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I have this disturbing terrible thought that I can't seem to shake any tips on how I can maybe overcome this? I'm trying to stay positive but the guilt and shame likes to take over 😔

Can ocd lead to depersonalization? This question is causing me anxiety. Because my ocd started last year. And sometimes it is worse and sometimes it is under control. I have never felt any of it's symptom. I didn't even know what it was. But as soon as I read about it I thought what if I have it. It is really hard to not think about it. In depersonalization a person fells that things around him are not real Or they are in a movie. I never felt anything like that. I know everything is real but iam stressing about it. Can someone tell how it feels like?

What to do when your mom thinks your thoughts are real that they really do mean you are something that you know deep down with all your heart that you are not. Last night she just kept calling me what I fear and that it's not OCD that it's just cleaning and checking. I feel so misunderstood and scared. I told her I wanted help and for her to just look it up that it's a actual thing. I don't know what to do. She doesn't understand that I don't want any of this I never wanted this. All she could say is that I'm going to end up in the Looney bin and that a psychiatrist would just label me. I need help 😭

Im freaking out rn, i searched «How to Know If ur lesbian» and most of What stood there was similar to me, and many of them said that they thought they liked boys but when they Got to experience boys they found out they didnt like them after all, and What If the same thing happens to me. Im so scared because Many of them Also said they were scared of being gay but then overtime Got used to it. Im literally so anxious rn

My partner has anxiety about driving so he doesn’t drive. People judge him on that a lot and it makes him insecure. My brain tells me you want a man that can drive... when I don’t care if he drives or not. But then my head compares him to his best friend who is the husband to my best friend. Saying of he drives don’t you wish your partner can drive!? 😞 so my brain is still attacking me.. when I got my license my brain is like your better than him.. I hate my brain so much.. I am so scared my relationship is gonna end.. I am having a panic attack that I can’t have sex with him again 😭😭 my head makes me feel ok about it but I know I am not... 😖😖

(Not OCD) - All of the guys in my friendship group have gone off to another group of girls. These other girls are prettier and more fun and I’m honestly very jealous of them! But overall I’m feeling quite defeated and insecure and upset. I feel like we’re just not good enough and we can’t compete. And idk what to do anymore. These are meant to be the best years of my life yet I’m having no fun.

Does anyone drinks alcohol to deal with the intrusive thoughts?

I’ve been compulsively masturbating to women for 5-6 years. My HOCD is making me think that I’ve been repressing my gayness by masturbating to only women, and lesbian porn. I would masturbate two to three times a day before this HOCD started.

hi y’all i’m currently feeling really stressed and a little down right now, but i hope everyone is doing well !

Fuck you OCD for making me doubting you and fearing the worst. Fml...

I am having trouble with erp. I feel like nothing in my head makes sense and my mind like can’t function or remember why I get triggered. I have good days and really bad days there’s no in between I go from 0 to 100. I get anal sensations and have acted on them and hate that I did. I have told myself that the anal sensations doesn’t mean I’m gay and I know I love women and always have. My mind always feels foggy

I told my dad I'd try my absolute best before deciding to drop out. And I feel as if I'm not trying enough. There's so much more I could do. But I can't even get myself out of bed to do it. I feel so guilty and shameful.

My mom doesn't believe me. She thinks I'm actually a p and I'm not. I haven't even done anything. Someone help me I'm scared. I feel so misunderstood. She just kept calling me one and screaming at me. I didn't even do anything 😭

My biggest fear is subtly molesting my daughter. Like not outright and blatantly, but like subtly. if that makes sense. Like taking advantage of diaper changes and baths for my own quiet sexual satisfaction. That is my biggest fear/obsession. My biggest compulsion is avoidance of washing her in the bath. My therapist says to wash her deliberately and slowly with no mental reviewing or thought suppression, or avoidance or anything. He even suggests purposely triggering groinals. I haven’t had the courage to do any of this. However the other night, I did. I thought I was going to wash her without any avoidance. But then my brain said “ooo yes take advantage of this situation. You can use this to get any weird urge you may have had in the past out of your system” and I didn’t have any anxiety about this thought, and I continued to wash her regardless. I feel terrible!!!! I’m overcome with so much guilt. I feel like these thoughts were the motivation behind my action. Where do you draw the line? I am so distressed.

