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Having a panic attack and can’t calm down. Please help.

I'm the middle child of 3 siblings. My older sibling is getting married this year, and my younger sibling is working to get into nursing school. And then there's me. The one with the Problems. I feel like my parents deserve a better middle daughter than me. I feel like such a disappointment that they have to put up with me and my constant crying. I hate feeling like I kill the good mood/transfer my bad feelings to them. No matter how many times they comfort me, no matter how much they support me and accept me, I still feel like an annoyance and a burden on them. I feel like a f^cking baby because of my mental health problems. I'm normally unstoppable, and have my own unique strengths and abilities, but THIS is what stops me. Anyone else feel like you're just a dumb, dependent child because of your OCD?

Not good today! I’ve been struggling with the thoughts again after having a little bit where I was managing. Just saw an advert of a woman putting on lipstick and it really triggered me looking at her lips like I felt a rush in my body and aroused and then a thought like being with a woman it what you really want….that’s why you’ve not been happy with your ex and why you have lost the attraction to men and find dating scary 🙈🙈I hate this! It was like a rush of excitement but made me feel so panicky and sick cause I don’t want that! I want to be with a man and have more kids! I’ve always wanted romance with a man! Sex now scares me cause of all the anxiety like it’s telling me I enjoy sex with a woman more but that’s not what I want! I used to like sex with men but I’ve always been more of a romantic than a sexual person HELP 😫

im just questioning my ocd and myself as per usual. i just wish i could taste life again. i think i forgot who i am and how to live. every time i have a moment of peace, it's destroyed by remembering my ocd. "this is not normal, why am i feeling okay? what if it's bad? what if-?" or some shit like that. i dont like this and i dunno what to do about it anymore. oh well.

Hii! I hesitated before posting this but here I am.. Ocd are a living hell rn to me. I barely eat or sleep anymore because of it, I’m just scared of everything, ruminations are here every night leading to panic attacks, sh, psychosis,.. it’s like « what if I’m/or do something bad, what if I did something wrong and I don’t remember,.. I store my studies because of all of this..I can’t do this anymore I’m so tired of compulsions and everything I have more ocd but rn it’s the most debilitating for me, if someone have experienced the same things or just have tips I take it!

I feel like I’m at a point that I’ve had the thoughts so long that now this just can’t be OCD. It feels like I’m losing touch with reality. And I’ll get one thought and then another one comes and it gets so confusing. I will feel better for a split second but then I will feel like I’m just getting worse in the next second. I don’t even know how to explain it. I am terrified and I want this to go away. The feeling of just being out of it or not all here is killing me. Even writing this feels odd. I’m so scared I’m losing touch with reality. I don’t know what to do.

I was doing okay, but reading someone’s post really triggered me because they were talking about how they wanted to end their life. It scared me and I’ve just been anxious about it. Would this count as an ERP exercise I guess since it is exposing myself to the problem? They were saying how they don’t want to deal with their OCD and then it made me go like is that how I am feeling but i love my life i love my friend’s and family and I am having trouble trying to figure out how to not ruminate and just sitting with the anxiety of it. Any tips please?

I don’t know what to do. So, a little backstory, I’ve been with my boyfriend for about two months now, and only have known him for three months. The other day we went out to celebrate our two months at Olive Garden which, if you don’t know, is more on the fancier side, it’s not like McDonald’s or a fast food restaurant it’s a sit down restaurant. We get to the end of our meal and I come to find out that he does not tip which to me is strange. My family always does especially at sit down restaurant. so I asked him why and he said it’s because he don’t have a lot of money. Keep in mind I was paying half of this bill because he bought lunch for us so I paid for some of this meal. so we has a little argument about it and we got in the car. I didn’t really talk to him so we went and went to the beach and listen to the waves, and had a discussion about it. Last night some of my family and I went out to dinner we were towards the end of our meal and it came part for tipping. My mom ended up paying the bill and we all paid our portion. So I decided to bring up the fact that my boyfriend doesn’t tip and explained what happened. They told me that there was a lot of red flags and that situation but this is the first argument he and I had. My family is very I don’t know how to explain it, but they are very picky on people. Because he doesn’t tip my family doesn’t like him for example, or because he lives so far away. My family doesn’t really like him, but the fact he comes down and sees me is a good part. Obviously every relationship has their ups and downs, but this has been our biggest argument that we’ve had. My family comments were do you not see all these red flags and everything but it’s one argument and I really don’t know how to feel about it and I am very family oriented but I really do love my boyfriend, so any thoughts or opinions?

i’m so caught up in figuring out my obsessions because i don’t want them to come true. i have been obsessing over the devil and whether or not he can possess or control me and it won’t go away. i don’t know what to do. i’m so tired all the time and i don’t feel like myself anymore. i can’t keep up with my schoolwork and can barely take care of myself. i’m also in college so it’s hard being on my own.

So my family believes I’m this awful human being because of past mistakes which is very unhelpful but also I understand most times I too believe I’m an awful person so I’m in this struggle of how do I resolve this do I just not do I just sit here and let others talk negatively about me or what do I do I’m so over it. I get such mixed emotions about my family cause one moment it’s like there with me and want me to get better then the next it’s like they look at me in absolute disgust and hate I just am exhausted I don’t know what to do.

How do you battle your reassurance seeking? I think I’m driving people crazy with all my questions, constant bothering, and phone calls. I just can’t stop asking “how do you know?”, “are you sure?”, and “what if”. It’s like it just comes out without thinking about it because I HAVE to ask the question. It’s constantly burning on the tip of my tongue waiting to be asked.

Can anyone share any success stories from doing ERP therapy and anything else that may have helped you? I understand now that I've probably had OCD most of my life, but getting started and seeing the light at the end of the tunnel are two completely different things. I really want to recover from this. Mine stems mostly from real events, but I have other themes as well.

