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I really often have had those dreams where I somehow engage in something bad, like almost cheating with another person, but then I suddenly remember that Oh My God! I have my boyfriend. And I reject everyone else, not letting myself do the wrong thing (and I didn't even want to, it's not like forbidding something I wanted.) It's just like I forget about my relationship for a short time and then suddenly it hits me, and I feel fear that I am going to loose him because I almost was engaged in this bad thing, though it would have been an accident. What does this mean

Hi everybody, I want to apologize in advance for the long post. I’m new here and, to be honest, I’ve never been diagnosed with OCD or been in therapy at all, but I’m going through a very difficult time and am in search of answers. If it’s alright I’d like to start with some background. I remember as a child experiencing intense, recurring anxiety on several occasions. I spent a summer with my grandmother and had moments of total panic when I didn’t know where she was. I’d come downstairs, wouldn’t be able to find her (inevitably she was outside or in the garden), and I was convinced something horrible had happened to her until I was able to find her. A few years later I had an episode where I began to focus intensely on my breathing and convinced myself I wasn’t able to breathe properly. These episodes also recurred from time to time. In college I began a long battle with hypochondriasis, and would obsess over the feeling that I had cancer or other chronic illnesses. These episodes would leave me completely panic-stricken and depressed for weeks, unable to think about anything other than my fear of being gravely ill and not knowing it. Reassurance-seeking would always leave me feeling like I had more unanswered questions, and I began to recognize in myself a real fear of situations where I would not be in control. For a long time I accepted these episodes as intermittent interruptions in my life, but I find myself unable to do that now. Earlier this year I began to notice my anxiety and looping thoughts worsening. I would be driving, hit a bump in the road, and convince myself that I had hit and killed someone. Once the feeling was so unshakeable that I actually turned around, re-tracing my path to check that there was no one hurt lying in the road. Currently I’m in a very distressing cycle of intrusive sexual thoughts that seem to be triggered by specific types of movement, touch, and even by opening my mouth to eat or drink—anything that feels like it could possibly be part of an intimate experience. Along with this—and please tell me if you’ve experienced this—I find myself having obsessive thoughts about obsessive thoughts themselves: fear they will recur at the worst possible moments or that they will continue happening the exact same way, with the same frequency, for the rest of my life. I am weighing different therapy options currently, and really would love to hear from other people who understand what I’m going through or who might be able to offer some hope. I feel alone and unable to speak openly about what I’m going through with the people close to me.

my parents still treat me like a child i’m almost 18 . my parents have never liked my boyfriend from the beginning . we broke up for some time and for back together recently and i kept it from my parents bc of how they reacted when we first dated . our relationship has been great but i hate being home and he has always noticed that there were bad vibes in the house so he would come over but he never looked happy and i wasn’t happy either . we would have to stay on the couch and were not allowed to even touch each other . when i go to his house i can do whatever we can cook we can have fun . my mom said that i can go to his house once a week for 2 - 3 hours but i’m almost 18 and i’ve had those rules for years . she said if i want to be treated like an adult i have to act like one so i’m trying to show out , wash my clothes and such . i’m so annoyed . it makes me want to move out . bc they’ve been like that when i had friends too . i’m tired . i’m so tired

HAVE I DONE SOMETHING MORALLY WRONG ? Okay so what happened Is I was on a website on Meghan Markie and there was this innapropriate add of a naked woman without the details .i looked , went “oh shit “ and clicked out immediately. Then I had this thought “she was hot though” and a groinal . Then I was like “the face looked kinda youngish” , OH SHIT IS IT CP DID I LOOK AT CP? and then intrusive pictures of her and groinals . So I checked to make sure it’s not CP . And I found another add but it was on the bottom so idk if it’s the same woman . I mainly saw the body didn’t even get a good look at her face so idk if it’s her real face or just a mental image of her . I checked the website and the woman on the add was an adult but what if it was a different add ? I didn’t get a good look at the face !! It was kinda round . Woman can have a round face but so can 17 year olds ! Was she legal ? I’m so scared it was CP? She could be 18 she wasn’t obviously a minor or teen . Idk I’m very scared that she was a minor

