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All my brain keeps saying is how do I know if this is OCD? I know reassurance won’t help but my brain just can’t stop questioning with my HOCD anyone have any ideas on how to make it stop

I feel myself falling down the same path I did the last time I got hurt in a situationship/relation thing. I got attached to the guy and he couldn’t commit so I got broken. I’m speaking to this guy who says he likes me and likes hanging out with me, but can’t get into a relationship rn because mentally he has a lot of bs. I completely understand because that’s sorta what I’m doing atm. So he has been the one to ask me to meet up both times, when I do the plan never really sets in motion. So he doesn’t live in the same area as me, when he’s here we organise something so when I ask if he wants to meet up, he has to travel and organise when he’s not working which atm he’s working everyday. Now I’m going home which is even further away so I won’t see him. Which will be good for me tbh I need to stop this obsessive shit. However, my brain is constantly trying to make me anxious. He leaves me on deleivered for hours, he’s working I know that but my brain tells me nah he just doesn’t want to message you. When he does answer my message he’s selective about what he replies. So I asked him a question yesterday then hours later sent a TikTok because it related to us, he only mentioned the TikTok and didn’t say anything else. It was about when he was free next so it makes me think he just doesn’t want to meet up. When it could be anything like he may just not realise he’s done that and he might’ve been exhausted. When I went out he was constantly messaging me, saying he wants to meet up and kiss me and stuff. Even saved a video of me in the chat! Idk I have to over analyse everything and it’s really starting to annoy me! Do I even have anything to worry about? He still messages me just when he can! Like should I be worried?! I’m stressed out and can’t stop thinking

Does anyone deal with OCD in relationships where you’re constantly ritualizing making sure people aren’t mad at you? I constantly ask “are you mad at me?” or I’ll go back and over-clarify things I said and people are always like “dude I didn’t even notice you said something wrong” or “i didn’t even think about it that way”. It’s relieving but I feel like it’s just the OCD getting what it wants out of the ritual. I will say that recently, I’ve been able to let the obsession go in one ear and out the other more than ever before, but I still obsess over what people think of me. Would love to hear some shared experiences or advice.

My ocd recently latched onto the idea that I may have herpes, all the signs aren’t there but then again reading about it they don’t have to be. So I’m constantly checking my body, finding a new spot to hyperfixate on and then freaking out. I’ve been in a relationship for almost 3 years so it’s confusing for me to even have it, and have these issues now but they’re so debilitating. I even spiraled a couple weeks ago, and had to have some medical workers look at it, they said it was fine I even had a friend who had herpes look at it (with gloves) and I’m still freaking out and focusing on something else on my skin. I’ve been shaving more lately so I’ve been having razor bumps and now it’s really bothering me. I also heard that blood tests aren’t recommended or accurate So I’m not sure what to do, ERP Wise It just keeps going back to the chance that I do have it and could be spreading it and not knowing.

I hate how OCD makes me overthink every situation that I have a problem with. Like bro it’s not that deep chill out 🤬😭

I’m interested, and if anyone wants to share: did OCD, at any point, get involved in anybody through the process of receiving the vaccine?

sometimes I find myself looking in the mirror and picturing me a scary images. I’ve never heard voices or anything like that but I was just cleaning and I had all my jeans laid out on the floor and someone convinced me that they were watching me like it sounds so crazy idk how to explain I’m just crying because I feel so insane and detached from reality

I'm struggling with suicidal ocd & depression and I'm wondering how to push through and stay strong when the ocd is trying to convince you that it's an option. I know I don't want to commit suicide because I'm terrified and I have reassurance compulsions and checking. I want to know how to do ERP for this theme?

I’m so paranoid about everything that’s been going on in the world and I keep seeing it everywhere and I have a deep Fear of everything going wrong in the world getting crazy.

I don't think I'll ever stop feeling this way. It just keeps coming back over and over again. I keep getting intrusive thoughts that I've sexually assaulted someone and I've ruminated so many times on it that I don't know what to believe anymore. I don't know if an elbow brushing against someone constitutes for that but I'm terrified of it and have been since it happened. Other thoughts keep saying I'm a bad person that's hiding things and I just get drained and defeated from these thoughts. I don't know if I'll ever move on from the past.

