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Worried that I’m gonna speak negativity into existence after seeing a video on tiktok saying that you speak things into existence. Dude I hate this so much. I hate this so much.

Tips on how to not let the intrusive thoughts ruin me

Hi! I have a really hard time traveling. I feel like everything is dirty or can never be cleaned enough. Fabric Furniture is the worst for me! I much rather stay home and relax than travel. The problem is that my family loves to travel. They feel like I can never live a normal life because of uncomfortable I am in hotels or rental houses. I normally try and bring as much of my own stuff as I can but sometimes I still cannot relax. I end up ruminating on all the things that need to be cleaned in the room. Which leads to a fight with my family because they see it as perfectionism. We are currently on a trip and the rental house is not as brand new in the pictures. The pictures are your typical ones where they do make it look better than it is. Some of the furniture is different than the pictures and the walls are all scuffed up. Is it wrong to expect it to be pretty much what is pictured? Does anyone have any tips to try to not fixate on how dirty traveling can be? Or explaining to others how it affects you without seeming like you are complaining?

So I’ve recently began dating someone and we’ve been in a relationship for almost 5 months. At the beginning of the relationship it was amazing and I’d also started tapering off medication. Shortly after though I felt the urge to confess to him about all of my past partners in terms of who I was sexually active with because before he and I entered a relationship he was not the only person I’d been involved with.I would only feel relief after telling him all details regarding these circumstances only for about a day later something else would feel just as urgent for me to tell him. I started connecting these things to other subtypes I’ve experienced and I was very depressed and so was he. There was an instance where I saw him check out another girl and I at this point was avoiding looking at men as a compulsion bcs my boyfriend has been cheated on twice before and it is the center of my subtype (have i or will i cheat on him) and after catching him do that I checked another guy out and afterwards felt very guilty for doing. Suddenly i statted mentally receiving and came up with a story from remembering a time he double texted me and I got very anxious thinking he was cheating on me and so I started to wonder what if I flirted with someone at school and started reviewing my memories , texts with my friends and him to try and “jog” my memory , wanting to go through my own phone to see if I’d done anything. I obsessed for weeks over this. Shortly after I traveled to Mexico City for a wedding and my bf was constant in reminding me “don’t forget about me or don’t cheat on me” when I got the wedding we were assigned seats and I was sat at a table with people my age , one of which was a guy I found attractive this was for obvious reasons very triggering. I promised my bf to no drinking alcohol also bcs I dding want anything to happen. I knew the boy sitting next to me bcs his parents are friends with mine and this was our first time meeting and we were all talking , I felt like I needed to talk to everyone else though about similar topics bcs I ddint want to seem like i onky wanted to get to know him and not everyone else bcs i found him attractive , I also made sure to tell the table I did have a bf. I danced at the dance floor and did enjoy myself though I found myself having these thoughts of wanting to be single and having this feeling of wanting this boy to find me attractive and I wasn’t at first super distressed by this until I got back to the table with my parents and avoided this boy bcs I fekt like I’d just done something really bad , I have since then been mentally reviewing the wedding and wishing I’d never gone bcs now I feek guilty and like I’ve cheated and keep asking my mom for reassurance and wanted to tell myself that it’s ocd but I feel like I’m using it as an excuse , any help ?? I also will get false memory ocd of me doing something like only dancing with him instead of in a group and why did I sing this song a certain way around him and also that I did dance moves in front of other people and not just him. I don’t know what to do or how to do exposure for this.

Ok so I am getting married next year. My fiancé and I have been living together for a long time. I honestly am so worried about getting married to him, because of my most disturbing thoughts about my physical attraction to him. This thought originally came up when confronting the major life decision of moving in together, and it hasn’t stopped since. I feel sick, because a lot of times these thoughts and disturbances come up when I see him and actually don’t feel attraction to him. Almost every day I have these thoughts and think that I am hurting him by marrying him. On the other hand, I don’t want to deprive myself of something that I’ve always wanted, and I don’t want to be alone. Both of these fears seem like OCD, so it seems like the universe isn’t telling me the right decision to make. Help?

Hi! I am a Christian who is about to get married. According to my religious beliefs, I believe that if you get married, you cannot marry again except for instances of infidelity or death. I was in a play in college where my character married another character, and so I am obsessed with the idea that I actually got married to the other actor, and therefore have no (religious) right to be married. It is really ruining everything surrounding my upcoming marriage and making me feel extremely distressed, anxious, and hopeless. My friend recommended this app!

