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This just must not be normal for someone with OCD. I have harmful thoughts and urges towards others, but I hate how lately it’s been like I can’t measure these thoughts as irrational or completely horrible, so I can be able to say that I would never do them. I hate it I feel like I’m denial, and this doesn’t feel like OCD anymore. I feel like a bad person already. I’m even thinking, why are you writing this when you already like your thoughts, and you’re already a bad person. Is it that I already like my thoughts? How do I know I don’t want my thoughts? How do I know I’m not a bad person? What if I already am and I just haven’t accepted it?

How do i suck it up? When ocd triggers an anger/panic attack, i often feel so out of control that i either contact others (which will just land me a rejection), shovel food down my belly or break things. Because i can't do my compulsion. What's a better alternative to this? Anything really, to get this to pass quicker.

One really painful and annoying thought that my brain tries to use as “proof” is my old best friend. In middle school I really struggled to make friends until I met my old best friend and after that we started hanging out all the time just us two because we both didn’t really have anyone we were super close to. This carried through all the way up into halfway through high school where we finally split. She went through a breakup and started ditching me for bad habits, meanwhile I was getting into a healthy relationship with my now boyfriend. Looking back, I was very possessive of her because I didn’t want to be alone and making new friends is very difficult for me because I always get scared of rejection and since we had already been friends for years it was easier to hang out with her but after meeting my boyfriend and expanding my social bubble I realized it was better if we weren’t friends with all the dumb stuff she was doing. I was a little torn up (more angry than nothing) but after a few months I got over it. However, when my soocd started in December I read an article about lesbians who realized they had feelings for their close female friends and so I spiraled and my thoughts latched onto her since she was the longest and closest friendship I’ve had. What makes it worse is that one time as a stupid freshman we kissed as a dare but it was only a peck and I felt nothing compared to the guys I’ve kissed, I was way more interested in the reaction of the crowd as opposed to her. I regret it so so so much, I was just being a shallow stupid teen. I wish I could go back and slap myself if I knew it would torture me this much. I had no interest in getting to know her beyond our shared interests and the thought of being with her intimately just doesn’t appeal to me but since the thoughts won’t go away it feels like a lie. Before my soocd, I never questioned our friendship. I hate this so much 😭

For the past 3 to 4 days I have been seeing the number "444" everywhere and i have thus fear of "signs" from the universe and things like that so everytime i see the number it scares me, i know it means something good but still, i just don't want the whole "signs" thing to be real in the first place. Someone please help.

Can ocd cause intrusive urges?? Like it can be sexual/violent????? Moreso anything I believe..

How do I deal with the fact that my boyfriend might or might not accept me if he were to find out the fucked up thoughts I get related to OCD (that sometimes relate to him or people in our lives) I doubt normal people would understand that it's a product of OCD (some do) but not all. I keep obsessing the fact that if he knew, he would leave me so my compulsion becomes me wanting to confess to him to get that reassurance he won't leave me if he were to understand. But I know some things might put a strain in my relationship with him and his family and I just wanna be able to disassociate with these thoughts bc my OCD brain just makes them up on my head and make me question my identity but I also want him to accept me no matter what so I'm anxious about it

I just saw Colton Underwood from the Bachelor’s coming out story and I am now in a complete downward spiral about him not knowing, trying to figure out who he is and hating himself and maybe that’s me. Anyone else??

Advice for how to know a thought is OCD or not? This is going to sound super stupid but I just closed my blinds & I had the thought, "Oh what if there's a dead body outside, you should look down at the ground before shutting the blinds & make sure there isn't" because my apartment looks out to a wooded area that's honestly a little creepy 😅. & I figured that's sort of a silly thought. But now I'm worried becuz even though it's not plausible for anything wrong to be outside I still feel weird. Like every time I do or look at something just wanting to "double check" that I'm not missing something important. Does this happen to anyone else or is this not OCD at all? I overthink & second guess every single thing in my life. I just never trust myself, even with small things, it's very frustrating. Every decision is an argument in my brain. Now I'm stressing over whether to look out my window only after seeing the ground & then shut the blinds. But I also don't want to in case it's my OCD & a compulsion. Sorry if this sounds dumb.

