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TW*** I dont know what to do, I really think im gay in denial and want to meet guys and do stuff. Hocd made me realize it, its giving me arousal and urges. Im literally unable to get out of bed and do things. I wake up and stay in bed glued to the phone until next morning, sleep, wake up, repeat. Its been like this for 4 months now What am I supposed to do man, Fml

Theses feelings feel… so real… I wanna cry…. It’s like I am living a nightmare… why is it randomly I know I love him and have feelings for him…? But most of the time I feel like I really don’t love him at all… 😢 I need help I really do.. I constantly deal with anxiety I dont wanna stop loving him… I don’t wanna be his ex I Just want to know I love him!! That’s all!! All I want is my feelings to come back and to know that I love him when I don’t feel love… I fucking hate this…

Hello everyone. I need a friend to talk to... Please don't hate me... I just need to vent because I've been crying over this. When me and my gf started dating, I had this horrible intrusive thoughts of "do I deserve better?" and I feel like I half-agreed with them... It was a very selfish moment of me I feel so guilty non-stop after those initial thoughts. I can't stop thinking about how disgusting I am and how she deserves so much better. She's so caring and so loving. She's my definition of perfect They happened during periods of time when I don't experience romantic feelings for her.... Idk why they happen.... They just do. I feel completely aromantic (person incapable of experiencing romantic feelings) sometimes.... And it brings these awful thoughts. I just keep feeling that she deserves so much better than me... And I have been crying feeling like I don't deserve her...

How do you deal with the intrusive thoughts around babies about you doing something bad to them? I'm constantly getting these thoughts while babysitting my cousin even though I wouldn't do bad things these thoughts bother me so much

It’s making me feel like I’m not anxious about the intrusive thoughts of men and them kissing and stuff 😭😭😭

Guys does anyone here obsess about parts? I have taken Flexeril and Tylenol p.m. almost constantly for the past like week and a half so I know my emotions in my brain or out of it. Not necessarily what I’m getting emotional over is not the pills like I had upsetting personal news and I know I’m upset about the news that’s me but how all over the place is it it is probably the pills and how extreme it is not that I’m not really upset like genuinely upset but the swings of it you know that’s totally the pill. And I keep looking at females I don’t like them and I’m scared I’m starting to feel funny I don’t like I keep saying I feel funny about when I don’t even like females up top or in the bottom and I can’t stop making a face I don’t think I’m scared him I don’t want to look at it in a different light has anyone experience? I don’t like the Browns or the points I don’t want women I want men and I act like pecs no matter their size are we are looking when they’re not I’m acting like but guys let alone my guy’s. What’s happening to me 🥺 I have like his specifically or just in general as well and I make faces but I like his parts not the opposite of a guys parts

