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I posted this earlier but got no response, and feel at my breaking point Welp I guess what happened with the extinguisher in the closet two weeks ago wasn't enough of an example to me cause I did something similiar and even worse and am still doing it as we speak. I was leaving for class this morningand picked up some socks in the closet. And I noticed some garbage bags halfhazardly stacked up in the closet and I placed some cardboard under the doors as doorstops to prevent my cats from opening them and the bags to fall on them, my parents probably put them in there. I left in a hurry cause I was about to miss my bus and a minute or two before getting on the bus I realised I didn't know what was in the bags and it could have been more than just clothes and whatever, so I panicked and thought to myself I should not get on and go back home to remove them from the closet but I still got on and then when I reached university, I thought I would get the first bus home but I called my parents saying that they shouldn't open the closet since there were garbage bags in it that might fall or to at least not let the cats out the kitchen where they sleep and then I still went to class even though it's not an important class, and I'm still in the class right now and debating if I should leave. I know my parents won't care and will still open to my cats and open the closet, it's pretty much the exact same situation as with the extinguisher except now I willingly still went to class and staying in class what the hell I am doing, I am not concernedabout my cats' safety???????

I have a question. Would hocd trigger if someone said somin bad abt gays. I’m not gay at all but I get intrusive thoughts abt it and it’s ruining my day. But if someone says somin bad abt gay ppl why does that trigger me. It’s like my thoughts say to me “oh look ur gay they don’t like u, they will hate u.” Idk does anyone else go through this ?

How do I stop thinking about him and obsessing over what we want had. I keep reliving things over and over and over I find myself literally begging him. Losing all my self-respect. The pain is so extremely great. It hurts so bad.

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I'm just curious what some of y'all might do to pass the time? I typically get off work by about 4pm everyday, go home, eat something and then just wait to go bed. I basically just do instagram, youtube, facebook or video games during that time but obviously that's not very productive.

Hi all - I’ve posted a bit of late as I’ve been struggling. I was hoping if someone could confirm my insight into my condition. Very brief - was 25, in a newish relationship, infatuated. Had some performance issues, then literally overnight a thought popped in “you don’t feel anything for her”. After months of obsessiveness and loss of libido, another thought “you are gay” and it’s been almost a decade of struggle. My main obsession seems to be that my mind feels convinced it’s true, despite not seemingly having ever had any natural attraction or desire of men. So here comes what I think is insight. OCD is a broken fear mechanism that’s reinforced by behaviour. I fear that I am or might be gay = lots of feared consequences (hurting my wife as a big example). My mind will auto focus on ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING that might prove I am gay. And that’s it’s job - it thinks it’s a dangerous outcome and therefore needs to search for certainty that it’s either true or not true. I think when I’m saying “it feels real and true” what I’m actually experiencing is OCD doing it’s job. It’s making sure I take it (the threat) as serious and will find anything it can to make sure I am listening so I can protect myself. The libido side of things - this seem to be pretty consistent with any form of anxiety. My anxiety gets so bad I dry reach. I’m not sure anyone can think about positive sex when they’re that wound up? Lastly the treatment side - ERP works because the OCD part of the brain doesn’t learn through thought. It learns through action/behaviour. The more I behave in a way that shines a spotlight on this ‘fear’ the more it (ocd) it taught the fear still could be real and needs to be dealt with. One of the hardest parts for me that my head focusses on sometimes is - what’s the difference between how I’m feeling with OCD vs someone that comes out later in life? Can others check my insight above? Does it sound correct? Thanks

I can't share some of my intrusive thoughts. I'm too ashamed. I think if I did to some people then the relationship would be over. I've shared some with my husband and he was supportive, but he's at the end of his rope now. I'm not functioning either and that's making him angry. I'm at the end of my rope as well. Any advice??

I’m living in Central America, and they recently had an election. Possibly some are trying to obstruct the president-elect from taking power, and they’ve shut down our town’s electricity, closed the shops down, and we can’t hardly buy anything right now. I have a community here that I’m apart of, so we should be fine when it comes to support and food. Idk how long it’s going to last, and things are probably going to be just fine for me and my family and others, but we’ll see. Take care everyone.

