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does anyone else have this issue? not so much responses from people, but my own texts and if they sound “nice enough” i have moral ocd so maybe that’s it…..

Hello. I just need some tips for pocd. It started two summers ago when I was 16-17 and now I am 18 and a half. For background , before all this hit I used to love interacting and playing with children, I just had a natural aptitude towards it, and I even potentially wanted to become a kindergarten teacher due to it, and have many kids of my own. But because of this, it has scared me so much and I am so unhappy. I hate it so much. It ruined my entire senior year of highschool, and while it is not as debilitating as it was in the beginning it is still there even through my freshman year of university. Being good with kids was something I used to pride myself on. But now I feel like I've lost all way to interact with them normally without busting a blood vessel. I've been through a little bit of therapy and things have gotten a bit easier, I guess. My therapist said to say "maybe. Maybe not." To any thought that pops up, but what do you do after? It's not even thoughts about hurting a child I'm interacting with, it's with the discomfort that I even have it and think I will hurt them. There is no thought, just fear. So do I just say "maybe, maybe not" to that discomfort as well? And after I say that to myself, how do I stop myself from checking? Once I know how to do this and stand brave against it, I think I can go back to my true, normal self. I'm just confused on what I should do after. I want to do some sort of pivot, maybe look at something and name 3 things about it or something, but is that a compulsion in and of itself? I don't know. But please help. Also, I try to visualize my pocd as something separate to myself, like a tumor/teratoma speaking to me. I don't know if that's a compulsion, but it definitely makes it easier to let go. But if it is a compulsion please let me know because I don't want to keep doing it then.

Spiral all the time cuz see so much on repentance and am afraid I don’t know how or don’t do it right and then I delete it so I don’t have to look at all the content but then feel guilty for ignoring it bc it’s probably for a reason bc they all hit hard and are true

(I call my OCD he because it’s easier to talk about him when he’s personified like this) Everytime i try to enjoy something, my OCD keeps telling me “You wouldn’t have done this if you never saw the evil.”, “Would you have made all those achievements if you didn’t see the evil?” Even downloading this app triggered it “Would you have downloaded this app if you never saw the evil?” I used to love drawing, gaming, etc but this bastard gets angry even when i listen to him, when i don’t do my hobbies he says i’d miss out on good things because of “the evil” and that it’ll become a permanent mark on my records Worst part is, on some things, i feel like he has a point, so it feels as though he’s got me in a checkmate im sorry if i overshared but i had to let it out, kinda strayed away from the main topic of this post which is finding out the specific name for this kind of OCD

Really struggling to tell what is OCD and what could be real. I keep worrying about my brain not working correctly or like I'm going to lose my memories or my sanity. Can anyone relate to this? Any advice?

I REALLY REALLY hate my mom. Because I asked my dad to get me something from the store to eat because we literally had nothing to eat and he got me my favorite food, I’m not getting anything for my birthday.my mom cooked this pasta with meat and cheese but it was disgusting. It was wet, soggy, and oily..the oil was separating from the rest of the pasta and when I tried it it literally sounded like I was slurping a slushie..not only this but she used FETA cheese and olive oil meant for SALADS.. WHO USES FETA CHEESE AND SALAD OLIVE OIL IN A PASTA WITH MEAT? So obviously I didn’t eat it after I tried it, plus the onions in the pasta were chopped up largely and I HATE feeling onions in my food. So, I asked my dad if he could get me something from the store. He suggested that he could get me instant noodles and I agreed, even though I was originally going for something more like a ready meal. My mom came back and saw be eating it and yelled at me, so now I’m not getting anything for my birthday. I’m so pissed off

I am hoping someone has had a similar experience or some advice. I have a partner who I love and care about deeply, she’s very good to me and I’m happy with who we both are currently. The issue I struggle with is comparing myself to past experiences and an intense jealousy/picturing thoughts when I think of it. I do not want anyone to pass judgement on her, but she has participated in very casual experiences like orgies. This is really hard for me to wrap my head around and I keep picturing it and I’ll admit I consistently quizzed her and made attacks on her character over it. I want to state, I do not think this makes her a bad person or that she’s any less eligible of a partner over it. I acknowledge the problem lies exclusively on me. I just struggle with feeling adequate in light of these kinds of situations being experienced. (No I have no desire to ever experience similar or sleep with multiple people, I think that’s partly why it bugs me) Has anyone been able to overcome these kinds of thoughts? I’ve made progress in dealing with it, but I want to know if anyone has advice on how to repair the relationship after putting your partner through these kind of interrogations.

