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For example, I kissed my dog’s lower back, above her tail affectionately. She looks like a potato, and absolutely adore her. I said “a kiss to your booty.” My sister said that was weird to say, but I’m not sure how serious she was. I tried my best to shrug it off because I don’t think my intentions were harmful. I do anxious when I get near my pets because my OCD attacks them badly. I see them like my children so I feel like it’s almost a variation of POCD. However, because I was anxious giving her affection, I feel like I did something I shouldn’t have especially with my sister’s comment. I know I am overthinking but I hate how often things like this happen and how they never seem to get easier. Anyone else? Any advice?

this summer i told my nail tech about my thoughts (i didnt know about rocd back then) she triggered me real bad telling me that maybe i dont love him anymore and i dint want to accept it beacuse i dont want to hurt him, that made a big impact on me. Today i did my nails and she asked me about my problem, i was very triggered, she asked me if i had something that i dont like about him, i told her that is a mental disorder that many people have but luckily she kinda understood and i left because i was done. It really triggered me, i dont know how to feel and what i feel. Today was my first time saying maybe i do maybe i dont to my thoughts, i dont know if it did something, i feel like a liar. I am affraid this is my truth. My mother tells me to pray, i am catholic, i pray every night but im just very scared. As im writing this i dont know what i feel. What do you suggest ?:(

I still feel fearful of cancer. No matter what I do Im scared that I still to much red meat or milk will make my Risk higher and there's no way to not get cancer. I'm not super active, I'm focused on being a streamer and I'm trying to improve to reduce the risk but I'm fighting my mind weather I will or not. I have has family die due to this my friends uncle has it. And I'm so scared and I don't know who to talk to, it's not like I can afford therapy at the moment either. I'm so scared it's been eating at me for the whole week. I'm a sit down for fore then 4 hours that's not good, or if I eat chicken noodle soup, or if I drink one soda because I'm out of water. Granted I was never a healthy person, and I neglected health concerns but now I regret not caring, and being ignorant. It worries me, I'm scared.

This flare up is getting worse. So my son brought me a paper he needed signed for school yesterday and I asked him to get me a pen. As he got the pen I was just looking at him and unintentionally glanced over his private area and immediately freaked out with guilt. My ocd started telling me I was staring and that I wanted to look there. I know I wasn’t staring and I don’t ever want to look there. Anytime I accidentally catch a glimpse of my children’s private areas I always immediately look away and feel so guilty even though it wasn’t intentional or wanted but my ocd is making me believe I did stare and now the memory of it is blurred the more I try to remember it exactly to disprove the ocd. I feel horrible and I don’t know how I can ever get past this. 😪

I’ve been dealing with a really bad flare up the last 2 weeks and i’ve been dealing with ocd on and off for years. I was finally feeling better today, So of course my ocd decided to bring up an old intrusive thought that was really upsetting and now i’m stuck on it again. The reason why I struggle so much to conquer my ocd is because I developed ocd as postpartum so my ocd targets my kids, the ones that mean everything to me. The intrusive thoughts range from mild to really disturbing. While I know deep down the intrusive thoughts aren’t true or me, the ocd makes it feel SO real and true which makes me feel like I HAVE to disprove the thoughts and with confidence but the ocd won’t let me. It also makes me question analyze and judge everything I do. It’s an endless cycle of pain and I just want to be a mom without ocd telling me i’m a horrible person all day every day. 😪

When an intrusive thought comes I can’t just say “that’s not true” and just move on. I always feel like I have to disprove the thought and be able to say it with confidence but the problem is that the ocd doesn’t allow me to feel and say it with confidence so I get stuck for hours or even days. How can I stop feeling like I need to do this?

I just feel petrified and I don’t understand why. There aren’t even any thoughts right now. I just feel so scared.

Literally everything. I was talking to my friend, I have to confess that to my bf. I post on here, I have to confess that to my bf. I make a joke, I have to confess that to my bf. This is getting out of hand. I was doing better and I had stopped confessing but now it’s like on crack.

