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Today I (21) was playing a game and someone approached me. I could tell by how they talked that they were younger. I was just being nice with them/having a convo but I felt like just by talking with them I'm somehow a predator. They told me they were 14 and I panicked and compulsively said I was 18 so it would look less weird to other players. I thought they'd assume I was a creep if I said my real age, but in hindsight that's even more creepy that I lied and I immediately regretted it. I didnt have any weird convos or anything with them, i just showed them around the game a bit and then they left, so im probably never going to see to this person again. But now I just feel creepy for lying like some kind of predator. What if I lied to lure them in or something like that? POCD is the worst, I can't win with this disorder.

My HOCD is so intense today. Started remembering things in my past that OCD tries to use as evidence to prove it’s real. I just finished crying and repeatedly saying I don’t want to be gay. I know it’s a compulsion but nothing helps right now when I freak out. I feel so afraid of what I might become. I’m tired of this. I’m tired of questioning everything. Every time I step outside my house I always mentally review every conversation I have with every man and I deepen my voice or try to appear more masculine because I’m so afraid of giving off the wrong impression. I’m so scared to even be on social media in the fear that I might appear gay to someone. I just feel I cannot breathe without worrying or questioning myself. I don’t want to be gay ever, I want a wife and children and It feels like no matter what I watch on TV, or play any type of game, there’s always something that triggers me. Sorry for the rant, It’s a bad day. If anyone can just let me know i’m not alone, that would be nice

I never tried the therapy offered on this app Anyone have any reviews/ know the price for Fidelis insurance?

I’m an insomniac who struggles to function without sleep. I adhere to a strict routine that involves showering and doing my makeup (which being chronically tired hinders) and if something happens to interfere with or interrupts aforementioned routine I panic. I have panic attacks, I get upset or irritated, which upsets me more..and I just fall to pieces. Is this a problem for anyone else? (I literally cannot emphasize with words the distress it causes) and I feel I have to hide it because I’m afraid no one will understand.

I was recently diagnosed with OCD a little over a month ago, but I've had the symptoms as long as I can remember. Currently struggling with really bad health anxiety, and I'm absolutely convinced I have cancer. I've had a host of odd symptoms, I've seen every specialist in the book and nothing regarding cancer has come up. But I've had a hoarse voice for about a month now, and ended up scheduling ENT appointment. It's so hard to focus at work because I'm so sure I'm going to die. But I've been so sure every other time. I just don't know if my symptoms are real or not. I physically can see and feel differences but nothing comes up. Does anyone else struggle with this? I'm still waiting for my first ERP appointment.

The biggest compulsion of mine is reassurance-seeking. Sometimes I have the urge to ask really strange questions to my friends/co-workers etc. I get really annoyed sometimes at how creative my mind can be to come up with questions that doesn’t sound strange, in order to get reassurances. Currently I’m dealing with false memory OCD x relationship OCD so I’ll feel the urge to ask questions to friends to make sure I’ve not cheated before, E.g. hey have we ever gotten physically intimate before? What were we doing in April when we met? Did we really didn’t do anything inappropriate? which by itself sounds very odd to people. So my mind will try to come up with really creative stories to make my question sound as natural as possible so that I can get my reassurance/answer. (Ha. Nice try OCD) However, I know this is OCD and I know that I absolutely do not want to ask these questions (OCD is bullying me into asking) And it is the strangeness of these questions that is a motivation for me to not perform these compulsions. Because I don’t want to ruin my friendships or cause people to think I’m strange. But I have to admit, it’s not exactly the easiest to stop performing these compulsions. Has anyone experienced something similar?

I don’t even know if this is OCD but it feels like it’s latching onto it. And for contest I’ve been vegan for four and a half years. After I go to the gym sometimes I go to the supermarket next to it to get myself a treat, and today I went in planning to get a specific brand of protein bar, vegan obviously. But they didn’t have the one I wanted so I was looking at other things and being indecisive (classic OCD). Eventually I picked a protein chocolate cookie that I thought looked good. When I got back home and opened it to eat, I don’t know why but I looked at the description of it on the front and had some sort of intuition to check the ingredients, and noticed it wasn’t vegan. It was the brand MyProtein which also has a separate range called MyVegan, but the packaging difference is really obvious and I don’t know how I didn’t realise in the shop. Now my brain is telling me I meant to buy it and I wanted to eat something non vegan. But this is so not true because I haven’t wanted to eat anything not vegan since going vegan and I’ve only ever almost eaten non vegan things when other people have got them for me. I didn’t actually eat any of this cookie but I feel so guilty. My boyfriend is vegan too and because of the guilty I feel simultaneously like I need to tell him about this but also like I need to keep it secret.

