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I am 16 years old and someone faked their age to me, she said she was 15 so i said to her that she is beautiful and all and also i said to her would you do anything sexual, then later on she tells me that she is 13 coming 14 this has made me feel so guilty😔 please help me

Really need some prayers and support as I feel so horrible. My harm OCD gets so bad. It may means nothing for you but is very triggering to me when I see bugs in my pool. I was swimming in the pool yesterday after work. I try not to pay attention on bugs cause every time I try to save them my ocd twists things. I have a special floating pillow that helps animals to get out of the pool so they don’t drown. Bugs sit on it sometimes. Yesterday I tried to remove some of these bugs so they don’t fall into water to save them. Then I left them alone but thought came that some of them may dropped in water cause moved that floating pillow. I wanted to check what has happened. It was getting dark so I used my phone camera to check if that bug was still on the floating pillow. And it was. Now my mind tells me I might blinded it cause I used my camera light. I thought not to use the light but still did cause could not see it in the dark. I am so tired of it. I can no longer do what I like (gardening, swimming, etc.) as it gets me in trouble with my head. 😞🥲 I think that somehow I still hurt creatures one way or another. Example: I save that bug from drowning in water, then my mind tells me I still somehow caused the harm to that creature. In this case, phone light may blinded it. Everything around is triggering now. I feel I’m never good. 🥲🥲🥲

Ugh, just ugh. Back story : I’m not in the best relationship. Bf struggles with ADHD and anger issues and I struggle with OCD, PTSD, Anxiety, ptsd from domestic violence and abuse from my father. I feel like because often there are fights that leave me feeling like there’s no hope and I’m always gonna be in these situations; also bc I can never leave bc then I’d have to live with my dad, which is impossible I’d rather seriously expire. It’s just not safe for me, but I’m in this situation now and I live with him and his older brother and his wife. Also, totally afraid regardless if I should be or not that if I ever brought up breaking up ever it would be bad and no one would help me out at all. That’s probably mostly the trauma but I can think any other way honestly. But things get better and I try and I do love him. Anyways, I feel like because of this if any guy treats me with respect and is actually interested in what I say… I like obsess over them or something like definitely a lot of pure o checking in my head and it’s exhausting and I feel gross and I feel evil and I feel awful. I just wish this stuff would stop. I wish I could make better decisions. I wish this wasn’t apart of my life :( ocd is tough af. I’m tough as nails and it’s so exhausting. So mentally tiring. There’s this guy I’ve known since I’ve known my bf and he was interesting and we have common interests anyways. They’re friends ofc and when he comes over it’s just hell for my mind no matter how proactive I try to be. There’s always this chance that “he could be my soul mate” “he could share the same feelings” and then like things go bad between me and my bf and I’ll have dreams about his friend and I’m like wtf which if I have a dream I remember I think it must be a sign. “It must be a sign” should be tatted on my head. Any wise words? Am I awful? How can I stop this? Bc I’m trying, probably not hard enough. I have my boundaries and try to control myself as much as possible but it’s hard too bc I’m very kind and outgoing and we have a lot in common, and my relationship is toxic at times. Idk man I’m tired. I could go on and on about this but yeah just wanted to get it off my chest and feel heard tbh.

does anyone here also struggle with sexuality ocd as a queer individual? i’ve mostly seen people talk about it from a heterosexual perspective but i haven’t seen or heard much from those who identify as queer or lgbtq and such. i’ve struggled with comphet (compulsive heterosexuality) since i was a kid however have always been confident from a young age that my attraction and desire in romantic relationships is exclusive to women even after trying to like & date men. though, recently, i’ve been having so many intrusive thoughts about the men i’ve interacted with. i am okay with male friendships however the thought of being with a man repulses me and makes me nauseous. i keep going back and forth in my head to “check” how i feel by forcing myself to think about situations that include men. it is becoming incredibly exhausting and i wish it would just go away. i just want to know i’m not alone

