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Hi friends, Everytime my period comes around my ocd tends to get worse. Just curious if anyone else deals with this and if you have any tools/tips on how to deal?

i’m starting ERP on tuesday. These thoughts are truly scaring me into thinking i’m going to do something and i don’t want too. it makes me feel like im going crazy and i have no control. i can’t stop panicking im scared im not going to get better even tho every time i have my spiral i do, i just feel this way in the moment. is there any tips from people who have SOCD that can help me. I feel like i have had to isolate myself from any object that i feel my thoughts would tell me something to do with it. I’m also started having more depression from this too. What medications have helped with OCD for yall??

hello! so I just recently started having really bad intrusive thoughts, specifically harming myself and others, and it started after i broke up with my ex boyfriend. never once has it occurred to me that i may have OCD but now experiencing what i do now and looking back at my past, it kind of makes sense. I have never been diagnosed with OCD but i do struggle with anxiety. I’ve been questioning myself and asking myself if i am a bad person, when I know I am not, I mean i can’t even hurt a fly! i don’t understand where this is coming from or what to do to help myself because i just feel like isolating from everyone so i don’t have the intrusive thoughts or thinking about hurting someone. i feel alone and not like myself. i also have bad fomo so these thoughts aren’t helping😭

So I’ve posted on here a few times about my theme . Currently battling suicidal OCD (or what I believe to be ocd) I haven’t officially been diagnosed at all but towards the end of April I was terrified of dying in my sleep from drinking because a family member abused alcohol and did so I quit alcohol , then after I was terrified of dying from a heart attack I was vaping and drinking so I quit both and caffeine . Well prior to that I got all my blood work done would cry to my husband that I don’t wanna die and ended up getting EKG and everything came out fine . Then before I could stop thinking about that a thought popped in my head or picture of me with scissors to my neck and it freaked me the fuck out . Then I started thinking about it a lot more and I guess it just stuck I cry I panicked and told my husband I’m so scared I’m going to lose control and he had to reassure me that it wasn’t going to happen , well I’m still scared cause I’m scared to be home alone I don’t wanna be left alone . I’ve read so much about ideation and this but when I’m depressed it’s like my mind goes straight to oh you could do it this way or that way and it freaks me out and makes me think I should check myself in somewhere cause I’m scared . I don’t know wanna die let me clarify that but these thoughts yes haunt me , but I’ve never in my life have ever been S . Idk if it’s from my withdrawal from everything in may or this is something I need help with . I feel like idk what’s me anymore . Please help me .

TW — contamination ocd thoughts Hello guys, unfortunately I am beginning to notice my contamination OCD has worsened. I’m not sure if anyone has thoughts on how to move forward while I find therapy (like how I can prevent it from worsening on my own while I wait for treatment), but basically it started out as me washing my hands and counting to 20 but always restarting if it didn’t feel right. My brain seems to not trust if I’ve done something and would rather restart. Eventually these compulsions kept growing. I especially am now realizing how dirty the bathroom is / how dirty my clothes get from being outside in public. I keep a mental note of all the ways anything on me could’ve been contaminated and spend a long time washing my hands or changing clothes. I used to not think about this, but now it’s making me super uncomfortable. I don’t know how to not give into the compulsions because I feel like things will be dirty — should I just sit in the discomfort of allowing things to be contaminated? Thank you for any help!

One long-term theme for me is obsessively taking photos of my face and staring at, trying to fix, editing, will away, features that I don’t like. At its worse it will go on for hours like any other self respecting obsession. Does anyone else have this? I also hyperfocus on features and see them through a likely distorted lens, so my nose looks bigger than it is, my face more asymmetrical, etc.

NSFW One of my compulsions is m-sturbation and I struggle with it here and there. Literally most of the time this compulsion is done is to get rid of groinal responses or the intrusive thoughts. but the compulsion itself is bad, and sometimes I think of really bad taboo thoughts and it gets me to finish but afterwards i feel very disgusted and shameful. i think these thoughts because i noticed they get me to finish way faster and im trying to look for a solution. i hate this so much because i know its wrong and i know it gives me temporary relief but thats the only “immediate” solution i guess. i feel like this makes me different. like something is ACTUALLY wrong with me. the taboo ranges from family, animals, trauma. how do i get out of this cycle. i feel disgusting and i feel as though this compulsion means im more likely to act this stuff out.

im having a lot of trouble even realizing what's distressing me rn. i just started feeling a lot of anxiety and i worry that when my anxiety flares up i often cause arguments and put too mcuh dependency on my partner and that creates problems which has led us to be toxic before. and also my ocd has gotten rlly bad bcs i constantly question if ive lost feelings or not and i always feel so disconnected. this week its about the fact that idk if i want to text him updates abt my life or even text him i love u goodnight or anything which i want to have the desire to do but idk if i do. and then i do it anyway but i worry now that thats just a compulsion and nowit has me overthinking the desire between every single one of my texts and i noticed it made me text him less this week. and we have heen hanging out a little bit less and i was okay with it but now i'm worried why am i okay with that? why don't i feel like i miss him? why don't i want to say i love you and goodnight?? its all a mess i am begging for advice please!!!

