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*PLEASE READ* I’ve been struggling with bad harm intrusive thoughts for a couple years now. They’ll go away for a couple of months then get triggered by something and start all over again. As much as I try to tell myself that I would never act on these thoughts I have a memory from when I was little that I was going to hurt my parents in their sleep and that memory has haunted me till now. Of course I didn’t hurt them but I thought it and I feel so guilty about it today that it makes me sick to my stomach. I love my parents so much and would never want to hurt them or anybody. I just want these thoughts to go away because they don’t line up with my values of who I am. But every time I tell myself that my thoughts are not facts that memory pops up making me feel like an awful person. I feel right now as if I don’t deserve any love from anyone because of these thoughts. I’m a believer of God and I feel as if I don’t deserve his love as well and that he has given up on me. These thoughts have also turned into a new theme of being scared I’m actually crazy and going into a psychosis. I’m just so scared and just want to be normal. As much as I tell myself ocd lies to you these thoughts have really scared me and I haven’t felt like myself in days. I’ve also struggled with health anxiety and intrusive suicidal thoughts. I know seeking reassurance isn’t good but I’m so scared.

Is it ocd or is it denial I don't get what ifs and I wasn't diagnosed with ocd I went to the pych twice and part me just doesn't want to be tru that I'm might be a p and using ocd just for me not to believe it. Im going to go again and if they say I am a p I'm going to end it because that's a scary thought and I'm also worried about my relationship with my boyfriend he is 6 years younger then me and I'm 27 and he's 21 I met him when he was 19 turning 20 and I was 25 turning 26. I'm tired and I don't want sympathy I just needed to type this out it's been getting on my nerves a lot and I think everyday of breaking up with him fear of judgement. He does act very immature I don't know what do with my life myself and the people around me and making friends is not my cup of tea everytime im around new people I feel like I'm hiding a big secret and I don't want to get close to anyone and just makes me feel bitter because people just be normal and not have these intrusive thoughts pop up and lm like why me why why me. And I just push everyone away I can't stand myself either I'm fat and eating is what really what makes me happy no one knows what I go through and I can't talk about it I'm afraid of getting shunned or that I won't get better and actually seek help that I know I need I've feel like I have no control over my life I'm 27 no job I don't have my own place my sisters are doing better then me I probably sound selfish I want to get better and it if is just ocd it would be a sigh of relief and I can work through my issues. I have more I want to say but this part of my truth

I watched a utube video by an ocd expert and he said that on 9-11 he had patients come in and talk to him about their themes and they seemed barely concerned about what was happening. I have noticed this in myself and feel so bad and selfish when I am sooo focused on my own fears that I am not really connecting to loved ones and their needs like I used to. I know it's not how I used to be and I hate it

How do you go about your life when ERP therapy is so stressful. I have harm ocd and by making me watch horror movies etc . is just making it worse. I'm really worried I'm being brainwashed into being what I dont want to be . Does this mean ERP is not for me? I also have no compulsions just pure O .

I don't know if anyone else has a similar problem, but I think one of my themes is worrying how others might perceived me. For context, I used to be very shy and sometimes don't have good control over facial expressions. This leads a lot of people to believe me being hostile to them, even though I don't mean to be. Now, I moved a different city and am meeting a lot of new people. And this makes me really worried of leaving bad (first) impressions.

How do you get back to cuddling, hugging on, and loving your babies? Please only positive things here. I used to be able to hold, love on, cuddle, hug my babies and loved it!! Now it’s so hard. I’m praying and believe God will get me through this. My babies need affection and love right now. I have seen a NOCD counselor and will possibly start again soon. What worked for you? This not only hurts us. It’s hurts our little ones, I believe!

Ok so today I was in a really crowded place and at some point I got really annoyed at not being able to work properly bc of all the people in front of me so out of rage I just decided to bust through everybody and the second time I tried to pass through people I ended up having my upper arm touch a woman’s b00bs. And I can’t fully remember why and what happened bc it was hot outside but I couldn’t really get through bc it was really tight between those two people so my arm was still touching her there and at some point my brain properly caught onto the situation and then I started panicking completely. And now I’m scared this could’ve been SA and keep questioning why exactly this happened bc that’s the part I can’t remember properly. Like I keep questioning if it was really just hard for me to pass through or if I somehow slowed down. And I mean it was just my upper arm so it wasn’t that terrible and the woman was like 40 years older than me but I’m still ashamed and feel guilty. What if I had somehow done that on purpose? Like I know I rammed her on purpose but what if I really just wanted to do that? I feel so guilty and I remembered just now that as I was approaching her I was just so mad at everything I had even rammed the first person and then I also decided to just ram into the second person but I’m also not sure if that might’ve just been an intrusive thought bc it appeared at the back of my brain and I really only had that contact bc of the lack of space I had to bypass her but I still feel bad despite this not having been that horrible and idk what to do