I saw this review on Amazon for a OCD workbook. I thought it was a great take on OCD. This was written by David M. on 8/27/20. “I would like to add my opinion about OCD. OCD is just another Addiction. We, humans, are wired to do two things – Seek Pleasure and Avoid Pain. Both are basically one thing. To be in the Pleasurable state of existence. In short, OCD is a self-drugging behavior to avoid pain, so the brain can release feel-good chemicals. All our systems are wired for pleasure-seeking and escaping the pain. When we find the pleasure or escape the pain- there is a reward- we feel good, euphoria, a relief. Our brains release the ‘Feel-good chemicals- from our own brain’s pharmacy’, the neurotransmitters Dopamine, Norepinephrine, Serotonin, GABA, etc… these are the ones we develop a ‘tough love’ relationship with. Substances, like drugs and alcohol, stimulate the release of our own ‘pharmacy’, BUT, not only substances do that- Reinforced Behavior does that too, more correctly, thoughts, emotions, and actions that reinforce the ‘feel good’ such as gambling and love addictions, these behaviors release neurotransmitters of reward due to pleasure, are addictive and cause withdrawal when ceased. As research shown, OCD is related to childhood traumas and the resulting lack of self-love. When self-love is not around, Fear sips in. That’s just a survival mechanism. The mind say: No self-love? No pleasure? No problem, I will give you something to avoid- that will make me feel good. That thing is Fear/Anxiety- the source of pain to be avoided- so you can feel good about yourself when you managed to avoid it. OCD is just an upgraded version of anxiety, when the subconscious actually ‘Tames’ you to get that good feeling when Anxiety by itself didn’t result in self-love and relaxation. This process is addicting, making sure you will ‘feel good’ many times throughout the day, keeping the ‘high’. Ever wondered why compulsions are repetitive because the brain sees it as self-dosing, each action serves a dose, more handwashing, more doses of feel good to make the pain go away, until after 10 times- Doubt which is the measuring tool of how many doses are needed gives a temporary green light, until the next craving. That is why, Obsessions are basically just Cravings- a Call for Action- “Give me my dose of good feeling! Go and avoid this painful fear!” Have you ever wondered why other people don’t get inside that loop a person with OCD find themselves of ‘Thoughts/Feelings/Images/Urges’ Because in the same way, a non-addicted person cannot figure why an addict Craves drugs, and cannot ‘just stop with it’. OCD Obsessions are just Craving, that’s why they come unsolicited, that’s why certain situations flare them up, the subconscious mind finds an opportunity to get a dose and evokes an obsession to get the compulsion- the dose of feel good. Our brains are the ultimate ‘Drug Designers’, and can come with the worst fears to make you do one thing- Dose yourself with Avoidance. That is why, as suggested for drug addiction, on how to deal with cravings, perhaps one of the best things to do is just sit with it, surf the pain, watch the film the subconscious brain plays. What you see/think/feel means nothing, and nothing about you, it’s a movie played for you. A trick. Feel the urges until they pass, you are stronger than you imagine, and pain should be confronted to be defeated. Obsessions will come as cravings come, they will flare when there is a high chance to get the ‘fix’. But, with time they decrease until they disappear, because you train your subconscious mind there is NO ‘fix’ from those thoughts, stories, urges, and movies.”

I’m trying to be in a good mood but it’s so hard when in the back of my mind, I’m reminded constantly of the mistakes I’ve made. I just want to be free. I hate myself so much

any moms on here?? I'm a first time mom and had a baby two months ago. my ocd is back with a vengeance. I'm struggling and just looking for people I can talk to who understand what I'm going through. I don't want to worry anybody so I've been keeping things to myself but it's hard.

Anyone else with harm ocd also have the fear that they are a psychopath/sociopath along with it? This causes me to constantly go over my past behaviors to look for signs and worry about the future as well. I’m just really struggling with this lately and finding it hard to move past this lapse as I was doing really well. Hopefully starting back on Prozac today but I know it can take 4-6 weeks to start working

I know I don't love him and I have never loved him. Everything telling me that. I'm terrified. I want to fade away. Do you have any motivation for pushing? Should I be pushing?

