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My bf hasn’t really been much of a texted and he forgets to send me gm or gn texts and I don’t know why it’s upsetting me so much. I have told him I like those things and he did it for a day or two and he forgets now. I know he doesn’t do it on purpose and a relationship shouldn’t be built in these little things I just can’t seem to let go. He also sometimes doesn’t input his opinion when I tell him my stories and I feel like he doesn’t listen which is something we have talked about before but that’s just how he is. I am very talkative he is not. I just want to learn to accept this without having to say “ you’re not right for each other” “you are settling” “you are trying too hard to make it work”. Like um yea I want this to work. He’s the best thing that’s happened to me and I love him. I just always seem to focus on the negative and always doubt everything. I hate it. I want to let go of these thoughts and if he doesn’t input on my stories I don’t wanna care he’s listening to me that’s what matters, if he doesn’t send me texts all the time who cares he’s never been a good texted anyways and he loves in other ways too. Like I can’t with this anymore

Does anyone else not want to do ERP because they might ask you do something against your religion?? For example one of mine said to cuss 5 times out loud

I feel like I’m drowning

"I don't trust my younger self" (complete) I'm 24 today (F) but I don't trust my past 20-22 yo self. I gained a brilliant idea that, during that time period, I'd be able to date a 15 yo if I fell in love with them... I hate myself... I deserve to die... (nothing happened! I assure you!) I don't remember what my ethics were... Today, I'd never do that. But I have a few stories to share why I might have done it and why maybe I wouldn't have done it. Why I wouldn't have done it: - when I heard stories about teenagers (14 up) dating like 19+ adults, it always made me uncomfortable. I remember a few stories with real life people I knew and I always felt uneasy. - I never persued any relationship with anyone or stalked or anything, either a minor or an adult. I was always respectful and kind to everyone. When I got my ex at 22, I didn't exactly persued her. I just liked her and cared for her. We were friends at first. I never did anything bad. - (I'm not sure of this one... Recently, I started having doubts about my real memories.) in early 2018 (when I was 21-22), I began to sexually fantasize about fictional people I created on my mind. And my head was making them too young like 15-17 but I was forcing myself to make them adults (like 18+ at least) and I even put them in college and what not. And even today I'm so afraid they looked too young. Why I could have done it: - When I was 19 (almost 20), I had this crush on this guy I talked online and I knew he was a minor (I didn't know his age but I think he was already in high school - we didn't talk too personally... I was more of his therapist than anything else). At the time I didn't thought much about it... I was just stupid I guess. But if his feelings were corresponding to mine, maybe I'd have dated him?? I'm so gross. - So a few years ago (2016 - 2017 I was 20) I created a lot of original characters (I draw a lot). and this topic is about one of my favorites. Let's call her B. I don't remember the age I gave her, to be honest. I am pretty sure it was 15-16 and it was the only minor I created (it was important for the story I was creating. (today I'm so scared I made her 14 or something). She was a light spirit but very mature for her age, personality wise. Not long after I started imagining that she had a crush on another character that was "based" on me (let's call her L) and vice versa. But this self-based character (L) was in love with B's older brother (call him C who was 19). In conclusion, C and B are siblings. And L was their friend. Moving on... Later on, I started having romantic fantasies with this character. Nothing sexual. Just flirting and one kiss. And despite at the time being 21,22, I imagined to be again in high school (17) and her ofc (15-16). I feel terrible... At the time I didn't notice how bad this could be. 15!! Seh was 15! I just... Ugh- I didn't have a crush on her because of her age but because I liked her personality.... Idk. It wasn't a huge crush. It was nothing sexual because I never imagined myself having anything with anyone under 18 (unless it was an intrusive thought which has happened).. I feel ashamed and embarrassed and I feel like the worse disgusting piece of shit out there... I don't know what to do. I'm just feeling so ashamed. here are some drawings of B https://www.instagram.com/p/CFm4nKYgiSz/?igshid=1qpxqwpwzv8j5

Any Christians on here start to doubt your faith and whether you even believe it anymore even though when you gave time to think about it you believr it??