Does anyone get triggered by watching crime or real even shows/documentaries or just the news about shootings..etc? When I watch them I can’t help but feel like I did something wrong or that I am capable of something like that when I know that I would never, but it scares me to death when I see things like this!!

{a bit nsfw} Hey, So I'm pretty sure I'm bi but think I still might have so-ocd. From around 12 I started watching gay porn and liked it, but also had crushes on girls previously. so the analysing and overthinking came with it pretty soon. can't say it nicer: Watching gay stuff makes me horny. But I'd have intimacy or a relationship only with a woman and I find women hot too. My anxiety is about being gay and only faking attraction to women. Since societal norms taught me heterosexual stuff ofc. I worry I only try to fit in and it's not real attraction to girls. I feel like I should feel. And ofc. there's the fear that it's not ocd but denial and ocd is am excuse. I haven't been disgnosed so might as well be true. My reassurance is erotic fantasies about women and watching hot girls and even porn to get an erection. These toughts and anxiety makes me lose focus, take up so much time and energy. I'm also super afraid of coming out or getting into a relationship until I 'figure it out'. 🙋 If you are bi with so-ocd, do you guys exists lol? how are you doing? how did/does it show up for you? What did you do to reduce the compulsions but also the anxiety?

How do you live with these thoughts without the fear of actually being in denial and having to leave your relationship. I don’t have any sexual attraction to a guy but my brain and thoughts put that in my mind. Soocd sucks.. any advice? Tired of these thoughts and feeling like I’m lying to myself. Diagnosed with ocd as well btw

Hey friends. I’m kind of experiencing a spike today. Everything my husband says or does to love me makes me feel sick. I’m avoiding him and just dreading pursuing quality time. How do you choose through this and these strong feelings and urges? It sucks. Has anyone seen the other side with more confidence?

How can I stop obsessing over future events and there potential outcome (personal failure etc)? I've noticed that I start to analyse the situation compulsively and think about every scenario possible. It causes lots of anxiety. This is probably also OCD?

How do y’all deal with I’m going to intrusive thoughts? I’m struggling!

Broke up with me today. I’m so sad… I just keep obsessing about what I did wrong, why he broke up with me. It’s horrible.. does anyone have any tips how to deal with this?

TW: anxiety about cheating At the very beginning of my relationship, my boyfriend used to joke about having side girls and he would call me “side girl #6” as a joke. One he finally realized that it was genuinely upsetting to me, he stopped. However he did accept girls’ numbers from the gym to talk about “gym stuff” and if they would send a suggestive picture he would remove them. I can’t help but feel uncomfortable about the fact that he accepted their Snapchats in the first place though. We’re approaching a year and a half of dating and he recently still teases me by pretending to be sketchy with his phone like pulling it away from me and acting like there’s something he doesn’t want me to see even if he’s just on Doordash. I have been recently all insecure and anxious about him possibly cheating lately and I honestly think it might be because of his joking. He says that when I say stop he doesn’t realize that I’m completely serious unless I initiate a serious conversation about it. (I have a hard time being confrontational sometimes/trying to avoid conflict so he says I would say it in a way that he mistakes for flirting). I just watched a YouTube video where they mentioned someone cheating by texting and hiding their phone and now I’m worried again. I’m imagining when people get out of a relationship and they’re like “oh those are all the signs I didn’t pay attention to” or “I ignored those red flags” and now I’m afraid that’s what’s happening. I had a serious talk with him last night about how it hurts me and he was sorry but I just can’t get over the thought of what if he’s lying even though I trust him. He’s a good liar and I’m a gullible person.

I just went to my first session with a therapist. He's not a specialist on ocd but he has treated patients with it too. I told him my history and initially he told me there was a possibility that I had ocd. Then, he asked me my current theme, as it was something I initially omitted. Then I told him it was hocd, and I told him my thought process on it. By the end of the session, he was telling me that our thoughts do not translate to who we are and all of that, and that he thought I had intrusive thoughts with obsessive tendencies or something like that. I don't get what changed mid session. This triggered me slightly and Im thinking of not going anymore if he's not gonna treat this as ocd. Maybe I'll go to one more and decide. What do you guys think?