Not good. My mom and I used to have like a mental link but now she can’t really figure out what’s on my mind after my blow up. I had a choice, to regulate and do my best to figure things out it may have been difficult but it was technically the easier way since nothing bad would happen to anybody. But I chose to just let it all loose and tell my entire family everything on my mind. All thoughts anything really. Not true thoughts thou not really me I think I just let anything that disturbed me come into the light which was most likely not even true not me just a thought or stuff I already knew the answer to and so my thoughts were also untrue. I put myself in a space where I could just be comforted to let loose and I did. I didn’t take it or life seriously and now I am living the consequences with really tattered relationship with my sister and odd dynamics of mom and dad. Why did I do that? Because I kept on feeding the beast of my negative thoughts I didn’t pull through I didn’t take it seriously even though I was scared. I think my mom can’t read my mind because all I am really thinking about is how I could have done things differently in the past and how even after I kept on making mistakes and now my sister is pulling even more away not just boundaries but pulling away. I don’t feel real but that’s not fair to others in theory I get it but I just feel dead on the inside like my beautiful soul died and won’t come back. I don’t know what I want from this post. What I really want is someone to tell me I can go to the past and change all this. This is literally the worst most horrific thing I have ever experienced or done. Pls someone idk anybody help. Idk if I want reassurance or not because I’ve heard so many people say it I just want something that speaks to me hopefully something that sparks something in me to keep on living and doing my best to mend all of this. Pick up the pieces I broke and not feel so broken 😞which I am not but something like shattered

recently, i have noticed a significant spike in my perfectionism OCD. what are the best ways you know to cope with knowing everything is imperfect? i know this is a fact, but my OCD will not leave me alone until i feel like i’ve “perfected” everything as much as possible (which obv leads to more compulsions) :(

I am 14.i used to only find older people attractive but now i cant.i only find kids goodlooking.is this part of pocd?

I am in the uk and voting just happened. My friend of 4 years voted for the party that has the opposite values of what my partner voted. Most people who vote the party my partner voted ARE bad people, but I am an open minded person and willing to know why instead of just assuming someone is bad straight away. My friend saw what my bf voted and was mortified and called him all sorts like racist and sexist etc. yet they haven’t ever had a proper conversation with my boyfriend or really known him. I know that my boyfriend didn’t vote for the reason my friend thought. He explained that he didn’t want the party he voted to win and dislikes them like me. The whole reason he voted is because he knew they WOULDNT win, not because he agreed with them and wanted them to win, he just wanted to lend his vote away and not vote for the same 2 main parties like most people, he didn’t want to vote for the 2 main parties as both of them have failed the country and with the uk you vote for your local politician and in his local area the 2 main parties were close and neither were more likely to win than the other, and he didn’t want to vote for either so he voted for a party that was predicted to be 3rd place and they wouldn’t win which they didn’t, and by voting for the party who were predicted to be 3rd it would show the 2 main local politicians that their seat was not safe and wasn’t a guarantee in the next general election so the vote was a tactical vote for the future as every seat matters to political parties so they would put more effort into making a positive change to secure their seat in the next general election.(sorry for long explanation) I got him to message my friend to have a civil discussion and try and get them to understand that they misunderstood my partner, but they just were not having it and didn’t want to listen and called us all sorts of stuff that we are not and I’ve had to drop them as a friend :( I feel like such a shit person I want to make everyone happy but I can’t and I feel like an awful person because I couldn’t talk to 2 people who disagreed on political party choices. They believe my boyfriend voted the party he did because he is racist etc when actually he tactically voted and DOES NOT support the party he voted, just wanted to take away from the main 2. He has stated that he would be UNHAPPY if the party he voted won, he only voted because he knew there was no chance of them winning. I know that my boyfriend actually has similar views to me and my friend. But he just wanted to try something different and ended up seeming like the main bad people who vote that particular party when he isn’t. Am I worrying about this too much and am I right for dropping my friend who wasn’t willing to have a discussion and has a sort of radicalised view and was rude to us and not willing to listen to my partner explain that they misunderstood?

