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HELP!! Does anyone have any tips for intrusive thoughts I have been having some really bad ones lately.

I’m really struggling with spending any time alone at the minute. I don’t want to become reliant on my partner being around all the time and want to be able to feel okay in my own company. I used to absolutely love my own company and now I really dread it and feel so anxious. Any body been through this and have any tips for me? It seems really difficult to sit with it and try not to do mental compulsions

I have not held a job in nearly a year now. Not since my son came home from the hospital. Something makes me unable to be away from my house and not feel overwhelmed by the anxiety it causes. I am exhausted and tired and more stressed than ever. My husband has started verbally abusing me and making me feel like everything is always my fault. If he loses something I am the first to be blamed for it and he doesnt let up until it's found. If I am the one to find it it fuels him more to tell me how I am a thief and a liar when I haven't done anything wrong. I have started to question my value as a person and I have a pain in my chest that leaves me feeling suffocated and unable to function. I spend so much of my time defending myself and feeling unsure whether or not I should defe d myself at all. I'm losing my mind. I finally found a new job and yesterday when I got to work I had a message from my husband saying that I stole his medication and I had such a horrible panic attack that I passed out in my car. I woke up and was almost two hours late for work so then I freaked out and I was too afraid to go inside to work. I called the HR department and explained everything going on so I have to see a doctor and get their paperwork turned back in before I can return to my job. I'm worried that even if I do get the forms filled out that I still will lose my job. I am so worried. Rent hasn't been paid yet this month and I have been so stressed out that I have virtually shut down altogether. I have no motivation to do anything and I am having to watch my little boy suffer through all the fighting and all the crying. I actually chopped off my own hair this afternoon. I was fed up and I don't know why I did it but my husband was recording my panic attacks and getting a video of me freaking out made it obvious to me that he doesn't care about me anymore other than as something to entertain himself when he is bored. He has become someone I can't trust and it gets tiring having to protect myself and who I am at all times. I don't know how to get out of this situation because I have literally no money and I have no friends in this town. I guess I'm just looking to feel accepted somewhere. I feel like a failure and a let down. I feel like something is seriously wrong with me.

I was so stupid as a teenager. Never had bad intentions though and never will I just didn’t know what I know now. I have heard people say that at a young age your adult mindset or brain hasn’t fully developed for you to understand yet but I still feel so upset, regretful, angry at myself and I self sabotage myself everyday because I feel like I don’t deserve love, happiness, good things in life like opportunities or to have fun with my family on occasions or vacations. I feel like my birthday is just another day and I don’t want anyone to get me anything or celebrate it. I feel like I will never get married or have a family because I feel like I don’t deserve it. I even feel like I don’t deserve to live. I don’t understand why I didn’t know better when I should have. It’s not like I knew and did it anyways. I literally had no clue. Never crossed my mind. And I should have know. I’m being honest I’m not trying to make excuses I’m literally being so for real. I just want to be free, if deserving of such. I hate myself. I was so so stupid as a teenager. I get I was going but part of me absolutely does not understand why I didn’t know better when I should of 💔

So, my 12 year old son has had issues with ocd and anxiety over the years. He’s been in therapy and started Prozac a year ago. He’s been doing amazing, between maturing and medicine he’s no longer anxious over everything. He does however come and confess nonsense to me. Typical things that a 12 year old would do that just aren’t that big of a deal, but as a parent I have to fuss at him for. Mostly things that happen at school. He’s a really good kid and doesn’t get in trouble, but when he tells me it’s not like he’s just talking about his day, he’s telling me because he’s anxious. He told me that his day will be ruined if he doesn’t “confess” and he feels instant relief when he tells me. I have ocd as well, and am pretty knowledgeable about it. I know he has to quit the compulsions, but how do I get him to stop when I want him to come and talk to me when he’s upset or to just tell me about his day. I just feel like it’s a tough situation because I want open communication, but don’t want to keep him stuck. He only tells me these things. my husband is great and will definitely talk to him if it’s a genuine concern, but if he’s just confessing he said a bad word in front of friends or cut in line somewhere he will tell him to knock it off. Can anyone offer any advice on what I can say or do to get him to stop telling me things that really aren’t that big of a deal, but still have him comfortable telling me things. We have a great relationship, so I’m really struggling with what to do here. Thanks!

