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I don’t think I will for a while because I just started dating someone but how do you tell your partner about your ocd? And how did they react?

I’ve had some of my most difficult days lately and would like to know what helps you replenish when you’re at your lowest ?

I woke up in early morning, I tried to go back to sleep but can't and I look through the phone. Then, I still have intrusive thoughts and I'm eating peppermints, using crystals trying to deal with it. My grandma (we shared in one room) aks me why I'm making noise, because tli using crystals on my desk and I saying"shut" to those thoughts. And then I don't want to disturb to try to deal with intrusive thoughts and then I throw my soft plush toy at her and I scream and told her to stop and I trying to deal. My mom woke up and she got pissed why I'm like this bc I deal with intrusive thoughts. And she made me go sleep in her bedroom and I apologize to my grandma and I didn't meant it. And I cried that why I'm like this? I still dealing with those intrusive thoughts that made me like this? My mom tried me to calm down and told me wait for grandma to woke up as if I go back to my room and never go to sleep at my room with my grandma now. It's it my fault?

My ocd started as postpartum ocd and now it flares any time my hormones are wack. Like right now, it’s the worst it’s every been but there’s a pattern with my cycle. It’s worse around End of period until ovulation and lets up completely when I start. Anyone else have this?? When my hormones are normal my ocd is almost nonexistent

Today was the first day in 4 months I blasted my radio and sang from my lungs and felt happiness … a pure happiness again. My healing journey hasn’t been linear, but I can say things DO get better and only will continue to. OCD doesn’t define you . You can live a beautiful life once you learn that you are not your thoughts , let go of the reigns, and trust your inner wisdom to guide you. I promise you it gets better. ☀️ People with ocd are the strongest people out there. You have the courage to get through this. The hardest thing I did was switch to sarcasm when the thoughts came my way “oh I’d love that!” “Oh yes that’s true” BUT once I started trusting my inner wisdom, it got easier. I KNEW at my core they would never happen and this was the only way to fight back at the bully. Even at my darkest moments (I didn’t even know what ocd was at one point during my struggles) my inner wisdom is what guided me through me safe. I also knew learned that physical sensations were a love letter from my body saying “ hey this isn’t right , switch your thinking!” Your body loves you. It wants to keep you safe. Your little pea brain though, just doesn’t know the difference. Keep that in mind as you work on healing. I love you all . You ALL deserve a beautiful life of happiness, and peace. And from someone who’s suffered— You will get there. Xo

I was wondering if you guys agree. I have PTSD, GAD, depression, an eating disorder and OCD. I feel like every time, OCD is taken the least serious, while to me its the worse... Also, my OCD makes it hard for me to search for help cause my OCD tells me Im a bad person, I dont deserve help, Im not allowed to show my emotions Because of that I cant show how bad it is, especially cause its pure ocd, so people dont mention my struggle or take me serious. But i feel like, in general, of all my disorders, OCD is taken the least serious, while to me its the worst of all. I hate it... i hate OCD so much, its debilitating and nobody can see it.

I ruminate/google compulsively about the possibility that I have Bipolar 2 disorder. Both my psychiatrist and therapist have told me repeatedly over many years that I don't and that I suffer from severe anxiety/OCD but no reassurance is enough and I can't let go of the thought and spend hours going over times in my life when I think I may have been hypomanic. I'm 50 and have suffered from periods of crippling anxiety from early adulthood. I've also had long periods when the anxiety/OCD has been in remission and I've been high functioning. I have seen a number of psychiatrists over the years and none of them have diagnosed me as bipolar but I'm convinced I am.

Does anyone else experience mind blankness? It’s like I’m a robot. I’m talking but I don’t feel in control. Fuzzy brain/feel disconnected from reality and myself.

Anyone else feel like they hit someone with their car this morning on their way to work and have to go back and check 8 times before they made it to work? Or is it just me? Asking for a friend 😐

I am tired Every passing fucking moment I am getting bombard with thoughts doubt, CONSTANTLY, I can’t walk talk do boxing without a fucking “you are gay” thought popping, or checking or arguing in my own head with myself, or the numbness or the going over my pass discrediting all my previous experiences with girls I am just done this isn’t a fight one can win I wake up every fucking morning with the same thoughts of you enjoy the thoughts, you would like it The moment I admit it to myself it all freaking disappear and “wow it’s obvious you don’t like men” and you’re hit with clarity, it’s fucking unbearable and driving me over the edge I have admitted to myself I am pan, gay, bi, at least 6000 times and it does fucking nothing because I’ll be hit with the same thoughts over and over and the same analyzing and the same mental compulsions I am straight up losing hope, I can’t enjoy a good conversation I would love with my crush. Because of a fucking “what if you loved it! You would like it”

