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I can't stop thinking about real events from almost 2 decades ago. The guilt and shame are driving me crazy...

Content note: disordered eating Seeking advice I've gained some weight during the lockdown and it's causing me considerable distress. Food and weight are on my mind all the time and I've started obsessively counting calories and weighing myself. I know this is a really dangerous slope but don't really know how to deal with this theme. I'm really distressed about how out of control I am of my own body. Any advice on stopping this in its tracks would be greatly appreciated ?

Hello, I am 17 years old and I have a POCD.I am triggered by the fact that I see various images of female characters from cartoons or anime in the style of rule 34 on the Internet. From this me becomes poorly and I immediately search for how many years this character if less 17 then me becomes very poorly.Help me understand this OCD or not. also I check with women if they look very young I take a screenshot and use the site How old.net to find out how old they are.

I need help. How do I cope with this incest obssession? I cannot stop imagining/thinking about sexual things related to my sibling. They're not just images, they're GRAPHIC. I close my eyes and it's all I can think about because I do NOT want these things. At ALL. Please help. I feel disgusting and tired. I do not want to be thinking about sex ALL THE TIME, especially not with my own SIBLING.

Is it just me or does anyone get mad really easily. Idk I’ve always had that problem since a kid, where I could take a joke or be laughed at because I would constant think about the humiliation and it would anger me. I would try to fight the anger when made fun of but I can’t help it. I don’t understand what’s wrong with me.

Is it okay for us to drink alcohol at all? Us as in those with OCD/anxiety issues? When I was 21-22 I would have a drink when going out to dinner with friends, going to a wedding, maybe have a glass of wine at home. Since my OCD onset I’ve completely cut out alcohol and even before that was drinking less just because. However lately I’ve been wondering if it would be okay to have like a mojito during dinner or a mimosa out to brunch once in a while. Is that okay? Or should we avoid alcohol completely for the sake of our mental health? I’m not currently on any medication either so it’s not like it could react with that specifically as well. Any thoughts? Thanks!

My intrusive thoughts around how to perform therapy "properly" are constantly intruding. I try to disregard them & treat them as OCD using acceptance, mindfulness, etc.. I'm feeling hopeless. No matter what I do, my thoughts are always scanning for anything that could be OCD and telling me to go habituate to it. This is awful. If I don't like something, automatically OCD. If I prefer something, automatically OCD. If I have a distaste for something, OCD. If I like something, OCD. Make it the opposite of what you like for exposure. It's invading my whole world. Really tired, at my breaking point. I know a lot of other people are struggling with their own demons & I hate it. I wish OCD, or whatever this incessant, anxious noise is would leave us all alone so we could get some peace and get back to ourselves.

The intrusive thoughts today have been especially severe and gruesome and just terrible and it’s making me feel absolutely disgusting and fueling my self hatred I keep thinking about how i hit my sibling (like siblings do in small fights idk??) and I keep thinking I must actually be a really violent person. It’s just eating me alive I feel like I can’t even be with my family rn I just feel so guilty and like I don’t deserve to be with them. My harm ocd is just so terrible right now why am I having these thoughts?? My compulsions are really bad right now I just keep biting my cheeks and rewinding the thoughts in my head I don’t know what to do. Guys help I don’t know what to do.

Is there a way other than ERP? I would do anything... ANYTHING but not that! ? PLEASE TELL ME IT IS

Pocd- This condition is something I live with it, everyday. I have this crap for 3 years but I only was diagnosed with ocd last year, so for 2 years I thought I was a "p" until I discovered it could be a symptom of ocd. I did somethings in the past that I regret. And because I didn't know I suffered from ocd, I didn't know how to react or what to do, if it makes sense. My disease began in 2017. And it was fairly mild back then. It was a on/off thing. For 2 weeks, my symptoms were activated, I was depressed, sad, anxious, etc. During the off period which was normally months, I would say "I'm not a p. That's impossible" but the disease would stay numb. Unfortunately, my ocd exploded exactly 1 year ago. In to proportions that I never experienced. There's a few stories from my past that are so filled with doubt about what I felt and what I did because I am so afraid I might have been a "p" during these 2 years that my disease was numb. That's how the disease works... Doubt, doubt, doubt. Guilt guilt guilt. I wish my ocd had exploded from the beggining. If it had been this strong from the beginning, I'd have avoided certain things that now I wouldn't be feeling doubtful and guilty over. Fortunately, this past year is well writeen in my head and I know that I didn't do anything wrong in middle 2019- present. However, 2017 and 2018 are very erased in my head. And I'm afraid I did things I have no remembrance over or that I simply am lacking details of. I wish I could erase this 2 years completely. I wouldn't be planning my suicide. I even went to 2 therapists who were little help... Unfortunately....

