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My ocd seems worse (6 weeks pregnant) I’ve developed a lot of health fears and fears of losing the pregnancy etc. Along with my other ocd themes seeming worse atm. Does anyone have advice or help?

Is anyone else here a mom with harm OCD? It makes me question everything. If I love them enough, if I really want them, it's horrible I don't wanna have these questions or doubts. I wanna be a happy mom that is sure of herself and sure of wanting her kids and the love I have for them. OCD has taken a lot from me. I even was hospitalised for it because I couldn't take it anymore. Please tell me it gets better. Is anyone in the same position?

Feeling a little despondent because I had been doing better for a few weeks, making some progress and experiencing less anxiety, but I had a bad flare this past weekend after a stressful week and now I feel like I'm back where I was a month ago and that I'll never get any better than this. I think the worst part is that it feels so isolating. I can't really talk to my friends about it because they don't have OCD and don't understand, and I feel like I'm just burdening them with crazy nonsense and alienating them because they can't relate to anything I talk about anymore. I can't talk to my family because they're tired of having to live with me and fed up with me not making any substantial progress, and me talking about my OCD just makes them angry because it means I haven't been working hard enough to get better and I should be over it by now. It's worse now that I gave them the false hope that I was doing better, but every time I relapse I let them down and they're running out of patience to deal with me. I am an emotional and financial burden to my family and I contribute nothing in return. I can barely leave the house, I'm almost 38 years old and I've never had a real job or any interests outside of my obsessions. My family is pretty much the only thing I have going for me and if I don't get better NOW, my behavior will push them away too. I see people younger than me getting help for OCD and I feel like it's just too late, this disorder is all I'll ever be and I'll never be able to recover and have an identity outside of it. I am seeing a therapist but no matter how much they tell me I'm working hard or making progress, I just can't see it and I'm sure they'll give up on me soon.

I’ve been doing fairly well the past 3 weeks, I finally came out of a bad episode. The past couple of days I can feel it coming back on again and I just don’t know how to deal with it. It always seems like it has to get so debilitating before it can feel easier again but I just can’t keep getting to that real low point every single time. Any advice?

I can’t even get out of bed this thought is killing me! If I have a different opinion on a controversial topic to my partner does that mean we can’t be together? Does that mean I have to leave them because I can’t support that opinion on the topic? I saw a TikTok that said I couldn’t be with someone who has a different opinion like thsg to me, one that is very controversial and it’s killing me. I have fallen so so so hard for this guy that I’m seeing, to the point I can’t see anyone else being for me, but after finding out this way he thinks it’s sorta made me think shit I can’t be with him because society have out this label on people who have different options to others and now I’m stressed out! I don’t even know if he truly has this opinion, we’ve had the conversation 3 times and he’s always had a different view, like the 2nd time he mentioned it, it was like he was trying to see how much he could push me away by making it up, the first time he mentioned it he made it clear he wasn’t the option and didn’t think that way so it’s got me confused! I’m scared if I talk to him about it then imma find something out about him I don’t like. Which then means I have to leave him and leave my haply space. Leave the guy who makes me feel all these amazing feelings. I don’t want to do that but if I don’t then I’m scared society is going to hate me and attack me. I’m hurting so bad right now, I think I’m gonna have to tell him my thoughts but I don’t know what to do

okay my story little long sorry for writing all this but i wanna take it out from my chest so im in last year in highschool in my country we have final exams wich is very strict 2 teacher no talking no phone pre selected seat for students so in past year i was final year too i got very scared to take finals exams so i skipped them my family blamed me for that its same situation that im stuck in this time final exams are 2 weeks away im scared I can't skip them again im very scared i cant sleep at night I can't tell anyone what im feeling right now because i told my famiky last year no one believes me so when im in class with strict teacher i feel like im trapped no exit to run I can't exit like bathroom to catch a breath i feel like im going to piss on my self and embarrass my self wich is scarring shit outta of me in mid term exams i didn't had this feeling because i can just hand over the exams even if its empty paper but in finals i can't exit before half time wich is 1h30min its tmtoo much time i feel like dying i cant breathe when in mid term exams when teacher ask me to seat in front table i feel this feeling and what is weird when i run and exit exam i feel okay I can't study I won't pass exam i can't skip them either my family will kill me if i do every night i keep getting negative thaugh and prediction future I can't focus on anything else i tried deep breath self therapy i didn't get better i tried 2 psychology doctor i didn't get better either im thinking of ending my life every night i need help i don't even know how express my feeling