Dear Pennyroyal. I haven't seen a post from you in a while. I wonder how you're doing? I hope you're great. I have not knowingly while multi-tasking blocked a member here at NOCD. Now I can't unblock them. I hope I haven't done the same to you and that is the reason why I don't get or just don't see anything from you on NOCD. I don't know where to see if you've blocked someone. I've been told unblocking is not an option. Penny, if you have been posting anything in the last 10 days and I still haven't been able to find anything from you, would you possibly be so kind and just change your profile name a bit, maybe put a number, a letter, a star or a heart after the name. Maybe then your posts will go through my block filter. If Nica is reading, would you do the same, pls. I will be way more careful from now on. The ironic part is, that when I blocked Nica, I didn't even know there was an option to block someone. My best to you both, to Levi,... Make my day with one of your cute gifs pls. 🤗❤️

I need advice. ASAP. I am a person who doesn't know how to say NO, when someone is taking advantage of me. I have a neighbor. She has 2 kids. She only calls me when her kids need me to help them with school work. I've known her for 8 months. She promised to pay for my help, but she paid me only for 3 out of 15 lessons. And she knows very well, I am alone here, I am looking for a job and that there were months when my husband wasn't able to come to me for the weekend because we had no money. It was super hard. She didn't give a damn. Well. to be fair, she did offer to lend me money, which I never would, but didn't pay me for the work I had already done. I don't get it. She is not interested in me, when we talk and I talk about sth in my life, she looses attention after a minute or two. As some of you might remember, my birthday was at the end of April. We communicated on the same day by sms/ text messages. She wanted us to get together for an ice cream or coffee. I told her, I was short of time, because it was my birthday and my cat's birthday, and my husband was coming home from the other side of the country and I wanted to get things nice and ready. But, I still promised to find half an hour to see her. I knew she was only interested in what had happened with me and a certain woman she knows ( I was looking for a job, but refused to take it, because a woman who works there started bullying me even before I had my second interview with her boss. And the bully is my neighbour's older son's private instructor). Now she was curious to get all the juicy details. I found the time, but she cancelled or postponed it for another day. Sth came up for her, I guess. But what hurts is, that she didn't say happy birthday to me. Not on the day,not after,... Not by a text message, not by a phone call, not in person,... It's been 2 weeks. Nothing. She had birthday only 2 months after we met. I was struggling to get by. After paying the rent and expenses, I hardly had money for food for my 3 cats and me. There were days I was hungry more or less. But I went and sold sth of mine and bought her a birthday present and expressed my best wishes to her. Half a year later, I didn't even get a text message for my birthday. NOCD members wished me well, she didn't. Today, just now, she called. She sent me a message she needed me. Her younger son needs help for school and her older son broke or twisted his leg and she needs someone to talk to. OK friends. I've been told, that part of the reason I have developed my ocd is my low self esteem, lack of confidence. That's why people walk all over me. I am there for everyone, noone for me. That's why, people who hurt me, become the focus of my ocd obsessions. One at the time. What do I do now? Do I run to her? Do I offer my shoulder to cry on? This is what my soul, my heart, my empathy tells me to do. But then there is the other side ( call it my ego or just the need for self-respect) which tells me, don't be the idiot she thinks you are. I know she's manipulating me, but since I have never had any support in my life from Noone, I don't have the heart to refuse support to anyone. Please, what would you do? She's waiting for me to call her. I would appreciate your input. I hope someone answers. Peace of mind and soul. Have a beautiful day.

Does anyone with this subtype feel like all your memories with the sex you like it was an other person like it was not you bc your brain keep telling you that you want the other sex 😩?

I'm getting so annoyed now. I heard somewhere, that there is a difference between good butterflies and bad butterflies and you can somehow mix them up. Does it ever end??? I know what anxiety feels like, I used to feel it all the damn time. About everything. I would feel it with boys too, nervous, anxious, but also excited, wanting to be near them, and fantasizing about them. I'll admit butterflies used to make me feel good, but it also made me feel like I had a bad stomach ache. Now my head is wrapped around the idea of whether I had good butterflies or bad butterflies. I'm so sick of hearing things like this.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years and the past year had been really hard for me mentally and just in general - had no friends in my city, living in a different country, moved into my boyfriends house with 3 other filthy boys, no time to myself, intense depression and anxiety yadayadayada the list could go on. I feel like I’ve always had relationship anxiety but this last year has been extreme and has totally made me doubt my relationship and my ability to be in a relationship. We are currently in my home country for the summer but plan on moving back to his home country (which we have been living prior) and I am not super stoked about moving back and to the city. He’s not in love with the city either but it would hold opportunities for us to grow our relationship and careers. I just find myself going through a constant rotation of either feeling annoyed, un-attracted, doubt of my love, and doubt of my future love for my partner. What makes it so confusing is that he treats me better than anyone ever has, we laugh together, and he’s a total babe - so why do I have this unshakable feeling that we’re not right for each other? I’m just so scared that since I’m feeling so icky about our relationship, that I’m making a mistake by doing something that doesn’t make my heart sing. I feel like I’m constantly looking for reassuring moments that make me feel good about us, but every time there is a positive, I sabotage it with my thoughts and view it as maybe I’m being phony. What if the thoughts are true? It wouldn’t make much sense but I just have such a negative feeling about it and feel like maybe I have to accept this feeling and move on from the relationship - I have no idea. I plan on seeking therapy soon, and I haven’t been diagnosed with rocd but I resonate and seem to be suffering a lot with the symptoms. Does this sound like rocd? And does anyone have any advice or clarity on what I’m experiencing?

