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hello! i just wanted to share a little progress/ good insight on my HOCD :) lately, i’ve been struggling with the thought of “what if i’m a lesbian? even though i thought i was boy crazy all my life, what if i was doing it to male validation? was it comphet?” and i started to reevaluate all my past feelings for men. after going through the most significant ones in my life, i noticed a pattern in how distorted the interpretation of my thoughts were. aka, i saw how my HOCD didn’t make any sense! and i reminded myself that it was my OCD acting up, and i almost laughed and thought to myself “damn, HOCD, you almost had me there” 😂 and with that sense of humor i felt some relief! like with my first crush, i remember the way he made me feel even though i was a little kid! i would feel so excited to see him, feel so shy and have butterflies around him, and i would want to spend time with him and imagine being romantic with him... but then my ROCD makes me think i’m not attracted to men?? LOL then in middle school, i did have “boyfriends” just to have a boyfriend, but when i think about my middle school boyfriend that i really liked, i know being with him wasnt for male validation. i actually wanted to be with him! then when i remember seeing him in the hallway for the first time, those great feelings of infatuation came up! my OCD made me think i only liked the idea of him, but he was different from the others. i really did like him! then in high school, my boyfriend had a crush on me and was the one who approached me. my OCD mind made me think i only liked him because he liked me first, but then i remembered how i felt when other people liked me, but i didn’t share those same feelings. with this boyfriend, it was different. i know i really liked being with him! i loved spending time with him. then in college, i did kinda fall in love with one person because of the idea of him. and even though the relationship had many bad points, i could rationalize through it calmly, not like how my OCD is attacking my brain now! and i know that with my current partner, ROCD hit me when i was at my happiest with him. the thoughts literally made no sense rationally, but i always kept telling myself, they have to mean something if they’re here! but they don’t. they’re just thoughts, and i am choosing not to believe them. i still get worried about how real my intrusive thoughts and ocd urges feel, especially if i’m around my partner, but the moments i feel really loved and connected with him feel 100% real too ❤️🥰 and now i’m realizing i’ve had many boyfriends LOL and i’ve never seriously had those thoughts and feelings about a girl. just identity or friend crushes, people i thought were cool and wanted to be more like! it’s funny how your OCD makes you question things you were so sure about and never really considered, but when you’re in that OCD cycle, it feels so hard to get out of it, but progress is possible!! also, my friend who sees an OCD specialist said to set an alarm every hour (if possible), and think about intrusive thoughts for 10-20 seconds, and then go on to normal thoughts (like whats for dinner? what are my plans for today?) etc! it’s different from suppression bc you know the thoughts are there, but you don’t ruminate and allow it to stop you from enjoying your day!

Hello i don’t know if this is rocd because i have not consulted a therapist yet. I wanna share my thoughts because i cannot talk about this to anyone and i don’t want to confess everything to my boyfriend because it makes me feel relieved only for a short time.

Is this reassurance or research? So as a Christian I try to do what pleases God but I have OCD and it gots my vision so sometimes I want to look up stuff like for instance as a Christian should I make art or spend my time on something else like ministering to the homeless. If I looked up peoples opinions would that be seeking reassurance?

Struggling with my partner not following basuc infection control. One example. I. Like to use 1 cloth for drying hands and one cloth for drying countertoos after antibacing(well I like to let the countertoops dry themselves to allow the surface cleaner to work but my partner insists on drying them). My. Partner will wash.her hands then dry them then use same cloth.for counters. This is driving me mad but when I say to her. About it. She ignores me and acts like It's erp for ocd. Personally this grates me and makes me angry as its not ocd it's just basic hygiene. But she won't have it. I've even suggested using paper towels.for her hands but again she ignored me. She just sees everything as my ocd. I'm quite pissed off today. She won't even d8scuss it as she she's it as ocd and I'm criticising her

Hello does anyone have any tips on overcoming trans ocd?

i... just misgendered one of my friends and i’ve never felt so horrible in my life. since we’re online friends, i’ve only seen their face and since they looked like a girl.. i thought they were a girl.. and.. i accidentally misgendered him. i feel like crying right now.

someone please give me advice. what would you do in my situation. i keep getting transphobic intrusive thoughts... and my boyfriend is trans... my head keeps trying to misgender him and i love him to pieces. i was never like this before.. the thoughts are so ugly and disgusting and i don’t want to give up on him or us. what would you do in my situation. i just want to keep him safe and when i get thoughts like these i feel beyond terrible and confused about myself. please only respond if you’re accepting. no transphobic comments will be tolerated. i’m already frightened as it is and ignorance doesn’t help

I have this problem when I wake up for school I feel like I need to take a 💩 sorry if it grossed u out but then i will get nervous in school sometimes and I still needing to let a fart out and it’s embarrassing farting so I hold it in the anxiety of holding it in just increases and idk what is this problem someone help me I have school tomorrow and it’s destroying me