Is anybody here that overcome existential thoughts ;

I am not sure if OCD is what I have, I struggle to open up completely, even to a therapist in fear they will not understand me. But basically, I catastrophise the past constantly. With 'what if's'. A friend i confided in suggests it might be becuase of a traumatic event I experienced 8 years ago, I still think back to what happened to me. basically my body's reaction was to freeze rather than fight back. I've always had a hard time dealing with this because I thought I would fight back. When I think back to it I think 'what if I did fight back, would I be a different (happier) person' or ' what if I fought back and could have stopped it'. Now, my mind is always in the past. I have been trying to make sense to why that happened to me, so I do a lot of 'what if I did....' and think of extreme scenarios and convince my self that maybe i did do that to explain the traumatic event. I can add so much depth into my what if scenarios that I can convince myself its true. I once believed I did something one time when I had alochol and the next day when I mentioned it to my friend she said that never happened. But I have it in my thoughts like its a true memory. How do you know if a thought is just a thought? Or if all the 'what if's' are true? On my good days I realise how irrational I am being and know I have a clear conscious and am a good person. I dont even think about the what if scenarios I usually have in my mind . But on the bad days I'm so convinced and feel so guilty that I've done something so bad that I deserve all of this. Can anyone relate? Does anyone know if this is a form of OCD?

Does anyone else fear that their morals will change or are changing due to their ocd??

i used to relate to ppl who were bi i think. i’m so scared. i saw some girl who said she thought she was bi curious and i think i agreed. i saw tiktoks abt bi girls and i think i related. i didn’t think twice about it, i still identified as straight. i wanted to be straight and i didn’t think about it seriously. i don’t want to be bi. i don’t. i really really really don’t. it doesn’t feel right and it doesn’t make me happy. is it possible to be straight even if i find proof? all i want is to be straight. i never really thought about what it would mean to be bi. i’m scared that what if it felt natural so i never had to think about it, and i knew but didn’t give it much thought? that makes no sense. i’m sorry. i’m so scared. i think i was too young to understand before. i am straight. that's what makes me happy so idc if i find more proof. i’m straight. period. end of conversation. i’m done w this. it’s my life and if being straight makes me happy then i’m straight. i’m done being confused. i’m done. i’m still terrified, but whatever. idk. sorry about this post, it’s very all over the place. i need to get everything out.

Traveling and OCD : I need advice! When my OCD first started I went on vacation with my family to Ecuador back in September 2019. While I enjoyed the trip and seeing family I hadn’t seen in a long time, I was also experiencing hell because this was completely new to me, didn’t know it was OCD, and constantly kept feeding it mental compulsions because I had no idea what else to do. So now my family wants to travel back there at the end of the year for the holidays. I really want to see my other family again and I’ve never in my life been there during the holidays/my birthday, we’ve always previously gone in the summer. But i honestly think that other trip traumatized me or something due to the extreme distress and pain I was going through. So now just thinking of going back has my OCD acting up fierce and I’m terrified it’s gonna get worse from now just being September to the trip in December. I know things are completely different now: I’ve been diagnosed with OCD, I’ve been in therapy doing ERP with an OCD specialist for the last 6-7 months, and I’ve seen progress from then on. But now this is coming up and it’s knocking me around. I know I have to go on this trip because of I said I didn’t want to that would hurt me more because I know it would come from a place of avoidance. Plus I absolutely LOVE traveling via plane, going to airports and being on a plane and everything about it is one of my greatest joys and OCD is trying hard to hurt that for me. I just wanna go and not be in that same state of pain and distress as before, and to get myself out of a state of panic and into self-care so I can just CHILL. I’ve been working lately to find a psychiatrist to potentially start medication so that I can be less on edge and deal with my OCD accordingly without having the anxiety portion fly off the rails. Is there anything else I should do? Advice? Thanks

