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People are always talking about their contamination ocd and all that stuff and i know its selfish but like I wish that was all I had. I have never had a worse subtype than what I have now and its hell.

I love Terrifier and I love horror movies but I have these intrusive thoughts or fear ever since Terrifier 3 came out and I feel extremely bad about cause it’s not about me. Every time I hear someone talk negatively about the director and creator my brain goes “what if you support that?” Or “What if they’re actually sick in the head for making that movie?” Or “what if you’re a bad person for liking movies with so much blood and gore” or something like “the director is a bad person for making a movie like that you should not be watching that” or “you shouldn’t like that character” and etc. I feel so bad😭 and my ocd brain is asking “is he a bad person” “should I not enjoy this?” Etc. like I can’t enjoy shit with negitave Nancy’s and Joe’s on the internet and shit😞😭

I have come so far in my therapy and days like today feel like I’m just still buried in OCD. Sometimes it is so insidious and I don’t realize I’m in a loop. Once I do realize it, it’s hard to get out. I thought sharing here may help, as I never have, but I know you guys will understand. It’s so hard to decipher between regular anxiety and obsessions and compulsions. It has all just become one big ball of panic. Anyway, I’m just struggling today - so thanks for listening.

I’m struggling so much lately with feeling so different in comparison to others with ocd. I feel indenial , like I don’t really have ocd and like others probably think I’m guilty. I hate feeling this way constantly. I feel like such an outcast like I don’t belong in this community because I’m a big ‘fraud’. I suppose it’s the ocd doing this to me.

I was in this game with this person and I noticed his voice was deep, and his avatar looked attractive to me?? and my brain was like “his voice is so??? And his avatar kinda fine too” like omg, shut up, I’m not taken yet but I still want to be in this relationship with this other guy, I feel like there’s nothing I can do and I’ll always be a cheater, I don’t even know how I feel, like do I actually want to cheat??? And it freaks me out because I don’t even know how I feel? Because sometimes I’ll get a feeling that agrees with it, like I’ll have that feeling that wants me to date them and then I’ll hear something like “yeah I would” / “yeah I agree with that” ,, now I feel like I’ll be a cheater and I’m really scared, I would NEVER cheat, nor would I trade this boy for anything, but I can’t do it. I just need to know what to do.

At the core of OCD is the feeling of losing control—over your thoughts, feelings, and sometimes even your reactions. This can be overwhelming, especially for someone who feels entitled to control their surroundings and body. However, the truth is that we have limited control. This misconception often leads to a struggle when OCD takes over, challenging that deep-seated belief in control. Consider this: when you get on a bus, you trust the driver to navigate the roads. You trust a pilot to fly and land the plane safely. Yet, in life, it can be hard to accept that something greater is guiding us. Yes, there might be bumps along the way, but trust in The Owner of All to lead you where you need to be. We often think we control our thoughts, emotions, and actions, but it’s really our brain at work. It shapes our perception of reality and our reactions to it. So, let’s humble ourselves and recognize that we’re not truly in control. We’re passengers on the train of life. Embrace the journey with its ups and downs—it’s all part of the adventure. Let's not blame ourselves for the ruff road and bumps along the way. Be kind to yourself; you’re doing your best.

earlier i got a thought but it didn’t cause me anxiety and i brushed it off now i’m worried it was my true actual intention and i can’t remember if it was i don’t know why it’s not making me anxious, maybe cos i know how bizarre it is and that i wasnt actually doing that? but my memory is so blurred and i dont know anymore

Does anyone else ever feel like they urinated on themselves, even though they know they didn't. But, I also have weird sensations on certain parts of my legs as if maybe I did, yet I know I didn't. How come I am having these feelings and have an urge to check and wash my legs? I know it's my OCD, but I just feel. Like I can't ignore it. Please share any tips or experiences that y'all can share?

Is anyone else tired of hearing the stereotypical ocd that everyone thinks of but isnt the main one that most of us have? I by far am. I get told daily “you dont have ocd as you dont keep things clean.”

Sometimes I wonder am I going to have ocd when god brings me my person am I going to still have feelings for an ex will I ever cheat on him some of these are my worst fears what if I don’t pick the right guy and I mishear god what if I get him when I’m not ready to be able to love someone else I’m broken right now I know I am I still have trauma I know god will fix me one day I might not have the answers to my question but I feel like I have a little peace knowing god has it all taken care of it’s just hard to let go and let god sometimes may he help me and all of us

Help so I was at an after school extracurricular club thing with a friend of mine and it was pack up time- and there were like 4-6 people in the room- and i said something to my friend after she told me she liked some guy (he is an idiot and is VERY rude) and i made a sort of rude comment about her for liking him BUT I WAS JOKING and one guy over hearing goes “that was mean 😕” and HEKDHEJDHDJXJDJDJDSJ i literally wanted to go and delete myself in the moment 🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️ lowkey never coming back- and then after my friend and i were walking in the halls and i was like “hey, i wasn’t serious about that comment im sorry…” and she was like “oh girl its totally okay ik you didnt mean it- plus ive said worse…” and idk i still felt so bad and i asked her 2 more times and she didnt look offended at all but now its HAUNTING me and i am literally never going to face that guy who said “that was mean 😕” ever again bc i genuinely think he thinks im a horrible, rude, terrible, arrogant, hateful, stupid, awful person and im literally gonna go cry now ✌️

