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So I turned 32 not too late ng ago and I feel like it is more of a shock to me than I think I would care and having anxiety I started thinking some dumb thoughts. I haven't dated in about 9 years and coupled with taking stock of my age and the fact I have had pocd themes I had a dumb thought saying "what if I meet women my age and aren't into them and my intrusive thoughts are proof that I'm not?" This thought bothered me since why would I worry about that. So I tried to envision myself with a woman around my age or at least a couple years younger and us having a date and then me reacting negatively to it I also thinking that when I was with her I would think I can't believe I'm with someone that's old or someone that not too long ago I would perceive to be much older than myself. Then that made me even more scared cuz then I thought do I actually have a grass that I'm as old as I am or do I have like the mentality of someone who's younger and can't grow up correctly or something. like I try to think back to when I was in college and I had friends who were in their early thirties and I always looked at them like sort of an older more experienced person who I sort of looked up to now I'm in that age group and I guess the fear literally does come from based on everything that I thought and the things that I've gone through will I treat dating like I've always treated it or would I look at someone to be like Man I'm looking at someone that 9 years ago I would have thought looked like a mother or something and now I'm that age. That worries me because I think a regular person wouldn't have to even think of something like that.

Hi…okay so I don’t know if anyone would understand what I want to say but I hope anyone who sees this understands….so I’m suffering from rocd and when it all started I prayed , begged ,cried infront of god to just give me one more chance to make things right with my partner, I don’t want to lose him i don’t know why I’m feeling like this I just want to feel love for him please give me another chance please give me a new heart with love filled for my partner. I was miserable I was scared I was crying 24/7 day and night feeling terrified and asking god to please make me “feel” for my partner im sorry if I made any mistake . My partner and I are in long distance he’s working hard to build a life he wants so me I just wanted to pray for him with my WHOLE HEART! To please help him help him in managing his struggles and all but I don’t know I was just not feeling that I’m praying with my whole heart when I was trying my all to just pray for him with pure intentions and a pure heart. ( I got emotional while typing all this). I don’t know why but the thought - maybe I’m not right for him that’s why god isn’t helping him or answering my prayers. And now the situation is that I actually feel very difficult to pray to god for him I m just not able to talk to god words are so damn difficult to come out I think what if god thinks I’m not praying with my whole heart. ( believe me I really want to) does god thinks that my feelings now because of rocd (not feeling 100% in love ) is the reason why he’s not answering my prayers or because I don’t feel 100% in love with him I’m not able to make prayers( like something is stopping me really hard to go infront of god and talk to him) I’m not able to go even in the room which is dedicated to god in my home. What is all this? Can somebody help me in anyway. I’ll be really thankful.

Just curious I’ve been doing so good with my ERP and I’m like 80% better but POCD seems to have a huge grip on me still. And while I’m not so afraid anymore my mind still loves to obsess about it and give me feelings (my ocd is very very feelings based) and wants me to think about the obsession.it’s mostly just annoying and tiring. I have an appointment with a psychiatrist to just have a convo about meds that could help with depression and OCD. Has anyone gone through this? And what does the medication for you? (I know everyone is different) does it stop your brain from obsessing so much? 🖤

Does anyone here have diagnosed BPD and wouldn’t mind sharing abit about it? I think I might have it but the internet and the unreliable quizzes online are not helping me work out if it might have it or not. I understand I would need a proper diagnosis but if anyone would be open to explaining it abit more to me thay would be great. Thank you 💜

-social anxiety -existential ocd -religious ocd

I feel blocked…mentally emotionally…what can I do? Does the feeling of love actually comes back in? How do you choose to stay in a relationship when you feel like this.

Does anyone else have those thoughts in there head where it's like "What if I just be gay" and it feels right And you just yell NO outside

I am starting to understand the cycle I just deleted my last post because I was talking about how I was so stuck in this "gay mindset" and because there was no anxiety it was beginning to feel like not ocd anymore and I was just shaking it off for the sake of it and it felt in denial But I have realised This is just another way your ocd is keeping you in the loop I took it so seriously on this wave that my mind is almost using it against me and feeding the intrusive thoughts and emotions more And funnily enough this has started now when I am feeling better This is just a trick It's all a trick Or I'm hoping so

Hello , ive been struggling with ocd for years , mainly pure ocd but it kept changing themes with the time , the recent theme has been Schiz ocd , and it completly drained me ; it all started one morning after i woke up early and heard the audio of my phone , i turned it off and i went back to sleep , but i still kept hearing the audio , i thought i didnt turn it off so i checked my phone and it was really off but somehow i still kept hearing the sound , i had a full blown panic attack after and i tried calming myself for 30 minutes by ignoring the sound , eventually it stopped . But now everytime I hear a specfic noise my mind keeps repeating that sound in a very realistic way, it sounds so real . After this situation my mind keeps trying to check every random sound if it really happened or not , so i hear any type of noise like a sirene or a knock or a cough or a music sound , and my mind somehow echoes it and it sounds so real, I don't know how to deal with this . Has anyone ever dealt with this , please

Who else feels like “now I’ve left everything on god” when it’s about the feelings of love? When you’re so confused if it’ll workout or not will I ever feel love for my partner or not? But also side by side doing recovery work but the confusion is still there and kind of waiting on when will these feelings ever come back again because you can’t just break up because you know how wonderful the other person is ,loves you so much and you’re in this hell of confusion ? Who else??? How do you feel about this?😔

So last night I tried to talk about it And I got told I shouldn't question it and that I am straight But when I got told that I had the worst chest pain in the world and now I feel even further away from being straight than ever. Idk how to pull myself back and I really do try to carry on but I feel so masculine when I am a feeling not to mention the groinal responses and butterfly emotions are really strong and I have lost my attraction to men I was close to accepting I was bi because I got relief from that but how have I even got here Is this still ocd because I feel so far away from myself and I feel like the only way out is to still accept I an bi Someone please help me work through this I can't get erp I am really lost

When certain thoughts related to rocd doesn’t cause any anxiety what to do then? Is it the truth?