Has anyone experienced OCD being passed along from a parent who has an undiagnosed issue? I’m realizing I probably have OCD because my mother has untreated anxiety that she continues to pass along to me. I’m in therapy working on contamination/responsibility OCD, and it was going so well until my mother told me I’m getting “too relaxed” with COVID going on. For context, my OCD since the pandemic started has been absolutely crippling. I live alone and I didn’t leave the house for months. Not for walks, not for groceries, not for anything. I was absolutely miserable and at my wit’s end. Now that I’m in therapy, I’ve been doing so much better. I’ve been talking walks and even seeing friends (6 feet apart, outdoors, with masks on). Now my mother is unraveling all my progress. She saw my dad and I sitting outside in the backyard, about 10 feet apart. My dad wasn’t wearing a mask because he was eating. I was wearing my mask and keeping my distance. My mother went berserk and told me I’m “too lax” and that I should have scolded my dad, and that I shouldn’t have been “so close.” This is the kind of thinking that kept me in the house, questioning the point of life. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I was making so much progress and I feel like it’s all totally undone and I never want to leave the house again. And my parents are the only people I see regularly at this point so to avoid my mother would be difficult, not to mention hard on my dad. Just wondering if anyone can relate to anything like this, or if anyone has any advice. Thank you.

I don’t understand why my mind keeps accusing me of this. I acted on a compulsion and saw videos of gay people knowing they were gay. They always knew but for me the only time I’ve ever been attracted has been to women. Even now my mind is saying that I’ve forced myself to like women. I wish I could just end this all already and be happy with my sexuality. I still only feel attracted to women but my can’t let it go. I feel horrible for my girlfriend because I don’t want to lose her. I wish I was single so I could suffer alone. I was told by a bisexual man that I would fuck a man if I was drunk. I’m so scared to even consider drinking at this point. Ever since I was kid I loved women but now my mind is bringing up things and saying a kid I noticed that was a guy means I liked him and wanted him even though I actually only liked his sister. I slightly wanna cry but my girlfriend lives with me so I just walk around with this sadness. I wish I could just stop so badly. It’s convincing I’m denial and I can’t even notice another guy right now with out getting a wave of anxiety. I wish my therapy session wasn’t so far from now. I want to start so badly. I want to learn how to combat these thoughts so badly.

omg i caved and did a compulsion. i googled a comphet subreddit. not feeling great rn. one person said that there’s a type of attraction where you are attracted to someone because they are attracted to you, and i kinda related to that. like when i think about being w a guy, it turns me on when i think of him being turned on by me if yk what i mean? so now i’m wondering if i’m comphet :(. and they kept on mentioning a “masterdoc” so now i’m really tempted to read it to test if i relate to that, but i’m going to try not to because i think that’s a compulsion/seeking reassurance.

Question to those who have taken ssri or any other medication for ocd. Did they help you with the obsessive thoughts becoming less frequent? My therapist who I was seeing said they can lessen the frequency. I started with prozac back in May but it scared me cause it raised my anxiety and the suicidal thoughts so I've been against them ever since. I was seeing a therapist but she wasn't erp trained and I wanted to give erp a fair shot before considering medications. I start erp soon just waiting to hear from the NOCD therapist. Sorry long post.

This morning I was wiping my daughter and I felt like I saw some additional poop so I went to wipe her again but wasn’t sure if I wiped her private area and was almost scared that the poop was in the private area. Now after that I’ve been ruminating that I just did it on purpose to like touch her private area. This sounds like just a fear response or my brain doing what I hate but is this common? Trying to plan an exposure for this and cut the ruminating out.

Someone on here just told me that I might be a gay person with internalized homophobia and I literally had a panic attack to the point where I started crying. I’ve never wanted to be with a woman but I have forced myself to imagine them sexually and romantically so that I can gain certainty (this causes distress and disgust). They said this after I told them that I had an intrusive thought about a woman being hot when they did something (this thought came out of the blue and I felt EXTREMELY uncomfortable). Please note that I’ve never EVER had a thought like this about a woman before. My problems started because I accidentally looked at someone on a TV screen after looking up from my phone. I’ve never once had a thought like this so I wasn’t sure whether my mind was playing tricks on me or not. Either way, someone told me that I must be suffering from internalized homophobia and I became VERY agitated; I couldn’t move, I kept googling for reassurance, I started to panic and I began to cry. Now they’ve convinced me that I no longer have HOCD and I am so frightened. I don’t care what others think because my friends and family aren’t bothered either way. Personally, I just don’t want to be. Has anyone else had a thought saying someone’s hot (someone they don’t actually want to be romantically or sexually involved with)? Is this my mind playing tricks on me? Is this person correct? I need some guidance because it’s not about reassurance anymore. It’s about understanding whether I need therapy or whether I’m lying to myself. I’m honestly so distressed.

