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I’m going through a very bad sexuality ocd episode and I really can’t get myself out of it. I gave into all my compulsions and have been throwing up all night because of my thoughts. Does anyone have any tips on how to get past this

Hi my little community :) After a longggggggg journey I finally don't have OCD anymore and I know I will never have it again and I'm writing this post to share the secret to overcome it. I've had existential, HOCD, incest, POCD, contamination, ROCD depersonalisation, zoophilia, false memory, scrupulosity, harm, religious, real memory, somatic, and many other forms of ocd that would make me lose my mind with all the questioning. I've reached too many low points in my journey and at some points I wanted to end my life convinced that I was the worst person in the world. I've had it since I was 5 years old, but it got extremely serious around the age of 14. I finally sought treatment at 19, and fully recovered at 20. I started treatment on my own by watching YouTube until I then decided to do treatment with NOCD. Unfortunately it felt like my therapy sessions were just repeats of what I was learning on YouTube so I stopped and continued treatment on my own. I thought that I could do it by myself, but honestly it was so difficult and I hit so many discouraging low points, until I tried one last thing.....I discovered this man named Eckhart Tolle on YouTube. This man changed my life. Through his teachings, I learned that OCD is no different than anxiety, depression, eating disorders, and other anxiety related disorders. I've learned that they all result from letting your mind and thoughts control your mind. So the secret is: That you must practice becoming the observer of your thoughts, learn to stop interacting with them, learn that you are separate from your thoughts, and live your life through the lens of the presence rather than the narratives your mind makes about the presence. You see, your brain's job is to collect information and perceive it. However, at many times, the brain is just spitting out illogical information based on your fears, experiences, memories, etc. Once you learn that your thoughts are separate from you and your experiences, then will you be able to fully overcome "OCD" and anything life throws at you. Its a concept that's difficult to understand at first, but once you get it, you get it, and it will change your life.

This is the first post I’ve made here, as I have just recently been told I have OCD. I started therapy when I was 15 for an eating disorder, and have been pretty much consistently going for the past 5 years. It is incredibly scary to me that it has gone undiagnosed this long, and it took a few horrible spiraling episodes and me admitting I had a fear of smelling bad for a therapist to tell me it might be OCD. I’m primarily concerned about having another undiagnosed mental illness, that I have done unforgivable damage to other people’s mental health, and the general fear of losing my sanity. If someone could share the benefits of accepting the OCD diagnosis and starting ERP even if it is petrifying, I would greatly appreciate that. Warm wishes and peace to all of you struggling right now:)

advice if possible: I just feel confused and frustrated. I used to be certain it was ocd. I was having anxiety I could hear my inner voice saying that I still love him. But now it doesn’t feel like ocd and I can’t her my inner voice and I just need like nothingness when I look at him. And kinda when I look at anything. I feel like I’m not going to get over this or that I’m just using ocd as an excuse mainly because I keep feeling like it’s not ocd anymore. Has anyone been here before and does anyone have any advice

well, i’m an emotional wreck. not only am i a female who’s going through her time of the month, but i also feel like my OCD has been proven true. i’m a terrible person, i hurt my boyfriend. mentally, repeatedly. i’m a monster who deserves no love. he deserves so much better. and i’m just so scared that i’m going to become the other monster my thoughts paint me out to be. my whole life i’ve tried to care for people. i cant believe i hurt him multiple times. he’s like an innocent puppy, and i hurt him. this is torture

I’m so fkn sick of this theme. I’ve literally tried to give myself other themes before😩😩😩😩

Hey y'all, so today's been really rough for me. I got a speeding ticket and I don't know if I should fight it and hope he doesn't show up (and use the what if as an anxiety exposure), or just pay it and get it over with. For some reason the ticket really affected my ocd and I. I have been managing everything fairly well for a bit but this really triggered me because I now feel like a failure and not deserving of love and happiness. Any kind words and advice would be appreciated right now, as usual no reassurance please. Thank you 😊 By the way here's a picture of the lake during my amazing morning pre-ticket 😂😩

Guys I’m freaking out with a “memory” or something from when I was 15, 14 or 13 please HELP :((((

i feel almost okay with the thoughts and they don't bother me a lot anymore i am able to simply ignore them and not react to them but it's bothering me a bit because i feel like i am actually gay:(

If my OCD is under control now, and I’m so busy with school to even be consumed by it, is it worth exploring it now and opening that can of worms? Wouldn’t it make things worse?

It’s like I get calmer and calmer each day and I can almost see my way out of them but every once in a while my brain asks me if I want to break up and that feels real. Any tips on this?