Has anyone has a bad experience with a therapist/psychiatrist? How did you recover from it?

Hi, there! I’m going through an IOP program for my sexual orientation OCD, and I feel like I’m failing miserably. My anxiety and sexual arousal are almost indistinguishable, right now. When I first started obsessing over my sexuality I checked, and checked, and checked to see how I felt when looking at the women I’ve always followed on my Instagram. Now I’m at the point where I feel some kind of arousal response to any woman I look at. It’s almost immediate, and it absolutely terrifies me. It makes me feel very sick because I’ve never felt that way about women. I go a million rounds in my head trying to deduce if it’s real arousal or stress or whatever. Then my brain ruminates over whether or not I actually hate these feelings or if I secretly enjoy them. It makes my heart hurt to think I have to break up with my boyfriend because I’m a fraud. He’s the kind of guy I dreamed about being with most of my life. And I haven’t spent time with my female friends in so long. I’ve never felt more not like myself. I feel deeply alone and afraid that the IOP will do nothing for me in the end. Am I alone?

Today is a terrible day , I can’t get out of bed I’m a failure and exhausted and I don’t know if I’m capable of getting better anymore .

Feeling suicidal bc of how I look. I’ve heard so many things people try to say to make me feel better but it sounds stupid to me. I look the way I look. That’s it. And there are people with fit bodies and beautiful faces that I’ll never look like. And it may sound ridiculous, but I don’t even want to exist anymore. No one I’ve been trying to tell is taking me serious. I’m just trying to figure out a way to kill myself bc it’s been really hard trying to figure out a plan that will 100% go through.

Right now I feel like I am going to act on my thoughts, or like I’m capable of acting on them, or like if I liked my thoughts. But I don’t want to! Then why does it feel like I did or like I wanted them?? It’s really f*cked up bc it is confusing me and my intentions. And now I can’t no longer know the answer to that!! It’s really frustrating and distressing, sometimes I can be sure about the answer but sometimes I just can not and it’s the worst. I legit feel like I’m going to act on them, why do I feel like that?!! I feel like I’m turning into a psychopath!!😫

freaking out a bit. i just read about how narcissists really really idealise partners and then a few weeks in they see that person’s flaws and get turned off. and i literally do that. i don’t know why but i just get easily turned off guys because i fall for the idea of them. also, i’ve realised i don’t feel that close with my friends and maybe i don’t even love them. i know i love my family, so i don’t think i’m a narcissist. but why don’t i love my friends?? and i read narcissists always blame the other person (‘oh i just haven’t found my people yet!’ ‘oh, he’s just not the one for me’) and i guess i do that too. i try to be hopeful that the right people will come along. these two things have been making me so anxious though. it feels like proper proof that i can’t ignore!!!!

I just been given Sertraline to try and the medication leaflet is terrifying! 😱 it’s enormous and has some pretty scary side affects and now I’m really worried about starting it 😬 what have other people’s experience with it been? Positives or negatives please

I just read this post about Colin Underwood the ex Bachelor star & ex NFL player coming out as gay, and in the article it said “he lived with this uncertainty about his sexuality for a while before coming to terms with his sexuality.” Lol this rly triggered me, as the whole point in our recovery is living with uncertainty. I don’t want to live w uncertainty to one day find out I’m truly lesbian and have been lying to everyone & myself :/ :( I guess he probably did not have OCD, and in the article it said he knew “something was different” by the age of 6. I guess I’m just overthinking but 😭 it sent my anxiety through the roof

I guess I am curious how others have moved past the guilt that intrusive thoughts may have caused them? I am getting to the point where my most distressing thought is not eliciting a visceral and anxious response. This has decreased the prevalence of the thought. However, I find myself beating myself up for ever even having the thought. When I do this, obviously the thought returns more frequently. I also suffer from anhedonia, so I don’t know if this is my minds way of torturing me I.e. I can’t feel anything positive so why not make it so I feel the worst way possible so I at least feel something. I appreciate any insight you can provide.

