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I'm feeling so down right now. I saw an inappropriate post and I am afraid I want to be like that. In addition I really want a job but I am too afraid that I will feel to responsible and become bad or that someone will make fun of me for being good and I will become bad. My main fesr is becoming or wanting to become a bad person. I am so sad

How to stop missing a toxic ex ?

Why does it feel so real rn? Its feels like im a lesbian and i’ve accepted it Like i keep getting constant intrusive images of kissing my friends, my mind keeps saying “what if you were in a threesome with so & so?”, or asking if i’d date my best friends and yeah:( It feels like i like it but i also don’t It feels fake but also so real I don’t want this at all, i really don’t

Health OCD: I suffer with health OCD. I’m constantly worried about getting sick and I always convince myself that the smallest hint of something could be cancer. That being said, when something really does go wrong, I completely spiral. Something has gone wrong: I have had an irregular period and intense abdomen pain for over a month. I went to various OBGYNs who failed to diagnose me with anything. I felt like either the doctors were wrong or I was blowing it out of proportion, but my gut told me I needed to figure it out because of how bad the pain was. Yesterday morning I went to a new obgyn who told me I probably had a pelvic infection. He was angered that no one has diagnosed me and I’d gone over a month with it. He put me on antibiotics and asked me to take them immediately. I am waiting on test results. My biggest fear is infertility. I’m terrified that I will either be diagnosed with cancer or that the infection has made me infertile. I can’t stop googling and reading about how pelvic infections can cause infertility. My obsessions are out of control and my fiancé doesn’t know how to react to my panic attacks. I feel very alone and would appreciate some advice on how to handle this. Thank you

Extremely triggering for HOCD - just a warning The scariest thing someone had ever said to me is that gay people can have HOCD and fear being gay.

I’m incredibly panicked; I found out about HOCD two weeks after my obsession started seven years ago, but I was a child. I was only 12. I didn’t understand that I needed to see a doctor, I didn’t even really understand OCD. I think I really don’t have it, because it didn’t just start with a random thought and then panic, it was like a slow build of thoughts as I spent time alone over Christmas break. This is the worst part: I have this memory of reading a yahoo answers page in which the writer was describing that she kind of “WANTED” to be gay and me agreeing with her. I AGREED WITH HER. I WANTED TO END UP GAY AT THE BEGINNING. HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE? IVE SPENT 7 YEARS IN AGONY. I CANT DO THIS. I DONT HAVE OCD. I DONT THINK I CAN GO ON. PLEASE SOMEONE JUST TELL ME IF THIS IS OCD

I am excited but knowing I'm going to pay for my books and I'm going to be okay but for some reason I got like anxious feelings until I get the books actually mailed out it's like over anxious feelings I start college in January

hi my names haley a few years ago i experienced something that i now know is intrusive thoughts, they were different to the ones i get now, they could be like ‘that lady is ugly’ or ‘you don’t really want to be friends with her’ they were minor really but they really bothered me and i used to panic over them, a lot. i am currently in a one year relationship and he is my everything, he is there for me, he makes me happy, we have a great sex life and just he is everything i could ask for. since it is covid he had to quarantine away from me for two weeks as he had been in contact with someone with corona, about a week into not seeing him i got a random thought that i liked a guy that i had no interest in what so ever, it made me panic a lot, it then lead to me getting at thought ‘you don’t really like your boyfriend’ and of course this made me panic more, i panicked and cried and had extreme panic attacks for days that i was falling out of love, i then realised that this was me obsessing over my thought to the point it felt real, the realisation helped and i read an article about someone who had the same, and i felt so much better knowing it was just in my head and that i would get over it. the following few days with my love were great and i was able to feel at ease. i was scrolling through my instagram and i clicked on someone’s account who’s bio said that they were lesbian, for some reason this triggerd a thought in my head saying ‘you like girls too’ ‘your a lesbian’ ‘your bi’ and i freaked out a lot because i have never worried about my sexuality much, i have found girls attractive but not in a relationship or sexual way, that thought has set of a chain of thoughts about me being bisexual in my head when i almost know im not. i have been trying to visualise me doing sexual things with a girl or me being a relationship with a girl to try and get reassurance, but i’m so stressed out about it that i simply don’t feel any emotions when i think about them. i will do things like imagine me feeling a woman’s boobs to see if would like it or imagine myself having sex with a woman. it doesn’t feel right, i couldn’t imagine myself having sex with a woman or a relationship with one but i have almost convinced myself that it’s something i would like or would do i cant stop freaking out about it. to the point i am now wondering if i should break up with my boyfriend to find myself ? i couldn’t bare life without him but i can’t help but wonder if i should someone please help :/

