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I find that politics triggers my OCD, with how much every side tells you that you are responsible for every bad thing that happens if the other side wins.

So, I literally have no control over anything in my marriage. I never did. This week I took my daughter to a specialist after getting injured playing sports and then my husband insisted he was getting a second opinion. The second opinion was in agreement with the first doctor I took her to. He texted me that he told doctor he needed to discuss the appointment with me but what he really did was schedule a surgery behond my back when I already had scheduled a surgery. He knows nothing ago it then doctor I took her to but of course his doctor was better. He does this with everything in your lives abd when he does thibgs like this I can see my OCD symptoms escalate! I want to run and errabd and our cat would not start....(third time in a month) and I asked my husband when he-d be back from getting battery checked and he told my so neighbor outside could gear, "I DONT know. I don't havecOCD!" Then he sorta,looked at the neighbor. I took an anxiety pill cuz I felt so upset. I needed money from.bank and errands to run abd HE told me I waited till last minute. So how was I to know they car would not start??? He makes all decisions and blames me when things don't work out! Is he my trigger???? I cannot take being treated like some loser which by the way is just one of his NAMES for me! Can a person be a trigger? I really feel.like I am allergic to him!!!

as soon as i see a girl looking slightly masculine or have tattoos my brain goes she’s gay and then my brain says the fact that you can tell she is gay means you are gay as other gay people can tell when someone else is also… anyone get this?

How have you dealt with this? OCD definitely has affected my relationship but he’s been and stayed with me for over a year and a breakup hasn’t happened. Yet in my mind I’m not worthy of a relationship because of my mental health. Help?

Hey y'all, I've been noticing a lot of people on here are religious. It's been years since I've been religious myself, and I'm just curious as to whether it helps and how it helps with OCD.

Does anybody have any advice for how to help your partner cope with your anxiety? It causes a lot of tension and fight or flight feelings in my partner and it’s clearly very distressing for him. I don’t want him to feel anxious because I am.

TW (SEXUAL TRAUMA AND FIGHTING AGAINST SU1CID4L THOUGHTS) My POCD hit me hard with a relapse and my brain will not shut up about if I need to delete myself. I don't want to, but my brain is telling me I should, that no pedo, offending or not should live. I don't want to do it to my friends and family. I just wish I could feel relief from all this guilt. It hurts so bad. I don't want to die, I didn't ask for this even if it wasn't OCD. I feel terrible and like if I try to be okay and not condemn myself for these thoughts that I'm throwing away my morality. I have kinks and fetishes that are related to my traumatic childhood, I don't want these fetishes and kinks, but I know I like them. OCD latched on and demanded to know if I would want to watch something worse, something illegal, if I am a pedo because of how my sexuality was twisted and broken at that age. I talked with a sexual trauma informed therapist and explained everything and she said that she didn't think I was a danger or that what I liked was wrong or dangerous. She said it was probably my brain trying to make sense of what happened and cope by giving me control back. Still my OCD is operating in black and white, pure or evil. The fact my kinks are too close to something amoral, illegal and bad that I basically am that horrible bad person. That the only thing holding me back is my OCD and without the condemnation and panic, I'd go feral and hurt someone, an animal or a child. I don't want to hurt ANYONE. God forbid like that. I hate how my sexuality has been damaged. I'm actually terrified of sex, I can't even put a tampon in without crying. I still feel so guilty finding the things I do attractive and am scared I'll find other things attractive that are actually bad. My OCD is demanding to know if I deserve to live. And I want to live, i don't want to die. But my OCD says I deserve it and that I'm evil. It won't shut up. I just want to be pure again even though that's not true and a social construct. I feel guilty and worried anyone who knew about what I like would think I deserved the worst punishment in history. I just needed to vent this out. For the record I am NOT going to delete myself. I won't. My OCD is trying to make me give it an answer as to why I deserve to live.

Tw???! I started thinking about a time where I said that I wanted to or wondered of I would date a certain character that was a villian but he looked and acted like a kid and basically is a KID but I was so confused and scared but when I said that type of thing for whatever I said people like the fans said things like “Isn't that a child?!” or “that’s a child” and something like that. And now I feel like I'm a horrible person and even then I felt so ashamed and embarrassed that I actually said that or whatever I said. I deleted it and everything and I don't want to be seen that way I don't want to become like that but it still haunts me. I think I actually did want to date the character but I’m literally NOT physically attracted AT ALL to the character physically with his form or disguise if you want to know which character it’s pride from the anime fmab. I don’t know why it suddenly still scares me. Even though that’s not me. Like I know it made me sound like a creep or weirdo but I genuinely feel guilty and like I did something terrible!! But I didn’t I just basically shared a thought that I shouldn’t have shared. So I guess that’s why I also now feel like if I do or don’t have ocd. I mean I always feel disgusted and ashamed if I get intrusive thoughts like this and I do feel disgusted and ashamed it doesn’t matter if the kid is fictional or real I still feel disgusted and ashamed I want to throw up or trap myself in my attic or turn myself in just because of this now I can’t roleplay with a character like this or act I also do theatre so it’s been even hard for me too do anything because of this. I can’t even get to a psychiatrist and that’s why while I’m waiting to get into one I’m still dwelling on this😭 This scares me so fucking bad. Please help me.

