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NSFW I remember when I was around a junior in high school, I looked up “freshman boy senior girl” on pornhub(for clarity I’m a straight boy who had an older girl kink at the time) and while I’m not 100% sure if I was just looking for fantasy or the real thing, I eventually stoped caring because even if it was the real thing I know it’s not a big age difference. But then my mind started going to “what if you knew it was harmful at the time and still looked it up?” Is it normal that I don’t know the answer to that question?

This article just helped me so much. I was terrified that if I didn’t purposefully direct attention toward my obsession to make me aware of it, that I was just suppressing the thought and doing ERP wrong. But this article helped me see that any type of engagement with the thought/obsession, including directing my attention toward it, IS rumination — and that I can choose to stop! Please read this article and this guy’s other articles — they are AMAZING and a literal God send for me! https://drmichaeljgreenberg.com/awareness-attention-distraction-and-rumination/

Let’s take a mental pause. Answer the three questions below and be as detailed as you wish. 1- What’s your favorite scenery to see out a car window? 2- What type of coffee drinker are you? 3- Name your favorite sound. I’ll start: 1.) Large green fields or city night lights. 2.) The decaffeinated or herbal tea type. 3.) Crackling firewood

The only thing bringing me peace rn is the thought of ending my life.

I didnt think it was possible to feel worse. I shouldn't have watched porn. I should've taken care of this years ago. Now I feel I've ruined it for myself. No happy ending for me. I dont want to be negative but I can barely function anymore. My life has been swallowed by this shit AGAIN!!!!

Wish I had someone to talk to. My husband is so frustrated with my contamination ocd. He is always telling me to leave him and my son and go away for good, so he doesn't have to deal with me. Mu son is my life and my husband is actually telling me to leave because of my condition. The other day he even told me to go back to sleep and never wake up. :(

Has anyone else lost friends bc of OCD?

Is it just me or does anyone else experience feeling disassociated and as if they’re actually loosing their mind or going crazy due to their Harm OCD, etc. The constant intrusive thoughts, followed by either reassurance that you are not your thoughts and/or do not want to act on your thoughts, etc. Lastly, does trying to ignore them and not act on self reassurance, changing of thought patterns, etc. Does that make you feel as if you’re going to or could loose control? Is this my OCD that I am dealing with in conjunction with severe anxiety? Or am I dealing with something else? Please help with any feedback that could be constructive. This has become both debilitating and handicapping for me. Thanks in advance!

ocd is such a hater i have squashed three major themes with ERP and now its making me dread the possibility of developing a new theme

Hi all, just need to rant because I'm exhausted. CW for body and sexuality OCD. Sometimes I really wonder if I'm strong enough to get through this. I understand now why I've only had the strength to deal with OCD at discrete points in my life, times when I would be completely consumed by terror and not know why. But as time has gone by and I'm more actively working on my OCD, I can't push it down anymore. Part of me misses that, even though I know it's better to be working on my response to thoughts as well as the trauma underlying them. My OCD shifts between body/health and sexuality obsessions, and my compulsions are largely mental. The thing that has put me in a bad place the past couple days is just the unrelenting nature of the thoughts. I know you're not supposed to fight with them but it's so hard for me not to. But whenever I successfully defuse one obsession, another takes its place. Today it was defusing a freakout about a hormone test I got back this week (spoiler: contact stress can alter your hormones); I finally accepted that the results are not an indication that my body is broken or that I'm going to be alienated from my sexuality forever. Later on in the day, I was triggered by a picture of an actor from an old Nickelodeon show: my brain freaked out when I saw it because I took my reaction as attraction to someone underage, which of course must mean I'm a pedophile. And being a pedophile all this time (despite a lifetime of evidence to the contrary) would explain why I've felt disconnected from my sexuality the past year. In short, I feel like even when I'm not actively being tormented by intrusive thoughts that challenge the very nature of who I think I am, I constantly live in fear and even avoidance sometimes of being triggered. I know a LOT of the weirdness around sexuality in the past year is simple fear of being triggered, by something that "may" being lying buried beneath the surface. It's exhausting and it makes me fundamentally distrust myself and my ability to know myself. At the end of the day, I get glimpses of who I could be if I wasn't at war with this almost every single day of my life. I know the content, peaceful, compassionate person behind all of this. I may have in the past, but I don't believe myself to be the monster my OCD tries to convince me I am, which makes it maddening to still be subjected to this abuse day in and day out.