Hey everyone. I’m a little confused how ERP works with things like existential OCD. Like I’m not sure how to sit with the thoughts without comforting myself because it just comes automatically to me you know? I’m new to this so I probably just need some practice but any tips would be appreciated!

does anyone have a problem reading the Bible or exploring their religion? i want to read the Bible but i don’t wanna read something i question or don’t agree with and then it sets off a new theme for me. for example i can’t watch any videos of atheists because i’m afraid i’ll become one or start to question God (i don’t have any problem w atheists it’s just not who i am). i want to kinda explore my religion because i want to understand it more but at the same time don’t want to mess w my mind. any tips?

I want to be open with my partner about my relationship anxiety in the moment, but hearing about the heaviness of my feelings time and time again has pushed him away. How do I cope with my ROCD without pushing my partner away? He’s open to hearing me talk about it sometimes but not as often as I do.

My heads banging because ive been crying so much i cant cope with this i need help i really need help im 12 why the hell do i deserve this? My skin kindof hurts when i cry because ive cried so much how do i cope? how am i supposed to be able to deal with this? I need help i want help WHY ME? WHY THE HELL ME? PLEASE TELL ME WHY IF GOD IS REAL IM ACTUALLY BEGGING YOU PLEASE PLEASE MAKE MY MIND CALM DOWN ABIT

Does anyone have any advice on getting into spirituality? Meditation and mindfulness etc? Thanks :)

Dose anyone have intrusive thoughts only when they are on there own, and suffer in fear, but wen confronted with the fear they realise its was impossible to have have been so anxious? This is really bothering me 😫 now I dont believe I have ocd... 😳🤷‍♂️😔😔😔

Anyone wanna talk about something not ocd related and just get ur mind off maybe.

I have been struggling with HOCD since this past July. I literally cannot stop thinking. It’s so frustrating because I know deep down that it’s OCD, but I always have my brain saying “Well, what if it’s not and the thoughts mean something? If it wasn’t true you wouldn’t think about it so much...” I have always been an introspective person, so I am realizing that this is not new... it’s just all consuming now. In high school, I would have sexual intrusive thoughts about my girlfriends and was curious about sexuality, so I internally labeled myself as bi and moved on. I didn’t recognize it as OCD, though I was diagnosed with emetophobia bc my anxiety about puking was so intense... but that’s another story lmao. I’m now realizing, however, that it likely wasn’t the case. I have only ever dated or had sexual/romantic thoughts about men. Of course, my anxiety tells me it’s bc I’m in denial and heteronormative society has “ruined my brain”. I remember having my dating app set to men & women for approx 1 hour until I realized I didn’t see myself attracted to any women in that way. I “came out” impulsively as bi to a handful of friends a few years back, but I feel that I was wrong. I took it back but I’m still constantly thinking about it. I feel like I’m a liar and a fraud. I’m so scared I’m actually bi or gay and I’m living a lie or something. Worst of all, I feel guilty because of my relationship with my boyfriend. I love him so dearly, but I am constantly questioning if I actually love him or if I’m faking it because I’m gay and love women and I’m just tricking myself. I am so scared and frustrated and on the brink of tears all the time. It’s better now than it was back in July... at least I can eat and sleep now. But holy hell. I want to go back to not feeling like I’m on the brink of spiraling 24/7. I don’t get so anxious anymore, but I still get caught in a thought spiral whenever I see a gay woman or an attractive woman... so whenever I go on social media, consume media, or go in public lmao. A few of my friends identify as bi or gay as well and I am always so anxious around them which makes me feel homophobic. I feel like I’m going crazy. I just want to get better.

