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Anyone who is a female and not straight could you comment down below. I have questions. I’m straight though so don’t be alarmed by this. Just struggled with soocd

As a person I have witnessed and been through ALOT when it comes to relationships and dating. I recently just entered a new relationship with somebody and it’s wonderful . But that’s the problem. It’s wonderful. I have been through so many ups and downs with people and family and boys that everything to me feels like a dramatic movie. And I meet this one person in my life who I feel like I can connect with, and I’m terrified. I don’t know how to get the feeling to go away. The fear of is he like everybody else. An example would be three nights ago. I went out with my friends and I was so scared that he was going to be upset with me that I shared my location with him and texted him every five minutes I was out. But he wasn’t upset. I’m scared I’m putting too much on him because I feel like these are my trauma responses. I’m not really for sure why am on this app I just don’t want to control and handle my emotions alone. I need an outside unbiased opinion. In my being too much am I being too scared how do I get these feelings out of my head? how do I get these thoughts out of my head? I need advice and I need assistance.

I understand experiencing the intrusive thought and not performing the compulsion. That makes sense to me. For example, I walk by the stove and have the thought "Have I left the stove on?", and my compulsion is to check, I get letting that thought be there and not checking, moving on with my life. What I don't understand is turning the intrusive thoughts into REALITY. So for an exposure, now I need to leave the stove on overnight. Or, if i have the thought "What if I've left my door unlocked?" Now I need to leave my door unlocked. Or, "Have I left my windows down in the rain?" Now, I need to leave my windows down in the rain. Or, "Have I left soap lathered on me?" Now I need to leave soap places, smear soap on my TV, etc. I don't understand why we turn our intrusive thoughts into reality. I have a lot of intrusive thoughts, and honestly, if I started turning them into reality for an exposure, I'd be living my life backwards, which isn't the goal for me.

Hi I'm a kid using this app and I feel very anxious:,3 Can ocd make you feel like you are poly like you were born to be one (｡ŏ﹏ŏ) I don't want to have any interest in poly and I know I don't wanna be in one. I'm happy being monogamous with my boyfriend but now it keeps denying me. I literally have problems being friends with boys why would I want a boy in my relationship :,3 I talked to my boyfriend about it and was happy that we aren't gonna be poly and it would just be the two of us. But why do I keep thinking I want to be one I don't like it I have been stressing about it. I'm uncomfortable with boys (that's not my boyfriend) being with me. I don't and never wanna flirt or be with other boys. I'm also uncomfortable my boyfriend flirting with other girls too. I don't wanna be poly and I don't know how to take these feelings away. It's hurting me and I'm scared that me and my boyfriend are going to share each other :( I'm trying so hard to prove that I'm monogamous and I'm really am committed to my bf. But it would make me have thoughts other boys or just dating other people or have "evidence" from my childhood that I'm poly. I'm so tired, I just wanna be with my boyfriend I only have eyes for him like how he only have eyes for me. I just wanna be the two of us I'm happy just being with my bf. I can't even focus on anything till I proven I don't wanna be poly.

Hi everyone! When I was younger (15), I had a very bad drug experience, to the point I ended up experiencing psychosis. After the drug event happened, I spiraled for months trying to figure out what was wrong with me and why I was feeling the way i was. I was never diagnosed, but doing the research I realized I was experiencing depersonalization and derealization. I have been completely clean and sober from anything since then, I don’t even drink alcohol for the fear that I might feel “out of control.” Cut to the year 2019, I was 19 years old, I had a major panic attack out of the blue in Walmart. The feelings of this panic attack were so strange that I convinced myself in the moment that I must’ve been drugged or consumed something on accident. Turns out it was just a regular panic attack and nobody had drugged me or anything crazy. However, after having that panic attack in Walmart that night, I have developed the fear of somehow ingesting psychedelic drugs by accident. Crazy right? I think of every possible “what if” scenario, like my roommates somehow dragging on tabs of LSD on their shoes and it’ll get in my mouth somehow, to me thinking that any food I eat may have somehow been lazed with psychedelics. Has anyone ever experienced this or can someone point me in the right direction? I’ve been struggling for 4 almost 5 years and I really need help.