So this morning, I was having quite a bit of anxiety and I was having the usual intrusive thoughts and all that comes with them. And at work I was listening to a podcast about my particular “theme” of OCD which initially was a total compulsion on my part, because I listened to it in an effort to bring down my anxiety. But at the end of the episode, the host, who is a licensed therapist and OCD specialist, went through a imaginative exposure type thingy, and I was at work so I didn’t really get to sit down and truly follow along, but nonetheless it made me anxious and got the anxiety going again. But something that this guy kept saying was “notice how you’re feeling right now. It doesn’t matter if it’s good or bad, don’t label it. Just allow yourself to have that thought and to feel however you feel about it.” And honestly, I was at a point where I was willing to do anything to get these thoughts to go away. 😂 So I sat with those thoughts and it was super uncomfortable but I didn’t fight them, I just said “okay”, and then didn’t do a compulsion after that. I think I did ERP correctly for the first time! It didn’t feel good in the moment, but now, some hours later, I feel really good! Now for the original reason for my post. After work, I decided I was gonna go mountain biking. It’s something I’ve loved doing for over 10 years and it’s probably my favorite hobby. And I just went, and chose not to be afraid of my intrusive thoughts and just let what ever thoughts were to come to just be there. And I found myself having the thoughts, but focusing way more on how much fun I was having hitting these jumps on my mountain bike. I feel more like myself tonight than I’ve felt in months. I feel genuinely me! Not the obsessive compulsive me. And it’s a dang good feeling. It took me so long to build up the courage to allow the thoughts to be there and to lean into them. But leaning into them and allowing them to be there without attaching any meaning to them will help you so much. Try it!

I’ve been staying home from school to much because of my fear and I’ve been screaming at my family and crying myself to sleep and sobbing on the floor trying to find answers. Does anyone else fear death?

i feel like what if me and my partner don’t make it and what if he’s falling out of love with me? i keep having intrusive thoughts of him wanting someone else instead of me and choosing to marry and spend a lifetime with someone else. idk if this is anxiety or a gut feeling :/. but nonetheless its scary. he tells me he loves me and he only wants to be with me and he never wants to leave me. but idk..

I feel like I have to do things a certain amount of times.Such as 2or 5 times. Or i have to do 3 and 2 then double it and do 2 and 3 sets of something.(it’s very confusing).It messes with me so much that if I step on a crack in the middle of the street I have to go back all the way to go touch the line again.

I feel like the way my HOCD was first triggered is abnormal. I feel like everyone had a thought like “what if I’m gay” or something of that sort. My first trigger was a picture of a girl I felt attracted to — but it was WEIRD because I knew this girl and I never really thought she was like gorgeous or anything. I was super hormonal when my ocd started for the first time so I don’t know if that has to do with anything. I fear that the “attraction” I felt for her was a sexual awakening.

Hey guys so obviously alcohol isn’t great to take with ssris but I’ve heard mixed conclusions about smoking weed with ssris. When I’m high I feel great and it gives me some room to breath from my ocd/anxiety/depression but I recently learned that weed can inhibit the therapeutic effects of the medication. I’m worried that even tho it feels good in the moment that it’s not letting my meds work correctly Right now I’m on Zoloft 100 and I have been on and off for the last 7 years and I’ve been smoking almost every night for the last couple years. Does anyone have an experience or hindsight on whether or not weed prevents the meds from working well?

I feel so horrific right now… my brain keeps telling me that my urges are the same that these people have because I read that they feel distress too! I am trying really hard to not let myself accpet I am this person but it feels like my urges are the same. I don’t understand how I can have such urges if I am not this person..