I’m newly diagnosed with ocd. The onset of my symptoms started a little over a month ago on vacation. I have harm and real event ocd which has sent me down a spiral for a few weeks as the two subtypes work together in convincing me my themes are really true. I didn’t become aware of the possibility that I had ocd until a week after my symptoms started due to the fact that ocd is portrayed so differently in media/movies. I’m beginning to think that my OCD has been with me longer than I imagined and possibly started in my childhood. I had a serious fear of myself and others vomiting especially in school. I can recall two times where my peers vomiting in school caused me to panic. Once I even ran out of the classroom and hid in one of the private bathrooms in elementary school because someone had vomited. As I’ve gotten older I have become somewhat tolerant of seeing others puke but it still startles me. I have a fear of being sick myself and have always been obsessed with tracking who has the stomach flu. A few months prior I was exposed to someone that had it without knowing it and refused to eat a large meal because I was convinced I was gonna have it the next day. I want to make it clear that while I don’t like respiratory illnesses I usually don’t have the intense anxiety and fear of cold and flu stuff. It seems to just be contagious gastrointestinal diseases (Norovirus). Another thing that I’m not sure about is how I am in relationships. Ive been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. I have always been extremely worried that he’s going to cheat on me or go behind my back. Well both download the Life360 app because we often drive to see each other and make sure we get home safely and because he wanted to reassure me that he wasn’t doing anything behind my back. This app became my go-to to check his location because I constantly worried. I also freaked out over the smallest “clue” that I would misconstrue and think he was definitely cheating to the point where I was absolutely convinced and at times was ready to walk out. He would literally go the extra mile and give me literal proof that he was innocent but yet I still ended up at square one. I feel incredibly horrible when i ruminate and think about how he felt because Ik he was innocent. It makes me feel like I don’t deserve someone as good as him. He’s been with me every step of the way since my ocd really started. Ik it’s probably just me being super insecure but at the same time I’ve just been diagnosed with ocd and my rumination has often brought me back to moments in life where maybe it was ocd type stuff. Ofc after a while I became convinced that I’m just an absolute horrible person and that I don’t deserve anything and that I have something else other than ocd and it validates everything. I’ve actually had a good few days and have been productive since this first started but I feel like I have something in my mind pulling me back and reminding me that I HAVE TO think about it or else I don’t care and that it’s all true. I also believe I don’t actually have it and just manipulate my way into the diagnosis even though I feel like a prisoner in my own mind.

Hello, this is my first time posting! I just want to reflect on how cruel and unfair OCD is. It’s so hard to tell where OCD ends and where you begin, and vice versa. Anything and everything can become a compulsion, and there’s no real way to know without falling into a trap. I honestly thought I was just being responsible and aware before finding out it’s all been ruminating and mental compulsions my entire life. Breaking away from the pattern of Pure-OCD is brutal, but necessary to get my life back. Anyone else feel this way?

Hi all! Any tips for riding out an OCD episode? Trying not to use safety behaviours/compulsions or ruminate etc.

I have two memories of molesting two different children and nothing has come of it. No one has spoken up about it no one’s complained hell there’s nothing even on the cameras. But I’m convinced these false memories happened and it scares me to death. Did I really molest those children or is my brain conjuring all of this up? What do I do because I feel like I can’t live with myself

I’m trying to get past the thought in my head that “this is not ocd”. Mainly because I’m not doing compulsions that much anymore it’s just the constant thoughts and still some anxiety from them. The idea that I haven’t figured this out puts a pit in my stomach and brings me to tears. I just know if I do compulsions it’ll feel like the cycle will never stop and it’s exhausting. I already think about this every second of the day and I feel like I can’t enjoy anything so my mind says “well you’re not doing compulsions you’re just anxious about the fact that your life is gonna change and you don’t want it to”. This is so hard I don’t know what to do

does anyone else have this? over the past couple of days i’ve developed i guess a new compulsion where i just feel like i need to constantly pray over every little thing or something bad will happen. if im on tiktok or see anything where any person is struggling in any way or maybe not even but they just look sad or something i feel like i have to pray , also the same thing when it comes to my family, bf, friends or pets. i pray abt and for them like 30 times a within an hour and im not exaggerating 😭. i feel scared and worried that if i don’t word it right or include everyone i have ever cared about something bad will happen to them or to me.

i obsess over extremely negative unwanted thoughts and no matter how hard i try to convince myself they’re just thoughts and i don’t actually want that they continue to almost consume me in a way? it’s like a constant battle with myself and there’s been many times where it physically makes me ill and distressed and like i need to tell someone even if it also affects them. i have some decent days where i can fight them but ive noticed when im stressed i can only fight them for so long. i seriously feel crazy 99% of the time and like nobody understands me. everyone always tells me they get bad thoughts too and it’s human which i understand but not everyone gets them to the extent of some others. its to a point where i just want to give up sometimes so i won’t have to deal with the thoughts. of course i never would but my mind does go there.

how to treat intrusive groinal responses? any advice?

