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this lady summed up erp to me as this: imagine a cold deep pool of water. you dip your toe in and take it out because it is freezing. the same is for erp because it is cold at first and we don’t want to jump in (be exposed to our fears). Then, we have had enough of being outside of the pool (suffering from ocd) and decide to jump in and give it a shot (start erp). At first it is cold and makes us want to get back out (erp gets worse before it gets better and we want to reassure ourselves). But over time we warm up and get better (the outcome of erp).

Im on 350mg Zoloft and 2mg twice daily Risperidone for my false memory harm ocd i have a fear that i commented said violent threats on paper or online on social media

I hate to admit it but last night I caved and looked stuff up for reassurance. I was dead inside last night and on the verge of completely breaking down. I still don’t know when exactly I’m starting therapy. I actually managed to find some stuff that made me feel a little bit better, but here’s the problem: I took some screenshots of what I found and keep looking back at them when I start feeling bad. Is this a compulsion? Reassurance?

I had to quit my job because i got thoughts and false memories that i wrote down violent threats about my workplace on papers and signed my name signature on the threats and put it in the desk drawers and when they would find it i would get locked up for the threats, i am now on 350mg zoloft and 2mg twice daily Risperidone, my therapist told me to say those thoughts are not me

Can anyone relate or give me some advice..I tried to do some erp and I read the article on comphet and I related to several of the "signs" on there. I also read an article about how a woman who was married to a man for 12 years had an awakening and realized she was attracted to women and divorced her husband to find a girlfriend. Also how most straight girls can't imagine themselves being sexual with another woman or they get grossed out/uncomfortable and that doesn't happen to me. I don't necessarily like it or get turned on by it but I feel like "whatever" about it...HOWEVER when I also think about me being sexual with a guy I don't get all hot and bothered and have sexual thoughts about a guy and crave it like most women do...I'm really scared about this

I have been dealing with harm ocd! I have not been diagnosed with ocd but my therapist thinks I have it. Anyways I’ve never had bad thoughts about killing. I got them back in January and it wasn’t killing it was more like what if something bad happening to my family and it went away in two days because I was going to school. Ever since quarantine started my horrible thoughts came back! We have a machete in the kitchen closet for protection in case a burglar breaks in. I’ve always known that since I was little. Recently I remembered we have one and I got so scared. My mind was like “what if I lose control and hurt them with it” every single day I wake up in scared that at night I will be convinced by my thoughts and act on it! It’s so stressful I’m so scared. I love my family more than anything. My brain tricks me so much it tells me “you don’t love them” “do it” “hurt them” “I want to”. I always try to spend time with them and whenever they talk about future plans that they want to do i get so scared that my brain is gonna say “they will be dead because of me before they can do future plans” it’s so so so so scary!

I have a question, if you identify as bisexual can you feel sexual atraction for one gender ? But romantically atraction to the other? I'm scared that i don't like men, i really want to have a relationship with a man but I feel that i don't have a sexual atraction and know I'm scared as hell.

I’m so fucking scared. Yesterday I took one antibiotic (minocycline) then I took two today. One before bed, though. Not a good idea. I’m on the verge of a panic attack, reading all these bad reviews on the medicine. Some people get lupus, DRESS syndrome etc. For me, I think my vision gets a bit blurry sometimes after using it. It’s 1am rn and I can’t sleep because I feel itchy and I’m really really hoping I don’t break out into hives or something since a lot of people said that was a side effect. I’m going to stop taking the meds tomorrow because I’d rather have acne than this constant anxiety over “is the medication going to kill me?” I feel like such an idiot. All of this just for clear skin? I’m not going to risk it. I can’t. I hate my mind and I hate my body and I hate that I have to choose between one. I really wish I could talk to someone right now.

I wanna confess so bad. I think I need to confess I feel horrible

health ocd- does anyone have advice that works for them on how to deal with it? physical and mental. sometimes i’ll just sit there and evaluate every physical feeling i am having and then other times feel like i’m going to lose it mentally ugh

I feel like such a monster. I wish I could get over this obsession but it seems to always be at the back of my mind. I know sexual experimentation is normal as a child, but what I did, I think goes beyond that. I was 10, and I put my little sister’s hand on my breast while she was sleeping. For my own sexual gain or curiosity, I don’t even know at this point. I don’t think I can ever let myself live this down. I’m so disgusting and terrible and I wish I could erase what I’ve done, I really do.