Not looking for reassurance but tips on how to get over this thought or get past this? Got triggered awhile ago while masturbating to my boyfriend's nudes/videos, when suddenly his younger nephew (a minor) popped in my head and made me spiral and led me to think I like his younger nephew like that which I know is NOT true at all but OCD is making me think what if I really do? It's disgusting because I'm not a pedo nor am I attracted to younger boys. I can acknowledge if a person is attractive or had potential young or not but it doesn't mean I want to date every one of them. It's like saying a family member or a baby is cute. But it's making me feel weird that he popped in my head. Sometimes when I masturbate and I'm really about to reach an orgasm or just feeling it, random inappropriate thoughts pop in my head like situations or people even if I don't want them to but it's lile my brain makes me think of them. I really don't want to tell anyone especially when there's a risk people won't understand but I also kind of have a confession compulsion because I'm scared that having these thoughts will make my boyfriend not want me anymore even if I don't mean to have them or they aren't true. Also I don't have to find it weird or awkward every time I talk to his nephew now. I'm fond of the kid in the way I'm fond of my younger cousins his age, like I'm like an older sister to them and I vibe with them. But having this obsessive thought/fear makes me feel like I'm hiding something big from my boyfriend and I should be transparent with him at all times but I also don't wanna have to tell him or anyone this because it'll scare them off. I had similar obsessions and ocd related thoughts to pedophilia and incest and have gotten over them. It crosses my mind from time to time but it didn't have the same anxiety effect as before. Is this something I can get over without breaking down and admitting everything to my boyfriend or breaking up with him for?

i’ve been feeling so anxious lately. i think my rocd is back but this time it’s worse because since my boyfriend cheated, it’s given my ocd an excuse to be like “see he’s a horrible boyfriend u need to leave him” and it’s just been eating me up alive. i don’t want to leave him, i know i made the right decision by staying. i can’t imagine my life without him and i never want to share this love with anyone else. but my ocd keeps telling me i can’t let things go back to normal bc he cheated. me and him are also moving in together in a couple months so, everytime i get excited about that and try to picture our lives together, it’s like my ocd literally puts a mind block on me and i can’t enjoy even day dreaming about him like i used to. i was fine like a week ago, but the absence of feelings towards him is scaring me so badly. this isn’t the first time it’s happened, this is pretty standard for me. the only thing that’s different is that he cheated and again, my ocd is having a wonderful time using that as a reason for me not to love him. bc ive had rocd for so long, my physical anxiety is so low and so im always falling for the back door spike. i keep thinking me not being anxious is a sign that i don’t love him. so i keep trying to make my self anxious. i can’t even let my self cry bc i’m scared it’s gonna lead me to want to break up with him. everytime he sends me a sweet text, the only thing i feel is anxious bc my ocd keeps wanting me to “feel love” towards him but all i feel is anxious. i’m so so miserable and i keep checking to see if this is even ocd. i think it is because it’s so distressing to me but i’m also doing compulsions like checking my feelings, replaying all the time in my head where i did feel love towards him to reassure my self, avoiding crying bc im afraid it’s gonna make me want to leave him, trying to induce anxiety so i know this is egodystonic, repeating to my self over and over that if others can get over their partner cheating then i can too, trying to calm my self down by reminding my self that i’ve done some stupid stuff too, trying to feel love towards him when we’re on the phone, etc. and even though i can list all of these compulsions, my ocd still thinks it’s not enough and that’s it’s not ocd. i don’t know what to do i’m literally so miserable i feel so anxious all the time. and usually, for some reason i’ll reassure my self in the evening and i’ll be good for the rest of the night but today that didn’t happen and now i’m freaking out about that too. i don’t want to leave my boyfriend i love him so damn much (typing this out rn, my ocd is telling me i’m lying) and i want to heal past this thing that happened between us bc others have so why can’t i? but my ocd is making this so hard. i’m hoping it’s just because my period is about to come and my ocd usually spikes really bad when that happens because like i said, i was completely and utterly fine a couple days ago. i’m so so scared

I feel I've become numb to everything. My anxiety fluctuates but the thoughts, the ERP, the loss of attraction. I feel very numb. Why do I have to go through this fucking shit? I just wanna get back to chasing women and chilling out. I do neither because of this bullshit. That's what it all is. Its bullshit. Fuck OCD, Pure O, HOCD, ROCD, SO-OCD!!! Fuck this bullshit!!!