our hearts get upset I know mine does. My bp right now is 105/69 and 88 palpitations idk if it’s normal.

Hi all! Looking for tips or advice on managing ROCD while working through real relationship difficulties. While deciding to stay or split, the daily stress is compounded by ROCD waves, which are constantly triggered by long difficult talks and therapy w/partner. This is a normal part of the process…but ROCD makes the push and pull feel waaay bigger, sometimes for days at a time. There’s so much thinking about the relationship that can easily dip into mental rumination if I’m not careful—but there is also a lot of real thinking to be done here! Anybody been in a similar situation? What kept you grounded? What did you learn?

Hi, everyone. Having a rough go of things today and am in need of some support from members undergoing ERP while also having an ADHD/ADD diagnosis. Can anyone provide some insights on how to effectively do ERP when I have ADHD? It seems like the two disorders love to use my brain as a battle zone when I’m trying to practice an exposure, and it makes it difficult to sit and focus on what I need to do. Recently, it’s been the case where I start an exposure & OCD is like “Are you sure you’re even doing this right? Stop the exposure, read about how to do it the right way just to make sure you’re getting the most out of this & don’t come back until you’ve done so.” Meanwhile, ADHD is spiraling out of control and won’t let me sit down to focus on the exposure. It’s like I’ll plum forget I’m even doing one in the first place and will move on to something else! It’s frustrating because it’s almost as if I draw a blank on what I should be doing despite having it in writing directly in front of me, but searching up the “how” has almost become compulsive.

Anyone else here that has autism, inattentive adhd, and experiences pure O? I think this is me. I’m diagnosed with autism and OCD and am in the process of taking medication for what could be adhd. What’s it been like for you guys living with all of these? For much of my life what I do is driven by emotion. When I’m feeling great, it’s easier for me to feel up to completing a task or doing something that interests me. When something gives me anxiety and causes me to overthink, it can become overwhelming, I’m kind of shut down and in survival mode. I’m more reserved, less talkative, really stressed, and my mind is just racing. I don’t feel in control of my mind. It’s hard for me to think clearly and feel like I’m able to process my emotions and thoughts. I feel like if I’m to go and do something, I need my emotions and values to be in sync. Otherwise, I overthink, I can’t focus, I’m anxious, and it feels like I’m not being genuine. I want my life to be fulfilling. It took me an hour just to write all of this. This was very difficult for me to do. Lots of deleting and overthinking because I wanted to get it right, along with feeling overwhelmed and paralyzed because I didn’t know exactly what and how I was going to write for this post. At times, it felt like I was scatterbrained and my brain just went blank. I guess it just feels like I got a lot of background noise in my head right now. I wish that I could’ve written this message in such a way where I could’ve felt like it had a clear beginning, middle, and end (since I like to do things with intention). I’m just going to send it as is though because my anxiety would spike and I would overthink a lot more. I appreciate anyone who took the time to read this ❤️.