I lie sometimes, and that sometimes turns into a lot to get out of work. I called in 20 times in 24 weeks which I was told by management that it’s unacceptable and they asked what they can do to help. (That was a couple weeks ago). And I called in yesterday. I wasn’t feeling well, but I should’ve went in anyways. It wasn’t that debilitating to not go into work so why did I do that ? I don’t understand why I make the choices I do, and why I continue to do them after being confronted and knowing that is wrong ? I’m terrified of getting in trouble by my boss. She’s quite firm, harsh, which makes sense because she’s running a store, you never really know what to expect when she’s there. it’s not easy to be around her and I know it’s not just me who feels this way because my coworkers have said the same :/. It’s like walking on eggshells and it reminds me of my home life with my dad. My dad isn’t a bad person, I love him, I know he loves me back and he always makes me laugh, but I get so extremely uncomfortable when he’s angry. It seems he’s always angry at something at least once a day, and I hate hearing my parents argue so I just turn my music up and stay in my room. I always fantasize about having my own place, and just doing a full 180. With my boss, There’s always something wrong or, something that makes her mad and it’s hard to be around her since she expresses her negative emotions quite harshly, to the point where it really can be unnecessary. this should not excuse my actions, but I swear this has to be one of the only reasons why I hate going there. Why don’t I just quit ? Well first, I can’t quit until I find another job, and secondly, even though I keep applying I never get responses back. I just continue the cycle of my actions. Why can’t I just show up, do my job, and go home. Why does it affect me so much ? I’d rather stay home, bed rot, and do nothing. Why ? I have the recourses to help myself be better, do better for myself and others around me but I don’t. I know it’s because of my mental health. No normal human being, with a healthy brain and rationality acts like this. I recognize my issue but I don’t have the motivation at all to fix it. I want to change but I also don’t because it seems too hard. All I do is self harm. Smoke weed. Bed rot, and go online. And when I’m not doing that I’m at work, the only time I get out of the house and actually do something. Instead of taking this opportunity I find ways and excuses to keep me home. I ask for shorter shifts, I’m only part-time. I work four hours a shift and I don’t work often, so why don’t I just go in ? It’s hard for me to write this without belittling and somewhat defending my actions. I’m not a bad person, I don’t do bad things, I don’t go out of my way to make someone’s day worse. I really do try to be kind and supportive to everyone, I don’t mean to hurt people and I don’t like the idea of it, I love to make people laugh, but I’m just causing my downfall and I hope I never take anyone with me. All I do is hurt myself over and over. I scarred my skin because I was upset. That’s kinda permanent. It’s not a smart decision. I wish I could make people understand my experiences and everything I feel but I know that’s impossible, and the more I repeat it the more it sounds like excuses, and it kills me inside. At the same time why should I explain my experiences, because my thoughts, and my actions shouldn’t be influenced by something that happened in the past. Nor should I let my mental health take this much of a toll on me. It’s irrational and not fair. All I want to do is belittle myself of my experiences and call myself dramatic but the more I do I feel worse, while also trying to make myself feel better because there has to be a reason why I do this and don’t change ? This can’t all be my fault can it ? Am I really that stupid and lazy ? Why don’t I just try ? All I ask myself is why. The guilt eats me up inside. Of course I’m not going to tell anybody about this except strangers in the internet because I’m ashamed of myself and don’t need the people I love to be too.

Starting Prozac Tommorow morning, and I’m terrified that I’m going to get bad side effects, I’ve seen some really scary articles about them, and it’s causing me a good amount of worry, anyone on Prozac or know anything about it? I’m really hoping it works in helping my ocd, I’ve been on Zoloft before and I don’t really remember and side effects but I do remember getting nausea so I switched to Prozac after a years break and ocd coming back harder.

Ordering Repeating Extreme overthinking Hours and hours doing my those OCD rituals Cannot read or write because of this Taking time while switching on fan/light etc.... Self harming No one understands about my OCD It's been 2 years Random crying and feeling helpless and lost most of the time Re doing and re writing and re reading Checking doors Arranging doormats sometimes takes like 20-25 minutes to arrange doormats Random and worst compulsions Example: Touch the door 4 times or else my loved one will die Then it becomes 4x4 16 Random imaginations of numbers Nothing becomes perfect Wasting all my time to study (I'm in 10TH GRADE)doing all these. Very slow while writing notes in class because of rewriting and my bench mates notices it sometimes and makes fun of it. Even my bestfriend doesn't understands me and laughs at it but she tries to support me but they are not understanding what I am going through. Compulsion while I go to bed when I am extremely tired and then I waste the next minutes or maybe hours doing those without sleeping even if I am tired or class the next day. Seeing all these my parents yell at me and makes fun of laugh at me call me mad or crazy.Mu siblings and my cousins laugh at me and says "Stop doing these.Why are you acting" "JUST STOP THESE". I ALWAYS DO RITUALS WITH THE ANXIETY THAT SOMETHING HAPPENS TO MY PARENTS.And I love soo much that I can't even explain but my parents don't understand why I am doing these and one day my father pleaded and cried saying that "Please stop this.Dont be crazy.You are making me sad and tense.These are just your thoughts". One day while going to a function(we were running late) and my family was in a hurry that time I was ordering the footwears which was kept outside my house it tooke me 8 or more minutes and my father yelled at me and He destroyed all of the arrangement with his leg and all my hardwork was ruined and watching this my sibling started laughing hardly and I broke down into tears and yelled back at him and said that I'm not coming without arranging these. COUNTING ALWAYS. Retyping things, My teachers noticed this during computer lab and yelled at me.