I feel like shit... For context, my cats mostly live in the kitchen (not my decision) and I told my parents weeks ago not to put forks and knives in those silverware cups on the sink as I was afraid my cats would get hurt when jumping on the sink and to store them in the oven instead (we don’t use it for cooking). My room and the kitchen and next to each other and so are out windows so I’ve developped the fear of my electronics emitting EM waves or ultrasounds when using or charging them, or just regular sound while watching youtube videos, that my cats might get curious about and thus jumping on the sink which is right next to the kitchen window and that they might hurt themselves if a knife or fork was left there. I also developped a fear of not leaving food in room in fear they would smell it and once again jump on the sink. This afternoon, I thought to myself I would remind my parents they should not put silverware in the cups on the sink once they woke from their nap, as they have a tendency to forget or downplay my fears over time. If you’re wondering, I didn’t go and check myself if they had respected my wish so far since I can’t close doors if I know my cats are on the other side of said door since I’m afraid to stuck their paw in the closing door or at least some of their hair and hurt them without being able to know (I know they might yell in pain but I can’t convince my brain they won’t hide away their pain as some cats do, and just having hait isn’t immediately painful until they eventually try to get away from the door and pull on it). So I took the bet that they respected out agreement until I could go check for myself once they woke up and plugged some of my electronics that I needed for tomorrow’s class (I had recently broken my good charging cable for my tablet and had to use the shitty one that sometimes doesn’t even fully charge my tablet overnight so I decided to charge it in the middle of the afternoon, also my phone that I only charge once every week and used my pc in the meantime which makes even more EM waves), I reallly thought they would be understanding but when I went to check the kitchen, one HUGE knife with the saw-like cutting edge was sticking out of one of the cups and my heart dropped... I might have hurt my cat by using and charging all my electronics all afternoon and eating snacks they might have smelled and feel terrible because I could just have waited a few hours before doing all that and my electronics would have probably been charged anyways in the morning and I wasn’t that hungry, I feel terrible. Also this morning while I still was half asleep, I thought about moving my airpod charging case further away from the window while it was charging my earbuds but didn’t and thought my cats wouldn’t pick up in the charging sound but after a few minutes trying to fall back asleep I heard a cat yelling out of my window and felt bad cause it might have been one of my cats but could also have been a stray cat a’d will have no idea ever. I keep making shitty decisions and am a garbage human being and keep hurting my pets...

Any advice on how to not get too discouraged after performing a compulsion. Last week was so hard because I really dedicated myself to not giving into compulsions, as the week went on I started feeling a little better. This week has been difficult for other reasons that have taken a toll on my mental health and I’ve given into a few compulsions. I’m trying not to feel too discouraged but I just feel like all the progress I made is out the window 😞

3 years ago when my boyfriend and i were dating my best guy mate kissed my forehead when saying bye on my birthday I thought i was so weird but i didn’t overthink it as one of my other guy friends did this to us too (rarely) He did it again a few months later to me and my best friend when saying bye and it was again weird but we didn’t look into it too much and continued with our night Do i tell this to my boyfriend now? I feel so guilty i should’ve told my friend to back off He hasn’t done it since that time^ and im not close to him anymore Im on holiday with my boyfriend tomorrow and i feel so guilty