I am experiencing the absolute worst depersonalization I have ever experienced and I do not know what to do. Nothing feels real and I am so scared and it really feels like I am so detached from myself. What can I do to make this stop? I am so worried I am going to do something horrible in this state. PLEASE HELP!!!

I’m coming to terms with the fact that alongside ocd I may have a fearful avoidant attachment style. I wanted to get a better understanding of it so started searching up what it was on youtube. Under one comment section someone expressed how they really liked a guy and then something minor happened and they immediately got turned. I understood her comment and felt kind of seen. That was until I looked at her replies two comments stuck out to me. One said it sounds like lesbianism and the other talked about how the commenter may be gay. This sent me into a spiral, I haven’t flared up like this for a bit. I’ve managed to stay in a state of uncertainty till now all of a sudden. The commenter replied to one of these comments a couple months later saying that she went to seek help and found out they have relationship OCD. Surely this would also make me feel seen and put me at ease? But still I’m ruminating past evidence and among other rituals that I managed to void out before. I’m so scared this will forever be my life, I’ll have a good couple months and then I’ll fall back into an awful loop. I’m 19 right now but I feel as though because of this theme I’ll never find a partner and I’ll forever be alone because I’m unsure. My brain keeps on telling me that I’m using this attachment style as a ‘cover up’. I’m just so over this I wish I could go back to before I had this theme. I rarely come on here because I found that sometimes it worsens my ocd but I feel so alone…

My intrusive thoughts with my SO OCD have been flaring up horribly for the past couple weeks, I think due to stress. Today has been especially bad. I’ve been experiencing false attractions with every woman I’ve been seeing today and it’s making me feel so gross that I feel anxious and sick to my stomach and that I’m going to cry. I cannot shake all the feelings in the body that make it FEEL like I’m « attracted » to them even though I know deep down it’s all fake!! I don’t know if I’m dealing with it right. I’m trying my best to just ignore the thought but the minute it stops, my ocd convinces me that I am in denial because I was able to stop and then I can’t stop thinking about that this confirms im in denial and I freak out and the process starts all over again. I don’t know if I should respond to the thought or ignore it or if what I’m doing is denial or really SO OCD. I have been ruminating on it so much the past couple weeks and it’s starting to take a turn to where I don’t remember anything except my intrusive thoughts and feelings and I am having a hard time getting things done at work and showing up to things and being fully present. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong and I just want it to stop. If i was bi or gay or whatever, that’s fine!! I don’t care. But the thought of being with a woman when the fake attraction I feels makes me want to vomit makes me feel dread at the idea of dating a woman. Im currently dating a wonderful man who is a great fit for me and makes me incredibly happy. It feels like if im in denial and my intrusive thoughts are right, i will have to break up with him and that thought alone destroys me. I could go on about how I have only liked, loved and been attracted to men my entire life and have never wanted to be with a woman in any other way besides a friend but I feel like that will just make my anxiety worse. I have been dealing with SO OCD on and off since puberty but it got incredibly more severe the past couple years. Does anyone have any constructive advice about how to deal with the rumination? Should I ignore it? Should I sit with it and accept the fact that it might be true? Anything would help thank you!!

Hi guys so I made a rant about this a little while ago but I think it was too long to read so I tried to shorten it, I’ll answer any questions anyone has happily, I would just really appreciate any help I (female) started dating my best friend (male) on the 2nd March. We live in the uk and met through drama class a couple years ago and our families are close. He is the year group below me and we have an age gap of 1 year, 5 months, 2 weeks in total (I’m 17, he is 16 in like a day). I spoke to a lot of people irl, they told me it’s nothing to worry about and to go for it, there’s been like the odd joke now and again but all our family and friends have been very supportive, more so than I would’ve expected for any relationship actually (I think they shipped us for a while lol). I want to trust them but I go on a Tik Tok comment section or something regarding a similar topic and some comments will be saying that it’s not okay, and I’ll try to focus on the more rational seeming people disagreeing with them but I can’t help but worry if they’re right, not just chronically online and I’m doing something wrong. I genuinely love him so much, he’s my favourite person, I have no bad intentions just want to see him happy. We have kissed but I’ve told him I want to take it slow and wouldn’t be comfortable doing anything more than that anytime soon which he understands. Opinions?

