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What’s a phrase or anything in general that helped you when your harm OCD or OCD in general was giving you a hard time? Something that motivates you to know that we will overcome this!

Anyone here struggling with transgender OCD? My OCD decided that this is my main OCD thought now... I was struggling with it in the past as well as with SOOCD but also with internalised misogyny and homophobia. So it was a little bit complicated to find out what I am. But I am not trans and I am a lesbian. My tocd constantly tries to tell me that I am trans... I don’t have dysphoria, I don’t want to be the other sex, I don’t want to transition, I like being who I am, I don’t feel uncomfortable in my skin. It was not always like that and that’s what my ocd uses. It reminded me that in the past I didn’t felt like that that must mean deep down I am trans. I constantly think if I want to be a woman whenever I walk past a mirror so I avoid them now. I can’t even look at trans people (online) because it got so bad and I question it for hours!!The worst thing is that my tocd tries to tell me I want top surgery but I don’t want it. I am extremely scared that it will make me do this surgery... I have already written letters to people close to me that if I am going to do the surgery they should stop me. I think I am going insane. I don’t want that surgery. I like my body. I like being female. I got rid of that ocd but it came back... It constantly wants to push me to do a surgery I don’t want. Has anyone else this? And has anyone a tip how to get rid of it. At least the surgery part because this gives me huge anxiety.

i don't have insurance and cant get any and cant afford therapy. any advice on books and resources to like diy therapy?

Trying to feel better after being broken up with is so hard. I feel so sad. I can’t even eat

I am afraid of losing my salvation. I have improved from the fear of the unpardonable sin. Which is a huge blessing! But now i am constantly plagued by feelings and thoughts telling me if i do anything I will disown Jesus and lose all three parts of a God and that I have to go through the process of getting saved again. All ghese different doctrines are not helping. Some people say you can lose your salvation others say you definitely cannot. It is terrible.

Pls if even one person could reply i am suffering I know this is a long post but i need helppppp!!! Plssss !!!!!!Certain things that make you think more about it is that a thing?? Cause like I don’t understand if thats ocd like certain looks or certain things about the same sex i would notice more which is crazy why would i even in the first place… and even when i go out i get these thoughts but because i am so numb and tired I don’t pay attention but then it feels like its real and cause i am scared and can’t do anything about it thats why i don’t pay attention to the thoughts as well and they are true are they?!? And i just think they are not cause I can’t indulge in them? Cause then why would i think of it and be okay and then it feels like because i fee okay i force myself to think anxiously about it cause i am scared of the truth and that seems easier which in turn just proves the former right doesn’t it?!? The people who know what they are don’t question it and if we question it and have doubts somewhere does that mean its true considering they also feel so true??like i see a snap story of a girl and think of her to be hot or pretty and indulge in something why would i think that and why would i be calm were the thoughts fake because they say if there are any kind of desires which I don’t know if they are fake or not but just asking this question could say that they might not be and feeling that one second of that you want it and that being so real that nothing after that seems to conquer the thoughts cause why would i want to indulge or even think i could find that hot even if finding hot is fine why the dreams why the feeling like i want it and i will be okay with it would feel so real when its not and that feels fake?!? Like all this questioning feels like i do it just for the sake of it and even if the fake or real whatever fantasies it is how do i tell myself they are not true what if they are because honestly i feel if i am put in that position I might do it and even be okay with it just saying that proves something right or am i saying it just because of ocd ?!? Or is true plss help me !!!! Am i even straight ????or all this is true because when i tell myself the former it feels fake when earlier i knew inside me it isn’t but now its transitioned to feeling like everything during that time was also true and my anxiety was fake… what do i do …

I’m crying so much right now. Thoughts about being stuck with OCD forever. My intrusive thoughts aren’t even causing anxiety, they just make me cry. I can’t seem to recognize if I’m doing compulsions. I feel like I’m doing ERP wrong. My OCD tells me I don’t deserve to be happy or to be surrounded by people I care about. I really want this to be over but I don’t see an end in sight. Please God just make this pain go away. I’m so tired. Sorry for such a depressing post on the holidays but I’m just feeling so alone and I feel so lost.

Okay so I’m trying to accept it but it’s just making me feel depressed. I don’t want it. I want to be happy with my girlfriend again. She was the most important thing in my life and then the OCD hit back like it did when I was a child. And brought up all these insecurities that I had made piece with or hadn’t even realised I had. Now there feels like there’s a glass screen between me and her when she talks about our future I feel like a fraud. I hate ocd. Even if I have been in denial my whole life (which I didn’t think I was) I was happy and content and confident in myself. Now it’s all gone, and it feels like I have no choice but to just tell the ocd it was right all along and live that life because that’s what it feels like I want. But I don’t know what’s me and what’s ocd anymore (even saying that sounds like a lie).

did the pandemic make your ocd worse? how so? talk to me about it

Gender identity ocd is so triggered today, I just need someone to talk to, feel so alone and hopeless ://