Hi everyone, I hope you’re all doing well. I’m hoping someone can share their experience with taking SRIs for their OCD and/or depression. Going on SRIs is something I’ve considered off and on before, and it’s hard for me to make a decision (thanks OCD). I know this is something I ultimately have to decide for myself, but am hoping to hear your experiences with brands, side effects, trial and error, overall change (good or bad) etc. ❤️

Im tired of feeling that ill be sick everytime , like if i feel some physical feelings like my stomach hurts or something in my body hurts i start to say maybe its the worst thing maybe im sick and i start to feel afraid , or if i go to gym and feel that some place if my body hurts i start saying that its because of gym and i stop it , i stop a lot of activities in my life because of that thinking im afraid that it will be more , and i dont know what to do , no one care about my feelings no one know what i feel , its kinda bad to feel this alone and to fight this alone , its not easy , i feel that im fighting myself im done 🤧

I have violent intrusive thoughts of killing my mom or killing people or harming my pets. I’ve been dealing with this for 10 years now, but it keeps getting worse. I keep taking medication but it’s not working.

Every highly anxious person has to cope with intrusive thoughts. Intrusive thoughts are frightening thoughts about what might happen to you or someone you care about, or what you might do to yourself or another person. They seem to come from outside of your control, and their content feels alien and threatening. For some people, intrusive thoughts are part and parcel of panic or intense anxiety. In these types of intrusive thoughts, it feels like the thoughts come about as a result of the anxiety, and they function to add more fear to the anxiety you are already experiencing. The intrusive thoughts keep the anxiety going, and maintain the fear-producing spiral. So, for example, you might think, “what if I have a heart attack?” in the midst of an anxiety attack. You are already in the altered state of consciousness that I call anxious thinking, and your thoughts feel likely to happen. However, there is another class of intrusive thoughts that I call intrusive obsessive thoughts. These thoughts seem to come from out of nowhere, arrive with a distressing whoosh, and cause a great deal of anxiety. The content of intrusive obsessive thoughts almost always focus on sexual or violent images. Here are typical examples of intrusive obsessive thoughts: “Killing someone. Torturing a pet animal. Stabbing a child. Throwing someone (or yourself) out of a window. Jumping onto a train track as the train comes into the station. Molesting a child. Raping someone. Taking off your clothes in public.” This is not a complete list, but it gives you a good feeling of the content of these thoughts. People who experience intrusive obsessive thoughts are afraid that they might commit the acts they picture in their mind. They might imagine hurting someone or committing an act of sexual violation. Intrusive obsessive thoughts can be very explicit, and most people are embarrassed and frightened of them. There are a number of myths about intrusive obsessive thoughts. The greatest myth is that having thoughts of a sexual or violent nature mean that you want to do the things that come into your mind.This is not true. You do not want to do the things that enter your mind when you have intrusive obsessive thoughts. In fact, the opposite is true. People with intrusive obsessive thoughts are gentle and non-violent. FULL ARTICLE: https://drmartinseif.com/intrusive-thoughts/

I don’t know much about my past. I just learned yesterday that my father was in the military. Tonight, i lost it and got mad at my mom. I was upset because ive been so ignorant about my upbringing. She literally laughed at my meltdown and said ‘thats not my responsibility , you never asked’. I have asked about my father… many many times before. She either tells me very little or doesn’t talk about it at all. I’m beginning to believe I’m not worth it. I’m a burden. A joke. Pointless, really.

I need more happy recovery story’s to feel hope on I can get better. I need to know the except steps they took to recovery.

I said something and the word I used came across so wrong, and now I can’t stop shouting at myself that im a disgusting horrible gross human being and that I really fucked up and that I should crawl under a rock and perish. When I DIDNT EVEN MESN IT THE WAY J BRAIN IS TELLING ME I SAID IT! Idk if that makes sense but I’m really stressing myself out and I wanna forget about it but I CANT

Does anyone feel scared of being outside or getting on with life while dealing with this? I’ve struggled with existential Ocd for the past few months and I am scared to be out and about because I’m scared of thinking into stuff or relapsing, or looking at something and it looks weird or unreal. Sometimes even watching people trigger me, I Haven’t been going to work because I’m scared to drive alone and also avoid being out at night at all costs because any of my worst panic attacks have been in the passenger seat of bfs car in the dark😢

