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NOCD therapy couldnt help. No one can. People kept telling me to try and help myself and I did I fought hard and I lost. Good luck to you all

I am in week 5 therapy. My thoughts are going all over the place. I would say one theme every 15 min. Every theme I though I was done with are coming back. Working hard on using ERP. But I’m not perfect and if I don’t even do what I was doing before (reinsurance with my boyfriend or googling) I still do some digging or self mental reinsurance. I don’t know what the ratio but it would say 65/35( 35 I handle thoughts badly). This morning I feel exhausted and very down. Kind of demotivated. Thoughts don’t stay as long as they use to but it’s like firework. It is such a hard period right I feel I have to tell myself be strong even though I feel so weak. Any people in recovery or recovered who have been through the same period and would have some motivation words for me :) ? Be brave all!

Before HOCD, did anyone else have a problem with this? Basically, I was scared that boys that I don't like, like me. And that made me so uncomfy talking to them because if they asked me out, I'll say no. I never dated either so HOCD is so hard for me ugh. I've had feelings for people but I never shared it with anyone because I was still in that "scared" phase or "embarrassed". Plus, I wasn't ready to date due to insecurities and fear. I'm still scared that it's a sign or something ugh. And when I tell people I'm not ready to date or I haven't dated, people would assume my identity. I've always had feelings towards boys, but never for girls (I only admired them). But with OCD, I don't remember if I actually liked them :/ I also fantasize about my past crushes and I remember imagining myself marrying them.

Message of love and hope for you teenagers! I had such bad OCD as a teenager, especially ages 13-16. I felt soo alone, like there was no way that anyone else was worrying about these “crazy” things. Now I’m a middle school teacher (I also teach some high school) and it blows my mind how many teenagers do have OCD. Just this past year I had 5 students who shared with me (or their parents shared) that they had an OCD diagnosis. Did you know that OCD about homosexuality and relationships is super common for teenagers? You need to know that it is VERY unlikely that you are the only student at your school with OCD. In fact, there’s a good chance that someone at your school has the same OCD theme as you. I’m telling you this so that you know you are NOT alone. When you’re obsessing about something during lunch, there’s a good chance someone else in the cafeteria is struggling with their OCD too. It’s so tough dealing with OCD as a teenager. So this is me sending you a huge hug and telling you that you are STRONG and BRAVE and NOT ALONE in this struggle.

Ok legitimately feel like vomiting. I can not deny that I’m turned on by boobs (in porn and stuff, not just like cleavage or women I meet). I’m so terrified. This has to mean I’m gay and I feel hopeless and depressed. I don’t know what to do anymore. ERP will be awful for this because I will get aroused and that’ll just confirm my worst fear. I’m feeling reeeaaaaally low.

Is it normal when you try and ask yourself ‘Do I really want this/want to do this’ you feel like you can’t answer? With my sexual obsessions it’s like I can’t stick to my values and morals because every time I say ‘well I wouldn’t ever do that in real life’ my brain is like ‘but how do you really know if you don’t want to...’ so how can I stick to my values?

I am insecure. Verrrry insecure. And in terms of my PHYSICAL insecurities, it’s so bittersweet to me that I can get rid of them. Because whilst I’d be way more confident and happy, I’m also scared that I’d believe I’m the prettiest person ever. Which is obviously irrational and untrue. But... I don’t want to think that! I never want to be a narcissist. And ‘Narcissist OCD’ / fear of being one is currently my worst theme. So I just don’t know what to do. I look at girls who I believe are better than me, and they’re all so pretty, but often quite shallow / mean. And I know that sounds quite rude, but it’s something a lot of my friends think about them. For me, even though I am incredibly self conscious of how I come across to people and will probably forever be insecure of that, I do think I have a faaaairly decent personality! Sometimes atleast. So I guess what makes me anxious is the thought of losing weight (which is my biggest physical insecurity) and then becoming ‘prettier’. Because then I would be on the same page as the other girls I was just talking about. However, I worry I’ll think I’m BETTER than them, because I’ll also have the advantage of my semi-decent personality. I know this sounds so silly and stupid and maybe a little conceited (which worries me!). But I just feel stuck. I don’t like going out because I’m so insecure. But losing this insecurity could make me feel superior and I don’t want that at all. So what am I meant to do? Just to note, I know my confidence shouldn’t entirely be based around how I look... but it just is. That’s something I can’t change. I genuinely believe I need to lose weight in order to lose this insecurity.