Is anyone going through something like me ? I have false memory intrusive thoughts , thinking of the possibility of having committed a crime and no remember about it And also have religious ocd thinking that God is angry at me for some reason , and that's why I'm not able to pray, like i used to... I'm so sad because he is so important to me and I would feel such big connection to the Lord when I would pray, and right now I'm afraid ...

Does anyone have any tips for controlling perfection impulses while folding laundry? Whether it be my husband and I's laundry or my kids' laundry It literally take me 45 minutes just to fold one hamper of clothes because I will stand there and adjust or refold. Everything has to be folded a specific way the same way or I lose my mind if I don't refold it. Everything has to be sorted into category. I just can't stop myself because I know if I don't do it I'll obsess over it until I do something about it. I saw a tip that said to just hold my hand out so I can't see it or something but that doesn't work for me.

I feel so disconnected from myself. Like everything I’ve ever been happy and comfortable with has been a lie. I don’t know what and what not to believe anymore. I feel like I’m straight/bi now. I keep having these thoughts that tell me “you’ll get with a man and like it. You know it” and I hate it. I hate the groinal response I get with sexual intrusive thoughts too. I try to keep in mind that attraction is supposed to feel good and natural, but OCD tricks me into thinking that the hypotheticals DO feel good. Just never natural. I hate it.

I'm terrified that my biggest fear happened on a night I drank too much and blacked out. I now keep finding/looking for evidence to try and prove/disprove and it's terrifyingwhen I find something that supports the belief. Does anyone else experience this. So angry with myself for letting myself drink to this point. Have been so depressed

I am in my third year of university for my law degree, and I finished and submitted my essays without a proper proof read. I read over one of my essays and realised I made a mistake using the wrong word, it auto generated the wrong word and I must have clicked on it. Anyway then a whole obsession stated about me worrying that the university are going to think that I have used Ai. The thing is, I used wordtune to enhance my writing (reword my own words) but I didn’t use it to reword other people work and pass it off as my own. Anyway I’ve just terrified myself that I’ll get accused of using Ai to cheat and basically it’ll ruin my life. I can’t stop obsessing over it. I obviously haven’t cheated and it is my own work, I just used wordtune to improve my sentence structure where if needed more clarity. I don’t know if that is considered cheating or not. I’ve read up on if and it seems to be cheating if it’s used to paraphrase someone else’s work (which isn’t the case). I had to rush my assignments so that’s why I’m worried. My brother says I’m being ridiculous. I honestly can’t stop worrying.

I need advice for this, i hope someone can help. After years of therapy i still notice that when i have emotional pain and i start to accept it, i let it take charge of me, i cant see is as not reality as just my state now, and if i start to say "its just a feeling" i get afraid that i dont respect my emotions... I had a bad experience this weekend, i was so emotional that every little problem made me feel like im a failure. So to not fight with the thoughts and emotions, i started to accept that i feel this now, and i started to search why. And then i thought "its a trauma, i didnt got enough love, i need attention, im envy other" all this made me feel worse and i was lost in the emotion, but when i want to view it as just an emotion and dont pay attention to it im panicking that i dont give attention to it, it will come back(actually comes back everytime) and i feel that i need to work with it deeper but i do and i get lost... and then when i want to get out, i feel thaf its actually trauma, i have a problem, but i dont want to deal with it cause it scares me so i rather avoid it, and this thought makes me feel guilt... All i hear is to work with your emotions, see the deep problem, and i dont talk about just ocd fear, but when you get frustrated,have a bad reaction, or have an intrusive feeling that ylu dont like, anger, envy, depression, and you get deeper but all you think is "its because im depressed, because i have a deep problem,because its trauma, im a bad person,because i dont love myself" or the worst when i start to believe the emotion is actually right, that the situation is thaf bad as the emotion says. Sometimes i can accept an emotion and im able to see that its not true its just an emotion, and i accept it, but when its more triggering, strong, that "its just a feeling" its triggering, feels like a compulsion or that im avoiding real problem... i dont know how to accept these strong feelings, and how to go deeper if i have to go without getting lost in self diagnosis and judgement? I think if it was helpful it wouldnt make me spin more and be lost more in the pain, so i feel like getting deeper isnt helping me. Or accepting reallity, often i accept this is how i feel now and i start to believe its my reality... if you can give mr advice i would appreciate it Also i know we dont have to accept is as reality but in that moment you cant decide what i need to do, accept the pain, go deeper, or just ignore...

Recently i’ve been feeling lonely. My bf moved away to finish his last semester of college, and i’ve been struggling to make friends at my college. I can make “in class friends” but it’s hard for me to further those relationships bc idk, i think i overthink asking people to hangout? i’m so afraid of rejection, and in my major everyone knows everyone so it feels like one wrong step and no one will like you. But because of that i don’t think i’m even taking a step. My childhood friends have dwindled down to three lovely people but they all live far away, so i’m desperately wanting to make friends i have common interests with and i can do stuff with, on a whim just bc we’re in the same city. I really don’t know what to do, and i don’t want to spend the other half of my college years cooped up in my apartment by myself. Any advice on how you’ve made friends and how to hangout with them is greatly appreciated 💜

It’s so hard to deal with the conflicting feelings that come up. It’s hard but sometimes I’m able I to feel love for my bf again and want to continue being with him, I enjoy our intimacy and the bond we share, but my mind keeps screaming at me that something’s wrong and I don’t want to be with him 😭 that I wouldn’t be happy with him in the future even though everytime we’re together I never want to leave or have it be over. Everytime I try to envision myself with a woman the fact that’s there’s no anxiety and feels calm to think about is so scary to the fact that I’m anxious when I think about a future w my bf and it feels like it’s not what I want:(