In genuinely feel like I jsut don’t know how to deal with all of this, like I don’t know what I’m suppose to do. I have been worrying because when I imagined the thought on purpose to test myself (it’s a smothering thought) it feels like I like the feeling of doing that and the first time I ‘tested’ myself with a thought I was round my auntie house and she has these huge pillows in her house and I kept having intrusive thoughts but then jsut felt like unwanted intrusive thoughts but it was bothering me so I tested myself with the thought and I got anxiety but it felt like I liked the feeling of imagining doing that and that I knew how it felt to do that (squash someone’s face with a pillow stop them from breathing) (sorry sounds horrible) but I’ve been obsessing over it and worrying because it feels like I like the feeling and I’m worrying it feels good to do that and I’ve hidden all the pillows in my houses and during the day I can’t even spend time In my room with my mum because there are pillows in there and I’ve come somewhere with my mum now and there is this huge pillow and I feel like I don’t know why (this will sound horrible) but I keep thinking I have to imagine it and I got this horrible thought that with a bigger pillow doing that smothering thing will feel ‘good’ but I don’t know I jsut feel confused and I’m believing it and as soon as I got that thought and was worrying about the big pillow I’m thinking there jsut definitely be something wrong with me how can I think that? How can it come to my head that ‘it would feel good’ to do that since it’s a bigger pillow?’ And I don’t know if that’s because the first time I imaginined it the pillow was huge and I got a lot of anxiety but felt like I liked the feeling of imagining smothering someone and it feels like I know how it feels to do that. And my head was tempting me to imagine the thought of smothering after I saw that huge pillow but I just came on here to write this because it’s obviously wrong to keep imagining that and I’m just worried but not worried enough to know I’m not evil, and after ruminating a lot I’ve chosen to try and ignore it but it’s so difficult like extremely every time I see a pillow I feel like I HAVE to imagine that smothering thing like it’s become a habit and I feel like i have to test myself I never get an answer as to whether I hate it and instead feels like it could ‘feel good’ to do that and I don’t want to be evil but I’m worried that maybe that feeling of ‘liking the feeling’ will take over and I will actually do that or that maybe I secretly do want to and like the feeling? On one hand I feel anxious and like I don’t like the thoughts and on the other hand it feels like i like the feeling of suffocating someone and it’s awful I don’t know what to do I feel like I can’t live like this how can I live life and in the back of my head be thinking ‘it feels good to do that’ that means I could be evil at anytime and I’m worried I’m trying to pick myself up and forget but this time it seems a lot harder to do that, like it’s more sticky this time and feels more real and like there’s no hope. And I also get this horrible thing where it feels like I might be ‘excited’ or ‘happy’ or want to ‘smile’ over the thoughts or certain bad situations like this morning I was ruminating and I had a really horrible thought but it felt like I might be ‘happy’ or ‘excited’ over it and I was thinking omg what is wrong with me why does it feel like that and basically the thought was me imagining a scenario someone has a kid and wants me to look after/watch over the kid and then I decide to be evil and then I don’t know if it’s the anxiety or adrenaline but it felt like I was ‘happy’ over that thought and I heard online that anxiety and excited feelings can feel the same so maybe I’m confused? I feel like im faking everything it feels like now I like the feeling of doing that and I’m jsut postponing or recently I’ve been worrying maybe there are things I want to do in life or other things that make me happy that’s why I’m postponing being evil? I read this horrible post online i regret reading things on the quora page thingy I was looking up about intrusive thoughts but it seemed like there was actually a sick person on there and they were saying they have ‘evil desires’ but they just relieve them by drawing out there evil desires and it’s because they have things they want to do in life but if there evil they won’t be able to do those things so now I’m worried what if I’m like that I use any opportunity to compare myself to an evil person. I jsut feel like I’m lying because every time it feels like the thoughts could actually happen or like an ‘urge’ and now that it’s backed up with I ‘like the feeling’ it makes it even more real and makes it feel like I actually ‘want’ to do that and would enjoy it and I’m scared. I think doing something with my life might help like getting a job, I’ve applied for college but I’m worried I’m evil and I have nothing to do all day so have loads of time to ruminate I feel Like that’s why my ocd got so bad in the first place. I don’t know what to do I try and pray but still feel like that feeling of liking the feeling is true because it feels extremely reaL like I would actually like the feeling of doing that