Hello, I am Nathan Longmuir from MA USA and I'm 16 years old. This is my first time trying this so if I can't find a way to reply to people or thank people I am not being rude to anyone. If I ramble or repeat something I apologize. This will be long BUT PLEASE stay with me! I need help and advice. I don't know how to start, so I chose to make an account because I have been suffering from terrible HOCD with what you would call groinal response and hyper awareness of my groin area. After looking into my life far it seems I've always had OCD and OCD behaviors. Like constantly asking my mom if a toy is broken a hundred times and constantly scanning every inch of it constantly. It seemed like my OCD was always in the background when I was very young but stopped around fourth grade. Fourth grade was also the only time it was even close to as bad as it is now. I accidently said “I swear to god” in my head once when lying so I was convinced I was going to go to hell, I constantly asked my mom if I would throughout the day and I was constantly crying. I started praying at least once every 10 minutes and my life was like, well hell. Then it magically stopped. I've tried to analyze that time period asking myself, “How did I beat this last time?” and I can't find anything. Anyway after that I had almost no OCD behavior or excessive intrusive thoughts until now, in 10th grade 6 years later. It seems a lot of things led up to this, like being in my house 24/7 with a bad stressful school schedule due to covid, and no change of scenery whatsoever. I live in the remote woods too. I had a few little OCD obsessions that lasted around a week each before this one, one obsession was created by me saying a German WW2 plane looked cool. So my brain called me a N@ZI for awhile. Another was I was scared I'd hurt my family. It was started because someone my age killed their family, so the OCD said things like “I want to kill my family” and “I'm a murderer”. I had what seems to be POCD for a week before the HOCD, that obsession was created because someone said online my name sounds like a great name for a Pedo. I constantly said I'd never do something like that to a child and I would rather die. Then it was replaced by the HOCD. Thanks for reading this far. I've been having these HOCD thoughts and obsessions for somewhere between 70-85 days and it's the worst thing I have ever experienced. It constantly calls me gay and says things I dont agree with whatsoever. I have always liked women only, I remember liking girls since first grade! The thing I want the most in this world is a beautiful wife who loves and cares about me and to be a father. I had a beautiful girlfriend last year who I deeply cared about and we dated for about 6 months, then something very sad happened. When I was with her I was very happy and confident and in love and I miss her very much. I AM LOSING MY MIND. I have held a knife to my jugular twice with full intent to push it in, the only reason why I didn't was I didn't want to devastate my family. I want it to stop no matter the cost. I almost decided to get high off medicine, but I knew that it would put me down another dark path. I almost decided to overdose on medicine as well, since it would be a much more clean death and more peaceful. I have gone from an A and high B student to one B, four C’s, a D, and a F this term. My room looks disgusting and messy. I now have ABSOLUTELY TERRIBLE ANXIETY about anything related to the HOCD. I now have HORRIBLE DEPRESSION. I apologise if it sounds nasty, but I can't masturbate anymore because the HOCD thoughts get worse while doing it. I still get aroused by women but slower than before. The worst thing about the HOCD is the groinal response and hyperawareness, I accidently started it when a HOCD thought popped up and I said something along the lines of, “What you say isn't true, I'm not aroused by this and never will. I'm not hard either” so I started to say that whenever they came up. So by doing that I screwed myself over because by me focusing my attention on my penis area I started to feel a uncomfortable feeling and a little movement whenever a HOCD thought shows up or if anything reminds me of it so the HOCD basically says,”WHAT I SAID WAS TRUE”. I never get erections or anything like that, I just wanted to clear that up. SInce it started I avoid members of the same sex a bit, but I realize it makes the OCD worse so I have almost stopped that. I hardly watch TV or play video games because it gives me anxiety now. I've been trying to stop avoiding “triggers” because it reinforces the OCD and I have seen a bit of improvement but I'm far from better. You are probably asking yourself, “If it's this bad, why hasn't he gotten help? Medication? Seen a therapist? Hes considering suicide for gods sake!” Well since I've been 4 Ive always wanted to join the United States Marines, a military branch so I can defend my country and its people. They don't let you join with a history of anxiety especially OCD. If I go to a therapist, talk to a doctor, or get medication it goes on my record and I'm instantly disqualified for military service…. Forever. That's why I have not seeked help, or even told my parents about it. I am suffering in silence to protect my dream. I've always looked up to our armed forces and I have an autographed picture of Audie Murphy, the most decorated american soldier from WW2 in my room. I took it down because I don't want the OCD to contaminate my thinking of him. I am in tears as I had to type that. So the only help I can ask for is on here, I need advice on how to ignore the OCD and the groinal response. Please. I'd like words of encouragement as well. I want to be myself again. Please help me all of you.

Right does anyone else get this ?. Basically my mind is saying i want to be with a man. I keep breaking down saying this cant be true 😞

SOOCD but now I only fear that I’m not sexually attracted to men? I analyze every interaction I’ve had with my SO and have really begun to doubt that I actually love him/am sexually attracted to him. This is based on my reaction to erotic photos, him naked, etc. This seems to be more upsetting to me than the prior obsessions