As i said i got told that i have narcisisstic traits, which i did agree on, but i fight with this too much. And i realized now that i was aware of this before but i named it as anxiety. I working on being more empathing with people for a long time now, and i always try to be a good person and that becomes an obsession. And today i thought, wait a narcissistic person doesnt cares about being a good person... I remember everytime i had a crush on someone, there was days or moments when suddenly i just thought that girl isnt attractive for me and i always feel bad feeling like this, cause if i will have a gf and i will just randomly feel this and leave her cause another girl is more attractive for me, its a really *sshole move... but others said its normal, you go and find another one, but i feel bad about it, i dont want to make someone feel bad, and a narcissist wouldnt care about this... so idk... But talking about this, is this a normal feeling or im really a bad person that randomly i jist feel that a girl isnt attractive for me anymore and i want another one? I tried to say its "rocd" but its not that, im not worrying about what if i dont like her, i just start to feel that i dont like her anymore then i feel bad about it but this can be a normal feeling to and not ocd... and this can mean im really narcissist but how to work on this? You cant control feelings, and im afraid that i will brake a nice girl heart someday cause im just like this... and i hate it

I am a firm believer, a child of God, and deep down inside I know that God has me and loves me. With OCD though, I keep circling back to worries of the unpardonable sin; I analyze it again to try to find the answer, and there is no universally accepted answer so it’s impossible just to find one answer. In recent years I hadn’t doubted my salvation, but then during an OCD therapy session last year, I said something I did not mean (as a therapeutic exercise), and then I found out about the unpardonable sin a couple weeks later (interestingly I had read those bible verses before, and it never registered with me that Jesus was speaking of an unpardonable sin). I initially worried that what I had said may had been the unpardonable sin but now, looking back, I understand that it was not. I have since read many articles and listened to numerous sermons on what the unpardonable sin is. The fear was overwhelming, and I found myself having terrible (unwanted) thoughts in my head (that I will not type out); I did not believe any of these thoughts, and the more I tried not to think them, the more they kept coming back. I then had fears that I committed the unpardonable sin in my head, but knew that was nonsense. I remember praying in late November last year, telling God that I knew I had not committed this sin (it was not the first time I had prayed this, but I had peace after that prayer this time). The next day, I was hanging around my fiancé’s apartment while she was out, and I heard myself saying, “The Holy Spirit”, out loud. I then went into panic mode, because I was unsure as to why I had said “The Holy Spirit” out loud and was worried as to what I might have said prior to that; essentially, I was worried that I might have caught myself saying one of my terrible thoughts out loud. It scared the daylights out of me, but quite quickly I concluded I must had been thinking and speaking “Praise The Father, Son, and The Holy Spirit”, because I’d remembered thinking and (I believe) saying that out loud earlier that morning. The worry essentially comes back every now and again of “what if” I actually did say one of my terrible thoughts out loud. I love God, the faith He has given me is all that matters to me. I sometimes worry though that I have messed everything up. Does this all make sense? Any input here?

How does one stop ruminating it seems impossible!?

I'm writing this with fear and shame, i really love him. I do love him i don't know how to tell you how i really love him i just can't explain how but i really love him. Me and my partner are dating for almost 8th months, our 1st-5th months was very genuine, beautiful it just feels so perfect (not having this unwanted thoughts). Until we reach 6th months we started to have this nonsense arguments, he start to bring up my past, to the point that he will feel upset then i will feel sorry for dating them, this continue to happen for 3 weeks or 4. I give him the reassurance because he deserve that. I give everything so that he wouldn't feel insecure. He always tell me not to leave him. Not to cheat on him. And i undrestand bcs i know that his ex cheated to him, as much as i can i give him the reassurance. Then sunddenly i have this unwanted thoughts, about this 1 ex who is my classmate, who gave me a trauma. -What if i haven't moved on to him? -What if i'm cheating to my partner? - His feelings? my man's feeling he will get hurt - Why am i thingking this? am i really cheating? - This is emotional cheating Searching - How to know if you really love your partner - What is the meaning if you're thingking about your ex -How to know. if your partner is the one -Signs that you're missing your ex etc... This make me feel guilty, and ashame because i started to have unwated images also its like a tv then my ex will pop up then even music, movies, or even a book! i can't even rear or watch or hear a single song because it made me think that i relate to that song, i relate to that movie, i relate to that one line in that movie. Its crazy for example i'm watching tiktok, then boom the first who comes in my mind is that ex, anddd thisssss make meeee goo crazinggg i having this battle with my brain, i keep saying the name of my partner how i love him i just can't control it. Until i got my first key word by searching which is *Unwanted thoughts Then boom, Rocd So i search, youtube,fb,tiktok,google every information that i can have i watched awakening into love every rocd channel that i can find. I analyze every situation just to know where it started, how it started so that i can explain to my partner properly, until one day i finally have this courage to tell him he say sorry, and he feel sorry so we have this rule in rs now "we won't bring up past na" he stopped doing it na, i gave him information abt it then yeah he stop doing it na, but it still hunt me. Im sorry for my grammar, im not really good at english. I really did my best to explain this as much as i can. i just want an advice. :)❤