TW: POCD, masturbation, talk about kinks Hello! I’ve decided to re-download this app today after nearly two years. I wanted to come here and dump some of mu thoughts because I know how helpful it is to share them with a community of people who feel the same. I had my first problematic intrusive thought 3 years ago (I say problematic because it was paralyzing and shook my whole world, i probably already had ocd before that but I didn’t know that was what it was called). A lot of things have changed for me since those days, thankfully I got used to the thoughts enough to not be affected by them as I once was. However, the part that we’re all familiar with comes into part after that: “What if it wasn’t ocd?” “What if I’m faking all of it?” “What if I somehow managed to fool everyone into thinking I’m a good person when in reality i’m capable of all these things my brain comes up with?”. I started going to therapy a year in a half ago, I think it was mostly due to the pandemic and things that weren’t exactly related to my ocd. I also think that if I tried going to therapy specifically because of my ocd I would’ve never gone in the first place, because of how scary it is to face it. This is one of the reasons I wanted to talk about this here today. I really don’t know how to bring up ocd with my therapist. I absolutely love my therapist, I believe I got really lucky when I found her and I think we built a good therapeutic bond that helps me trust her, but it’s still so hard to bring my intrusive thoughts up. I mentioned it once in passing and told her that I wasn’t ready to talk about it yet, but I feel like I won’t ever heal if I don’t. It feels like for years i’ve been swiping dirt under the rug and now it’s finally getting to me. This is the part that includes the TW. My intrusive thoughts originally related to POCD, I’ve gotten much better at them and I can be around kids and play with them like any other person would, but some times I wonder why the anxiety stopped, why did my brain chose THAT to obsess over. I can’t help to psychoanalyse myself and look for a root cause for those thoughts to understand. The scariest part is that sometimes if I’m horny I usually go to erotic literature for release, and the “kinks” (if you can call it that) that get me off are the ones where there’s a power imbalance or one of the parties is submissive to the other (always consenting adults, the mere thought of something else makes me want to throw up). I can’t help but think that there’s something wrong with me when I think of this, I really feel like a sick person and I end up crying immediately after because I enjoyed it and I shouldn’t have. Now, I don’t think the type of erotica or porn that one chooses to consume defines us as human beings, but it definitely is something that I think about because it must have something to with our subconsciousness. This is where my OCD comes up in these thoughts, because sometimes when I realize that I don’t feel the anxiety anymore and I don’t stop to think about the thoughts, I immediately think it’s because I got used to them and I no longer think there’s something wrong with those actions and I wouldn’t care if I became that person (i say actions as opposed to thoughts, because I genuinely believe there’s nothing wrong with the thoughts themselves). This is the hard part about healing from the anxiety of the thoughts, you’re always checking to see if you still think they’re wrong or if you’re a horrible person now. I want to bring all of this up with my therapist but I’m so scared to face the possible realities. I’m scared that she won’t know what pure O is, I’m scared that she won’t understand what I’m talking about and would want to stop seeing me, I’m scared that If I bring up my thoughts it’ll change her view of me and all the thing I’ve told her. I’m so scared about bringing up the masturbation part because it truly freaks me out to think about things that I find arousing and what they might say about me. I’ m so so scared of her saying that I don’t have OCD and that my thoughts are very much real. I know most of these fears are irrational, but I can’t help but being scared to open up about them because a lot of things would change and I’ll be facing this monster I’ve been trying to hide from for years. I know I live with my pure o everyday when all I do is think and overthink every thought, word and decision that I have, say or make. But I’m so scared of the possibility of having made all of it up. Part of my brain right now is thinking “you managed to fool all these people in this forum, all of them feel for you now, all of them will think you’re a good person having bad thoughts but you know you’re not” . If you made it to the bottom of this post: thank you, this was very therapeutic for me whether or not someone reads it but I truly appreciate the time you took to read this. Thank you for the space, I would appreciate if anyone has any tips on how to bring up intrusive thoughts in therapy. Have a nice day!!! ❤️

Does anyone especially with harm ocd feel like they are their thoughts and want to do these things? Like no matter how hard I try and even during my therapy session I get the constant, “what if this isn’t OCD?”, “you like these thoughts”, “your a bad person”, “your going to act on these thoughts.” It gotten to the point where it feels like I’m actually this person and that I have changed into an evil person and it’s so scary cause it’s gotten to the point where it feels like I’m never going to get my life back and that’s saddening. I’ve never had a violent history never hurt anyone or anything but I don’t know why it feels like I am.