I struggle really bad lately with wanting to confess every bad thing I’ve done to my partner I already gave him a list of people I’ve slept with but now my mind wants to tell him everyone I’ve done anything with kissed, sent nudes etc. I am a 21 year old F and all these things were done in high school I was very promiscuous and broken and sought male attention but since the last 3 years we’ve been together I never felt this need but since now I’ve told him the people I’ve slept with we have been separated due to me giving details and saying things I shouldn’t have about them because my ocd said I had to or I was keeping it from him. I still fell like I’m keeping this stuff from him even though It happened 3-5 years ago like what is he knows these people what if we see them in public one day what if he works with them etc we live in a smaller town and it just scares me so much. Anyone else felt with this???,

i was just looking in the fridge and there was some raw meat in a container but i didn’t know that it was meat so i opened the container to check what it was. and i don’t know if it was blood or if they were marinating it but a little bit of it got on my fingers and i wiped my hand on my clothes without thinking and then i just rinsed my hand in the sink, and thought it would be fine cause i only touched the container and i also wasn’t really sure if it was meat or not yet because i didn’t get a good look at it and i just kept doing what i was doing, but then i kept thinking about it and started realizing it wasn’t fine and went to wash my hands with soap and i didn’t know if i needed to change my clothes or not so i thought it was fine too and laid in my bed and stuff and now i realized that i should’ve changed my clothes and i did but now the bacteria could be on my bed and other places and i don’t remember everywhere i touched and i can’t think straight and im too scared to leave my room and wash everything in case of spreading it more and my dad and brother are drinking so they’re not gonna listen to me if i said to wipe everything out there and im just freaking out. i feel horrible for being so careless and i’m really scared that my pets and dad and brother will get sick because of me

I don’t know if anyone else feels this way but in the mornings for the past few months now I feel like I’ve been waking up with my mind already intensely racing about like 100 different random things. It makes me very distressed and causes me to end up being in my head like all day and feels like I can never just be in the present moment and focus on what’s going on because I’m constantly just in my head thinking about my problems.

TW - Christian things Anyone else feel unheard when they talk about their feelings/fears? I feel like I can never get anyone to listen. Specifically, for example, every time I bring up that I'm a Christian who feels like God has a special place in His heart for the Israelites versus the Gentiles, nobody seems to care to simply listen to me, especially not for more than one time of hearing me. They'll try to prove that I'm wrong though. I wish I had someone who would listen. I kinda gave up looking though.

What do you do when you feel something you’ve done is unforgivable? How do you move on? I have tried radical self acceptance, lots of therapy, and many other things to try to move forward in life. But I’m stuck in a never ending spiral of self loathing. Do I just need to accept/embrace that I’m a villain? I feel so hopeless.

So i like this guy da da da and we have been seeing eachother for sometime now and we had a fight over wanting to call off things and he initially didn't and i did and then he got mad about that cause we have had this conversation a few times and he said now he wants to but i didn't then cause i had an emotionally roller coaster kinda day that day and didn't know what was coming from my mouth and but then things escalated and i tried to make amends he said he wants time to think i was like okay but the part that scares me is all along this relationship i have been looking at astrotalk this app with astrologers telling you about your life and i have been diagnosed with ocd so I run to reassurance and i did with this someone told me to leave him and someone told me to stay and someone said its okay to wait but now the thing is i dont know who to believe at this point and whether or not to believe it at all cause any trigger makes me run to it so i am not in the best space tbh i am asking for reassurance from random strangers on an app that can lie to me and i will believe it cause sometimes it will give me the reassurance i need and that is just making me so mad at myself that i have gotten to feel so weak because of a guy and this time as well i spent money and spoke to someone and they said all will be fine but what if its not and what if things dont work out and maybe she is not right and the others as well and more than that maybe this entire thing is a lie and I believe in god so why am I believing in this and wouldn't god take this as a sin maybe? And think if i dont trust him and trust these people then it will be so and god will punish me..

So I had my second appt with my therapist and I’m feeling down cause I wanted to tell her about an intrusive thought that’s been bothering me but I was scared she would be like umm that’s not normal but anyways she told me to try and do like when a thought comes to stop myself spiraling and do deep breathing and refocus myself into the present and I’m trying to it’s just I’m so paranoid over this thought I know a thought is just a thought but it feels so real and it’s freaking me out and it doesn’t help cause I was so mad when it happened I’m like what is wrong with me and worried.