I’ve made other posts over the days saying how difficult it has been with my OCD, lately. My PCP prescribed me burispone for my GAD and hydroxizene for if my anxiety gets really bad (he said to use it as a as needed pill) . I found myself not keeping up with taking them as I had been - I fought off the idea of taking medication for my anxiety for a long time until I started working again over the summer full time and started feeling the stress and over whelm catch up to me alongside my single mom duties. I’m trying to get in to start therapy again virtually somewhere that accepts Medicaid bc we are low income as well - ideally I’d like to fight this off with just the help of the Lord and my own grit - but the medications did seem to help - at times I don’t really notice a difference especially now after taking them for a few weeks … but now I haven’t been consistent and am starting to see a familiar voice fear it’s ugly head the same one that would convince me I dont need medication or therapy etc . It’s the same voice I think most of my family listens to as I have really been the only one in an out of therapy and always trying to get the help but have been extremely inconsistent over the years. That is always my biggest issue. What helps you to stay consistent on your healing journey with OCD? How do you over come those voices that try to get you to believe that help isn’t needed when it really is?

Hello!! does anyone have any tips on how to stop prayer ocd, I have to pray for forgiveness every time a bad thought, or word pops up in my head, and sometimes my ocd tells me I say it but idk if that’s true or not. Ive had this ocd theme for quite a long time and I want to stop it

how do you know it's ocd and not just extreme guilt for something awful? I feel like people who are just guilty experience the same symptoms of guilt, trying to rationalize, ruminating on the event, thinking about how people who look at them differently if they knew, ect.

has anyone actually done some bad things as a child, and now your ocd fixated on it? am I terrible for what I've done as a child? I know now how wrong and weird and gross it was, and I would never want to do something of that nature Ever again and it's also illegal. what should I do. I don't want to live as someone who has done that.

I just listened to something that said our brains aren't wired for success, it's wired for survival. That's why we get stuck in these patterns of behaviour. Makes sense but never thought of it that way.

Been really worried about this lately. Having a huge identity crisis and worried that i’m just a shell and what if I just take the identities of people around me? I’m scared

Ocd is just so exhausting.. i ahte myself and im just so disgusted by the way i am .

I was drunk once when me and my boyfriend had sex, he wasn't, but while being sober I told him that I am okay if we have sex while I have had alcohol. Afterwards, while still drunk, I told him that I think we shouldn't have sex whole I'm drunk anymore just because I feel sick afterwards from the alcohol and also just because I decided that it was overall not a good idea in general (nothing bad happened but I did get super sleepy.) My ocd has recently though hyperfixated on the idea that my boyfriend has sa'd me when I don't feel like he has (other posts give explanation as to that situation.) is this bad?? I was drunk again and we teased eachother but it didn't go father than that and when I told him we should stop, we did. jokes were still made and stuff but otherwise nothing happened. I feel like my ocd is just getting worse and worse about this whole thing. making me feel things about him I don't actually believe and think things happened that didn't. please give me advice

Hi, everyone! My family has just moved from California to Connecticut, and I'm not doing very well. Late last year, at the age of 19, I realized that I have OCD. Finally being able to put a name to all of the thoughts, compulsions, and images that I've dealt with all my life has been a game changer, and for some years, I've had a routine involving exercise and meditation that really helped to mollify what I now know to be symptoms. However, since the move, I'm having a lot of trouble finding relief. I've been feeling really depressed and sick, and being in an unfamiliar house and neighborhood has me feeling very lost and confused. I'm trying to be strong for my loved ones, since it's been difficult for all of us, and they're all very happy with the new place - and I do really love the house, too - but it just isn't home, and everything is so different. I don't know what to do. Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you! <3

Currently obsessing over me being the only “real” or conscious person in the world, and that everyone I love isn’t actually real. I know deep down that this is ocd, but I feel like by not ruminating I’m just ignoring the fear (which feels so real and scary). Has anyone experienced anything similar and how did you get out of this worry? Trying not to seek reassurance as it’s one of my compulsions, but I’m very distressed.

a little bit about me, i have dealt with mental health issues for my whole life. i went undiagnosed for many years, being because my family (at the time) didn’t believe in mental illness, it was believed that everything could be fixed with a little “talk with Jesus” that being said, for as long as i can remember i have had the intrusive thoughts, the obsessive thoughts. i can remember being a little kid trying to pray to god and my mind would be telling me over and over again that i hated god, that i loved the devil, that i wanted to go to hell. i also believed that if i didn’t pray for every single family member that they would die. i still to this day have trouble sleeping because im convinced that the rapture will happen, and i will be left behind. well as the years have progressed, these intrusive thoughts and obsessions have become worse, resulting in me thinking about harming myself and others when i have no intentions to do so. i also have been struggling with and obsessing over people dying, and mourning people that are still alive and well.

I know depression is not ocd but I have both and they sometimes work together. I started having mood swings and I am unsure if that is good or bad. I have had depression for years and now I am having huge mood swings and feel more emotional about everything. Can anyone late?