Basically the guy I'm seeing has this opinion and we talked about it and idk what to believe because she's said once that he didn't think this way then again that he did but ever since our conversation I've tried to forget about it and he's definitely not shown signs that the opinion he said he has is true. So now I'm really confused and I don't want to bring it up again out of fear of it being true, because I disagree with it. The thing is in our society now, if I disagree with someone's opinion then I feel like I can't associate myself with them. If someone disagrees with my opinion, I feel like I'm either in the wrong or that I have to stand and fight otherwise I'm gonna burn in hell and people will hate me for it. I'm really struggling because he's a lovely guy and I've fallen so so so deep for him that I don't want to let something like this change that. His opinion is not mine but I feel if I stay then people will think it is, I'm scared people will tell me to leave him. I’m scared his opinion will stop me fr being able to see him. Idk I'm confused. As humans we have one thing, to decide what and who we believe or believe in, but for some reason if the large amount of people who stand today don’t agree with me or mine, then I feel like the worst person on the planet. So if his opinion isn’t right, I get scare I’ll have to leave

Yeah what the title says,I’m curious because I want to take some eventually but I’ve heard so many different options from many people and I’m not sure what I should go for to try first. I know everyone’s different and different Symptoms occur differently for everyone but still I’m curious! Also do you have to get a diagnosis before taking meds? Because I want to get a diagnosis eventually as well.

My son has terrible OCD that is affected him for about 6 years. His place of employment gives him five free visits a year but this is the first time he has gone anywhere and he has great insurance through his employer which is Blue Cross Blue Shield for Amazon workers. When he called to be assigned to someone for five free visits everybody was just a general psychologist and he was hoping to find somebody who specializes in ocd. Is there anybody in the Columbus Ohio area that takes this insurance or is there a way to find out if one of these is on Amazon's plan so he can start off with the five free visits? He really needs a specialist

Don’t read if under 18 & TW for sensitive topics I keep getting intrusive thoughts that are tied to a real event but partly false memory since I don’t remember it fully. So up until I was 9 my older cousin (age 18 or 19) who was like a sister to me would shower me since my parents asked her to and I didn’t learn how to on my own (my parents were a bit neglectful and my cousin would look after me). She always got annoyed but anyway she would wash me like by hand because we couldn’t afford like loofahs or washcloths or anything. It was normal like this in our family. Anyway I keep getting false memory/intrusive thoughts that it counts as SA?? I know for a fact she had absolutely zero bad intentions. But I really just don’t remember if she washed my private areas too by hand and even if say she did it would only be to clean, I know that there was no evil intentions. My parents did sometimes tell her not to shower me daily to save water and I hated showering daily as a kid, but a couple of times she would anyway because she thought it was gross not to. So even though she hated it a few times she did this without my or my parents permission. But during these times she did try to teach me how to show alone so that she wouldn’t have to. At a certain point she also just outright refused to and my parents yelled at her but she said I was old enough on my own. But anyway I keep getting intrusive thoughts of what if that counts as SA. Should I treat this as normal intrusive thoughts or does it sound concerning?

I dont if i can keep going anymore. Im not allowed to do anything anymore , i cant play games, watch movies, tv shows, youtube , read , write , listen to music , go outside , touch certain objects, ask billions of questions and grt stuck in devistating loops , wash constantly , build my warhammer or any other hobbie i have and now with my kneecap completely sprained i just really had enough of life right now i cant seem to get back ontoy erp anymore iv been though this too much and im starting to even bash my head in when i mess up asking a question bc i keep stammering. Lord knows i need someone to help me but i dont have money for that either and i aint going to a hospital only to come out with more problems then i went in for.

Y’all I noticed he doesn’t buy me random flowers or anything ..

I think I commited the worst sin. I had no bad intentions but then I realized I might have thought something bad. I'm so scared and I don't know if I'm forgiven. I'm trying not to replay what happened in my head but it's so hard and I'm so scared.