there’s actually no fucking way that I have had HOCD since I was 12 years old and that it wasn’t a sexuality crisis this has haunted me for years off and on so much so that i’m always conscious of jt even when it’s not that bad it was more like i had hocd and it affected me so much that i was kinda scarred like mentally which to me sounds like sexuality crisis that has gone into denial after years of convincing herself that she was straight in fucking begging someone to answer me please

So it’s currently 2:42am and I think I’m finally losing my damn mind. I’m exhausted and all I want to do is sleep, but my stupid head has other plans 🤯 I really don’t understand any of this. I’m absolutely terrified because I feel like I’m becoming a monster. I feel disgusting, I cant stop crying. All I want is for this to go away and stay away. My head hurts, my heart hurts, my whole body hurts. I don’t know what to do anymore. I really don’t want to die but it feels like that’s the only option for me. I’m only 17 and I don’t want to waste my life on suicide. But I am so so so scared of the future. I can’t stop thinking “what if I start to like the thoughts and become the thing I hate most in this world”. The groinal responses are the worst. I need it to end. People on this app have been going through this for years and years, they are unbelievably strong. I’ve been going through this for about 6 months and I’m ready to give up. I can’t take it. I’d rather die than harm a child in any way. My whole soul has given up on me. I’m so scared

my soocd fears are slowly shifting into “what if i’m homophobic?” or “what if soocd was just coined by someone religious who just didn’t want to be a different orientation” feeling sick to my stomach

TW / TMI i feel really ashamed and scared about the kind of porn i watch. it’s often step dad stuff. i am in no way attracted to my dad or anyone in my family, i think i just watch these videos for the taboo. but i always feel so disgusted about myself and i’m worried i subconsciously want it which makes me anxious. i know i don’t but it’s still hard. i also have the fear of ever being inlove with my brothers which terrifies me and grosses me out to even think

Anyone else struggle with starting anxiety medication due to the fear of the side effects? Any tips on how to get started?

Dammit dammit dammit. Pedophelia is wrong and gross. I know that. I’ve always known that. But why does it feel like I’m starting to like the idea of it. I just want to go back to how I used to be. I know I was happy like that. Now I just feel like a creeper and gross and like a completely different person from who I was before. It also feels like who I was before has been completely overridden and is like “yeah no that person never existed. You’ve always felt like this.” It’s probably OCD taken almost complete control, and I know that. But it sure as hell doesn’t feel like it. I was so definitive before that pedophelia was messed up and people who like that were monsters, and if I truly knew that I wouldn’t be questioning myself right now. I know that’s what OCD does. None of this probably makes sense. And it probably is one giant OCD rambling.

POCD NSFW 18+ warning Hi everyone. This will be the most difficult post I will ever have to make but this is something I have to do as I’m scared and terrified of being something I don’t want to be or someone saying that I’m this monster when I don’t want to be one. While I always masturbated to women that were 18 or older, I masturbated to loli stuff a handful of times at the ages of 16-18. And now I regret it immensely. I now have intrusive memories and thoughts telling me that I’m a pedophile or that I’m a MAP when I dont want to be that at all. I’ve previously had HOCD for 8-9 months, and it feels like I’m not anxious enough, so I’m scared even more. I masturbated to a Marge x Lisa fanfic a couple times and I’m scared that I’m a pedo or an MAP in denial when I dont want to be attracted to children at all. I’ve had crushes on girls my age. I have never ever had an attraction to kids in my life. I have never fantasized about kids in my life, and I certainly have never molested or raped anyone in my life. I’m so fucking scared because I don’t want to be a pedo. I’d rather die than be some disgusting pedo. I don’t want to be a MAP, gay, bisexual, anything. I just want to be a straight man with a wife my age. I’m so scared and I feel so guilty about everything. I can’t sleep at night and I’m so so so scared of being a pedo or a M.A.P. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to be a pedo or a M.A.P at all. I don’t ever want to be attracted to kids ever. I will never want to be with kids, and I’ve never fantasized about kids ever. Please someone help me. The last thing I want is to be some disgusting pedo or a MAP for the rest of my life. I gag and puke to thoughts involving kids, and I have a fierce condemnation of pedophiles or anything like that. I hope I’m not in denial. I don’t want to be a pedo at all. Please someone help me.

Has anyone gone through depersonalization and then your ocd gets fixated on it how long did it take you to recover from it?

Am I going to be wasting my time and money as well as a therapist, by doing therapy with them to do ERP when I’m already trying on my own to not do compulsions when triggered and I’m doing pretty good at it, I would say 8/10 I don’t do my compulsions now ? I need to know if I should cancel therapy before I even start