I'm having a really hard day. Just have this super bad sense of impending doom and my OCD is trying to rationalize it by telling me that it means my obsessions are going to come true or I'm going into psychosis and probably the worst one is that my OCD is telling me that "today is the day" I am going to have an intrusive thought so bad it will somehow take me out or do something really horrible to me and I won't survive it. I just have this really, really, really bad feeling and I'm not sure how to shake it or if this is even a normal OCD thing or an actual gut feeling?

Hello friends, 3 days ago, I woke up after not getting good sleep. I’m beginning to think I was maybe still half-asleep when this happened. I got as far as making a coffee, and realized it needed more cream and tasted crappy. At the same time, my cat was sitting on the side of me and had his nails hooked onto my right leg/pants. For some reason, even that got me all riled up, even thought he does this on a daily basis. As I tried to unhook his nails without hurting him, he got all wild and started attacking my hand. Then he hooked his nails into the side of my hand and the more I tried to get away, the more he started biting me. My hand was bleeding everywhere. It was almost as if we had gotten into a fight, and this is my favorite cat in the whole world, I would do anything for him. When I finally broke loose, I instinctively kinda spanked/pushed the side of his butt to let him know how much he hurt me. Called him a bad boy while I did it. He didn’t move or act hurt or anything, just glared at me like, “Oh you think you’re so cool.” The second after I did that, it was as if I woke up and got flooded with thoughts like: HOW could you have done that? You’re an animal abuser. I guess you don’t love this cat. You should be put in jail. I love all animals, I love them to the point of protecting them at my own expense. I told everyone in my family, they were all like who cares? We know you didn’t really hurt him. In a matter of 5 minutes, he was right back to half-sitting on my lap like nothing happened. I am still so surprised and shocked by my quick action, that’s why I think I may not have been fully awake. But that’s just a guess, I am not looking for a pardon. More like trying to figure out how I could’ve been so angry at something I love so much. So, so much. The guilt took over that day, I even began hitting myself really hard on the leg, anything to punish myself. That night, I allowed him to beat the heck out of my hand as much as he wanted to. 3 days have passed, and I still feel my mind jump in from time to time and say “animal abuser” or when I look at him, the most lovely sight in the world to me, I get consumed with shame. I keep apologizing to him and he even looks at me like what’s your problem already? Has anyone here done anything instinctively that you regret, and is there such a thing as guilt and shame OCD? Thanks for reading, I swear to you I am not a mean, aggressive person towards animals, yet a part of my mind keeps insisting I am.

Hi folks, can someone please point me at resources for challenging/accepting etc pure OCD? I have had ACT and ERP therapy but it only worked partially and OCD still decimates my life. My main question is as follows: in ERP, if you have hand washing compulsions, you gradually go longer and longer without washing your hands (this is just an example). But with my pure OCD, the cognitive compulsions happen instantaneously after the triggering cognition and then submerge me like a tsunami. so how do I not "do" a thought that is instantaneous? I can't distance myself from the sink, or go for a walk right (as one might if one were employing ERP for hand washing)? How do I not have the compulsive thoughts? BTW I'm aware of acceptance and (ACT) concepts such of "buying into" a thought etc so please use ACT, ERP, CBT or even REBT language and metaphors as you see fit! Many thanks and best wishes to you all 🙏

In May, I began experiencing what I now suspect to be OCD. I started obsessively worrying about things that people around me assured me weren’t worth the concern. I found myself ruminating on past events, convinced that they could ruin my life. I sent texts to people I knew years ago, apologizing and seeking reassurance that I hadn’t done anything wrong. This often confused them, and I knew, deep down, that these worries were irrational. I laughed about it with friends, yet couldn’t fully let go of the fear. Small mistakes began to feel like life-altering threats. Getting my dream job seemed to intensify these symptoms—I became anxious about being canceled, losing my career, and being judged by strangers for things I regret. I identified my main symptoms as real-event OCD. Even sharing this post makes me anxious. My most recent fixation is my last relationship, which ended last year. We loved each other deeply, but the relationship became toxic—characterized by arguments and a lack of trust. I had been in a really bad relationship before that, and avoided dating for years out of fear. But when I started this relationship, it forced me to confront those lingering issues. I tried to manage them on my own but failed, becoming the toxic partner in the process. I should have gone to therapy to address my insecurities, but instead, I projected them onto my partner. While my partner wasn’t perfect either, I recognize now that a lot of the issues stemmed from me. After the breakup, I went to therapy and finally did the work I should have done sooner. Now, a year later, I feel I’ve genuinely changed. I’m more empathetic and have worked through past traumas to become a better partner. However, with my OCD flaring up recently, I’ve been fixating on the mistakes I made in that relationship. I can’t seem to forgive myself, and I’m constantly anxious about being canceled. It feels like my efforts to change and grow might not matter—like people won’t care that I’ve become better. I did reach out to my ex to apologize, and while they didn’t respond, I understand that decision, as I made it clear there was no pressure to reply. Friends tell me we were both young and immature, and that what matters is how we’ve grown since then. They say it’s common to have toxic relationships at a young age, but I feel that’s too easy an excuse. Does change matter? I don’t know how to forgive myself, and I can’t tell how much of my worry is driven by OCD and how much by reasonable guilt. TLDR: I was a bad partner in a relationship, have since gone through therapy to be a better person, and am struggling to forgive myself for past mistakes.