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It’s my OCD has not let me enjoy heavy music as much. I just get this anxiety listening to it. Ether if I’m being a poser. It did not used be like this it started three years ago. It constantly been happening everyday. I sometimes I feel I have to get rid all my band tee, so people won’t think I’m a poser. I worry if I grow out of it or don’t like it as much. It also been not wanting play my bass/ guitar. I been getting bad depression where I don’t wanna do stuff. I have force myself to it. Sometimes when band practice get canceled I feel a little fun. It sucks, because I used to love playing heavy music and just playing in general. But now I feel this constantly pressure of not being a poser or not being a shitty musican. I just don’t even enjoy music anymore. Sometime I wish I was not on my stupid meds. It feel like they had made things worst. Or I should just give up on therapy. It feel my ocd is winning and I can’t stop it.

Does anyone ever struggle with urges to confess things they've done. Things that are nobody's business but your own. Does amyone ever feel guilty like they need to confess?

I’ve been researching a lot, and have been thinking. At the moment I can’t afford therapy (plus my country doesn’t really have the best support for mental health at the moment) and I feel like I need to find a way to at least get used to these thoughts. But I’m still wondering if it would be good or not, I have some worries. If I shouldn’t do ERP what can I do instead?

I remember being deep in an OCD spiral a couple of weeks back- I felt deeply hopeless and guilty, contaminated and unable to move forward as real event OCD had made me feel completely horrible. In searching for ERP therapy, I had a consultation with an OCD therapist- I remember saying that this current theme was by far the worst one I had ever experienced, and that I wished I could suffer from a different subtype instead. She replied 'The one you're currently in always feels like the worst', and that really resonated with me- because yeah, I suppose she is right. But when you're in the thick of it, its hard to believe this. I wanted to ask the community- what are your worst experiences/ current themes which you recovered from but at the time felt like you never would? I feel like I never see stuff about real event OCD recovery- so for those of you who genuinely did something wrong, and suffer real event- how did you recover, how do you feel now, does it get better?