has anyone here lost their faith and believe in god? like mine is border line religion ocd bc i keep thinking if god is real then why do i keep praying and praying and nothing happens?? i’m still stuck in this whole where i question the most basic thing about myself like my sexuality it feels like my whole world has come down, everything i ever dreamed of is down to crumbles

im pretty sure its not normal to cry everyday right like idk i hate my brain and i hate my life rn im too scared to take ocd medication and i noticed that my brain is using methods like being numb to cope again and i used to do that a lot

anyone else have adhd and ocd and find actually sitting down to do erps verrrrry challenging i am the procrastination pro i just will find anything to do but what im supposed to but i dont like taking vyvanse or adderal just so i will actually do my erps ... i also feel like when my ocd is in over drive from a real life trigger not a forced trigger i cant help but focus on the intrusive thoughts and let them overwhelm me but when im doing an erp thing it feels like homework it feels like an assignment that i dont want to do and while i do get anxiety from the exposures if my brain finds a distraction (not on purpose) then my adhd excellerates the process and my anxiety goes from a 7 to a 4 and i feel like i havr to start over, does any of that make sense or sound relatable? like and because of this when i do the erp exercises sometimes i cant tell if im forcing myself to concentrate on the intrusive thoughts (because i know my brain wants to go elsewhere to random thoughts) or if my intrusive thoughts are occuring naturally and then my thought spiral goes well look this is proof you dont have ocd doing an erp shouldnt be this challenging in my mind i imagine someone with ocd sits down say they blink a lot or do a physical compulsion they expose themself to something that makes them panic and they have to sit there and not do a physical compulsion for 10 minutes and watch their anxiety go up and down until it steadies out ... for me though my compulsions are reassurance but sometimes my adhd distracted brain can mess up the process and i have to remind myself of the task at hand and i say to myself "someone with real ocd doesnt have to remind themselves of their anxiety they are crippled by it" but i will say in early august my panic attacks and crying spells were out of control and i was feeling crippled by it but now that i feel more regulated after getting a diagnosis and feeling a sense that i can take control of my life i almost find these exercises tedious and annoying and also sometimes ruining my day so i avoid them especially because they make me feel like i dont have ocd sometimes because im not having the amount of anxiety i should have... to be clear ive only done 7s on my hierarchy so far im sure thats why i doubt it because im not experiencing panic attacks that i have in the past and instead just light anxiety ... anyway hope someone reads this and gets what im saying 🤷‍♀️ is this just me feeling like a fraud because of ocd or is my adhd really making it hard to do erps? i have no clue and i know i cant be give reassurance

My OCD has been all over the place today and now it’s hitting my existential OCD. I keep getting thoughts focused on reality and feeling if I feel real and if my environment is real and it’s freaking me out. It makes me feel like a crazy person. How can I just stop and be present and not feel unreal or in a simulation somehow?

Struggling with the idea that ocd is chronic or not some say it is some say it is not . What does your therapists say

i really need to know if God is real. It’s the root of my existential ocd if god isn’t real nothing makes sense.

The more you realize how fake OCD is The easier and faster recovery becomes.

I have a question. Is excessive note taking an OCD thing? Like if I have to outline a chapter I leave nothing out. Sometimes my outline is more pages than the chapter. Also I heard that constantly using new materials is an OCD thing. Like always starting new notebooks, getting new pens, restarting imperfect flash cards, etc. I never really struggle with perfectionism but maybe I do on a mild or moderate level. It does affect my functioning a little bit in terms of things taking forever to do but it’s not severe mental distress.

How to stop ruminating when your thoughts make you unsure of what you believe and you feel like you have to figure it out or you will never know or you will start doing things that are bad and will get you in jail because you stop believing what you've always believed and what you've been taught bc other people your age do and what if you do too but like worse and don't do normal rebellious things like drugs but awful things (harm ocd thoughts or even pocd thoughts) I am so scared and anytime I hear of someone rebelling I get anxious or think that I will or might want to 😫😫

Anyone have any tips for dealing with uncertainty form suicidal thoughts with harm ocd?