I broke down crying because my dad mentioned suicide. I mainly struggle with suicidal ocd, have been for about 9 months. Got diagnosed and started therapy in March and I feel like I’m slowly improving, but of course get moments here and there. Not medicating for now. Anyways, today was feeling pretty alright, thoughts more in the backseat, in a good mood, I was excited to go into the pool with my family and catch some sun, celebrate Father’s Day, etc. So my family and I are sitting together by having lunch and my dad is talking about this tooth pain he started having last night. He was saying that it was getting so bad to the point where you would do anything to stop it. My mom joker and said “oh I should hit you on the leg or something to distract you from the pain” and my dad said “I meant more like a bullet to the brain”.... That stopped me dead in my tracks and I felt panic and an emotional reaction coming up. I tried to ignore it but I couldn’t so I politely excused myself to the bathroom. My parents knew what happened (they’re aware of my theme), so I went to the bathroom and burst into tears. After a little I was able to collect myself, breathe, and join them saying to drop it and continue eating. Not gonna lie it shocked me a bit the reaction I had. But I HATED hearing that. It was too much and I wish he never said that.

TW: Sexual intrusive thoughts, rape. I haven’t heard anyone discuss this theme, and I’m not looking for reassurance just feedback on how people feel/if others have experienced it. I’ve experienced sexual intrusive thoughts in many capacities-pedophilia, not being attracted, cheating vs. being cheated on, all of the “common” ones it seems. In the past I also struggled with rape themes and worrying if I would rape someone and also worried that my sexual encounters with my boyfriend and now fiancé were consenting. In the beginning of our relationship we struggled briefly with sexual boundaries and he has since become a really thoughtful sexual partner. I worked with an OCD therapist doing ERP for this theme among others for over a year, and despite having improved tremendously in certain areas I’ve seen my sexual intrusive thoughts come back in a mutated form. What I’m wondering about, and what I haven’t heard anything about so far has been people being triggered by hearing of events of sexual assault and/or the #MeToo movement. In no way am I defending sexual predators, but whenever I hear another story about sexual assault my ocd is triggered. I worry if I’m having false memories of what I experienced, if my fiancé is actually “bad” and if I should be with him due to having had issues around consent/boundaries in the past. I especially worry with “cancel culture” being so popular and the perspective that a person should never be given another chance/forgiven/educated if they make a wrong decision. (Again not defending predators-that’s a whole different realm) but I think especially in my generation people deserve the chance to be corrected and be able to learn. Not having willingness to learn/change and do better is the problem. I know in my heart my fiancé is a good natured person and I’ve never felt anything but safe with him. I hate these thoughts. Thanks for reading if you got to this point, I’d love to hear your thoughts.

I'm going to share my HOCD story. Growing up I never knew I had OCD, looking back tho I can see that I had manageable symptoms of perfectionism and scrupulously. I was a normal kid, loved sports video games fishing hiking camping crabbing and women. Always had crushes on women. I started masturbating to straight porn around 14 and could now see I may have even been addicted. I was always insecure about performance anxiety with women so I refrained from having actual sex until I was 18 with my first serious girlfriend. I loved it. Still never questioned my masculinity or if I was gay. With the pressure of going to college my girlfriend and I fighting my parents getting divorced, I was so stressed and anxious had my first panic attack. About a week later, I couldn't get an erection to a picture of a hot woman and the thought came into my head what if I'm gay because of this. At this very moment it felt as if my brain broke. I had constant anxious and fears. I was basically bed bound besides going to class. I had crippling depression with the constant gay intrusive thoughts. All of a sudden I questioned if I talked like a girl walked like a girl or acted feminine. I would have to constant repeat in my head I'm not gay I'm not gay I'm not gay all day every day. I couldn't sleep could barely eat. I got images of penises in my mouth and the sensation of men kissing me and me doing sexual things with men. I was disgusted. I couldn't have sex with my girlfriend because during it I would get intrusive gay thoughts. I would check with porn, still never watched gay porn. Only time I felt normal was when I would drink alcohol so I started drinking compulsively. The gay thoughts would go away and I was calm. Now I still turn to drinking alcohol. I have social anxiety with women because my brain was filled with gay thoughts. I avoided all things gay. And I falsely concluded that everyone thought I was gay. I lost interest in everything and became extremely suicidal and depressed. I went to therapy but none of them knew what was wrong with me. They thought I was hanging a sexual identity crisis. I would constantly read about HOCD and take gay tests online and watch coming out stories. After my girlfriend and I broke up I would have sex with women yo check if I liked it, close to 30 women. It was a compulsion. I was always drunk. I would get the groinals every time I saw any man and also felt the sensation that I was being raped every time a man would come near me or I would bend down. I still suffer from this. I lost a lot of friends due to my drinking and dropped out of college. I kept it a secret for 6 long years until i finally told my best friend. I was ashamed and still am. Now I'm an alcoholic and basically just drink to numb the pain. I have no interests or hobbies anymore and feel as tho everything is pointless. I've always dreamed of having a wife and kids and now that doesn't feel realistic. I feel hopeless. I don't know what to do. I hate my life. There's so much more I could get into and would love to talk to anyone who has gone through any of this. Thanks for reading...