Please be kind because it's really hard to type this. First I'd like to say that I am not a violent person. I have no history of abuse, animal abuse, or any criminal history. The idea of people or animals suffering deeply upsets me, I've always been that way. I have had a history of ocd with themes of religion, harm and pedophilia for years. I would have my times when it got really hard but it always passed. I've taken medication for years too. At first it was Prozac, then I switched to zoloft and just started wellbutrin with the highest dose of zoloft. My newest fear/obsession is by far the worst though! I am a stay at home mother to a 7 month old and am currently living alone because my boyfriend is working out of state. I love my duaghter with all my heart and up until about 3 weeks ago I was really happy and loved spending our time together and doing our daily routines. Then all of a sudden I got this fear that I might snap and strangle my duaghter. Not hit her in the head, Not break her bones, strangle her! And it keeps playing over and over in my head. Never have I had such anxiety before. It gets so bad that it feels like I'm actually going to do it like "urges" I read about with other people and that's the worst part. I can't stand to be alone with her now. I've had people staying with me everyday and night, which I know is an avoidance behavior and it only makes it worse but at the time it's the only thing that brings slight relief. I even got to where I felt like I had to test myself, like put my hand on her (not hurting her at all) and see how I felt and I had to get away from her, broke out in a sweat and panic. This became a compulsion which I did stop. I started a new medication and felt a little better one day last week and I made myself be alone in the same room with her, not home alone with her just in a room with me and her. Sometimes I felt fine like "this is stupid, why am I freaking out?" The next minute, anxiety attack! I'm so up and down and the only time I feel slightly normal is after I put her to bed at night. I've never seen a therapist, I'm so afraid to, but its not getting any better and I can't go on living this way. I want my life back. I wanna be the best mom I can. I don't wanna be watching the clock every evening counting the minutes until I can get away from my baby. That's so fucked up. I hate this disorder and it's roobing me of my family, happiness and sanity! Has anyone else had this? How would ERP for this problem work? Am I lost cause? I feel like I am.

Hi all- I’m new to NODC but I have suffered from OCD as long as I can remember (I’m a straight guy in my 30’s from the Uk) I wanted to write a post to share my story briefly I’ve suffered from every subtype out there and suffered undiagnosed for most of my life The ocd was severely impairing my life and I was avoiding many of life’s big changes such as getting married, having kids, moving house, going on holidays etc etc I saw a couple of different therapists over the years and they helped to a certain degree but I never got treated for ocd directly so some of their tools and techniques actually increased my ocd symptoms. 18 months ago I found a specialist therapist in ocd. Today, I find myself living a completely different life and the happiest I have been. I finally have the tools I need to ensure that I respond to my thoughts appropriately now. I also no longer feel at the mercy of the dark anxious cloud coming over me as I realise now that my previous unhelpful responses (mental, emotional and behavioural compulsions) are what cause me to go down the scary dark rabbit hole. Another very useful tool was to sit with any anxiety I may experience from an intrusive thought- If no response is engaged with, the anxiety dissipates and goes away every time- if the anxiety persists, it means you are responding in some way- (Some responses may be very very discreet and you may really need to pay attention to yourself and be mindful of what ways you are responding) I still actively engage in exposure tasks and I have ticked off some of the triggers right at the top of my hierarchies - this seemed impossible to me at the beginning! When I feel particularly stressed or upset, I know that will be a time when ocd pops up and has a little attempt at getting me to ply its game again so what I do now Is I actually go out of my way to trigger myself with exposure tasks to really show ocd who’s boss. (It’s taken a bit to get to this point but bloody hell it feels empowering my to do it!!) I hope this post gives anyone still in the midst of ocd’s torment a bit of encouragement to carry on through the dark times because if I can come from where I was to where I am, then I’m sure you can. Disclaimer- I am just a normal guy sharing my experiences of ocd - I’m not a therapist or healthcare professional.

Any Relarionship OCD stories/experiences anyone wants to share?

I can’t stand this anymore. I feel like I’m at my breaking point. I feel so sick from all these thoughts & I constantly feel that I’ve done something terrible wrong in the past and I’m going to get in trouble. I don’t know what to do. I can’t stand the thought of not knowing. This is killing me😭

What do you all do when you have a handful of tricky weeks? I’ve been feeling pretty good, but the last few weeks I have noticed my SOOCD and Pure OCD sneaking in and have ruminated a whole lot more. Just some background: -happily married to my husband with kids. -All types of OCD in my past, but SOOCD has been the theme now for awhile. -definitely having trouble considering the fluidity of the idea of sexuality in general. Also triggered by later in life coming out stories. -my SOOCD has been manageable but lately it’s just been in the background—like a mosquito—just there enough to notice and I’m definitely attaching meaning to the thoughts. Which turns into a cycle of rumination. Argh! - Returning to my ERP exercises. Is this what most people do? Feeling a bit stuck. Not looking for any reassurance just support—sometimes knowing I’m not the only one is a bit of the push I need. It’s just nice to know we all have each other’s backs! 😊❤️