Even tho I still experience symptoms from time to time, my ability to handle them, and use strategies learned both from here at NOCD and my own readings of books has drastically changed how I respond to them and how I can accept them. I want to also share how important it is to feel comfortable about sharing what your OCD is about, I suffered from real event OCD and I struggled with talking about it (kinda part of the theme right?) but nobody here is going to judge you or “report” you. They are here to help.

I woke up this morning with thoughts and now I’m so scared that I’m never going to get out of this. I feel like my OCD is trying its best to convince me I need to do harmful things but I’m so disgusted with these thoughts and it’s producing horrible anxiety. I’ve been trying to do my ERP exercises but this morning is really rough. I feel like a horrible mother and person. How do you “accept” thoughts that completely go against who you are? The what ifs are driving me crazy. 😔

Hello community! I struggle with intrusive thoughts. I haven’t quite found an SSRI that has really helped me. I have tried many. Can someone share which specific brand of SSRI has helped them overcome intrusive thoughts? Thanks!

Just curious if anyone else’s “recovery” looks similar to this. I’ve been trying really hard to let thoughts be and not engage. I practice heavily on not engaging with them and not allowing myself to ruminate. I have cut back on safety behaviors and I also resist or delay compulsions. I mainly have pure o so my compulsions are ruminating and googling and trying to compare myself to others. Well since I have been implementing all this, I don’t necessarily feel “better” but I notice when I almost panic, I stop myself and move on. Like the panic and anxiety is still there but I’m still doing what I need to do. I’m still living my life despite the feelings. But with all this, I just feel depressed. Like I just feel sad and like I’m never gonna feel 100% like myself. I’ll always have this ocd haze over me. Is this common in recovery?

I've recently started dating someone. I like him very much, and I know he feels the same about me. I have always been unlucky in relationships, so this is something brand new for me. I haven't told him I have OCD. It feels like a rock in my chest. I feel like I'm keeping something big from him and I feel so guilty. I don't know what to do. I don't want to drag him into my mess, but I don't want to break his heart and mine. I have a chance of happiness for maybe the first time and I feel like I don't deserve it. I feel like I'll ruin everything. What should I do? Please I'm desperate.

Hi, I am over 30 years with my partner. And I am obsessivly doubting my love for him the last 8 months. My psychiatrist says itcis ROCD, but I feel anxiety around him and tense in my stomach. He is a very good man. And I love him. But I don't feel my heart open with him anymore. I don't feel the life-energy anymore. But I am depressed, a lot of anxiety and my thoughts go 80% of the time, about: Do I follow my heart/ selflove when I stay with him? Why don't I feel free? Why can't I give him love? I am doubting al the time, but I don't want to leave him. And I dont know if this is out of fear. Do I stay out of fear with him? Or cant I feel the love because of my thoughts? Anyone recognize this?

Sometimes even tho I know God loves me and will forgive me of all my sins I question whether or not I’ve “messed up too bad this time” every time I ask for forgiveness and it genuinely makes me sick to my stomach… I’m so scared one day He’ll decide that I’ve made too many purposeful mistakes and stop forgiving me

Hi everyone! I started having intrusive thoughts about suicide in April 2020 after having surgery and weaning off of Percocet. I struggled for months with these thoughts and being scared of myself. I was finally put on Zoloft October 2020 and it helped a lot, even though I still had the thoughts, they weren’t as frequent and I definitely didn’t go into a panic over them like I had been. Last June, a girl I worked with came into work talking about starting a new antidepressant and it giving her suicidal thoughts so she quit cold turkey. Ever since then, I have been fighting these thoughts. Some days are so much worse than others and the urge to give in to the thoughts is so overwhelming I had my husband remove all firearms from the house. I came off Zoloft in August after taking the Genesight test and finding out it wasn’t really going to work as well as it should. Pretty much all antidepressants aren’t the best for me, but Prystiq was in my green category (which means it should work good). I started it June 8th and felt great during week 2, but starting with week 3, starting having extreme depression and the thoughts got worse to where I just wanted to give in. I quit cold turkey as of Monday after 4 weeks and have really struggled with the thoughts and anxiety. I’m terrified to try a new medicine, but I know I cant keep living like this. I’m hoping this platform helps and I finally have some relief! I have never been suicidal so the fact that these are my thoughts now scare the hell out of me because I don’t want to die or have people think I’m suicidal.