Hi everyone, I wondered if anyone with ROCD can relate. When I’m with my boyfriend I’m constantly analysing my own feelings in order to answer the big question do I still love him? For example, if he’s in the mood ;) and I’m not. I think I’ve lost all attraction and should breaks up with him or if we are just chilling I worry that the spark is gone (we’ve been together 4 years) I then constantly try to find reasons why I feel this way. But I am hoping it’s down to ROCD as I still love and want to be with my partner but these thoughts make me feel numb so it is hard for me to fully understand and move forward. I also get very anxious that I missed out on experimenting when I was young. Ie going out to clubs and getting with boys. I worry now that if I’m around someone I find attractive this is an issue and it’s because I suppressed going out and experimenting. This is a reoccurring thought which makes me worry if I should even be in a relationship. However I know that I would never cheat on my partner. Both seem to me as intrusive thoughts I just can’t shift. Can anyone relate?

One of coworkers today touched me on my back without my permission and got real close to menow I've got icky feeling all over idk if it was harassment or not but I feel gross and weird

Anyone else get a really horrible intrusive thought then it just replays on loop in your Brain like literally the same sentence over and over and over again!!

I’m so scared that my relationship is going to end one way or another. Like what if I don’t feel connected to him anymore, what if I start to lose feelings, what if it just doesn’t work, what if my anxiety and OCD gets so bad that I just need to get out. I’ve done an exposure today and I’m trying to recall what I’ve learned in therapy but the fear is so real and I’m so scared it’s happening right now and it’s not actually my anxiety

I need help someone plz help I keep getting thoughts and physical urges about girls and I feel that I’m getting aroused. I don’t know what to do I don’t want to be with a girl I keep getting images about my sister arms and I xojld care her veins and I know that I like men with veiny arms but I keep getting a reliant that I like My sister with it I don’t what to do I don’t have anyone to talk to u I feel like I am alone. In Islam I don’t know if it’s true or not but god says to the fetus 77 times if u want to come to this world and god shows his or her life to it till his death. I wonder what did I see in this world that I agreed to come here I don’t want to live anymore I’ve had enough no one understand I want to go back to normal I don’t want to be with a girl I’ve never imagined my life with a girl I’m having 5 tablets a day of medication and I’m becoming worse I can’t focus I can’t remember certain things

I was so tired today until I turned off the lights and got into bed. Everytime im in bed I start ruminating and panicking and it just doesn’t stop. Sometimes I won’t be able to calm down until it’s 4 am. I’m just so frustrated

Does anyone else get really anxious about safety seals/tamper seals. I get really stressed when my body wash/shampoo doesn’t have a seal because I fear someone has tampered with it, such as putting bodily fluids inside. Most shampoos, conditions, soaps don’t have this because soap is simply self cleaning lol. This is also a huge anxiety with lotions. Most times lotions don’t come with a safety seal. Does anyone else have this kind of OCD? I guess it would be classified as checking and contamination.

how to stop existential ocd? I developed dpdr (depersonalisation and derealisation) from this. my toughts are horrible I can't even explain them. I think no one can understand this, just people who also go trought this. everything I think about turns into a horrible existential crisis and I loose connection with my body I see myslef from 3rd position, everything goes blurry and U can't hear properly. I feel so disconnected from reality. sometimes I just feel like I don't have to do anything or I can do anything because I don't even exist, nothing is real. I literally saw a car coming my way amd i had a tought it doesn't matter I can go through the street because I'm not real, i dont exist, so i did that and then later I realised what happened and im really scared now of what I am capable to do. how do I stop this? I'm on meds but I don't think they work, I've also tried many different therapists but I don't feel comfortable with anyone and nothing seems to work

My mom wont let me go on medication, I don’t know what to do. I just want my mind to go quiet, everyone hates me and my boyfriend is also annoyed and made fun of my OCD. I just feel so alone

Hello, So I am On the waiting for list for ERP. I have looked into it , as I am nervous for It however I’ve heard that it’s quite difficult and can be mentally straining. I am quite stubborn in myself , as like I don’t want to change myself . As I am scared , worried, and I have been managing for a while now. Why do I need to change. However , I know it’s for the best. Basically I am asking. Has anyone done ERP - how did you feel. Also , how many sessions is there. As I’m worried if it s a maximum I feel like I’m being rushed.

Please help me… i get the most horrible sad feelings around my little girl… and my suicidal ocd goes crazy when im alone with her… I can’t do this… i can’t keep having horrible thoughts/feelings/urges especially suicidal ocd around my little girl!