I'd like to ask for your advice about how to react to people with SOOCD when they're saying really extreme things? Don't get me wrong, I know that SOOCD and internalized homophibia are very different things, I'm only talking about the few cases where the two seem to coexist together? I'm always open to changing my perspective, I'm just trying to find the right thing to do, because I want to help people and don't want to make them more stressed when they already are, but how can I hold my tongue when they're saying they'd rather be dead than gay? Or talking about it with such disgust as if it's some perversion. I'm bi and lucky to live in a kind environment but other people aren't so lucky, some people actually commit suicide because they aren't accepted, so how am I supposed to react to this kind of thing? I'm keeping an open mind and not trying to attack anyone, just wondering where we draw the line?

Last month I was sexually assaulted by a friend. I have been dating my bf for 4 years. I told my bf immediately when I found out, but when I found out the truth about what happened to me while I was passed out drunk that night, my OCD flared out of control. I was definitely having symptoms of PTSD before my friend had told me what happened. I had a flashback to him on top of me, and that's all I remembered. I had thrown the clothes I wore in the wash already so I can not use them as evidence. I didnt get a rape kit done, but I had a physical last week and I am clean of any STDs or STIs thankfully. And he apparently used a condom. Now I am constantly having intrusive thoughts about that night and how my boyfriend views me now. He said he loves me and wants to do whatever he can to help me heal, but my OCD monster keeps trying to tell me that he is only here because he feels bad for me. My bf was not there the night I was assaulted, and he feels guilty that he should have been there to protect me. I feel unlovable and like I have zero confidence now. My skin picking and hair plucking OCD is worse than ever, I cant calm myself without using some sort of meditation/hypnosis. I am working through therapy every week. I just want this feeling to be over. I keep reliving that night having intense intrusive thoughts about if I "wanted it", how I could have prevented this, how could I let this happen to me, and that I deserved this somehow. As if this is karma for bad things my OCD has driven me to do in the past while I had obsessive episodes.

. . . hi guys help me with some advice. I can't stop moving my lower jaw under the bill for a week. how can I help myself? this summer and autumn, OCD became very acute. the psychiatrist prescribed venlafaxine. It doesn't help. there are also many compulsions and rituals. Obsessions with 8 years ... damn, anyone. Reply.

i had my first therapy session today and for some reason i actually feel a little worse because i’ve come up with even more intrusive thoughts. can anyone in therapy tell me if it’s supposed to get worse at first?

I have a biopsy in a weeks time and have contamination ocd. I have what I consider a valid concern around getting sick right now. I've been having pain in my neck and chest since April. Through a series of delayed tests because of the pandemic, we discovered a large mass growing on my thyroid. Obviously cancer crosses my mind a lot. My biopsy is next week but I have been waiting quite a while for it due to backlogs from the pandemic. My fear is that if I even so much as catch a cold, I wont be let in for my biopsy because those symptoms are likened to covid. And I would have to wait months more for a new biopsy scheduling once again due to the pandemic. My parents came for a visit today and I asked them to please wear masks. This is the first time I have asked them to do that but because I feel the utmost need to stay healthy I requested it. They got really angry with me and told me they had brought coffee they wanted to drink because so they could t wear masks. I compromised and said well, like at a restaurant, dont wear it while you are drinking coffee, but wear it otherwise. When we got in the yard, they sat their with their coffees, not drinking, and not wearing the mask either. Unmasked, my father started to yell at me that my ocd was too much, the mask makes him feel like hes in a cage, and that he just wanted to drink his coffee. I was very very hurt, started crying and demanded they leave. I really cannot handle unmasked shouting since shouting sends droplets further. My mum had already gone before I even asked because she could tell the visit was heading south, but my dad yelled at me unmasked for quite a while until I gave up and went in the house. They then left. I think my ocd about the germs will kick in tonight or tomorrow but the hardest thing right now is the absolute disregard for my biopsy appointment. If things had been the other way, and my dad had been sick for months with an appointment coming up, and we went over there unmasked and yelling they would have been livid. He gets offended that I treat everyone including them as if they might have covid. I dont understand the offense. It's not like a stigma....no onecatches covid by doing something disgusting. It just happens if we are out in public and unlucky enough to be by someone who is contagious. I feel so deeply hurt that his coffee trumped my biopsy that I have been waiting months and months for and if I even get the sniffles, I could face waiting months and months longer for. It truly truly hurts me. I'm not seeking reassurance about.illness, but I didnt think I was being that unreasonable. Just last week we had an unmasked visit. I never ask.them for masks. Just this once since this is such an important appointment for me and in a pandemic, a hospital wont let me in if I have new symptoms of even a cold. Why is a coffee so much more important than that? I'm their only daughter and a mask and coffee really made them fly off the handle. Was I so wrong to ask for that? It really seems reasonable to me given the circumstances.