PLEASE READ AND HELP. I HAVE NO IDEA IF IM GOING CRAZY OR IF ITS OCD. Guys I could really use some help right now. My theme of OCD if it even is, it that I’m developing some sort of mental disorder like bi polar or schizophrenia. With one of my themes I was high and then someone did something to trigger me going into a panic attack and had to leave and go home since I was freaking out so bad. My house usually is creaky, but for some reason while I was freaking out it seemed to be more intense than it usually is. I woke up the next day and didn’t feel like my usual self, I felt sort of in a dream like state but my anxiety was going through the roof. I spent that whole day for like 14 hours straight looking at mental disorders and all of this makes so much sense that maybe I’m developing schizophrenia since it usually occurs around my age and drug use does take a part in that. The next few days I began to analyze absolutely everything around me to make sure I wasn’t hearing things. I spent plenty of time checking to make sure the noises I was hearing existed. They were all just normal noises you’d hear but it was still causing lots of distress. After hanging out with a couple friends of mine and indulging in alcohol I felt sort of grounded when I woke up the day after. I spent the next 3 days hanging out with friends and indulging in drinking. I was still being observant at times but I wasn’t as stressed about it or scared. After yesterday when I got home after hanging out with one friend of mine (didn’t indulge in any alcohol), I got home and heard like noises in my room. Normal noises but it sort of triggered me into another complete panic attack and I was truly convinced I was actually going insane. It was raining and really windy outside and it was making a bunch of noises outside and my house creak and I can’t differentiate if the things I’m hearing are real or not. I feel the urge to continue researching constantly and check to make sure these noises are normal. There was only a couple times I thought maybe I was hearing voices, but from the most part i can rule out it was my grandparents downstairs talking but I couldn’t exactly bring out what they were saying exactly so it was stressful. Since last night I’ve been overly observing everything and seeing if I can concentrate hard enough that I can bring out these noises or just any voices or anything just so i know if I’m going crazy or not. I’m super scared of developing an illness like that which would effect me permanently and limit the things I’m capable of completing in my lifetime. I just really don’t want to go crazy or anything and I’m just so scared this is like the beginning of that happening. I’m not delusional or anything, or seeing visuals or any other hallucinations. For the most part I’m a pretty grounded person but I’m dealing with intense anxiety and stress along with a headache throughout the day. I don’t know if anyone else has ever dealt with anything like this and if so please help me. I’ve tried calling like 8 therapists for a consultation today but it is hard to find bookings or any that are financially reasonable.

question for Christians w ocd, how do u know if it’s God convicting you of something or ur ocd thoughts messing w you?

Guys i need help from the community in making an informed work decision.

Ugh i watched this Megan fox interview as ERP , she looks back at herself from when she was 14. In this movie she was wearing a very low neck top and I randomly glanced at her chest and then I glanced again being like “that’s a LOW top “. I feel like I did something horribly wrong . OCD says it sexual abuse .

I think my problem is that these intrusive thoughts scare me and that even giving them the power to scare me gives them meaning. When they are just thoughts and nothing more. They are just a random clip in our brain. It’s just so hard to practice letting them pass through and not let them affect me. And it’s especially hard when your OCD cripples you in fear 😞 Any tips or advice on how to just let the thoughts pass right through me and not instill me in fear?

I just read an article on Chris watts the guy who murdered his pregnant wife and two daughters and I’m scared. I’m finding myself comparing myself to what this article said about him. I find myself trying to be more empathetic because I don’t want my harm ocd to think it has an edge. I love people I love my family and I’ve always been this way I just hate this so much I want my brain before ocd back is that too much to ask for?