Hi everyone ✨ Having a particularly rough time today dealing with my ROCD & related compulsions… this is a long post, so I’ll cut to the point early on: Writing all this out here feels like I may be seeking validation, or doing a rumination/reassurance type of compulsion, but if I don’t do my compulsions, I just lay in bed, crying. I feel as though I’d rather do the compulsions than cry all day, bc then at least I’m not sobbing and in pain (pain from anxiety pit in stomach…feels like consistent gut punches) but I know that doing these compulsions is only making my situation worse in the long run…. If anyone could give me any advice on how to practice some ERP around this, or something like that, I would GREATLY appreciate it. Thank you ❤️‍🩹✨ So, I recently went through a break up (we had a good rapport and always had fun together, despite us both being pretty toxic… it was in subtle ways, you know, like going over each other’s texts, jealousy, repressed anger issues, my own ROCD causing me to question our validity as a couple— not a good mix with his own intense insecurities…etc) and now, I can’t stop obsessing over what he is thinking and feeling these days. We ended things pretty gruffly…he blocked me out of anger, but I tried to make amends by emailing him an apology and a whole thing to remind him that emotions, while valid, are usually fleeting, and in the end, we both loved each other to the best of our ability, it just didn’t work because we are both toxic people right now… He unblocked me over text, then, but kept me blocked on all other social media and has yet to respond to anything I wrote to him over email or text. I tried my best to write objectively in the email, and ended everything with peace/love/forgiveness… but now, I just can’t control the obsessing. Thoughts like this keep bombarding me at a constant rate— Why did we break up? Did we even actually break up? Do I miss him? I definitely miss him. Was he good for me? No. Maybe? How am I supposed to know? Maybe he’s angry with me and ignoring me… Maybe he’s just too busy with work to write back. Maybe he’s already moved on…oh god, maybe he never even loved me to begin with and now he’s moving on… No way! He most certainly loved me, we’ve cried together! I remember his loving actions toward me! …BUT… He WAS kind of all about him during the relationship…… I just need to talk to him again and we can figure it all out. Together. I must go on this journey of self-healing, alone. Maybe he never wants to talk to me again…. Etc…etc….ETC!!! I am going insane!! 😫😫😫😫 Its been about 3 days since our split, and we still have some of each other’s possessions. I just can’t stop crying. Even though I want to focus on myself, and live a normal life, I feel like I’m being controlled by my emotions and these obsessive thoughts 24/7…. I compulsively check my phone to see if he answered or called, even when my notifs are turned on…I feel so crazy, alone, and I feel like I just wanna disappear from everything, even though I’m not suicidal (truly), and I know I’m not alone (have pretty good support from fam & friends) and I know I’m definitely NOT crazy (though my OCD might make me feel that way sometimes, 😅) There is this GIANT pit in the middle of my stomach 24/7 whenever I think about him and all that happened between us, the good and the bad. I called him this morning, and he didn’t pick up. I don’t want to become a harasser, or a stalker, and that’s actually a little bit of a fear of mine, bc one of my compulsions involves texting and calling, and I’m not always strong enough to resist it. I’m so very confused and dejected right now. I don’t know what the right move is. I don’t know what to say to him, if anything at all, or even what to say to my own self. Again, any ERP related advice helps. Thank you ❤️‍🩹✨

TW: pocd, harm ocd hi everyone! i’m 18 and i’ve been having bad intrusive thoughts since I was 14. It started when I watched an horror film and the images won’t go away, then I experienced violent intrusive thoughts and I began to feel like a bad person. Luckily, I don’t think about that anymore, but lately i’ve been obsessing about P OCD, since the first quarantine. Now that thoughts about kids seem less strong, I started liking a girl a year older than me. I broke up with my previous girlfriend in order to get in a new relationship with her. Now, with the girl I had before I also experienced bad thoughts like “What if I like her because she’s shorter than me? What if she looks like a little girl?” and stuff like that. All the beautiful moments I had with her, were when I wasn’t thinking about anything, when I was thinking about kissing a NORMAL girl of my age. Now i have a similar problem. When I started liking the new girl, I forgot all my negative thoughts, I have lots of good memories with her. But then, my brain started as always “What if her face looks childish?” and it was so bad for me to think about it. I would look at her photos in order to confirm the fact that she looked like every other girl. But now I’m really scared, because I started thinking about stuff like “What if I like her because she looks like my MOM?” and I’m terrified. I can’t even look at my mom without associating her to the girl, and every time it gets worse. I know I like her because of many other things, not because she “looks” like my mom. I would compare their photos as a compulsion, until I’m sure that they not look alike. I feel relieved for some minutes, but then it starts again. I’m already seeing a therapist, and she says that I don’t have to believe to this thoughts. I don’t know what to do anymore, I’m constantly worrying about being some sort of a pervert, or ill person, I can’t do this anymore. Sometimes, I also harm myself to stop these thoughts, unsuccessfully of course.

literally feeling like a P for no reason . I get thoughts say “I want to be a P” but why ? Why would I get a thought that I want to be attracted to kids when I know in my soul I am not . Can anyone help , this really brings me down , & causes me frustration

My mom walked in and saw me ruminating and she said what are you doing I said I just have unwanted thoughts and she said everyone have unwanted thoughts and i said I know but when you can’t make it go it becomes exhausting she walks out and say just get rid of them you are wasting your time and your future.that really hit hard as I can’t get rid of them and the way she said make it like I want the thoughts,she loves me so much and so do I.sometimes I get headaches because how much I thought and like my head vibrate.sorry I’m writing here but i needed to say that to someone.as I don’t have anyone to speak with.what a pathetic person I’m.