Alright guys i know I’ve been going on about hair a lot here. I just notice all the small things and like i said earlier i don’t want to buy human hair because i feel like it’s inhumane. So i bought synthetic hair thinking it was only synthetic. This may sound a bit confusing but when I was shopping I found human hair wigs that were cheaper than synthetic wigs which doesn’t sound right because human hair wigs are typically sold for higher prices (since they are more versatile) and that made me think that maybe my synthetic wigs weren’t truly synthetic as well. I did some more research and I found that most of these wigs might be just masquerading as human hair wigs but are just a blend with usually synthetic hairs and human hairs. But I wouldn’t be able to be sure of that and I wouldn’t be able to be sure that my synthetic wigs are truly synthetic. So now I’m thinking to myself maybe I should just not buy any of these wigs at all because even though they’re fun to wear it’s not a necessity, it’s just something fun that I like to do sometimes. I previously liked wearing them until I found out that they might be coming from humans which could be coming from people in concentration camps like the groups in China that are being forced to sell their hair there. Before I found this out I had purchased a hair that I thought was synthetic from a YouTube reviewer who also was refraining from buying human hair wigs and said that the wig was synthetic but really how could she know? how could/ can anybody know? I don’t know if I should just play it safe and not buy any of the wigs on the off chance its being taken from the people unjustly suffering in those camps, or if this is me doing OCD stuff and spiraling and I should just practice uncertainty and continue buying wigs that are being marketed as synthetic. As a fellow Muslim it just makes me feel totally disgusting at the idea that I might be using human wigs that come from these people that are in concentration camps because they align with my religion of Islam. What should i do?

It’s hurts so much. It won’t go away no matter what I do or what anyone tells me. I’m a failure and my mind keeps telling me I’m a monster who needs to be punished over a mistake I made maybe 4 or 5 years ago. I don’t remember when exactly but I do know I had no bad intentions back then and I certainly don’t now. I was so stupid. I should of known better but it didn’t even cross my mind! How could I have been so dumb! I’ve talked to my mom and my first therapist about it but it just stays there in my head haunting me in every way it can and honestly I can’t take it anymore. I’m scared. I’m terrified. I’m exhausted and I just want it to go away. It really really hurts. How could I have been so stupid back then!? Why?! I’m at the end of my rope I can’t take much more 💔

This is kind of hard to talk about online but I have really been struggling in my sex life because I keep on getting intrusive thoughts and/or images in my mind. It just keeps getting worse and I just want it to stop. Can anyone relate?

Is anyone there to listen? I want to get this off my chest

You know what really helps when you find your mind wandering about things you don't have, things you could have done different, things you wish you hadn't done but did, things you wish you knew years ago, or pretty much feeling down and about with something you struggle with in life? It helps when you find things to be thankful for. I'm quite thankful for friends, family, technology, my home, my hobbies, my personality, my interests, my goals, and what I want to do and have the opportunity to do in life. I'm very thankful for those things. Anything can happen whether it'd be in the next minute, the next hour, day, week, month, or year. It really helps to remind myself that there are things I can count up on my hand that I'm thankful for. What are you thankful for right now? List up to 10 things you are thankful for right now and try to go back to that whenever you find yourself down.

anybody out there with perfectionism OCD? I didn't even know I had it, because my main safety behavior is avoidance. I am having trouble cooking, cleaning, and exercising! any advice? ("Just doing it" is too anxiety producing atm)

Im getting triggered with anxiety about everything now, even things that i enjoy trigger me. Idk what to do anymore

Groinal responses really hold me back :( it’s what makes me feel like I’m just in denial

someone PLEASE help me with false memory

Can any of you relate? So really quick, background, happily married, 3 kids, great design job, came from a great family, no real depression issues of any sort, pretty much a jokester, always being silly, etc. I do have OCD/PURE-O. I've had three episodes in my life, one in 1990, one in 2009 and just this past August (which I'm still going through). It started with a health/heart issue I had way back in 2008 ish where I had a mild attack. A year later I started questioning my heart, all day long, feeling my pulse, looking up heart conditions, wondering how long I would live, looking at people and gauging how old they are, versus how old I am and then subtracting how long I may have to live, and so on, that lead to more anxiety and a full blown panic attack after visitng the the ER for the second time over the summer for them to check my heart (which was totally fine). APPARENTLY the anxiety led to my first Intrusive Thought HARM-O against my wife and was just unbelievable... questioning how good of a person I was, say stuff like I'd never even intentionally step on an ant, look up serial killers and see if I was like them, you know the drill... It wasn't until I looked up crazy thoughts on Google that I found the answer... after that the thoughts subsided and I was fine until this past August. Another heart issue, ate breakfast, had some heartburn, or whatever and then my sensors perked right up, of course I had to go to the ER and have them check me out, was fine. Went on a great trip with my wife, but with anxiety of course, waves of it, no intrusive thoughts, until I got back home and I had that thought... I must have caught me off guard, obviously, because I couldnt stop thinking of it, urges, the whole 9 yards. That led me to "omg, am I suicidal (because of thr thought), so that is hwere I am at. Now it's decided to find the loop hole, now, my OCD is saying "hey you better never, ever get depressed or you may do it"... so what do I do? Google Suicide OCD and fall deeper down the rabbit hole looking up content, OCD is often paired with depression which could lead to suicide and then of course I run across an article that says people with (TRIGGER: ) OCD are 10 times more likely to attempt or commit suicide based on a Swedish study. So like a heat seaking missile, I'm honed in on that one last thought, "I have OCD, now I have to constantly monitor whether I am sad or depressed in the event that leads to depression and then of course suicide". So now I worry about, "I have OCD, what if that worry about having OCD, which could lead me to more worry, then to depression, then leads me to suicidal thoughts?" I am currently in ERP therapy, about 4 weeks in at Dr. Phillipon's office in NYC (I Zoom call them). Currently doing index cards. SO basically my worry is still under the blanket of suicide OCD, but now it's modified a bit to say " hey you have OCD and that can increase the risk of suicide" That's actually one of my index cards: OCD is known to increase the risk of suicide. Suicide risk needs to be carefully monitored", which is found on the International OCD Foundation page. But then, many PhD YouTube videos don't say anything like that, Dr. Phillipson to be one, and many others. They say "your theme doesn't matter", it's JUSt OCD, etc, etc..." Sorry for the long rant, thanks everyone!