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I emailed my teacher I wanted to switch seats as I felt excluded in my current group and told him I will step out of class when I get too anxious. Communication with teachers is a scary part & I’ve avoid that all my 10 years going to school but I’ve learnt that they have to manage 30 students in a room and all they know about you is very surface level. They don’t know what obstacles you carry during class so you need to advocate for yourself, speak yourself. Though for most people they would delete some part of the email to make it not long to not bother them, but I say they’re humans as well and 9/10 they probably can relate to you as much as your surprise. So don’t hold back as you need both parts of the story to meet at the bridge.

I’m 16 female with a problem with loving my body. I have smaller breasts than every girl at school and I feel like everyone is looking at me when I walk so I have a natural reaction to wear hoodies and cross my arms so it’s not that noticeable, my mom had intergrated and shamed me for small boobs as a kid and I want to talk to her about it. I feel like I only want big boobs to go with the flow to stop the gaze of other. This problem is something I’ve never had the courage to confront it so it makes me hard to last through the day in school. Please help before I get worst

Are others with hocd/soocd also just genuinely terrified theyll never be truly attracted to anyone again in future? Im so scared i will be faking liking a guy or just not feel anything because im so worried and checking everything or finally “realise” im in denial. It already feels like i would avoid dating anyone because id be terrified it would turn out im not attracted to them and that would feel like the ultimate proof for me at this point..

a bit of a long post/rant. would appreciate the advice <3 so i have been having very fewer thoughts and have been able to just shush them recently and ignore them. i guess that is pretty good recovery? but something that still bugs me is that i would still get eome thoughts or feelings like "i would actually enjoy being with a woman" or i would like it and want it and i have same sex attraction but just can't accept myself. i really feel in denial yet i ignore it. the thing is my ocd has gone down so does that mean these thoughts and feelings are mine or is it ocd's last try ay getting me? i am genuinely curious because now i just ignore the thoughts and don't engage but it makes me feel like i am denying it and just ignoring the obvious facts of me being in denial. i don't ruminate and barely check anymore because i am just too tired to do so tbh.

I don’t know why but everytime I’m pretty sure I like being a girl my brain always says some people don’t like being girls some people really want to be a boy and like being men and I don’t know why that scares me so bad and keeps me in the loop . Like I’m being someone that some people don’t want to be and some people are being what I don’t want to be . How do I stop this ? I feel like these questions and thoughts are what’s keeping me stuck . It kind of like a what do men feel that I don’t feel that they are comfortable like that . And I don’t know why I feel like I need to know the answers to this as if knowing will make it go away . 🤦🏽‍♀️ can someone please help

My wisdom to all of you Have a faith system. Seriously, life it hard. We all have good days, bad days, sometimes good weeks, bad weeks and beyond. Find yourself something to believe in, no matter what that is. Seriously go watch Tabita Brown's long video on why she became vegan. It was a livestream but let me tell you it will hit you harder than you are prepared for. Check your diet, seriously. You might sit there and think it won't affect things, but your diet affects all of your hormones, your neurotrasmitters all that. Many people with OCD and anxiety have gotten amazing benefits from intermittent fasting. There's studies showing within a few days there was a 40% decrease of anxiety for most, and within 4 weeks their serotonin levels went up almost 50%. Just from the time frame that they ate! Advocate for yourself. Stand up, and speak your mind when you are struggling. Stop trying to put on a face and act how you believe others want you to act. That isn't you, that isn't who you need to be. You are wonderful just the way you are, and if other's don't agree, they are just on a different path. And that's okay. Stop living by the idea of "well this happened in the past". So what if something bad happened in the past? So what if it happened 100 times? That is never going to be enough proof that it will positively happen this next time. You may have gotten rejected repeatedly, who's to say this one next time won't be the time you get accepted? Realize our struggle is what unites us. Everyone has their thing. Everyone has their own struggle, their own condition. Everyone has something that eats away at them, you just may not see it. The happiest people on the outside can be absolutely crippled inside. Realize that your treatment, your lifestyle and your beliefs will play a huge role in how you feel. Try everything and then some. When you feel like you're about to give up, try the next thing. No matter what you feel, there will ALWAYS be a next thing. Have a blessed night y'all💛

Do I have a crush on this person because I get anxious around them and when they txt me I want to see the message right away and answer immediately?? I’ve been having obsessive thoughts about this person. They are assigned sex at birth a girl but appear “masculine” and date girls. Ever since I had the thought “would I be les/bi if I develop a crush on them?” I kept having thoughts that I like them. They are also my friend and it’s hard to distinguish if I have a crush on them or is it because my obsessive thoughts?

Guys. I feel overwhelmingly terrible. I made a mistake and flirted with another guy at work while I’m still in a relationship. Me and my bf have been dating for 10 days. It wasn’t a sexual flirt but a lowkey one. I feel as though I cheated on him and I keep replaying what happened in my head. I can’t stop thinking about it. I confessed to my boyfriend and he was a bit upset but not too upset. I then, told him it was a joke and he laughed. But it’s really not. I feel like a terrible person. I will never make this mistake again but still

i keep getting thoughts abt r*pe and sexual violence and i kept arguing and saying no then i thought ‘for the thrill of it,’ and now i’m panicking i don’t want to do that to anyone nor do i want to think of this please i feel sick rn

How exactly does ERP affect anxiety? For me when j get an intrusive thought over a real event I get anxiety, which leads me to ruminate. Even if I stop ruminating I still have anxiety.