Hello everyone. It’s my first time on this app and I’m nervous and scared about my sexuality. I’ve identified as straight all my life. I’ve had numerous and countless girl crushes over the years and have never considered myself gay or bisexual in the slightest. But 4 months ago, my friend called me “sus” for knowing a gay scene from the movie Moonlight, and I haven’t been able to stop questioning and obsessing over my sexuality. As the months went by (4 months) I started to remember memories of my childhood which I’m terrified by. I’m remembering times when I had erections to things that were gay, like the Take me to Church music video and the Incredible Hulk game for the PS2. (Everytime the hulk took heavy damage, he would start heavily breathing. Keep in mind I was 8-9 when the hulk incident happened and 13-14 when the Take me to church video incident happened.) I would get erections to everything and anything that would be remotely sexual during those times, but the first thing I ever masturbated to was a woman, and have continued to do so for 6 years. I don’t have any hate or malice towards the LGBTQ+. If people want to be married to the person they love, then what’s stopping them you know? I just don’t see the point in discrimination based on sexuality. But I don’t know what I am anymore. I know I want to be married to a woman and have kids and live the rest of my life with her, but this HOCD has been bringing out the worst in me like bringing up the past, provide groinal responses, and false attraction to boot. I don’t know if what I’m going through is OCD. I’ve been on Reddit, Psychforums, OCDaction, and anything that could help me find out a lot at to prove if what I have is HOCD or not. I’ve spent countless hours ruminating and going on forums and websites to prove that I’m straight. Please help me. I don’t want to be gay or bisexual. Not because of any social stigmas or public repercussions, but because it feels right by ME.

how can i learn to be okay with this. no one is truly helping me because they know im right and want me to suffer.

Therapy isn’t gonna help me. Nobody else in this world is real like me. They all just want to convince me that I’m crazy when I know what’s actually going on. My therapist is just gonna be another machine to mess with me. Why does it have to be me of all people stuck in a place like this? What did I do wrong?

Triggers I experienced yesterday: 1. Gronial responses 2. Hearing the word experiment over and over again 3. Hearing the phrase “I’m scared my mum won’t accept me,” and having a panic attack. 4. Scared that I’m giving off vibes because someone sent me the rainbow emoji 5. Scared that I fancied someone because I said they were pretty more than once. 6. Having intrusive thoughts over 6-7 individuals 7. Having panic attacks 8. Scared of bra advertisements 9. Having to watch videos with people in to make sure that I don’t fancy them 10. Analyzing intrusive thoughts 11. Worrying that my future self is trying to tell my present self that I am and I’ve accepted myself in the future 12. Loss of attraction 13. Scared that I watched movies because I fancied the actresses 14. Scared that the men I fancy may look feminine 15. Scared of rainbow objects 16. Urges that cause distress 17. Terrified if I don’t take my medication 18. A constant urge for reassurance 19. My brain telling me that I fancy everyone I see 20. Scared I’m going to look “in the wrong place.” 21. Disgust and discomfort when I imagine sexual or romantic relationships with women 22. Scared that people will think I am 23. Scared that I’ve done things in the past that I’m unaware of 24. Scared that I fancied people and was unaware.

I have been in treatment for over 2 years now for hocd perfectionist ocd and contamination ocd but I feel like I may be experiencing a new theme. I’ve slowly began obsessing about the idea I could be pregnant but don’t know it. This became much worse and I’ve been obsessing and compulsive and losing sleep over it bc my period is late by 4 days. I’ve reverted back to endless google searches trying to figure it out and ultimately can’t shake the thoughts or worry. Any helpful advice ???

Does anyone’s ocd make up statements in your head of ideas. It’s been saying to me I need to leave my wife and I’ve living a lie.

does anyone else suffer from being unable to think about anything besides death. death in general but especially suicide? i spend every waking moment of my life thinking of death or wishing for death. it’s just something i’ve gotten used to because i can’t do anything without voices in my head saying i want to die or i wish i was dead.

no no no no no no. omg i just remembered that about a month before ocd i drew a picture of things i hated about myself or that i was insecure about. i drew stuff like being too pale, or having really dark under eye circles, or being too skinny. but i also remember drawing the bi flag colors behind me. i drew them because it was something that i hated and made me sad. i never identified as bi, to myself or publicly. but a couple years ago i had like a month where i questioned my sexuality. i eventually stopped and forgot about that but from time to time i had the thoughts pop into my head. i think i drew the colors bc i was sad bc of the possibility of being bi and bc it scared me and i didn’t want it, not bc ik i was bi and i was insecure about it. ik it’s common for ocd sufferers to find “proof” that they are what they fear, but this isn’t just subtle things that could hint i was gay, this is literally me thinking about it enough to draw about it. i show almost every symptom of hocd tho, so i think i have it, and i’m going to get therapy soon to try to get a formal diagnosis, but fuck man, this is so much. a lot of ppl w hocd say they want to go back to how they were before, but i don’t bc that’s where all my proof comes from and it’s so triggering to me now. idk how much more proof i can find, or handle before i break. i’ve been thinking about this all day and it makes me physically cringe and repulse. fuck me, i want to start over as someone new, i fucked everything up before. this makes no sense sorry, but venting makes me feel better.

Starting to realize that OCD in the brain is like murk in the water. The murky water never settles and stays murky. Learning to let time pass, and let the murk in the water to settle so you can finally drink the clean water at the top is key. Our brain is like murky water when we entertain our thoughts or engage in compulsions, we never stop shaking the water and the murk never settles. And then we think because we don’t have the right tools, “well obviously I’m disgusted by these thoughts so yeah take that OCD it’s not true”, But in fact, that is like boiling the murky water. we think we are killing the germs by boiling them away, but the water is still murky except now it’s boiling and chaotic. That is our brain. We must find the right tools, exposures and response preventions, that will act like our water filter. Only then will the water stop being murky. Only then will we learn how to make clean water to drink.