Does anyone have any recommendations on resources that have helped them with their OCD? Particularly any podcasts or blogs? I go to therapy every week, I’m just working on a lot of self improvement and would love some extra tips.

Do u guys have anxiety about getting older ? It feels like time flies and i'm only 19 but it's like i'm scared of wasting my youth bc of anxiety and ocd and not knowing who i am. So i'm kinda obsessed about how old am i and am i enjoying my youth enough and that i'm scared of getting older

does anyone have any tips for figuring out what is and is not a compulsion? my ocd is currently trying to convince me i don’t have ocd because mine is mostly pure. also on that note, does repetitive googling classify as pure or physical?

My cisgender OCD (telling me I’m not trans) is back for the first time since I did my full course of gender-OCD-focused ERP. It hurts. It makes it harder to have a healthy relationship with my body, a healthy sense of self, respect for all I’ve done to get as far as I’ve gotten as a transgender woman. I can really feel the difference the ERP made in the severity of symptoms and in how I handle them, and yet here I am again, dealing with obsessive and intrusive thoughts that I’m really a man. I wish more people understood just how painful this is.

Man I’m tiered these thoughts have no themes or any particular kind..I have trouble in breathing and my father woke up and start vomiting so i think of covid 19 and i think that I’m still young i will be fine and it doesn’t matter what will happen to him I think that i want my family die to take money I have all kinds if thoughts and they didn’t tuck just everyday a new thoughts pop up in all kinds And the weird thing that in the time the come i’m not remembering that i think bad or anything it just from nowhere

Is “take as needed” anxiety pills a thing that can work for OCD? I know it’s not possible now with covid still happening but my friend and I have been talking forever about traveling to Japan one day and spending a week or 2 there, flying from the US. My biggest concern is my OCD and anxiety flaring up. Last April I went on a trip across the country and had a horrible anxiety episode which resulted in me flying back home early (this has never happened before and I’ve traveled many times before). The next trip I took, like a week before the trip, I had another anxiety episode which also started my OCD onset of suicidal OCD (trip was HORRIBLE for me mentally and physically, but I managed). I obviously don’t want to have OCD run and ruin my life, especially with a once loved passion of traveling. I’m not on any medication now and I’m worried to get on an SSRI or antidepressant or whatever because of risk of side effects and potentially making it worse and whatnot. I’m doing fine I suppose and doing ERP/working with a therapist now and I’m seeing progress, but I would absolutely hate to have a strong episode hit me while I’m across the world and having to cut such an amazing trip short. So that leads me to wondering if a take as needed anxiety medication would help or even exists, so I could just take it while on the trip and be fine off of it when I came back Thanks!

So i have a 2 year old daughter and every time we go for walks around my neighborhood i scan the floors where we're walking, usually looking for stuff like used bandaids or stains that might look like blood. And if i see anything that triggers my anxiety i completely avoid that part of the sidewalk for my next walk.. Is this normal or is it just my anxiett taking over?? Please help

Hello everyone, I'm absolutely freaking out about something. I'm 17 years old, and a couple of months ago, I stumbled on a website that had child pornography. I was absolutely disgusted, I closed everything immediately and even reported everything to Google. There are many websites like this one that havent shut down, so I was trying to make an effort to report them all to Google. However, as I was doing so, I started feeling extemely guilty for even opening those websites and looking at those images. I know that I was doing the right thing, but it still bothers me too much. I feel absolutely disgusting and destroyed for having seen those type of images, especially because MY OCD likes to make me imagine those things. I feel disgusted and repulsed by it, and I'm absolutely panicking right now. Please help me :(

Does anyone else feel like when their moving around or doing something their doing it "gay" like I'd be walking but my heads like your walking "gayly" and it makes me feel physicaly gay if you know what I mean.

WARNING: LONG READ. Would appreciate if someone would read it though. ~ ? Y’all I am struggling today. On the outside, today has been nearly perfect. I have a wonderful daddy who just spent 1100 dollars on a new laptop & accessories for me today before I go off to school. But now I am obsessing over “needing” a new iPhone 11 now instead of just appreciating he & mama’s sacrifices for me!! Consciously, I know I am grateful, but my emotions are being CRUEL today. Also, I just got my hair done & I am obsessing over our city water turning my blonde yellow. I wanted to get a filter for our shower, but dad says a plumber will need to look at it first. AHHHHH why can’t I just be happy & grateful that life is going great? (Materialistically. Emotionally not so great because I just lost my grandfather.) Maybe it’s partially because I have not been taking my Fluoxetine & I need a refill on it. AHHHHH this word vomit isn’t even all of what I am obsessing about. UGHHHHH.