I saw my psychiatrist again today after a month of taking sertraline and risperidone. I wanted to tell him about the sexual thoughts and images and how I am so convinced that I like them (he is also a sexologist) but I chickened. I feel like when he asked if I'm doing okay I lied. I am doing a little bit better (depression symptoms are decreasing) but again , I can't recover from this theme. It's like I discovered something I ignored for years. My mind sexualizes every little girl I see. It's so frustrating because it feels like I enjoy it?? And I don't want to. I feel so anxious and scared all the time. My chest is heavy. It's honestly been feeling like I'm sad the thoughts are true rather than not liking them? Like something suddenly shifted. Makes me think my therapist and my psychiatrist got the wrong diagnosis. My psychiatrist bumped up my dose of sertraline to 150mg. He said it's going to take quite a couple of weeks to reduce OCD symptoms, but I don't even think that's what I have. Today I'm stuck in bed again and I'm losing faith in the meds. This will stay with me forever.

Ocd makes me think everything I do is sexual. Moving my mouth is some way meaning I’m doing something impropriate. Moving my tongue too. Moving my hand too. It’s give me intrusive thought. For example: if I’m moving my hand then I get intrusive thought (impropriate) that in the thought I also move my hand and then I get the urge to move my hand again to the thought to get rid of her and check. It’s happens all the time with every part of my body. Like if I do some move and I get intrusive thought about me doing sexual with that move to a … and then I have the urge to do this move again to the thought to check and get rid of the thought. This is so much because the urge is so big and I have so many thoughts. I feel alone in this because I haven’t heard that people have this kind of thought. Because all of this urge is hard for me to move normal. Like I cant move my hand/tongue/leg/mouth… in some way because of this. My therapist told me to act normal and if im hyper focused on something and trying not to move it it’s another compulsion. And honestly this are my main thoughts . I barely get thought about 🍇 a child (sometimes i do) but this is the thoughts I get most. How can I stop it? I feel like it’s never going to disappear. Did someone struggled with this in the past?

Hello all. I have been doing really well with my contamination OCD but an event from my past stuck in my head yesterday and last night and made me miss sleep so I thought I would share my story because people have helped me in the past after I have posted. I coached my child's sports team and they finished in first place for the regular season for two years in a row. In the second season there was an injury late in the season and we didn't make it to the championship game but I am pretty okay with that cuz I don't feel responsible in any way. The first season we lost a double elimination championship game. We had The Bases Loaded in the bottom of the last inning and didn't score and then lost an extra innings. I started to remember how bad I felt and how I felt responsible for the loss even though there was no direct decision that I made that caused the loss. I then started to reassure myself that everyone's disappointment is dealt with and ends eventually. I then started to think that the loss will never leave them cuz it'll stay with their soul even after they pass away. I don't often think of this but something yesterday triggered it for me. Any feedback would be appreciated especially for those who feel something happened that they can't make right and get past in their own head.

There are so many things in my life that I am so grateful for, opportunities some don’t have. Luxuries that some don’t have. But yet I am cursed. Thought after thought after thought. ALL DAY, EVERYDAY. I can’t catch a break. Can’t take a breath. It’s always lurking behind me. Clinging on to my brain. I hate this. I’m starting to get mad. I shouldn’t fear showering. I shouldn’t get scared when I look in the mirror because I get thoughts. I shouldn’t have to live everyday with the light inside of me ripped out. I am done. I’m sick of it. I’m sick of all of this. I hate TOCD I hate Harm OCD I HATE OCD. These thoughts take up ALL OF MY DAY. AND HAVE ROBBED ME OF MY LIFE. I can’t go in stores anymore without worrying that I like the women’s section more. NOBODY DESERVES TO LIVE LIKE THAT. I need science to hurry it up, I need a cure for this. Because I miss the optimism I used to have about everything. Now I sometimes hate waking up because it’s too tiring.

In the summer I did a shameful compulsion a couple of time to check and get rid of the thought (did it 2 months ago) . I feel horrible about it every day I regret it badly. Like why did I do it. I promise myself o rather kill myself then do it again. Because I cried after I did it. How do I forgive myself. I already posted a post like this before but I feel like I’m not allowed to forgive myself. It was a BAD compulsion. I hate this. I feel like ocd made me a monster