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does anyone else have really bad emetephobia? any advice?

My brain feels so overwhelmed with intrusive thoughts, I'm finding it hard to think. It's becoming difficult to get things done because I can't establish direction. It's never been this bad before and it just keeps getting worse. How do I reset?

Can someone recommend a book to help parents with a teen with OCD? My daughter currently suffers from religious OCD. She thinks the devil is going to harm her or someone. She asked me for help but I honestly don’t know how to help her. She is currently in therapy and taking Fluvoxamine, but I have not seen any progress and I think her anxiety is actually getting worse. Her therapist does not specialize in OCD so we are looking into other options. I am looking for any advice, I feel very helpless and don’t know how to comfort her. I feel like I am saying all the wrong things. Thanks

I’m 28 years old and I’ve been battling with OCD since I was around 8 years old. However, I didn’t realize it was OCD until a few years ago. I’ve dealt with multiple themes of OCD that are on constant rotation. Currently, I’m struggling with real event OCD, and moral scrupulously OCD. It has made this past week extremely distressing. My husband is aware of all of my thoughts and feelings, however, that’s due to my need to “confess” virtually everything in my life. He is never stressed about the content of what I’m worrying about, but unfortunately, that serves as temporary reassurance for me, and the cycle continues. This week has been one of my HARDEST. I have been stuck in a loop over the same obsession, with barely any relief. I’m self employed, and usually the winter months are slow, so I currently have no distractions to get out of my head. I can barely eat, and I go through multiple waves of panic attacks a day. I’m starting to lose hope that I can figure this out alone. I’ve never seen professional help for my OCD, and to be honest, it terrifies me to have to explain my thoughts and feelings to a stranger. What if I never get better? I guess I’m just looking for guidance, advice, etc. I’m feeling so lost and scared.

Hi everyone. I have PANS OCD and had it early as a child around 5. It was debilitating I went though counting, contamination OCD even thinking family members were contaminated, hand washing till my hands were raw and more I had a good childhood but it was heavily OCD based which stinks. I am now 25 and have had manageable OCD throughout the last 10 ish years. Up till late last year I got it back again worse than ever.. I am now worried about asbestos and mold and lead and household things we moved into an older home and it’s been awful. I also worry constantly 24/7 about death… also We don’t have any of those materials In our home but my OCD won’t leave me alone. I went into treatment didn’t sleep the 4 days I was there and checked myself out, I instantly regretted it and tried going back but they wouldn’t let me back right away unfortunately. I am seeing my therapist once a week and trying to live life as an adult with OCD it never fully went away but it was so manageable and now I need to learn to live with crippling OCD all over again if anyone has any advice or relates to this please comment so we can talk. Thanks Lydia

i dont know what is trigger and what is not so i will just put the warning just incase, i am new here and idk what im doing, ive had therapy before for trauma and major depression and its never really worked for me, it did help me get over the trauma i got from my parents divorce but the depression never got better. ive stopped having therapy for months now and its only gotten worst. now the reason i search for an ocd test was because recently i learned that ocd isnt the stereotype of only being like wanting things neat but it's actually more than that. when i heard it dealt wit intrusive thoughts i was shocked because i always had so many thoughts that made me sad to know i was having those thoughts for example raping someone or doing sexual deeds with a minor or killing something or hurting someone or doing something inappropriate with my younger sister and those thoughts are making me want to kill myself bc i know those thoughts are bad and im just so scared im gonna hurt someone. ive also gotten to a point to where i dont care about myself anymore. the only reason im here is because i just wanted to validate my thoughts and knowing its a disorder makes me feel a bit better. i still dont care about living tho i think that sooner or later these thoughts will just overwhelm me that i will just end my life to end stop my thoughts from playing anymore, im so tired of this i just want it to end

this sounds so stupid i bet, but this is one of the most stressful things i’ve had to deal with. the hardest thing to do is sleep. in the past when i’ve gotten sick, it’s worken me up at night. now, i cant sleep without waking up for an hour or two on and off anxious. i don’t know how to get rid of this fear. it feels like the scariest thing. it’s the nit having control over my body i think.