I'm in such a dark place with SOCD or HOCD, I don't know what to do at this point. It's literally the only thing that I focus on all day and I don't even know who I am anymore. Some days I worry that I'm gay and the other days I worry that I'm asexual because I want to be with women so bad. Ever since this started I've lost pretty much all my sexual attraction to girls and now have crippling social anxiety. I used to check both gay and straight p*rn to see what I got excited by and now that I quit doing that things are so much worse. This has negatively affected pretty much every aspect of my life and it's made me suicidal. There are times when the thoughts get so bad I start to hit myself. No medication that I have tried has worked at all and I'm pretty sure they just give me side effects. I feel so lost and helpless, I can't even get therapy on this site because my insurance doesn't cover it. If anyone has any tips for me or resources that I could use that would be awesome.

I’ve asked about this before on this app and I was told I wasn’t doing anything wrong and same thing in real life but when I go online I start to freak out bit. For context I’m in the UK and basically on the 2nd March, I (female) started dating my best friend (male). We’re both actors and met at my drama group when I was 14 he was 13. He turns 16 in two days but at the time we started dating two months ago he was 15 with me being 17 (I’m one year group older but nearly 1.5 years older in age). Now when I started to worry about liking him I asked basically all the people in my life if I would be doing anything wrong by dating him and they all said no and the age gap is basically nothing. This might sound daft but even then like I knew I was in love with him and vice versa, both of us have said we’re each other’s favourite people and we’ve never had such a great emotional connection with another person before, so I didn’t wanna ruin something that I knew would be great for us both by worrying about something that literally everyone told me not to worry about. So irl everything’s fine, but sometimes when I look online (Tik Tok videos usually) for reassurance when I start to worry “what if” , most comments don’t really bat an eye at like a 1 or 2 year age gap (I know ours isn’t actually 2 years but I figure if 2 is fine then 1 is as well) but every now and then they’ll be someone saying about how it’s like grooming or the persons a victim and while rationally I try to tell myself that they’re just chronically online it still gets to me and focus on the more rational seeming people who usually are there disagreeing with them. Logically if there was anything wrong I know that neither of our parents would be so supportive of it as they have been and neither would our friends (mutual or individual), they’d tell me something was up. He knows I have moral scrupulosity and tried to comfort me but I always think as the younger one it’s just kinda easy for him to say that it’s fine lol. Really I always said and thought I’d be with someone older so that could be it, didn’t think I’d mentally be able to date someone younger for this very reason. But he is literally the best person I ever met so I pushed through the worrying, and even my mam has warned me not to freak out and ruin something so great. I won’t go into detail but physically all we’ve done is kiss and that was mostly cos while I knew it worried me I just didn’t wanna mess up any of the romance or the natural part of the course of a relationship and have the memory of us at the start of our romantic relationship just be me freaking out all the time and messing everything up. I’ve told him I wanna take it slow and will not be doing more than that any time soon which he totally gets. Genuinely have no bad intentions whatsoever I just love him for the person he is and most of all out of everything just want to spend quality time with him and make sure he’s happy. I’m just grateful he understands and is patient with me not really initiating anything like that (not just cos of silly age rumination also cos of worries about doing the wrong thing anyway like consent wise, want to have no doubt that I’ll be causing no harm, just thought I’d clarify). Sorry for this being so long (believe me I could’ve made it longer lol) I’ve just been feeling extra compulsive recently. If anyone needs me to clarify anything just ask, I’m just grateful for any help I can get <3

it’s been getting really hard to pray. like the thoughts are constant. i can’t concentrate, and it’s just tiring. i feel like a failure to God sometimes. I know that’s not true but still. Not to mention that praying is a compulsion of mine and i do it a lot so i’m just stressed out all the time. I feel bad if i don’t pray over the littlest things. because ik my prayer can make a big impact. i’ve had ocd for years, so none of this is new but it’s like coming at full force. how am i supposed to have a relationship with God if my prayer life isn’t doing well?

Does anyone else get a random wave of anxiety and an awkward feeling that you are not yourself??? i don’t know how to explain it but it feels like i’m gonna act on my intrusive thoughts because i barely feel like myself, i even feel out of my body and horrible body sensations