tl;dr // I feel like my ocd has latched onto the idea of "dont go to bed angry, you never know what could happen and tomorrow isnt promised." and it's really messing with me. One day in high school, my seinor year, I was getting on the bus and I told myself it was going to be a good day.I remeber the morning so vividly. I was listening to my favorite musical at the time and I was practicing trying to be mindful and speak positively at the start of my day to try and have a more positive outlook (a tip I probably got from some instagram info graphic or podcast). That same day, probably in my first or second period, my mom pulled me out of school, frantic, saying that my grandpa had been hospitalized and was critical. We were terrified and we made the 5 hour drive up there. days later, he passed away. I was convinced that me, for the first time, trying to convince myself to have a positive day, somehow influenced the events that led up to my grandfather passing away. I knew then what I know now: words and thoughts cannot manifest real events to happen. I know this, and yet I still catch myself when I think "I'm having a really good day" and hoping I dont jinx myself. All this to say, this type of theme has crept back a little bit today. I got into an argument with my boyfriend. In the middle of it, I got a flood of thoughts saying that since I'm being an ass and bringing up these serious problems that "something bad is going to happen to him at work tomorrow or in his sleep or what if he kills himself or what if there is some freak accident?? You need to apologize for having started the argument and we need to end things better because if not you'll feel guilty and full of regret if something happens, which it will." I told him about it and we apologized to each other and he understood what was happening. we then had a better conversation and we talked and I'm more okay with how things ended until the next time we can pick up the conversation. I think me immediately bringing the argument to a halt because of those thoughts was a compulsion. I also asked him before he fell asleep, if tomorrow could he text me periodically to let me know he is okay, which i also think is reassurance seeking. I recognize this, yet it still feels very necessary and very dangerous if it doesn't happen. how do I even go about trying to find peace with the existence of these thoughts feeling so terrifying and real because of what happened with my grandfather?

Im so depressed... and I feel alone... theres no hope... My pocd keeps saying that my worst fear of unknowingly cybering with a minor has actually happened and it's really triggering the hell out of me... I feel so horrible...My pocd keeps saying I "unknowingly erotically role played with a minor" when idek if this actually happened or not... this was nearly three years ago... (september of 2021) for context we were erotically role playing on an 18+ discord server, (she wasnt verified, but I assumed she was 18+ because we were on an 18+ place) and then she suddenly stopped responding, before leaving the server shortly after an unknown time... im so freaking anxious and scared... her grammar was fine at first, but then as we were going on, she kept making errors like "boxer" or "then" instead of "than"... my pocd keeps saying that I "UNKNOWINGLY EROTICALLY ROLEPLAYED WITH A MINOR" when idek if this happened or not... some people told me she sounds like/is a young adult... chatGPT tells me she sounded like a teenager... I genuinely dont know what to believe anymore... (these two photos are from her account, and the beginning of our ERP... I hope she wasnt a teenager... I really hope she wasnt...)

my friend told me that she and her boyfriend have been nasty texting, she’s 15 and he’s 17, and I got so uncomfortable because it’s really wrong, and illegal, but I’m afraid what if I gave the wrong advice and people don’t actually care? I mean kids actually go to court for this

Can anyone share their experience with alternatives to pharmaceutical, eg naturopath et al. Cheers

Today I had one of the worst episodes of my harm OCD. I woke up from a nap and was in a derealization state. Then my harm OCD told me I was going to snap and loose control and that I craved it. I was disgusted with my self and started to cry and have a panic attack. I was convinced that I’m a bad person and has murderous intent towards my parents who I love so much. It was so real that I legitimately got terrified. Once I calmed down, I feel very guilty now and feel like I am a bad person and one day I will snap. I don’t want to hurt my parents at all but my mind tells me otherwise sometimes. It’s a living hell. Even right now I’m suffering an anxiety attack and even question if it is OCD or if I’m legit just going crazy. I have almost convinced my self that I’m just a nut job waiting to snap. I just started my OCD medication and therapy but I wish it could all just go away