I beat my OCD episode and this is how I did it. After this I’m done helping people. This is my last post. I hope you guys look into this. CBD, Prozac, family, less R-rated shows/News, working out, and No porn! Never got the chance to do ERP due to therapists switching me around. CBD and no porn goes a long way. Do this for 3 months. At 3 months the brain starts to form new pathways/emotions/thinking patterns. I got better in a little over 3 months. I had 80% of OCDs consuming me 24/7. It was hell and I thought I was going crazy. Couldn’t even look people in the eyes. It was traumatic. I went into a mental hospital. I’m scared of another episode happening so I’m still going to therapy to get more information. Any questions I will answer(:

Taking both my meds again. Prozac I was taking but I stopped risperidone. Being off it you can tell what a big difference it makes when they work together. I feel better. Medication isn’t for everyone. But if you choose to go down that path it’s not a bad thing. And you need to work towards finding what medication works best for you. This is mine. It took me years but it’s how I survive in a more practical manner.

Hello everyone. This is my first time doing NoFap and I’m nervous, anxious, and scared about my possible HOCD. I’ve had numerous girl crushes over the years and never once considered myself gay or bisexual in the slightest. But approximately 5 months ago, my friends called me “sus” for knowing a gay scene from the movie moonlight, and I have been nonstop questioning my sexuality and my identity obsessively. As the months went by, memories which I had long since forgotten had begun to suddenly re-emerge. I remember getting erections to everything since I was a child, but the two most terrifying instances of memory were when I had erections to the Incredible Hulk game when I was 8-9. Everytime the hulk took heavy damage, he would start heavily breathing, and I got an erection to that. I then found masturbating at the age of 11, to a woman masturbating, and continuously did so during 2 years, leading to masturbating to gay porn three or four times when I was the age of 13-14. It was there when I got an erection to the gay scenes from the take me to church music video. When I first had a crush on a girl at the age of 13-14, I began to get erections to only women, masturbated exclusively to women for the next 6 years (I’m 19 now) and most importantly, never watched gay porn ever again. In fact I was so terrified at the notion of being gay, that I tried my best to get out of situations with men in large groups (such as the locker room and the public restroom). I never questioned my sexuality however, because I only fell in love with many women during elementary, middle, and high school, and had even dated a woman in my junior year. Flash foward to five months ago. Me and my friends were looking at Netflix and stumbled across the movie moonlight, and I knew the movie because it was an academy award winning movie, and the fact it was made by A24, a company that I love very much. Anyways, we stumbled across the scene in question, and I pointed out the movie to my friends and they in turn called me “sus” for knowing what the movie was and what the scene was too. I became terrified and reassured my friends that I wasn’t gay, but the thought became engrained in my mind and I have been obsessively going on every OCD forum I can to make sure what I have is HOCD. I don’t want to be gay or bisexual. I would never be involved with a man romantically or sexually, but all the memories and false attractions, groinal responses, and intrusive thoughts make me question everything and anything related to this mess. I do not have any hate towards the LGBTQ+, I only respect and encourage their right for love, equality, and opportunity. I don’t want to be gay or bisexual because it doesn’t fit me as a person. It doesn’t sit right by me and It makes me anxious and nervous. I also experimented with a friend when I was 13-14. It involved intercourse but we never finished. That experience left me with nothing but disgust and shame for myself and I never repeated the action again. I even stopped being friends with him due to how much shame and disgust I felt for even participating in such a event. I truly don’t want to be gay or bisexual and I only have the upmost respect for the LGBTQ community. My HOCD keeps telling me that because I had these events, therefore I’m gay or bisexual when I don’t want to be.

Does anxeity bring on attraction?