I wished to change the world I don’t know how the world changed me.

Opinion, please? Y’all I’m getting really sick of this crap. I finally was getting over my harm OCD and was scrolling through TIKTOK, I’m a huge Disney fan, my room is full of Disney stuff. And anyways, these people have a whole like Disney house and I love it. The comments are HORRIBLE. Along the line is “Disney adults scare me.” And how they’re into kids stuff and what not. And that really triggered me and I’m scared. Like I don’t have POCD, I don’t like kids. I just love Disney but it’s making me super anxious and I just want to take down all my Disney stuff and hide it because people might think I like that kind of inappropriate stuff. I don’t it makes me sick to my stomach. But my ocd is trying to trick me into thinking I am ?. It’s already taken so much from me, I don’t want my love of Disney to be taken away too. I want a kid one day, and I want to raise them to love Disney but what if I’m a bad person. I’m already a shell of who I used to be, and I’m a kid at heart. But like I don’t want to hurt kids, I don’t want people thinking I want to. I’m nauseated writing this. Please help. I know I can’t seek reassurance but just I need to know what to do. Do I hide everything away? Am I a bad person?

i want to die. theres no point in me living anymore. why are my thoughts not horrifying me? why do i feel as though i want to be gay? that being straight isn't what i want anymore? why do i feel like im okay with it? i dont want this. im getting to a point where i want to kill myself. i dont want to live anymore. i dont want to live like this again. i hate myself. i dont want any of this. there is no hope for me - for the future. my parents tell me im not trying to get better but every day i try to not end my own life or hurt myself. i almost wrote a suicide note last night, for the third time, 'just in case'. my mother told me if i didn't try and help myself id be living like this for the next seventy years, but i dont want to live for seventy more years. i dont even know if ill make it to the end of this one. ive had enough, i can't take this anymore. i as a person dont want to die, i wanted to live my life to the fullest. but now it feels like theres no hope for me, i just want to make the pain go away. i speak to a therapist but nothings helping me at the moment, maybe it's my mindset. who knows. my parents dont want me on any kind of medication either. can someone give me advice? i dont want to end my life but i feel like it's the only option to stop the pain. ?

Self harm and suicide trigger warning - - - - So I did it again. I don't really feel anything. As I hurt myself I put myself down "I'm only doing this for attention" as I proceed to keep it to myself. I can't get over the shame and the guilt. I need serious help. I hate myself the most for having bodily responses to the intrusions. It if were just thoughts and images then maybe I would have reached out for help. But I'm in too deep. The moment I would mention "feelings of arousal" most people will take this as confirmation that I'm a pedophile despite me never having had these thoughts before. I am passively suicidal. I wish something would kill me. A heart attack, a car accident, cancer, anything. I am so tired.