The wave of hocd has been happening for half a week now. So far I have been mixing between resisting compulsions and saying maybe maybe not but now a few things are worrying me I tried to look up gay things to see what it was and find an answer and I only felt like I identified it more And now there is part of me where it is like actually it's not so bad but there is another part of me that's like I just want to go back to how I was before this wave Idk what to do because I can't do erpe for my own reasons but I really do want to start or at least figure out if this is ocd or denial because I feel like the more I am accepting it the more I am identifying with being gay and saying I want to be straight doesn't feel good or relieving anymore and I have lost alot of attraction to men and keep fixating on the women and getting strong intrusive emotions and responses bur I don't want to do anything about it and I am just trying to carry on Someone please reply

I’ve almost just accepted that I’m a bad person. All i can think about is my intrusive thoughts, at this point I’m literally obsessed with them. I’m almost not even anxious anymore because I’m accepting it

How do you guys stop the rumination or get past the feeling of wanting to keep obsessing or thinking about the obsession? I feel like this is what is keeping my in the loop rn.

Hi I have SO-OCD aka HOCD and just want to know about what to do for ERP and also any success stories because I am scared that if I do ERP I will end up accepting the thoughts and sensations with the idea that I am gay I have been straight all my life and I have had these worries pop up before but it never bothered me much however the more the sensations of excitement in my heart or the calm sensations when I think about these ideas of being with the opposite gender increase I get more worried that I am when I don't want to be but even saying that feels like a lie to myself along with the idea that this is hocd and this is why I am scared of doing erp

Quick question. So I thought erp involves getting less afraid of thoughts and so basically you try to get yourself to think about them. I've seen where to write scripts you are to write out the whole scenario if this happens then what basically making it super detailed. So when I meditated last night I did this in my mind and it kind of made it feel like the thought released? But then today Im like how is that different than a fantasy? And then my husband brought up the same question. Like I'm getting comfortable with the thought and scenario so is it becoming more of a fantasy? It has my mind really confused. I hope this makes sense?

I’ve been doing really well the past few months. I’ve been consistent with ERP therapy and other exercises to help manage my OCD. However, something triggered my OCD to come back in full force last week and while I know that the journey to recovery isn’t linear, and I know that this is something I will always have to work on, it’s been very disheartening and it feels like all the progress I’ve made has been for nothing. It’s exhausting and I’m struggling with intrusive thoughts that I will never get better again. Anyone else relate?

Hi! I’m really new here but I’ve struggled with HOCD for almost a decade now. It started when I was a teen. As a child I had exposure to sexual media (due to my own curiosity, I actually wasn’t supposed to) and my female friends and I would sometimes role play things (though mostly just two of us since we had play dates most often anyway). We did this very often and I often had to play the role of the guy (I’m actually female by sex and gender) and I was sorta pressured by the friend to be true to the role and “feel” the role while I played. I eventually got used to it and started getting used to picturing women naked and sexualizing them- but I didn’t actually want to be with them. Now, to be fair, my child brain didn’t know that was possible back then. But even then, I wouldn’t wish to be in a relationship with a person. I would get a kick out of imagining things but I didn’t actually want it in real life. Then when I first discovered different sexual orientations, I PANICKED. I was worried that if anyone heard any of this, they would think I’m bisexual! Now ofc that’s perfectly fine to be bisexual and I’m certainly an ally for that community because maybe i wouldn’t be as scared if they didn’t experience some discrimination! but I personally don’t have a desire to be with women. That fear though really freaked me out and as a child with OCD tendencies (I had germ OCD years before that), this was really hard. And unfortunately, when I have free time, this HOCD comes back to haunt me. I felt like I’m forced to be something I don’t want to be, and I have no way out. Later on, I started testing my feelings with images and videos to see how I feel. It was fine at first but I always checked further “just in case” and eventually ended up feeling attracted (though in a shallow way, not like a crush). I suspect they are false attraction but I’ve questioned things so much and become aroused at some many things I’m left clueless. The thing is I don’t want to call myself anything other than straight because I don’t want to be with women in a romantic nor sexual relationship. Yet a part of me isn’t sure and keeps asking whether it’s the case. It’s further complicated when I see folks that are female by sex but dress in a boyish way and I get momentarily attracted. I don’t want to be with them but I will find them attractive as long as I think of them as a boy of sorts. But my anxiety spikes SO much with this afterwards and I HATE going out to feel this way! My brain wonders whether I’m just secretly bi and in denial the whole time- and every time I try to shut it out, it tells me I’m “running away from the truth”… oh and online forums are the worst! Everyone says that if you any gay fantasies then you must be straight. Though, to be honest, I’m not sure if I even have “fantasies” or intrusive thoughts or both. It’s so hard to discern between them. I don’t know who to listen to.. Interestingly though, when I have a crush on a guy, I somehow crush HOCD like a grape and it vanishes (I’d NEVER use this as a strategy by the way)! I don’t know if any of this story resonates with anyone but if anyone has tips, I’d appreciate it!