Hi y’all! I just want to let you know that I struggled and still do sometimes with scrupulosity , (a form of ocd where you have spiritual bad thoughts about God) And The Lord Jesus helped me out of it. I pretty much all of the time felt condemned and separated from God, and saw Him through the “ocd goggles,” where I saw a god throwing burdens on me and looking only at my “perfectness” which no human can be—perfect. So Jesus Helped me by showing me the TRUE Jesus, the One talked about in the Holy Bible—the Kind, Gentle, Living and patient Savior. God sent His Son, Jesus into this world 2000 years ago to die for our sin, cause yes—we all do deserve God’s Just and Holy wrath—but Jesus came to take all of our sin upon Him because He is prefect and sinless, The Spotless Lamb, and God credits Jesus’ Righteousness to anyone who JUST Believes in Jesus, and they will be completely pardoned from that point on. There is nothing we can do to be separated from God, for once we believe in His Son Jesus, He becomes our Father. The Bible says all we need to do is believe, so for those of you who think you aren’t going to Heaven because of some thing you did, yet you believe in Jesus—then that is a lie. Romans tells us we are justified by Faith : Romans 3:21-28 But now apart from the law the righteousness of God has been manifested, being witnessed by the law and the prophets, even the righteousness of God through faith in Jesus Christ for ALL those who believe, there is no distinction; for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, being justified as a GIFT by his grace through the redemption which is in Jesus Christ; whom God displayed publicly as a propitiation in his blood through FAITH. This was to demonstrate his righteousness, because in the forbearance of God he passed over the sins previously committed, for the demonstration I say of his righteousness at the present time so that he would be just in the justifier of the one who has FAITH IN JESUS; where then is boasting? It is excluded. By what kind of law? Of works? No, but by a law of faith. After justification (being pardoned of our sin through Jesus Christ thru Believing In HIM) comes sanctification (the process that lasts our entire lifetime growing in the grace and knowledge of Jesus Christ our Savior, producing Fruit of the Spirit, —we can only do all this through Jesus and His Holy Spirit, because Jesus said in Matthew that we can do NOTHING apart from Him. Just remember—refuse to listen to the lies of the devil and your feelings, and look to Jesus and His perfect sacrifice and how He says He will never leave you nor forsake you and “never cast you out” (John 6:37) God bless you and trust Jesus not your thoughts and feelings. Glory to God only, amen.

Has anyone ever told that because of OCD, they think like a robot? My “friend” once told me that I was a “math machine”. He was referring to my mathematical abilities, and how I was incapable of being anything else but a robot. It was very much a backhanded complement. It’s true that I do have a PhD in math and that I have abilities in that subject, but I hate being told that’s all I am. Also because of the black and white thinking associated with OCD, it seems that way and that he might be right. Additionally, some family members think that way too. That I’m only good at math but suck at everything else. Curious as to your experiences, as it seems that with OCD, we seem to fit that stereotype.

I just don’t know how to date with this theme. I see many people in relationships who have this theme but I can’t imagine myself in a relationship right now! I envy those who have relationships while having SOOCD. I’ve just put dating on the back burner for the three years I’ve had this. I just have the fear that I will like someone, they’ll like me back, and then I’ll lose feelings. I fear I’ll never like anyone again. I’ve tried dating these past few years with 2 different guys, I just don’t feel as infatuated as I used to… I don’t know if it’s the loss of libido or just not the right guy or what…

You guys I’m having an episode .. but I don’t need reassurance I just need advice

Hi guys, dealing with SO-OCD for like two months now and of course is driving me crazy since I have a boyfriend that I love more than everything ( even if rn I’m feelling like it was a lie 🤡) but I have genuine question today, I already have this subtype during my teenage year (where I didn’t know I had OCD) and sometimes like a year ago but everytime it was only for few days then I forgot about it but know it’s 2 MONTHS and I don’t understand… Did you guys ever have like a subtype for a few days and then later it became your main subtype ?! Cause because of this I was convince it can’t be ocd :/ ? We got this guys btw stay strong ❤️‍🩹