So I feel like recently I've been getting over my Sexual Orientation OCD Theme. Either that or I've just been kinda tired of the thoughts for now lol. I still worry about it but I'm just kinda lazy to worry about that in the moment haha. Cause I've been loosing sleep over that. Anyways I had this tans-Ocd theme pop up like 2 months ago but it lasted like maybe a week and the SOOCD was just more prominent so that's what has been stressing me out recently. But the Transgender theme is back again and it stressed me out when I had that thought not too long ago. It's cause I was taking pictures of myself. Like Selfies because I think I look attractive and I like giving myself some self confidence you know? Plus I take pics of myself to use for drawing references. I like to draw and crafty etc. So it's the art within haha. Anyways. I was looking at my pictures and observing them etc. And I notice that I have like guy features? Idk how to explain it but sometimes I can see the small male features on my face or whatever you'd identify as male features. But then I had a thought like oh I'd look good as a guy. And it like raced my heart. And that's how it happened last time when this Theme popped up. I think I was tryna like pop a pimple and was looking at my face and I noticed some male features. And that's how it started too before. But now I'm just worried like what if I wanna be trans or something? And now when I think about wearing girly clothes it's like my brain doesn't want it?? Idk how to explain it. But growing up i was a bit of a tom boy because I only have brothers so I just felt more comfortable dressing up that way. But I always wanted to dress more feminine as a girl but I think I just felt uncomfortable doing so because I wanted to fit in I guess? Like I wanted to wear the girl stuff but I'd always resort to wearing a graphic T and whatever because I didn't have to try looking feminine cause I was insecure or just idk felt awkward I guess. But I'm so confused tho cause I always wanted to be the princess, I always wanted to be the girl in Fan stories or idk you know? Like I loved always reading Fan fiction LMFAO and I was always the girl cause I wanted the guy to date me LMFAOOOO. But anyways yeah idk. My bf has mentioned sometimes he'd think about it too but as a normal thought. But idk. I'm also into games and comics or like TMNT etc. and more boyish things as well? Cause that's what I grew up with so I'm just familiar with that but I also loved Disney princess and stuff. But now I just feel fake and don't know what I am now? Like was I forcing myself to like those girl things cause I was a girl growing up in a society where girls only like girl things and vice versa?l Or was it cause I actually enjoyed it but was a lil embarrassed cause I was the only girl growing up. UGHHHhh Plus I remember I didn't wear make up through out high school or not much now cause I always believed in natural beauty and stuff cause I remember always being told I have to wear this cause of this ans that. Or when there was times I wanted to wear a skirt or dress I always wanted to wear my converse but then get told I can't wear shoes with a dress so then I just stopped lmfao. But now I do wear skirts here and there but now I just feel awkward. Anyways I just have this Theme and it's stressing me out if I'm in some sort of denial I'm trans or something? Nothing against Trans people, I support those who are. It's just more like a identity crisis cause my brain is just going and going. I just wanted to know if anyone has gone through something similar or had the same experience? Thank you for anyone who replies!

I’m just looking for some hobbies to keep myself busy. I currently play guitar and go to the gym but I cut my fingers playing guitar today in class and idk how much longer my moms gonna be able to afford my gym membership with my trainer so I’m just looking for things to do. Videos games drawing and watching movies don’t really interest me I like physical stuff a lot more and I’ve been thinking about getting involved in after school clubs but I’m mainly focused on hobbies for the weekend so I’m not bored out of my mind going crazy from intrusive thoughts so any suggestions help

I feel like im loosing my mind. I feel like i experience derealization or what. I feel confused like very very confused. I cant even think normally. Im just tired. I feel like im loosing myself. Im scared that everyone tells me that i have OCD, but what if this is all true? I dont think and im scared that other so-ocd sufferers dont feel this way as i do. I feel literally, LITERALLY so convinced that this must be true. It feels like i already accepted that this is true. Im done. My brain is broken. I even started to have thoughts like what if i have schizophrenia or dissociative identity disorder. Help me please. Do i have psychosis or what?

I have been taking Prozac 40mg daily it seems to be helping my ocd . I read that 60-80 mg has seemed to help people more with ocd Wondering if anyone has any experience with this. Thanks

I have a contamination fear but what really bothers me as that I take souch e tea time getting cleaning done. I know with a contamination fear people might think that my home and everything is just super clean, etc. However, that is not the case. The reasons is because there are things in my own home that worry me and I either avoid them a much as I can or take forever when I am cleaning. Does anyone have this issue facing them? I wantba n I e house. I really do but to ve honest I never wanted this house. But in the beginning I feel I kept a tidy house but the more I worry about in mynhouse the less work I get done or if I get it done..it TAKES a long time to do it!!! Any help?????? If I wasxnit

i think i'm past the point of no return. I can't possibly justify what happened this time. I tested for attraction and I imagined a scenario and I think that I felt attraction or that I found it attractive. I can't tolerate this. I don't know what to do. I feel that this time was undeniable. I felt an immediate spike of anxiety.

Everything feels so real. I think learning about non-offending pedophiles has really screwed with me. I feel like I’m not even doing compulsions anymore like I genuinely cannot remember if I do them or not and the groinal responses are messing with me. I keep having intrusive dreams and I’m in that half asleep state and I feel nothing after that or I feel weird like a good weird, I don’t know. It’s a really weird feeling when I get those thoughts but I don’t like them, I don’t think. All I know is, I keep seeking reassurance and I feel like I don’t have OCD because the way I feel, like the way I get worked up isn’t the same as others. Whenever I try to watch a show, like 9-1-1 or daily dose of sunshine, I feel like I’m watching something I shouldn’t be. Or if I’m just on my phone, I feel like something is going to happen. I feel red flags whenever I’m on my phone, like somehow cp will appear. I know that OCD is the doubting disorder but my god, this is just crazy. I feel like I’m going crazy. Everything is just nonstop, it’s so constant and I’m genuinely scared that I’ll do something when I get out of my room. I don’t know anymore, this whole OCD thing is just making me lose my mind.