my two friends keep hounding me about my sex life so today i lied to them about it and now i feel guilty mostly at how good at it i think i was and that they believed me ... part of me goes no way they believe me they think it was all a lie but i also hate them for pushing it so much they had done this a few years back and i just dont get the constant questioning...ironically they both lost their virginity later in life than a lot of my other friends so youd think they wouldnt need to press me about it so much but they do ... the thing is like my ocd centers around sexuality and i dont have much of a love life history to comment on but i dont like other people making me have to analyze it because i do that without their help and like they also ask how many men have i been with, how many men have i kissed, when was my first kiss, and when i give them names they are like last name? like no answer is enough for them its like every time i see them they never give up on these questions and i think its because they view me as this weird creature like they both are the types of girls where their sex life is the thing to talk about: blow jobs, swallowing or spitting, hand jobs, squirting all the things... they go all into that shit thats the stuff that makes them excited to talk and im like thats not me but i am someone who curses a lot and makes dirty jokes and over shares other parts of my life so in a way i see why they are probably confused and want to know but if i wanted to talk about it i would i just dont want to and i said that last night they were like so tell us about your freaky moments and i was like noooooo and its after they go into a lot of detail on their sex lives but they choose to they like it talking about sex gives them a sense of identity and power it makes them feel cool and im like i know you think or are suspicious that im a virgin and a prude but if you think that why do you want to out me? why cant we just be friends and you dont get all that info? im very good at talking about all other topics and it does make me spiral into my hocd, am i asexual obsessing, pocd all the shit because its like god i have to lie to make them think im "normal" but i hate lying ... what i tell myself to comfort myself while i lie is telling myself they have probably lied about their sex lives too in small ways like people like to play up things and make their love life seem way better than it is, and the reason im lying is because i dont trust them to not make fun of me they have made mutliple comments about what they think about adult virgins and they can just be catty and rude so its like no im sorry i wont tell you that stuff and you wont take no for an answer so here we are ... but now im sure this means i have a personality disorder or makes me evil or something like i dont enjoy having to do that i have other friends who like can be my friend without interrogating me about my love life if i make it clear that im okay and dont really have much to share we move on but these friends even with other stuff i feel they are rude and bad friends they have visited me and insulted my hometown, belittled a waittress in front of me over a dollar difference in the bill, constantly interrogate me about my love life and its always like they forget my experience level when they next see me and ask questions theyve already asked before about my love life and sex life in a way to figure out what i am and its in an obvious way where i can tell its because they talk about me when im not around probably debating what my sexual deal is, and when i talk about how i am on dates they say things like i cant imagine you on a date or having sex, anytime ive tripped and fell theyve laughed at me and fell on the floor laughing, one actually seriously not jokingly asked me if i was autistic because i was using my socks to spin on their kitchen floor (and it wasnt meant in a im worried or i think you might be which is cool it was like definitely said in a tone of something is wrong with you this is bad but that she definitely thought i was autistic), also my sister is on the spectrum so i dont view autism as something bad i just dont like how she said that to me, theyve made fun of my monotone voice and just have real issues with boundaries... ugh i need to vent... they have like good qualities too but everytime a moment like the ones i just listed happen i go are these people good friends but when they make me food or buy me dinner or rarely compliment me or send me jobs in case i need help finding a new one or give me supportive advice i go okay yeah youre too critical they are good friends but im like am i turning this into rocd or like what is happening... im also stuck with them for the next few days and i do have moments of fun while im with them for sure but then these moments of like get me the fuck out of here ... like one of them made out with her boyfriend on her car and was hurt i didnt wait for them to finish and ride in the car with them, and instead i went in her sisters car to give them alone time to makeout ... then later she turned it into a thing where like she thought i was weird for not being more comfortable with that situation and now whenever her boyfriend is around shes like are you okay with that and its like listen im not a prude making and pda is fine but i find it rude when you have a guest over to like makeout with your boyfriend on your car and expect them to wait for you to finish before driving to the established location... but i got over it and found a solution but somehow youre mad at me and think im the rude one for finding a solution that gave her privacy and me a chance to not look like a creepy third wheel... its just god yeah their thought process is annoying and im starting to think we are not compatible friends she also has this competitiveness to her when we were jogging together earlier today she had to go faster than me and then shame her sister for not trying more and its like i thought we were all jogging together ... ugh i hope no one reads this because i feel pathetic writing it

CAN SOMEBODY PLEASE ANSWER When I was younger (like 17/18) I met a girl who went to the same school as me and lived in the same town. She was younger than me. (like 14). I was so stupid to talk to her and become friends with her. I thought she was cute and all. She also liked me (which was very wrong) and right now (a couple years later) I'm ruminating on it. I have the fear of becoming a pedophile and I'm so scared this means that I become one. I used to chat with her, and one time when I drank too much, I told her that she was pretty and stuff. I've so much guilt around it and I feel so freaking bad. Is it normal if I liked a girl around her age that time? I'm so scared because of this, I'll have to go to jail??! I NEVER intended on more than that, she was just cute and nothing more.