I keep seeing these TikToks about relationships and talking about signs he’s uninterested in you and that you’re an opinion or that you’re a casual girlfriend and it’s really making me question my relationship and I don’t want to. I’m happy with him and even though yes I do think there are things we can change and things I don’t like, unfortunately that’s an adult relationship and we’ve gotta find our way around the issues right? So like this is my first proper relationship, so idk what’s normal and what’s not but also I believe there is no normal and not it’s my relationship and what fits for us might not for other people, right? So for example, we both have very conflicting work schedules. I usually work evenings and he works days. On weekends I’m fully not available and he’s usually with family. During the week he works 7-5, so I can only see him in the evening time after he’s cleaned up from work (he’s an electrician and doesn’t like me seeing him all dirty and sweaty), so most of our meetings are in my car 10 o’clock at night. I’m currently saving to go away travelling so I can’t book time off and spend loads of money, he’s saving to deal with hobbies and life shit, so both have money issues. All of this I believe is normal adult life but TikTok and people keep saying “excuses” and it’s stressing me out. It’s like they think it’s a lack of effort on his part but I don’t see it that way. He’s dealing with a lot of mental health problems at the moment and he’s opened up to me about it all and it’s really difficult for him to find time for himself let alone other people sometimes, which he said makes him feel shit because he wants to make time for me he just doesn’t want to half ass it. I understand this fully but people make me feel like I shouldn’t. Also, my family is a difficult one. My dad has severe cleaning OCD to the point our house looks like an IKEA show home and I told the guy I’m seeing this, he now worries about mess and being in this space and even though he doesn’t say it I can tell. He’s also nervous to meet my family properly (I’m his first relationship as well) and I notice that getting him tk my house as he also doesn’t drive is a nightmare, he also worries about having me at his because our families and houses are polar opposites, so he doesn’t want me to feel uncomfortable. We’ve talked about it a lot but it’s like I feel I’m not allowed to understand why he doesn’t want to do certain things yet. So really like it’s hard for me to believe me and him are okay and that he likes me. I saw a TikTok today saying “signs your relationship won’t last” and it was like “he doesn’t make effort” or “he says he’s busy” and it just made me stress. Also, we aren’t “official” yet we are, it’s confusing but we’ve talked about it and it makes sense for us. We are exclusive, we are each others, we know that and we’re basically together we both know we’re together but the label rn for him he has told me that he doesn’t want to disappoint me when he can’t do certain relationship things, he’s told me it all and got very upset when opening up to me. He’s told me that he wants to do all the relationships things with me but feels absolutely terrible s out not being able to. So we both know we’re together, just we’re taking our time and we’re doing it in our own pace. But society has stressed me out and now I’m worried about what people say is normal and what isn’t. I’m happy with him, I love him a lot and I’ve never felt this way for anyone. I just want it to be ours not everyone else’s

“I think I do like saying things “I don’t wanna be bi I wanna be straight” and then I was on quora and someone said something about telling yourself you wanna be or become straight just sounds like you already know you aren’t . So now I’m stuck again “ The guy said this and now im scared my mind tells me like im attracted for sure but just in denial

I’m struggling so bad with derealization & im so scared im in psychosis or schizophrenic. I’ve been really sick with a head cold and all my symptoms are just making everything worse and making me more scared. 🥺

I am a happily married 26 year old. I love my husband and our two year old child. I have struggled with intrusive thoughts in the past. Pure “O” OCD and also POCD. A couple months ago I got triggered by something that made me think of an ex boyfriend from 2016. and it made me think what if I have feelings for him or what if I want to talk to him, etc and it's spiraled from there. Now I feel like I have to be with him or talk to him for the anxiety and thoughts to go away. And then yesterday I thought about him again and I was like well if I was with him would it be that bad? And it didn't make me anxious and now I'm anxious because it didn't make me anxious. Which has to mean I want to be with him? I don't want to be with him tho but what if that’s the case? And what if my ocd isn’t real. I feel like I’m drowning in my thoughts and I have created a situation that feels so intense and real

I'm struggling really bad right now. My mind is on overdrive. Sorry for longish post........ Anything to do with harm gets me. But suicidal thoughts 😭 I hate this theme so much!!! I know the thoughts are there and I've been running from them since yesterday. I keep finding things to keep my mind from them and pushing them away. I feel down and out. I fear depression which is what I feel like I have currently. My fear of depression is because I feel like if I'm depressed, I'll commit suicide. And here I am scared. Idk what to do. I've told my husband. He's giving me reassurance (I know not supposed to) that I would never. That he loves me. But I still feel like I will or what if I do? I have ERP session tomorrow night. But right now I'm scared to be alone. Can anyone else relate?!?!?