When things are messy or seem messy I freak out. Everything has to be perfect and the way I like it and the way I feel its supposed to be. But today my house was getting renovated and we had to move all the furniture around and clump it together and it made me all overwhelmed all weekend and I was lashing out and being difficult to anyone that interacted with me because nothing was how it was supposed to be. I cried multiple times and I just couldn't help it. Sometimes for no reason at all I wonder if I actually have OCD, like maybe I'm faking it or I have a couple problems with how I keep my room clean and I'm overreacting and turning it into something much bigger. But I know that's stupid because it's obvious that I have severe OCD. Today is the kind of day that's kind of like a wake up call. Today I didn't doubt the fact that I have OCD and I struggled a lot. And then when it was all said and done I obsessed over putting everything back in it's place and perfecting everything like I always do. And then I was fine like it never happened, except for the fact that I know how triggered I was today and how much I struggled and wanted to completely breakdown and scream. OCD is a serious mental illness and today was proof of that. Today was proof that I'm not as okay as I thought I was and that i shouldn't brush off my OCD as something that isn't important or serious. Thank you to anyone who listens

my mom and my sister keep making fun of me for my ocd. when things aren’t a certain way i get very twitchy and upset. my sister always laughs at me and tells everyone. my mom has talked to a number of my therapists about what ocd actually is , yet she yells at me and gets legit mad when i have compulsions. does anyone have any suggestions on what to say back because nothing works and i’m sick of being mad fun of.

Okay, I’ve been struggling with hocd for the past(almost) 2 years. I haven’t really progressed and got more worst at controlling. Okay to start off, I used to be bisexual for years. I got rid of it ever since I started dating my bf. And everything was fine for 3 years, until one inappropriate video popped up(I could see videos without reacting ). And that’s what started the gronial and the hocd. My aniexty plays a part of it as well. Lately, I’ve been avoiding people in general since I always worry if I’m going to had a thought or reaction. I don’t want to go back to my old self and that’s what I fear. I can’t even see pretty woman or anything without feeling “unloyal” to my bf. I tried exposure and in one part it works, but then goes back to the same crap. I need help and if there’s any advice, I would be glad to listen !

Does anyone ever get scared that they are just trying to convince themselves that it’s OCD. I have this fear that my intrusive thoughts about harm aren’t actually intrusive nor is it actually OCD and I’m actually some sort of crazy evil human being all of a sudden. As I’m writing this I can see how silly that is. Of course it’s OCD, but there is always that “what if” and it makes me scared of myself. I know that this could be considered “obsessing about obsessing,” but like I said, there is always that, “What if you are different? An anomaly.”

Something triggered my ROCD really badly. It put me in a state where I feel defensive against anyone and everything and feel ready to lash out at the slightest provocation (I haven't and I won't, but I feel ready to). Feeling this way makes me feel safe in a weird way though. Does anyone else have this?

sorry but i feel like this is going to be a really long vent! In october 2022 my dad had major heart surgery and the effect it had on me was crazy. During the weeks he was in hospital i didn’t feel anything other than worry and fear. After the surgery and when he came home and started recovering and i started to relax i noticed a huge change in my behaviour. i became more depressed, i wasn’t eating or sleeping, constantly crying and then i started getting intrusive thoughts about my sexuality. These came out of nowhere and i couldn’t shake them off. A post came up on my instagram explorer page about OCD and i realised that maybe i had health OCD. One example of why i thought i had it was i was getting pain in my breast and thought i had breast cancer and kept going back to the doctor and it turns out to just being a spot 🤦🏼‍♀️. I then started reading more about ocd and learning about the different types such as: pedophelia OCD where when i’m holding a baby im worrying and have constant fear that i did something to that baby when i know i didnt. False memory OCD thinking that something had happened or that i felt a certain way about someone when i didn’t but i could have but i don’t know if it’s real or not. However, my main theme im really struggling with is HOCD. I’ve always been attracted to boys, always have crushes on them from when i was younger till now. After my dads op i keep getting the intrusive thought of what if i’m gay?. I don’t want to be ( i don’t have anything against it) and i fear that i am but i’m attracted to men and have only had crushes on boys?? Before i was having these thoughts i kissed a boy and i liked it (but now i’m thinking did i really like it) after these thoughts every time i kiss a boy i freak out and start crying because i panic and get the feeling that it’s wrong when i don’t want it to be. I don’t think it helps that i was bullied my whole school life so i don’t trust easily and i feel like it’s affected me in getting into relationships because i’m scared it’s just a joke or i’m going to be made fun of or i’m not good at a certain thing. I struggle to get to know new people especially boys ( i don’t know why) so that’s not helping the situation at all. Before the HOCD i used to fantasise about being in relationships with boys and being intimate with them especially my recent crush, but now i can’t even think about that without feeling like it’s wrong and thinking that i’ve never had feelings for them and that i don’t really want it. When i do, i really really do. Now when ever i think of having sex with a boy i panic and start thinking about sex with a girl but i don’t want to think of this. I question whether i’m attracted to this and i really don’t want to be. I’ve never thought about being with a girl romantically or sexually until recently and i really want it to go away! i feel like a completely different person and i don’t like it, at one point my brain was convincing me i was a boy and that i wanted to be with a girl but i don’t. After this i really struggle with catching feelings for boys and i’m scared that the whole time i was just in denial and i’m using HOCD as an excuse for it all. I feel like i have a heavy weight on my chest thinking of this and i could cry because i just want my life back. I get gronial response as well which really freaks me out because i can’t tell what’s real or not real. A friend of mine came out as bisexual and i haven’t been able to shake the thought of what if i am as well. what if i’m attracted to her and i really really really don’t want to be. I’m so scared and i don’t like it! writing this is bringing in so many emotions and my hands are literally shaking. I don’t even know whether it’s OCD because i don’t know whether i get compulsions or not. When ever i think about it i shake or shiver and cringe and go ew ew. In my head i pray to God to help me to stop thinking these thoughts and i read the NOCD posts to see if i relate to any of it and sometimes i do which is a relief and sometimes i don’t which causes me to panic. I feel so guilty because it makes me not want to be friends with her anymore. I also get the thought of what if i’m never going to fall in love with a boy. What if i fall in love with the wrong person, what if i’m getting to know the wrong boy, if i don’t feel something straight away then i don’t carry it on and then i freak out because i didn’t feel anything because i want it so desperately and they obviously aren’t the one etc i hope this all makes sense and if anyone could help me with any of it i would really really appreciate it.