hi i just found this app but I’ve been wondering for some time if I have ROCD and I wanted some opinions on what other people thought so sorry it’s so long it’s my first time getting it off my chest haha i’ve been in 3 relationships including one i’m currently in. to give a run down- my first relationship was peaceful except i constantly wondered and worried about if we were a good fit, making bigger problems of small things, always psychoanalyzing what was wrong with my partner even though he was a really good boyfriend and we were happy. that one ended because of distance and then i entered my second relationship soon after. i felt so sure about this guy but he had a very severe case of retroactive jealousy, constantly asking inappropriate and intimate questions about me and my ex and getting angry when i couldn’t give him the reassurance he wanted. he was very manipulative and microcheated on me multiple times and that’s the reason why we essentially broke up. during that relationship i was constantly battling with myself with feelings of anxiety and mistrust. now i’m with my current boyfriend and we’re a work in process but he’s a good guy and i’m now realizing that i need to work on myself but im not sure if it’s partly due to rocd. we met on an app and we were talking to each other for about three months without being exclusive because i was scared that putting a label on it would make me get attached and get hurt by him because of my 2nd ex. i explained myself for why the no label but i did tell him that i didn’t want him having sex with other people if he was serious about pursuing us as a relationship because i find sex to be important and he’s had 20 bodies in the past because he only had one other relationship and after that he’s been casually dating for a couple years. he agreed but he ended up sleeping with someone. i took him back because i was the one that made it not exclusive when he asked for one. after that we made it exclusive but a month in we had a problem and being the avoidant that he is, he ran away and ended things with me. he ended up sleeping with the same girl he slept with a month before and it really hurt me. even though i did say it was not exclusive, i haven’t been seeing anyone else but him during the three months and i treated him like a boyfriend which is partly my fault. after much consideration and talking things through, i took him back and ever since he has done nothing wrong to make me question his loyalty or his intentions with me (other than the fact that he watches porn but we see each other once a week. i did tell him i don’t like that because he finds other ppl pretty and fuckable but he doesn’t get it. he said when we do have sex regularly he’ll stop watching it because he agrees at that point porn is unnecessary) we are definitely more of a slow burn relationship, it’s more steady and calm. but i can’t help but feel so turbulent inside. i’m constantly checking his social media (i have a really bad problem of stalking my ex’s social media. it used to be 10+ times a day but now ive gotten better with my ex), when he’s out with his friends he is not really on his phone and i’d stay up until 3am checking his location (he’s normally not a text person but he’s also working on that because i did tell him id like some updates), im constantly thinking that he’s going to get sick of me and that he’ll find other women pretty or that he’ll be happy with someone else. i try not to share all this with him because i feel crazy sometimes with these intrusive thoughts that i can’t get rid of but it does seep out even when im being so cautious. i feel like my 2nd ex had an influence on me, making me normalize the obsessive thinking that was happening every day while we were together and id just really like to have a peace of mind so i can enjoy this relationship for what it is. sorry this was so long but is this just the byproduct of my shitty ex or is this some sort of ocd i’m experiencing? any tips on how to snap out of times when the intrusive thoughts come crashing in? thank u for hearing me out

Since I developed ocd as postpartum my ocd has mostly always targeted my kids. It started as harm and then switched to pocd. Both are equally very painful. For years I was mostly able to keep my ocd at bay but when it comes back it’s so bad. I have a son and a daughter and my ocd switches back and forth from kid to kid with horrible intrusive thoughts and now even intrusive ocd dreams. With each thought I get past and start to feel relief another one pops right up. The thoughts feel so real and true even though I know it’s just the ocd and not how I think or feel, the ocd always makes me doubt myself and question everything I think or do. I know other moms/dads go through this too. Please anyone who has or is going through this please tell me how you deal with this. 😪

Every day my ocd makes sure there’s a new reason for me to stay trapped in my mind rather than being the mom I want to be that my kids need. Instead i’m stuck in my head depressed and pushing them away. The other day I was braiding my daughter’s hair like I always do and her hair is really long so when I get to the end of the braid I can see her butt in my peripheral vision and I looked down and I immediately got upset asking myself why did I look down?(the ocd has made me question everything I do now). I know it’s just because I was at the end of the braid and I just looked because I was already looking in that direction. A normal person wouldn’t even think twice about it. There was no inappropriate reason behind it at all but of course my ocd latched onto the situation and said I looked down because I wanted to look at her butt. I was so upset and said to myself “I don’t understand how the ocd started an intrusive thought because she was wearing baggy pants. I could understand if she had on tight pants and her butt was more noticeable” and the only reason I said that is because usually the only time my ocd starts intrusive thoughts telling me i’m looking at my daughter in a wrong way is when she has on leggings or a crop top or bathing suit ect. Now my ocd twisted what I said to mean that I like looking at her in tight pants. Nooo! That’s not what I meant but now the ocd won’t stop trying to make me believe that. I don’t ever look at my children in any inappropriate way. I hate this. I hate ocd and I can’t live like this anymore.