I decided to make a list of all the things I can do that I haven’t been able to do in so long. I’ve felt a bit defeated the last couple days, until I realized I’ve made so much progress and accomplished so much. - eat food with my fingers without worrying my fingers are contaminated. - drink water at a normal pace instead of chugging it without worrying it’s been tampered with - cry without worrying it means I’m suicidal - have a pain in my body without worrying it means death - feel sad without worrying it means depression - feel happy without worrying it means mania - see things out of the corner of my eye without worrying I’m hallucinating - get harm thoughts without worrying it means I’m going to harm someone - went to bed without peeing 3 times first - fell asleep before brushing my teeth and didn’t worry my teeth are going to fall out - I’ve tried new food without worrying I’d be anaphylactic to something in it - accidentally ate half a raw chicken sandwich because I didn’t dissect it and inspect it before eating it (I didn’t get sick, I was fine). I also didn’t Google the symptoms of salmonella or worry I was going to die - don’t feel the need to check my backseats when I get to work incase I forgot a kid in the back - I don’t need to rinse out every dish I use before using it - havent had a panic attack in a month - I can do dishes without background noise - I can sit in silence I still have a lot of work left to do. But these things I haven’t been able to do in so long. If you’re in the midst of ERP and you feel hopeless, you’ve got this. You can handle it. It sucks, it’s shitty, it’s hard. But it’s worth it!

Im afraid to take meds cause i dont want to take it for my whole life. I see alot of people who doesnt want to stop taking it, and it becomes like an addiction. And i dont want to be like that, i dont want to take medication my whole life... the other side is who stops taking meds but switches to another one do they still live with medication. Im not trying to talk badly about those people, if they want to take medication they can, but i dont want to live my life with them. Anyone could share succes story?

Good day everyone 🙂 Hope everyone is doing ok I am driving myself crazy with doubt that I have something else psychologically wrong with me aswell as OCD which I’m diagnosed with. I’m scared they didn’t tell me something 😭 Does anyone else get these fears?

Is anyone on Prozac what mg helped with your symptoms. I’m on 40 right now but I feel my intrusive thoughts are still really bad and I’m wondering if I’ll need to increase it Please let me know if anyone else is on Prozac and what dose helped with your Symptoms?

Does anyone else deal with unsettling thoughts like “What if Gods wants to me to go to another country as a missionary?” “If I don’t do x,y,z, then God won’t accept me?” When I get these thoughts I get very anxious, pain in my stomach, sometimes panic attacks.

I can’t think of anything innocent involving children without it being twisted. A child standing next to me, a child hugging me, a child on my lap (which became an obsession because I heard someone did it as an exposure once), etc. I keep getting these thoughts of, “you like the thought”, “you will be gratified”, etc. even though it doesn’t make any sense. I know I said it a million times, but I know I’m not attracted to children; I never found anything attractive about them in 22 years. And every time I try to tell this thing, “And? If you think that’s gonna prove I’m a monster, you’re wrong. You’re responding this way because it’s a sexual thought,” it comes back with “But you like (whatever),” “you want this”, etc. No matter how many times I tell myself this is just OCD messing with you, it’s like no part of it takes it seriously. I now feel like it’s trying every little thing to scare me, and that’s by turning normal things bad. I’m scared out of my fucking mind; why is this thing trying to convince me I am or want something that makes me break down into tears and sick to my stomach over?