Housing vs Room Renting The most persistent, harmful, class based myths in U.S. housing culture. Let’s break it down in a way that fits casework, social work, recovery planning, and SDOH frameworks. Why People Equate “Rooming” With Something Being Wrong With You This stigma comes from history, class bias, mental health stereotypes, and outdated housing norms, not from anything about the person choosing shared housing. Below is the real explanation, written in the tone of a CW/SW/Recovery Planning professional. 1. Historical Bias: Rooming Houses Were Once “Poor People Housing” In the early 1900s–1970s, rooming houses were: • Used by low income workers • Used by people with disabilities • Used by people exiting institutions • Used by people without family support Because of this, society built a classist association: “People who rent rooms must be struggling.” This stigma stuck — even though the economy of 2026 makes rooming a normal, rational choice. 2. Mental Health Stigma Got Attached to Rooming Houses When states closed psychiatric hospitals (1960s–1990s), many people with mental illness were discharged into: • Rooming houses • Boarding homes • Shared living • Adult care homes This created a false stereotype: “Rooming houses = mental health or behavioral issues.” In reality, most people in shared housing today are working adults, students, or people priced out of the rental market. 3. Boarding Houses Used to Be Poorly Regulated Some older boarding homes were: • Overcrowded • Unsafe • Run by slumlords • Used as last resort housing This created a public perception that “rooming = unsafe or unstable.” Modern shared housing (PadSplit, Bungalow, SpareRoom, etc.) is nothing like that, but the stigma lingers. 4. Classism: Americans Equate “Success” With Living Alone There is a deeply American cultural belief: “If you’re doing well, you live alone in your own apartment.” This is not global, and it’s not realistic in 2026. Shared housing is normal in: • Europe • Asia • Latin America • Australia • Canada But in the U.S., people still cling to the idea that “independence = solo living,” even though: • Rent is at historic highs • Wages have not kept up • Inflation is real • Housing supply is limited So when someone chooses shared housing, people assume: “They must be struggling.” When in reality, they’re being financially smart. 5. People Don’t Understand Functional Independence For SSI/SSDI/DDI individuals, the public often assumes: • “If you don’t live alone, you must need supervision.” • “If you rent a room, you must have limitations.” This is incorrect. Many people with disabilities: • Prefer community • Prefer not to live alone • Prefer affordability • Prefer safety • Prefer predictable costs • Prefer companionship Shared housing is independent living, not “supervised living.” 6. People Forget That Humans Are Social Creatures Some people choose shared housing because: • They don’t want to be isolated • They want community • They want safety • They want companionship • They want to avoid loneliness • They want to share responsibilities But society frames it as: “You can’t live alone.” Instead of: “You prefer not to live alone.” 7. The 2026 Economic Crisis Changed Housing; But Culture Hasn’t Caught Up In 2026: • Rent is up 30–60% in many regions • Utilities are expensive • Groceries are expensive • Wages are stagnant • Affordable housing is scarce • Developers build luxury units, not workforce housing Shared housing is now: • Normal • Practical • Financially wise • Emotionally healthier for many people But people still judge based on old norms. 8. Stigma = Projection, Not Reality When someone says: • “Why are you renting a room?” • “What’s wrong?” • “Is it a boarding house?” • “Is it for mental health people?” They are revealing: • Their class bias • Their outdated worldview • Their lack of understanding of modern housing • Their discomfort with economic reality It has nothing to do with the person renting the room. 9. The Social Work / Casework Reframe Here’s how we frame it professionally: Rooming = Independent living with shared resources. Boarding = Structured living with meals or services. Group Home = Staffed, regulated care environment. Shared Housing = Community based, cost effective, independent living. None of these imply: • Mental illness • Behavioral issues • Instability • Inability to live alone They simply reflect different housing models. 10. The Recovery Planning Reframe Shared housing can actually support recovery because it provides: • Community • Accountability • Reduced isolation • Predictable costs • Safety • Stability • Social connection Isolation is a risk factor for: • Depression • Relapse • Anxiety • Functional decline Shared housing can be a protective factor. Bottom Line People equate rooming with “something wrong” because of: • Outdated stereotypes • Classism • Mental health stigma • Historical misuse of boarding houses • Cultural pressure to live alone • Ignorance of 2026 economic reality But the truth is: Shared housing is normal, smart, safe, and often healthier — especially in today’s economy. It is NOT a sign of dysfunction. It is a sign of adaptation.

Hi everyone, I'm struggling and would greatly appreciate some advice/support. My most current theme with OCD is real event/false memory OCD regarding cheating and that I've cheated on my partner. I've had this obsession for one year now. For most of the year it was fixed on this one event. I now have clarity that nothing likely happened. After that it moved on to this feeling I've cheated but no memory fixed to the feeling. After that it would latch on to things I've done in the past and convince me I've cheated or done something wrong e.g. finding someone attractive etc... Yesterday it latched on to a new event that happened almost one year ago. This is the first time in the whole year it has latched on this event and I've discussed this event throughout the year (one funny moment specifically)/looked at photos . In summary, for a few hours I was at a bar and then I went to the club. I remember arriving at the bar, going to the club and leaving the club. The details not really because again its been a year and I haven't revisited the night in detail. I can't really recall who I talked to and what I talked about. Yesterday, for the first time, I got the vivid image/recollection that I sitting on bar stools and leaning on top of guys inappropriately. It was so scary because it felt like when you remember something for the first time in a while. But had that happened I would have immediately confessed that to my boyfriend the next day or surely it would have come up in the past year. I would definitely remember something like the next day because I've confessed and felt guilty about less. But since this "memory" has popped up yesterday I'm so convinced it happened to the point I want to confess it my boyfriend. My friend was there but I know if I ask her my mind will jump to thoughts like well she wasn't with you the whole night. The reason this is concerning because the event my brain was first obsessed with I remember the beginning middle and end of talking to the guy. So when I had thoughts like I kissed him or slept with him it didn't make sense (even if it felt scary in the moment). I also fixed on to the night 5 months after so the memory was more fresh in my mind. But with this memory my mind isn't fixed on one guy or one moment but just this image that I was sitting at a table and leaning on guys inappropriately. And it hard to tell if real or not because I just don't remember the night well because again I haven't thought about the details at all in a year.