I am starting to come to grips with intrusive thoughts, reading how your brain will think of the worst thing / or make you think of something that really distresses you. BUT, I’ve got something I need to get off my chest, not looking for reassurance but just to know I’m not alone I guess? I remember one time, I saw a girl I follow on Instagram go on a marathon, and then went straight out for dinner after without showering and I had the passing thought of, gosh she must smell, even worse, she must smell down there. That has got to be the worst intrusive thought EVER, and because it affected me so much, I have the urge to think of this horrible horrible thought most times I look at people. Wondering if they smell!!!! It’s disgusting!!!! :( I don’t know if this is because I also have contamination ocd and I do obsess about feeling and being clean.

Lately, I’ve been overwhelmed with thoughts and feelings that I don’t love my boyfriend and that I don’t care about him. He shares his struggles, he tells me he’s feeling sad or stressed, and I feel like I’m just numb. I don’t feel the concern or compassion that I think I should feel, and it terrifies me. It makes me ask myself: Do I even love him? What if I truly don’t care? He even pointed out that I rarely ask how he’s doing or that it feels like I don’t care about his feelings, and that absolutely broke me. But the worst part is… sometimes, I don’t feel anything when he tells me these things. I feel like I’m empty inside, and I don’t know why. I’m scared that maybe this isn’t ROCD, and it’s just the truth. Maybe I really don’t love him anymore, and I’m just in denial. The lack of emotion feels so real, and it makes me spiral even more. I wonder, What if I’m just a bad person? What if I’m incapable of love or care? I feel like I used to be different. I used to be happy, excited to see him, and now I’m just anxious, irritable, or numb. It’s like I’m losing myself, and I hate it. I hate that I feel this way when he’s such a loving and kind partner who doesn’t deserve this. I’m exhausted from constantly analyzing my feelings, wondering if I’m lying to myself or if my thoughts are the real truth. The line between what’s anxiety and what’s reality feels so blurred. I don’t want to lose him, but these thoughts and feelings are consuming me. Has anyone else felt like this? Is it normal to feel this way with ROCD? How do I deal with this numbness and the fear that it’s all real?

I’m struggling worse than I ever have. I’ve been in a bad flare up the past 2 weeks and it’s getting worse each day. I’ve always been able to get back on track but this time it’s so hard and affecting my time with my kids.Last night for the very first time I had an ocd dream. It was horrible and I know it’s just my ocd manifesting into my dreams but i’ve been beating myself up because while dreaming I woke up briefly and became aware of the dream and was disturbed but just went right back to sleep. How could I just go back to sleep like that?? Then as i’m struggling to cope with that my 2 worst false memories about my children came to mind and i’m struggling with those all over again now. I developed ocd as postpartum so my ocd has always targeted my kids. My ocd has come and gone over the years. First harm ocd and then switched to pocd. I’ve always had a fear of unwillingly and unknowingly acting out my thoughts in my sleep and doing something inappropriate to them. So twice over the years I had a false memory based on real event situation. One with my son when he was a toddler and one with my daughter when she was around 7. With my son it was a long time ago so some of my memory has faded about it which makes it worse but basically he was sleeping with me one night and in the morning I got up and he was still asleep so I went downstairs to clean a bit. When I went back upstairs he was awake and had the blanket wrapped around him. I said goid morning and told him to come down for beeakfast but when he cane out of the blanket his underwear weren’t on. I yelled at him and asked where they were and why he took them off and yelled back “you!” My ocd immediately kicked in telling me I must have done something to him in my sleep and that day has forever haunted me even though I know i’d never do anything inappropriate to him and that him being a toddler there are so many other reasons for why he had no underwear on I still feel like what if it’s true? Then with my daughter, she slipped into bed with me one night and during the night she said “mommy!” I woke up slightly and lifted my head up saying “sorry mama” and moved over and went back to sleep thinking I must have rolled over onto her or something but when I woke up the next morning my ocd said that I must have done something inappropriate ti her in my sleep. I asked her about it a short time later and she said she didn’t remember that. Deep down I know I love my kids and would never do these things but because of my ocd/pocd I always have tge uncertainty of what if it’s true? So to have that ocd dream last night which was the first time that’s ever happened, while I know it’s just ocd I just can’t stop hating myself for waking up briefly realizing the dream was happening and feeling upset but then just going back to sleep like it was no big deal. Ocd has ruined my life and made me question and hate myself for years. Are there any other moms/dads out there with pocd that have had similar experiences? Please help. I don’t want to live like this anymore. It’s debilitating😪

I remembered something and it was awful. When I calmed down, I thought “I don’t think it actually went like that?” I feel like I’m making an excuse to make myself feel better. Like I’m lying to myself to feel okay? Like it’s not false memory ocd mixed in with real event. It’s just me being a monster and I just want to feel better. I feel like I made a big mistake, didn’t think twice back then but now I feel like crap and want an excuse to think I didn’t do that. I don’t know what’s real and what isn’t. I’m so scared.