Has anyone noticed how annoying OCD is when you’re not doing much, yet OCD wants to keep you from doing much. The more I’m at home just sitting around, my OCD is at its worst. But the thought of cleaning, leaving the house, getting certain things done, etc. kind of gives me anxiety. I feel so unmotivated too. It’s like a combination of OCD, anxiety, depression and it hinders my decision making and even makes it hard to know WHAT I should or shouldn’t do. Doing what I want to do anyway (or what I think I want to do LOL) and ignoring the background noise. Getting nails done tomorrow and visiting my grandmother after work, then going out with friends. Going to keep living as normally as possible without being hard on myself.

I'm just sad that I've never been in a relationship and no one seems to like me this way.

I have my first appointment with NOCD next week, but this past weekend up until now I have been wrecked witch SO-OCD and I am trying to let the thoughts pass by, but nothing is working. My brain is convinced that I'm a lesbian in denial. For context, I just got out of a relationship with my boyfriend of a little over a year in December. I had consistent ROCD feelings for a few months after we moved in together. We broke up because of reasons actually unrelated to ROCD, but have been emailing for the past week and are trying to figure out whether or not we are in a better place to make our relationship work. But out of no where a few weeks ago, I was with my best friend- who is bi- and I had the thought pop into my head that I'm actually in love with her. It made my OCD really difficult for a couple of days. We did talk about it and actually laughed at the idea of it because we're basically sisters and it would just be weird. Since then though, my SO-OCD has been acting up intermittently, with this weekend being the hardest triggering event. I remember having SO-OCD when I was pretty young, but it hasn't bothered me in so long. I've only ever been with men and find them attractive, and always imagined sharing a life with a man. I do find women attractive and have had fantasies, and watched w/w p*rn, but always said I couldn't see myself in a romantic partnership with one. I've thought about my sexuality as being mostly indefinable before without being bothered by it. But this week my brain is saying I just need to be with women, I'm gay, the reason I've had failed relationships with men and have had a hard time connecting with them is because I'm gay, and I can't get back with my partner because I would be lying to him and myself. I feel so anxious and this is all I can think about. I don't know how to differentiate between denial and OCD. Are there any signs? I think, because I'm so anxious, it must be OCD. And I keep wanting to Google questions and check reddit to see if other people feel the way I feel, which I know is me compulsing. I feel like I would be okay with being bi, but I hate how my brain is saying I'm strictly one thing. Or how it's warping every time I have looked at a women in a way that felt innocent, and is saying it was sexual. This was so long but I needed to get this out because I feel so weird, alone, and confused.

I have a tendency to keep a lot of what I’m dealing with to myself because as all of you know, talking about ocd is at times extremely uncomfortable. I’ve been working towards loving myself more and giving myself breaks, just venting here but I’d like to just say that I think the worst way OCD has effected me is by it’s ability to truly make me feel as though I have no idea who I am or what I want. I want to be known as someone who is extremely kind and loving. Someone who is go with the flow and forgiving, slow to anger and quick to love. I feel as though ocd has taken that away from Me. I’ve never been so quick to lose my temper in my whole life than I am now, I can be so mean to my boyfriend and to myself and those around me. I have never been more irritable and angry than I am now. And I truly don’t know how to not be this way. I feel like I’m going crazy sometimes, like genuinely crazy. It breaks my heart because my intentions are good but ocd is quick to tell me they are not. Quick to tell me I am a terrible person. And this is something for me that I will never understand; my ocd doesn’t straight up tell me “U ARE SUCHHH A BAD PERSON” no… it makes me feel like a bad person. Of course I have intrusive thought and images but the kicker that sometimes I don’t hear many people talk about is that it’s not that ocd is really saying to me like affirming these things about myself with words. A lot of the time it’s feeling, emotions, sensations. Something that just comes over me and I immediately know what it means. I feel this feeling = I’m a bad person This feeling= I’m lying This feeling = I want to be with another guy not my boyfriend And the lists goes on and on Now I have no idea of that is gonna make sense to anyone. But my point is that it’s not always words in your head but feelings that are immediately translated into something that’s just awful. And the feelings can last for so long. I will keep all of you struggling in my heart and pray that all of you are victory over ocd with a loving and beautiful transformation !

First of all I’m quite worried about this, I don’t wanna be psychotic but it’s strange, whenever I see something online about an old person being hurt or babies I get this weird sadistic feeling almost like I’m glad. I was a bad kid and did awful things that I would never do now. But I hate it. I don’t wanna feel like that. I feel crazy and idk what to do, but it’s like genuine. I’m worried