Hey, just wanted to make this post with the hope of maybe of finding anyone who could give any advice or tips. I am a college student who has been dealing with ocd for several years now, and it’s kinda felt like it has been worsening as the years went by. As of right now it completely controls my life and it has pretty much ruined it. I avoid any social events or gatherings, I avoid driving, it even affects me during work (I work at a cafe and I always get worried about serving any food or drinks that could potentially harm a customer, so I wash my hands a million times and I sometimes even do an order all over again) I have been going to therapy for some months now, it has helped a bit but not entirely. I also don’t think my therapist specializes in ocd. And I am on my 2nd week of taking zoloft now. Sorry if this was a lot of writing, if anyone has any sort of advice please feel free to leave a message.

Hello fellow ocd sufferers, years later i'm here to once again tell you that i'm ocd free and that you will eventually be too. I haven't suffered due to this disorder for around 3 years to be exact. Erp saved my life. The moments of anguish during therapy were so worth it, that i've been completely stable. I have my moments of anxiety like every other person, however ocd is so weakened it is simply unable to take hold of me. It no longer controls and shapes me in accordance to its needs. It's just backround noise with zero impact on my mental health. Your healing journey isn't going to be linear and yes, ocd may keep on appearing as you heal, but every time it does, it'll be getting weaker and weaker until it eventually turns into an impactless little nothing. It's like folding paper. The more you fold it, the smaller it'll get. And eventually all that folding will make youb throw it in the trash all together and be done with it. You will beat it. And i'm saying this as someone who can confidently say isfree from it. Even at my most anxious moments, it can no longer turn into anything worse than a momentary intrusive thought. It's uprooted, it's freaking over. You will get the stable life you deserve so never, ever give up.

I have OCD as well as GAD both mainly presenting as somatic symptoms such as dizziness and nausea. I got prescribed lexapro, but of course i’m terrified to take it because i think it will make my symptoms worse/do something “bad” to me. I just wanted to see if anyone else has felt like this, and what did they do in this situation? I’ve gotten advice from many people but none of them actually have OCD, so I thought i’d post on here for advice.

ive made quite sum mistakes in my past that i am ashamed and guilty of, i was exposed to alot of things as a kid way to young id say around 7 years old. about 2 weeks ago my mental episode started, it has been a rollercoaster of emotions. Alot of ups and downs. anyways, as of recently because of those past mistakes, i have fully convinced myself that i am a horrible person. i have a constant feeling of not being able to deserve anything good in my life, i sit with my parents and talk and start to think that i dont deserve them. i talk to my friends online and i feel like i dont deserve them, i keep reassuring myself but it only ends up making it worse. i truly believe i dont deserve anything even after acknowledging my mistakes i feel nothing but guilt and shame. i deserve all the bad.

I think and feel I have commited the unpardonable sin of blasphemy and I am going to hell because I have constant intrusive thoughts that I don’t like having including Jesus is the antichrist and Jesus is the devil and pray to the devil and serve satan and constant what if thoughts about almost everything,I have chronic anxiety paired with severe adhd and it feels like ocd in my head,it is literal hell,every time I do exposure response prevention my mind jumps topics it will go from what if I didn’t commit the unpardonable sin to what if I did and then it will jump to whys and hows and the doubt,confusion,uncertainty,anxiety and torture from it is so unbearable,and when I do expose myself to the fears sometimes it doesn’t even do anything and I don’t feel as fearful but then sometimes I do feel just as fearful as I did before,any help would be greatly appreciated,I am a true Christian and I love the Lord Jesus Christ but I would love to know how I can get through this endless torture of doubt fear confusion and uncertainty so I can get my faith back because this junk is really putting a whipping on my faith and I hate it so bad because I’m trying my best to have faith in Christ but the doubt fear confusion and uncertainty are louder than my faith.

For all the faithful Your ocd fears are like a cross our lord Jesus carried. The more you run from it the heavier it gets. Turn to your cross (ocd) embrace it, pick it up and follow him. Face the fear like lord felt at Calvary and conquered it. Do the same with your ocd.