I just had a epiphany moment and wanted to share it. I'm always trying to think why my OCD developed, whilst it feels like I've had it all my life, I didn't develop it until about 9years old although I wasn't diagnosed until I was 14 I know that the behaviour I was exhibiting at age 9 was in fact OCD behaviour, so with that being said does that mean I was a happy child with no difficulties before then, no it doesn't I've actually always felt different and out of place compared to other children and now to other adults, way before I developed OCD, I'm not saying that in a naive way of thinking everyones the same and I'm such a unique individual because I'd love if I was like other people, my life would be way easier but I'm not and the epiphany moment I had was maybe me developing OCD was my way of coping in this neurptypical world as I suspect I'm on the autistic spectrum, it's also interesting how alot of people that are on the spectrum have OCD aswell. I'm still awaiting my assessment which could take up to two years (I'm in the UK) but I will be very surprised if they don't diagnose me with Autism and it's not like I want to be, I just know it would explain alot and if I'm not autistic and then I really im just a weirdo with OCD 😅. Rant over.

A NOCD friend posted requests for how to start something and how not to get locked into perfectionism once started. This post is not an answer to those, at least not a magical thing that always works and doesn’t feel like pulling teeth. I’ve been thinking about using my planner/journal again. I’ve been planning it in my head. Now I’m “forcing” myself to actually write in it today. It doesn’t feel “right”. There is so much missing that “needs” to be addressed and filled. All of this makes me dread doing it. ** Writing this NOCD post might even be another stall tactic in disguise; however, posting about anything here always makes me feel more accountable. I know if I share it here I feel all of ya. Even when I don’t listen to myself/do it for myself, for everyone here, it’s more manageable. So I’m “forcing” that first journal post. I’m not turning it into an all night make-up post for the past 7 weeks I missed, though later, I may fill in what’s helpful and already accounted. ** I don’t feel “ready” for it. I don’t want to do it. But I’m going to. Maybe I should tell my OCD what I tell my dog when he sasses me. I remind him that I am more stubborn than he is. So I’ll now be more stubborn than my OCD. It may have taken days of sitting around thinking about it, but I’m doing it. No more just thinking. ** (Also doing this as an edit style rather than more “perfectly” inserting it—) I am also not waiting for September 1st! So now it’s also uneven! The reset button isn’t being pushed on another, predetermined beginning. But it’s still happening TONIGHT. May we all be more stubborn than our issues. 💪🏼💜

I'm worried ive abused my dogs. They sometimes sit on my lap and sometimes id get a groinal response. It makes me sick even thinking about hurting my dogs or abusing them. I also had to check my dogs private area since I thought I saw a flea and I feel so gross for doing that. I was just worried something was wrong since I saw a black bit on his skin. I also scratch my dogs backside a lot since he likes me doing it for some reason? I didn't think anything of it but now I'm really worried I had some hidden intentions or wanted to hurt them. I also had intrusive thoughts about animals and got a groinal response I'm really worried what that means it was really disturbing and I dont know why my brain even came up with that.

Any time I feel NORMAL or like myself intrustive thoughts just come & shut that shit down. So disheartening , f*ck OCD honestly

I just had an intrusive thought about touching my dogs private area. For some reason I though doing it would make the anxiety go away. I poked it and now I feel like I raped her or something I feel so awful.

I feel so terrible and confused with this thing I’m thinking abt it and it feels like I want it or I have a curiosity abt it now but I keep on fighting with it and I feels like I’m in denial :(( I wish I could talk abt this to someone in private bc It’s starting to feel like i could be a pedo

I just feel depressed and anxious that Im gay now, Its so difficult to get out of bed in the morning, every cell in my body just feels tired and exhausted. As soon as I wake up I have a very negative anxiety feeling. Dont know If I am or not but it certainly feels like it, imagining about dudes feels more "natural" Idk why but ugh. God is this what Lgbt kids go through? Is this why they are all so depressed? I thought I liked Girls all my life? Was that not real? Or do I just like same sex more than opposite?

Really worrying about comphet…whenever lesbians talk about that “icky, panicky feeling” they get when men reciprocate interest, I feel like I feel that way too or have felt that way in the past. Boys don’t usually like me back (never, actually) and I don’t usually like guys that pursue me first. I like it to be an equal five and take. What really worries me is that when I was 11, my best guy friend asked me to be his girlfriend. I said yes, because I was 11 and figured I should say yes, but the next day he texted me “good morning 😘” with a kissy face and I was so disgusted and panicked that I broke up with him that night. I was so uncomfortable and anxious during the literal day that I “dated” him. That is literally the definition of comphet. I would really appreciate if someone could talk to me.

I feel like I don’t have ocd anymore. I used to be anxious all the time and cry a lot and so many things would trigger me and it all felt irrational but my mind kept worrying but now i just feel nothing and don’t cry anymore and I feel like nothing triggers me anymore, so how could ERP work? Was I in denial this whole time?

Made a post about an hour ago with the gory details of what I’m so anxious about tonight, but just thought I would make another with a more general question. I’m really looking for some support and help so if anyone can chat, I would greatly appreciate it! How can we be okay with BIG what-ifs in our relationship or it’s past? Like a real event that occurred, where you chose to trust someone or chose to forgive or whatever, but every time you think about it (even years later), you get overwhelmed with anxiety all over again? You can’t go back in time to get the answer, or get more evidence. You’ve asked your partner and talked it over a dozen times with them since then. But the WHAT IF doesn’t go away. What if they really betrayed me? What if they really lied? What if what if what if? And you can never really know the truth. Sorry for double posting about the same thing. I’m just feeling stuck and don’t know what to do with these fears/feelings. I want to call him and ask again but I’ve done this so many times in 3 years. I’ve already asked the same questions over and over. So I’m posting here instead 😅