I realized something tonight while doing an erp exercise that I wanted to share in case anyone else resonates with it. This might be geared more towards pure ocd but as I was doing my may/may not statements for my erp exercise I started thinking about what is really causing the spike in discomfort. I think for a lot of people, including me, the fear of the statement being true is definitely a huge contributor. However, I began to realize that my guilt for PURPOSEFULLY thinking and saying the thoughts to turn them into may/may not statements produced an equivalent amount of discomfort. I suppose my thought process is that if it is an intrusive thought in the moment, then that is bad and I worry that it might mean it’s true. However, purposely thinking about this bad thing really seems to be a trigger in itself. I already feel like a terrible person when I get an intrusive thought but when I purposely bring the thought back for erp I become full of doubt that it could possibly be the right thing to do. This is especially true for me when the statement is very specific and about a person I know and/or care about. This causes me to get stuck on thoughts such as “how can it possibly be ok to think something so horrible about someone?” and “why would I want to habituate myself to something so horrifying ?”. I suppose I put this up here because I believe (this is just my opinion) that it’s important to understand your personal erp process in order to improve upon it and because (again in my opinion) gaining as much knowledge about your ocd treatment (what is working and what isn’t) is a huge step towards success. Finally, sometimes sharing this kind of information might spark a conversation and even a possible solution to the problem. 🙂🤷🏼‍♀️

I think I have ocd about my friends girlfriend. I have known her for over 10 years, they have been together the whole time, I've known her. I'm 24, single, male. It started 2 years ago and as I got closer with her it increased. It got so bad that I joined a gym trying to impress her, to get a nice compliment when I should have been doing it to attract other people. I never put a move on her and never would, I wouldn't never do that to my friend and it worked have destroyed alot of my other friendships being in a close social group. I have had other relationships but nothing serious and it just seems that I've manifested a fake relationship with this girl in my mind due to my obsession and now I can't get her out of my head. I'm ashamed of it and haven't been able to tell anyone about it, not even my own family. I have had to cut off all contact with my friend because of it. I just can't stop thinking about her like everyday and it's had an affect on my own relationships. I just want to be able to stop thinking about her and be able to create meaningful relationships with another person. I want to get her out of my head and move on. I haven't seen either of them in 6 months as I thought no contact would work but I still have these thoughts and these urgencies to message both of them but I don't as I know it's not helpful for me. I'm just wondering if anyone else has gone through this and If there is any techniques or habits I could use to overcome these thoughts and be able to move on with my life.

I need any sort of advice again Idk what to do, I feel so shi*ty rn, even accepting that Im gay isnt helping. Well I posted 2 hours ago. Am I not accepting It properly? Or do I have to give It time and embrace it or whatever? But I dont feel good. Ive completely torn apart the belief I had that I was straight pre ocd bc It gave me so much proof now when I look back to my old life, I feel blank and Its causing me so much anxiety and pain thinking that I was always gay and didnt notice. I feel like I dont have any identity right now or that Im forming a totally new one. Its so so painful. Despite feeling so awful, Im having full body arousal all the time and an urge to act on my thoughts. Ugh how the hell is this possible. I feel miserable when I think that I cant or wont be able to like girls anymore. Do I just have to move on from wanting to feel something for women? Man, before ocd I thought I couldnt get a gf or talk to women bc I just have severely low self esteem issues , but It feels like I was actually gay all this time, I already believe this so why cant I let it go? Is this what denial looks like? Ughhh

For those of you that have jobs, what is it like to work with your OCD? I am wondering that I may never be able to hold an actual job due to my OCD. I don’t want to hide away in my house for the rest of my life because obviously that is not a feasible thing to do.

So.... I got a little nervous at like 2 am, which I'll admit is the usual time I go to sleep because... of reasons. I texted my boyfriend, We hadn't really talked much that day because he had to work so I will also admit that i wanted some attention and i might have made out the situation worse than it actually was... Initially i didn't even think he would text me back at this hour but when he did i didn't want him to feel like i texted him that for nothing and also I needed some attention. Am I manipulating him because I told him i felt worse than i actually did?🥺