"(pocd) sexual fantasies" TW: pocd, false memories, sexual language Info: 23, F, diagnosed with OCD - - - - - - - - I used to create fictional people to randomly to satisfy sometimes my romantic fantasies but mostly my masturb- sessions. I don't know how to explain this without sounding disgusting... I am so afraid that these "thoughts" expressed predatory or even r-pe behavior. I really don't know how... "Intimacy" (I mean intercourse) works between girls... I have heard a few things but I really don't know so I kinda imagined it with some logic and the few information I had... Most of my first (masturb-) fantasies, I took a more passive role... If you know what I mean (I apologise for not being too explicit) - these involved mature men or women with strong leading personalities. But after a while, I started imagining myself in a more "active" role (giving, instead of receiving, if that makes sense), being more confident... Thinking back, I believe the point of this was because I was so scared to be the active one (if that ever happened in the future) so I started practicing to be more "active" in my mind, the one who "takes control of the situation" (being the "top", in lack of a better word) - which led me to have fantasies where I was the one to lure the other person, to make her feel confortable, to led her to engage in intimacy with me. This all feels manipulation to me now (or sexual pressure). I would never force anyone to have s-x with me. But these fantasies of me being confident and "smooth with the ladies" (not a cheater of course... Just being more the confident in the relationship) make me feel predatory and even led me to think about r-pe. And it's not all... But me being more "masculine" (I apologise for employing this awful term) in these fantasies, I often thought of the other woman being shorter than me, more feminine, more cute, sweeter, acute voice, round/soft physical features, more young looking (which are traits I associate with children). At the time, that triggered my POCD but I (tried to) dismiss those thoughts. I wish I hadn't, now I regret them entirely… In conclusion, whenever I was the "top" in those past fantasies (I'm so sorry if this is the wrong term), the other women were more "child-like". A visual example would be those sweet typical anime girls... Not the overly exaggerated ones but the sweetness and "nervousness" of one. If it makes sense. In the following paragraph, I will reveal a particular fantasy (the one that is bothering me a lot) I had which happened two years ago: In this one, I'm taking an active role in this one (the one "touching") - so I lure her and make her confortable enough to let me undress her and touch her intimately. My problem is because she is the "bottom" (again, apologies for the awful terminology), I imagined her to be a sweet, shy lady, shorter than me, with a cute/sweet voice... (I'm average-tall) so I'm afraid this was a child instead of a woman because I didn't imagine her body per se (I don't have a body type nor she had a detailed face - everything was fairly blurry/not defined) but since she had child like features (both personality, height - she almost seemed to be the stereotypical sweet anime girl), I'm so afraid that I actually fantasized with a child. I must add that I was already struggling with pocd in this episode (and many other) and the entire time I was like "this is fine. She's the same age as me. I'm not doing anything wrong." I wished I hadn't fight it - I wished I had simply avoid having these fantasies instead. This is the one I'm most afraid of because it involves taking the virginity of the other person and so it's more perverted. I don't remember the face I gave her or even the body type. Everything is hazy and I'm making the worse possible outcomes. Another thing I should had is that I fantasized this "story" a few times (maybe a lot)... And it's the one who's giving me the most disgust right now (today) because I'm so afraid it was a indeed a child. *I can't shake the feeling that I did something wrong!! That I fantasized with a child… I'm terrified…* I remember two versions of this fictional person. 1st she was 5"4 (kind of), long straight brown hair, dark eyes, serious expression, lean figure but still a sweet person. 2nd had the same height but short blonde curly hair, blue eyes, soft expression and round-face features, curvy body, sweet voice and still sweet. The second one is the one that is bothering me at all because she is the child-like fictional person that I've been obssessing about. I even tried to make a sketch of her face: https://www.instagram.com/p/CAHW1yyAjio/?igshid=t5hcl34za0f3 I'm so sorry for the horrible art so here's a picture of an actress that would resemble her the most (you just need to add the curly blonde hair). Her name is Molly Quinn and she appeared on Castle TV show: https://images.app.goo.gl/DVNyEQREVDi6CqAm8 (all links are safe. I promise.) I sometimes think (now) that, during the fantasy, she would appear younger… (as if she appeared 15 or younger) but At the time, I was afraid she was a late teens (16-17). At the time, I even tried to pay no attention to it. "it's my mind playing tricks. She's an adult." but… Now… I fear that she looked too young to be an adult… and more like a young teen with 13-14 (I don't know). I don't exactly know what she looked like… i don't remember everything and even back then, she didn't have much details too. She was fictional. Created in the moment. But… I feel terrible and frighten that she really was a teen or worse due to my "choices of facial characteristics that day". Doll-like… I feel such a pervert think back at this particular fantasy, not only because of the person but also the story. And I can't remember for the life of me how she looked like exactly. It was almost like, She had a different face every few moments... I didn't decide what I wanted. She was simply nothing in concrete. She sometimes appeared older, others younger... Hopefully because of my OCD. This whole thing seemed more like an anime… Where everything is weird and out of proportion. (big eyes and whatnot) The goal of the fantasy was: I just wanted a sweet lady with soft features for this fantasy… I don't know how