Utterly convinced that no matter what, I will forever feel this way and what is the point of living if that’s the case? I can never forgive myself and I’m pretty sure anyone who understood what went on in my head wouldn’t either. I can’t recall ever feeling this horrible in my life

I'm scared, i thought and i realized something. I used to have homophobic ideas for which i feel incredibly bad, and for which i feel a lot of guilt, as i improved mentally i had an easier time changing my mind and obviously i no longer have ideas like that. I'm now respectful, i even sometimes doubt if i am actually bisexual; The thing is, I'm afraid that i actually have internalized homophobia, when i see a homosexual couple i don't feel disgust, but it stands out in my mind, it is not the same feeling as seeing a heterosexual couple, that is worrying me a lot, it's not a negative feeling except when i have intrusive thoughts about it, but it's a feeling of a bit of surprise, i do not act under that feeling, even though my family is quite homophobic i never try to disrespect or make someone feel surprising (homosexual, trans, or non-binary person), but i have guilt for feeling that surprise when seeing or knowing that. I know that's weird, because it should feel the same as seeing a straight couple, and it's supposed to be normalized to that point, i'm scared that i actually still have homophobic or terrible ideas, that i am a terrible person in denial and that only because of my obsessions or my fears of being rejected my morals changed, i am afraid of being someone horrible inside without realizing it

TW: I saw on the news that a man in Colorado took his own life because he was about to do a mass shooting. The comments were all praising him (I still think rightfully so) but then other comments saying that it was sad got responded to with that they don’t understand mental health struggles and that people with mental health issues shouldn’t have to deal with that level of pain. It made me feel pretty bad because I felt like people with mental health issues (like myself) deserve to live and get help.

Hello, I am new here. My whole life I was struggling thinking I have anxiety disorder but September 15 was one of the worst days of my life, I was watching a video of a mother talking about how her daughter was rapped at daycare, I was laying in the bed with my daughter and was like how can someone do something so evil! I immediately start thinking and had a thought of me doing that to my daughter and FREAKED OUT! I LOST IT! I couldn’t be around her, I didn’t want to touch her, play with her, nothing, my daughter is my whole world, I went into a horrible depression and a rabbit hole , I immediately tried to find help. I started talking to a therapist and she told me instead of avoiding my daughter spend time with her, you know the thoughts aren’t true, but the way my body reacted, the way the thoughts came up it felt so real! I thought I was a pedophile ! I’m a teacher, I work with kids in the church, I stopped working and everything because I was scared to be around kids! I’m finally getting better , I keep getting different coping skills from my therapist, to online to group therapy. It’s been so much. I now when I get the thought of “what if I go back to square one and get depressed again” I label it as “that’s your OCD let it go, it isn’t real, it’s not you” and I feel better but today my therapist said don’t do that? So here I am freaking out again because I was coping so well, she told me to do it in a positive way but? That wasn’t working for me, I know who I am and what I would do, but that still wasn’t helping me reminding myself of who I am, what was helping is me recognizing the thoughts were OCD . I know she doesn’t specialize in ocd because this whole time I thought I just had anxiety. After I start working with her and went to a psychiatrist she is the one told me I have OCD and put me in group therapy . I love my therapist, but I’m thinking should I go with a OCD therapist? That KNOWS this? Because that kind of triggered me , I know she said that’s her opinion but she just wants me to remind myself who I am instead of saying that’s OCD thoughts?

I’m literally panicking because I just remembered something that I actually did that before never had an issue with. I just remembered how I had an ask fm account and I must’ve been 16-17 because there are events surrounding the memory and I remember a younger guy asking for my number or calling me hot?? And he lived in my state and was familiar with the school I went to or something, something along the lines so I think I had given my number for that reason? I know I wasn’t attracted to the kid at all, I never liked guys younger than me and now I’m thinking he was wayyy younger. What if he was just entering junior high?? I don’t remember talking to him a lot at all but then again I don’t even know what I remember. As if I’m not haunted by recent thoughts I’ve had surrounding POCD but I keep finding more proof and I’m so ready to just be done. I’m so disgusted why would I give him my number in the first place??? I’m trying to wrack my brain for his age and I can’t but I know for a fact he was younger than me

Does anyone else repeat things like phrases in their head to reassure themselves about things like relationships and sexuality. I say things everyday and now I’m convinced it’s just straight up denial and that I’m refusing to accept the truth. Feel like my whole life has been a lie now.

I gave my life to Jesus Christ in July/August(i dont remember the exact date), everything was fine up until this point. This is something I've dealt with before I met Christ. I dont want to leave God because of this and I keep finding myslef being isolated and I don't know how to properly handle this. I keep getting really bad intrusive thoughts and I've prayed, rebuked, did a deliverance prayer, read the bible, everything. I prayed to God about how lost I felt and I just couldn't understand why this was happening, then he revealed to me that I am dealing with OCD, so I did some research on it. Does anyone have advice for this? 🙏🏻🤍