I’m entirely aware that it’s irresponsible to try to receive advice from anyone who is unqualified, but I’m at a loss at this point, and I’m just looking for guidance: So, I’ve never struggled with depression. I have definitely struggled with anxiety - but never ‘depression’. I’ve felt down as a result of my anxiety, but I was still able to feel happy to some degree. Recently, because of some external things going on, I have just felt awful. I have OCD, and then on top of that I feel like everybody hates me. I have friends, but I just feel like people don’t like me - even though they used to. It’s a long story, and I don’t have the energy to put it all here, and I’m sure people don’t have the energy to read. But I’ve felt miserable. I’m not sure whether it’s depression... I look online, but I can’t tell. Sometimes I feel amazing, and then other times I feel borderline suicidally miserable. I’m sure if I didn’t have the problems I’m experiencing I wouldn’t be dealing with this...

I may get a lot of hate for this but this is just my opinion: ERP is not for everyone and it is not the only solution to combating OCD. Exposure therapies for certain individuals such as myself is not the proper therapy. I recently did an exposure therapy and it only made things worse. I see a lot of stuff on here saying that it gets worse before it gets better but I’ve tried multiple times and it doesn’t work for me. I use talk therapy and CBT. I’ve had severe OCD, anxiety, ADD, and ADHD since I was 4 years old and have been on medication since the age of 4. My opinion is that why would I try and put myself in a situation that is uncomfortable if I’m not even thinking about the intrusive thought? It only makes it worse and brings underlying thoughts I never knew I had to the surface. I guess what I’m trying to say to everyone on here is that ERP isn’t the only way. People are treated successfully without ERP, so if you aren’t comfortable doing ERP don’t lose hope. There are other therapies and solutions out there. Medication and therapy does wonders even if it is ERP or not. You know what’s best for you and your mental health so don’t feel pressured into doing something you aren’t comfortable doing. It’s not the only way. You will get better you just gotta hang in there and keep your head up❤️

I curious to know an opinion who knows many cases of OCD or has experience in working with it. So, a couple of years ago I became strangely obsessed with my appearance. I found that something was wrong with me but it wasn't a specific feature, I didn't know what it was. I felt really uncomfortable in public and this lead to me avoing society. I just felt really awkward and like something was wrong with me. I googled 'How to know if you're beautiful/ugly' like million of times. Did tests. Asked my partner at the time a lot. Overviewed myself in every mirror. I tried to shoot a video of myself, where I moved my head so I can see myself in different angles. I tried to understand HOW I looked. And I couldn't. Also have had derealization at time I believe. Is this connected to OCD?

So i have harm OCD and my non ocd therapist was talking about paranoia and now it’s stuck in my head that maybe I am paranoid. Like having a sticky mind sucks. Because my intrusive thoughts are already harmful. Now I’m having this fabricated story that my wife is a spy...., I think I’m slowly going off the deep end

Every time I think I’m getting better, my ocd starts bringing up certain things that haven’t bothered me as much as other things. Then I feel like I have to find the answer to something or I can’t get better. Because then I’m only focused on figuring one thing out, and then after I figure it out, I can start getting better. It’s like I’m telling myself I need reassurance, or I won’t be able to recover.

I had 2 really good days where my OCD was practically non existent... now I’m back to spiraling. I hate this. I want to be normal.

Does anyone else have relationship ocd about everything their partner does? Like maybe if they talk too much you get annoyed and you think your not meant for each other? Or maybe after sex you feel down and then think it’s about your partner? Am I just crazy or does anyone else have thoughts like these. It never stops. Once I get over one, another one comes up. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with relationship ocd with erp?

Has anyone got tips for depression?

What do you guys think of Ali Greymond? I’ve watched some of her videos on YouTube but I don’t know if it’s evidence based or trustworthy. I’m just wondering what others opinions are.

Anyone else feel like there’s no hope left? Like with ROCD you don’t love them it’s just you’re having an unhealthy attachment rooted from childhood? Anyone else feel this way? :(