teens look like… Not even adults. I don't notice… I truly don't care about my surroundings. Sometimes I notice a beautiful person and I wished I looked like that.. Or I want to draw that person (yes I like to draw) I'm a very passive person (in terms of personality)... I would never flirt or be "smooth with the ladies" nor I want to! (I just want to flirt with my girlfriend) Honestly, I always felt uncomfortable when someone liked me or even when someone else was more "flirty" with me... Just… No. My fantasies never involved anything dangerous (they were simple and nothing too weird, just a little bit, I think). But I'm really scared they might mean something bad. There's a lot of things I need to mention. To make this post more organized. Things I know for certain that it happened: - both fictional existed. And sometimes they would trade during parts of the fantasy... Ask my brain, I don't know why it would exchange. - the fantasy story, I remember. The luring, the undress, the touching, etc. - the constant "she's an adult" compulsion. I even imagined her in college. - back then, I thought "p" was attraction to anyone under 18 so I feared they were teens not exactly children. Things I'm not certain of: - I do think this second person is sort of a false memory. She did pop up in the fantasies but I don't remember when during the fantasy she appeared on. - I'm not sure... But a few days ago, I had the vague idea that, when this happened, I erased her faces so they wouldnt have a age. Again, I'm not sure! - I don't remember their faces and I don't remember what they looked like but I fear to have had fantasies by mistake thinking she was an adult but looked too young to be young... This could also be a false memory when wondering what happened... I have no idea what teens and young adults look like... When I was 14, I looked like a kid... Now, 14 y.o. Look like 17,18.... People even think I'm underage for the way I look... They assume I'm 15-17, when I'm 23, almost 24! I'm not joking... - this is a memory of a thought... I don't remember anything at all despite a few details... I know that fantasies or thoughts don't represent what we want. But I feel so bad... And scared. I have been thinking that, I'm a odd person who developed sexuality in a weird way. Until I had 16-17, I was asexual with zero interest in s-x but by that age, my interest on the topic increased and I began to have sexual fantasies [I started masturb- when I turned 20 (which happened by accident)]. Even my therapist found this odd. I was also mentally sexually abused by a family member (not physically). So I'm afraid that my weird development somehow contributed for me to be a "p". At it baffles me that I used to fantasize with strong, confident women and then move over to shy, cute woman... What happened? Did my tastes changed? Or was I merely trying something new? Did I become a "p"? Like I previously mentioned, I already suffered from POCD when these fantasies occurred (but this was during a good phase where I was like "I'm not a p") and I vaguely remember that the spike of fear interfered with some of them, which ultimately made me go into the reassurence-compulsion spree. The “I’m not a p”. My problem is I don’t remember which ones made me go into anxious mode… and I’m afraid that the one I described with most detail was NOT one of them. I also want to add that, two years ago, I thought the term “p” involved anyone under 18… and I was afraid the women I was fantasying with were not adults but late teens… but of course there’s doubt… and I may in fact fantasized with children. Update! (June 27th, 2020) I had an intrusive thought about this fictional girl in particular today and she seemed much younger in that thought and I'm panicking if she was actually 14 or something... I'm such a monster... I don't want to like 14 y.o.! It pisses me off that now 14 yo look much older than in "my time", some look older than me! People still think I'm lying when I say I'm an adult! I'm 23! I have so much difficulty in seeing people's ages... Update! (July 26th, 2020) I thought I had overcomed this. Today, once again, I got scared that I may have had fantasized (on purpose) with a fictional person 13-15 yo. This blonde fictional person, I think it's a false memory. I do have memory of her. I remember her. But when I was trying to determine whether or not she appeared in my fantasies, well, false memories MAY have appeared. I say "may" because this is a strong false memory. So strong that I didn't realize it could be a false memory until 1.5 month and half ago. Here are some reasons why I think this fictional person has a few shaky memories or why I think she wasn't 13-15. - again, there was 2 fictional people I was fantasizing about. One was brunette, long straight hair, skinny, short but serious expression. The other was sort of a virus/intrusive thought... I have little remembrance of her and how she fits in the story. She was blonde, short curly hair, blue eyes, chubby, short, baby face, light expression (you can see the drawing I made of her). - at the time this happened, I was attempting to fantasizing with adults but my brain wasn't letting it. I even gave them a background story how both of them were in college (in my country, you can only attend college if you're 17 or up) - when this happened, I thought "p" was anyone under 18 so I was scared that I was fantasizing with people that were 16-17, not under 15! (I also think I should mention that they had full developed bodies) And I have proof of that. This is a small portion of a letter I sent to someone, explaining my disease. (this was wrote September/October last year before false memories became a symptom): http://imgur.com/a/YuAalFL - I don't remember what my memories were of the sexual fantasy before the rumination. Now, the blonde one appears everywhere. And I'm not sure if she used to appear at all. - I have the vague memory that I erased her faces in order to not think I was fantasizing with a teen. But I really am not sure about this one... I could be lying to myself. **What I'm scared of?** That I fantasized on purpose with a 13-15 year old when I was 21-22 when this happened... I don't deserve forgiveness and I should be dead.