Lately, I’ve been struggling with a fear that I know is tied to my OCD, but it still feels overwhelming. Sometimes I wake up from a dream feeling good—like happy or even a little aroused—but I can’t fully remember what the dream was about. This triggers this intense anxiety for me because my brain starts spiraling: What if I was happy about something bad? What if it was connected to an intrusive thought? I know dreams are random and don’t reflect my true self or my values, but it’s hard not to overanalyze when I can’t remember the details. It’s like my OCD fills in the blanks with the worst-case scenarios, and I feel ashamed or scared for no reason. Anyone else?

When I finally get through the worst intrusive thought of the day and i’m ready to go to sleep, my ocd says it’s not ocd i’m really just a horrible person. I can’t do this😪

It's especially worse before my period, but i still get this all other weeks. The past few months I've noticed more that i get in waves of not being attracted AT ALL, physically and sexually. Sometimes I'll think my fiance looks cute but then I feel like it quickly goes back to not feeling attracted. I analyze his appearance and face. I check our pictures a lot and sometimes i dont think he looks attractive and other times i think he looks attractive. I compare his personality to others... I keep getting the ick. I feel terrible. I basically have zero libido for sex or masturbating. I'm afraid that he's not the one for me, I feel like I'm getting FOMO. My anxiety gets so high in the morning to where I have break up urges sometimes. At the same time I don't want to lose him and the thought of me not being with him makes me cry.... We're getting married next year and sometimes I feel guilty wearing my ring because im having these thoughts. I feel guilt and question myself every time i think about wedding planning. I question if I love him anymore because of this. I fear I won't find him attractive ever again or in the future. I had a couple days where i had clarity and we talked about our future etc, found him handsome, had intimacy etc, but then like I said it reverts back to the doubting. I keep seeing posts that people who are married 10+ years are still in honeymoon phase, still find eachother massively attractive, have sex all the time. It makes me feel like something is wrong because we're not like that and that I'm supposed to be with someone else in order to feel that. Before we moved in together we had sex 1/2 times a week maybe. Now its like 1/2 a month... And i know part of it is because were familiar with each other/live together etc. But why do i not feel attracted!? My partner is so understanding, sweet and caring even through all of this. Hes so supportive and he's my best friend. I keep asking him for reassurance if he feels loved by me etc and he always says yes. We've been living together for 2 years and been together for 6 total. I keep getting into a depressive state and crying over this over and over and over again. thinking what if we're not supposed to be together, FOMO, if we're compatible, thinking I should just be alone. Its exhausting. And hes always there to hold my hand and comfort me. I got teared up just typing that. Hugging him gives me comfort. I feel like there's a part of me that's suddenly scared to get married, but I want to get married. but it's like suddenly the thought of marriage makes me scared??? But also at the same time i feel like if we were married already i wouldnt be going through this? A few months ago we were looking at houses together, picked out wedding colors, I was traveling for work and was so sad to leave him, and so happy to see him when I got home. I do see a future with him. We talked about kid names in the past. and now I feel like I'm questioning everything in my life for no reason. I HATE feeling this way. I just feel depressed all the time, don't want to do anything, just lay in bed and cry. I hate waking up in the morning. I barely have the motivation at work or just to do my hobbies. I want to be normal again. Anyone been through something similar? Does it get better??? Should I take meds for this?? I'm currently in therapy but I think im going to switch therapists.

Anyone else experienced sudden Severe OCD symptoms after a loss of loved one? Been trying to take supplements that help but still get waves of grief, OCD, anxiety, all sorts of overwhelming emotions and feelings. Anyone have any advice? Thank you so much

I made a comment that was stereotypical, and now I feel like a huge racist. I promise that I didn’t mean it with any ill intent. I meant it with admiration. I don’t know why I feel bad. I’m the most anti-racist person in my family and I constantly thrive to be better. I don’t know why I’m freaking out. Oh my god. Why is this happening? I know what my intentions were. I feel so scared of being judged oh my god