Hey, how is everyone doing tonight? I’m feeling pretty anxious, but would love to hear from y’all?

Honestly I feel like I’m fighting a losing battle or as if I’m pretending to want to get better or to not want to be evil. I just feel disturbed and I don’t know what to do, I don’t know if I’m deliberate imagining the thoughts because I get some kind of sick indulgent out of it since it feels like I like the feeling of doing that action when I imagine it or whether I’m jsut highly traumatised by it and maybe it’s the adrenaline making it feel like I like the feeling when I don’t. It’s so scary I think this is the worst type of intrusive thought I have about suffocation it’s so disgusting, with the thoughts involving sharp object I instantly know I hate it but with this it’s like I can’t explain it but it makes me unsure I’m so scared

Does anyone else have weird periods where they become obsessed with certain people in their life? I’ve had this a couple of times in the last 2 years and recently with my colleague. We get along really well and I think of him as a good friend, but recently i’ve become weirdly obsessed. I’m thinking constantly about posting things to impress him, speaking to him, wondering what he’s doing. I’ve never found him attractive before but all of a sudden i’m thinking about him sexually. He’s actually the opposite of the type of person I would go for and I am in a relationship with someone (3 years strong). It’s to the extent i’ll want to post things on instagram to try and make him think i’m cool (cringe) and want to get to know me more. He’s also been with his girlfriend for 6/7 years and i’m not jealous so it’s not a physical crush, it’s an obsession. It’s overwhelming. I’ve had this before with a colleague who also had a partner and I think it targets people that do because they are less of a threat to my ROCD (I have the excuse they are also in a relationship). I’ve started having dreams about him and thinking about him constantly or what he would think about this/ would he find this funny. I want to be best friends with him and spend loads of time with him. Last night when I was having sex with my partner he was coming into my head a lot, which was irritating. In my experience this disappears after 6 months or so, but it’s annoying me. Weirdly it’s not that triggering for me at the moment but i’m worried it will become so. Has anyone had this and have any tips? I feel so weird and strange for having this, and I genuinely really like him as a person so don’t want to sabotage it for myself by having to distance myself because i’m scared.

Had for ocd for years about loyalty towards my gf would feel awful if I thought bad off my gf and thinking other girls r goood looking missing my ex ect but now I’m almost better and now don’t avoid looking at girls which I did for a year I find my self wanting to look at girls and get an overwhelming attraction feeling that I don’t get towards my gf? I find every girl attractive now and feel awful like I’m better off alone as I feel Numb a lot towards my gf but thY would be because of all the trauma towards her from ocd. Any one else struggling with this ? We have been together almost 24/7 for 2 years is this normal the lack of attraction ?

Can someone please explain false memories related to OCD? I feel like I have had these but have never realized it’s related to OCD

I just started Exposure and Response prevention teraphy due to my OCD getting worsed as time pass by and I would like to ask question to someone who has gone throught his process already.

I love him so much and I'll never have him again and it's all my fault. My ocd got so bad after he left me and it's all my fault.. I was stupid and cheated on him for some reason and he found out and broke up with me. This was almost 5 years ago now and I'm still in love with him, but he has completely moved on and wants nothing to do with me. But then he says things that confuse me and i always feel like its not over between us even though hes said mutiple times that he doesnt love me anymore and doesnt want to be eith me I've tried dating other people but I just can't do it. I love him so much it hurts why did I have to be so stupid why why why why whyyy I hate myself so much