hi! simple question, has anyone stopped doing things they liked due to their ocd? for example, i used to run a fan account for one of my fav groups but due to hocd, i went on hiatus and now i’m kinda anxious to go back even though most of my internet friends will be there to support me! like, part of me wants go back but i’m also anxious ?

Does therapy really help for HOCD?

So, I feel like I’ve come to a really sad conclusion. I feel like I know deep down I would be turned on by a naked woman in front of me or something and that this is all lies. This whole deep down feeling is the worst. Like the constant feeling I know the truth and I’m lying?

I know this app is mainly for people who are struggling with this because it’s like a safe place to vent. But is there anyone who has recovered from this or seen some progress in some way? Genuinely asking for help I want to get better and go back to who I was before this. Okay so specifically how do I just break the cycle? I always think back to when I had my first panic attack about this and I remembered I let go of the thoughts even though I “felt gay” in that moment and I quickly returned to my normal self. I distinctly remember just not thinking or ruminating on my thoughts, and it was like nothing happened afterwards. I guess because this was before ocd took hold it was easier to do that or I was not thinking about it and I just did it. Anyway so now what I’ve noticed I’m doing this a lot lately: I sit with the thoughts wait for the anxiety to pass and then I get to a point where I feel anxiety about no anxiety. I get the “omg you’re gay now” thought then I feel anxious about the actual thoughts again. It’s a cycle that never ends, and it’s exhausting because when I’m not anxious and not reacting to the thoughts I get a sense of clarity for a moment and I don’t feel anything towards women. Just admiration, or admiration with some anxiety which COULD confuse me if i try to analyze it if anyone understands? So if you have anxiety you could question if that means attraction or not etc. And then I get a thought that says “what if it’s not admiration and you’re in denial because hello you’re not reacting to the thoughts so clearly you’re gay” and then I don’t react right away but then the thought is still there and it bothers me so much that it’s still there so that’s what ends up setting me off and I feel like I’m back to square one. Any tips or like things to say to the thoughts when I feel like I might spiral again? My anxiety is nowhere near where it used to be 3 weeks ago when I was basically paralyzed, but it’s still there, and I’ve noticed when I try to analyze my anxiety or anything it does feel more real but it’s just so automatic (the analyzing) sometimes I don’t know how to control it and that’s what causes me to spiral. Really asking for help because I am truly just done with this. I am so frustrated and I hate constantly looking up things everyday wasting my time, feeling anxiety and depression, feeling unmotivated, not feeling like myself, not being able to watch movies like I used to or read books, not being able to go places with my friends normally, and I hate wishing to go back to who I was before this hit me I just want to BE that person again. I am so tired. So if there’s anything at all that has helped you in any way please please let me know. Any tips or suggestions that I should say or do when I feel like I’m about to spiral again? Specifically I mean. I know I need to just accept the thoughts no matter what but I’m asking if there’s anything specifically that helped. Like meditation? Or phrases that helped to say to the thoughts etc. I really want to get better.

i really thought i was getting better and the symptoms were less, as i started CBT a few weeks ago. i have told my therapist, psychiatrist, and my mom that it has been better, decreased by an hour-hour and a half. but honestly, it feels about the same. maybe even worse. i’m not sure if i just want them to think it’s better, or if since telling them that it has decreased. i try so hard to resist my compulsions and do my exercises but for some reason i just can’t. i HAVE to do the compulsions or else this or that or whatever will happen. it almost feels like i’m stuck. i feel guilty because i’m not sure if i lied or if i genuinely thought i was doing better. i really feel like i’m never going to get rid of this and the fears are realer than ever, even though i know my compulsions won’t reduce the risk of these things coming true. i don’t know what to do.