Yesterday I convinced myself I am OK with being alone, no real friends, husband working away at weekdays. I was just fine. As if I had accepted my destiny. Today I feel lonely and incompetent and worthless. I blame myself for developing ocd, for not overcoming it in way over 30 years, for feeling tired all the time, for not being able to concentrate on one task for longer than 20-30min, for not accomplishing what I had planned on daily bases, for postponing everything, for people not wanting to be a real friend to me, for people using and dropping me like trash, for caring too much, for feeling ashamed, for being too sensitive, for everything possible. I blame myself that I of all people in a large family and relatives, had to be the one messed up and weird and nutty. The one with ocd. Why was I the one who got ocd and no one else? Why me? The rest were inconsiderate, uncaring, selfish, arrogant idiots, and I was sensitive, caring, helping, respectful and nice to people and animals and I was rewarded with ocd. People called me strange, weirdo, liar because I was trying to hide ocd, and in the end I was labeled bad in the family. Why me? I was the only genuinely humane one and the rest called me bad, trash,...? Just because I had ocd. If I had diabetes or epilepsy, would I also be called the bad names. Well they had no idea that ocd was ocd. I don't see those people anymore. I have been cometely familyless and relativeless for almost 30 years. And I still at times feel like they taught me to feel. Worthless. I have a husband. Even with him I felt like a lying hypocrite at times. I couldn't tell him about my obsessions because he wouldn't have understood. And he looked at me as if I was a lying scum. I didn't even trust myself. I felt like I was told I was and not the way I knew I was. I know they were wrong. But still... there come the days when I feel exactly the way they made me feel when I was just getting to know ocd without even knowing it's name. As a young girl, not even a teenager yet. How to feel my own worth? I think I have no control over my life. I just do and feel what thoughts and feelings order me to do and feel. I was supposed to write a long essay today. I have been postponing it for sooo long and I just can't focus. I am furious at myself. When I feel like that, I eat. Which I shouldn't do. When is this going to be over? I need to somehow make me feel better. I am just so gloomy at the moment. I just needed to vent and to feel I am coresponding with another human being. Just to feel less lonely. If you read this, thank you. I just needed human presence. My heart goes out to everyone who has ocd and who feels lonely.

NSFW Been doing well for months but suddenly hitting a snag. I've confessed so much to my gf about how close I was to a female friend. I cut this friend out a year ago. I think I had feelings but my gf seems to disagree. However as t one point I drunkenly masturbated to the thought of this woman and also vented to her about my gf at times (although I did to some other friends and family too at the time, it was early in our relationship and my gf was very distant). Do I confess these? Could this be considered cheating? I'm so exhausted.

POCD and HOCD Groinal reposes are normal, but what if my nipples get hard the same time I feel those groinal responses? Is that also all tied in together? Anyone else dealing with that? My mind has been thinking about this and I’m really curious?

Does anyone have any tips for reducing constant mental compulsions and rumination? I am constantly saying sentences/phrases in my head or ruminating so when I am trying to not engage I have to first make the decision to actively stop saying my compulsions in my head but it can feel very all or nothing as for me it’s not when an intrusive thoughts pops up anymore as I am constantly saying them so it feels like I’m either doing all of them or none of them which makes doing the process step by step very difficult. Any advice?

Hi, I have a 15 year old son who is an identical twin and both boys suffer from OCD. With one it’s under control, the other one is kind of in a crisis, every single thing that the boy does is built around his rituals. He is late to school, he hardly sleeps, and is up all night, he avoids touching things, washes his hands all the time, refuses to sit down, or sit on a certain chair, or walk through the kitchen a certain pathway, or even enter the living room. He does this ritual in the morning with his sneakers before he puts them on and has been late to school so far 4 times this year even though his alarm is set for 45 minutes earlier than it was last year. He told me a while ago he’s scared, and he wants to talk to somebody, and the psychiatrist recently put him back on sertraline. It’s killing me to see my kid like this & the family (6 of us, me & my husband & 4 kids) has no patience for him anymore.

Really need to talk to someone Confessional OCD is in full swing , my boyfriend doesn't need to know my past so why do I have the urge to tell him absolutely everything guys I've slept with etc , I need some support today

At the moment i am in a very happy relationship with my girlfriend, she is the love of my life and i wouldn’t swap her for anyone, but does anyone else get anxiety over past relationships to come back and haunt u, I’ve never really done any bad in the past at all but i feel like my past relationships are gonna come back and haunt me one day and i get a lot of anxiety from it as all i want to do is focus on my current partner but they keep coming up and because i try not to think of them it makes it worse