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Crippling loneliness rn.

I don't know what to believe sometimes I suspect even my closest people of betrayal and Im not sure if they gaslight/manipulate me because they know I have ocd and they know that I have outbursts. And I don't know whats true if Its right that I'm mad at them or if I'm being too much. The result Is the same I lash out. I'm so confused and then I try to overcorrect by saying how sorry I am and that is all my fault and then I'm getting mad again because they never feel guilty when they say/do sth to me but I always feel guilty. Wtf is that ...

Random blah-blah: I have GAD, and I think I have OCD too. I don't say that suffer from ocd since I'm not diagnosed. My ex-therapist suggested me to look up for bipolar disorder. The problem is, after half an year, I still don't think I am bipolar. Did my research inside my brain, as well as on the internet. The thing is, I am obssesing over my mental health. OCD was the last disorder that I checked, since I thought it's impossible for me to have it. I am anxious about this one. I am scared. I want to know if I have ocd, and since yesterday, that s all I am doing. Looking up on the internet to find an answer. I am scared if I book a call, the therapist will say: but you have GAD, not OCD. And this will be so bad because I... I honestly can t imagine why it would be so bad. Just that I ve lived in a lie for 2 days. I think my ocd is most obvious in my relationship with my bf. And I feel so bad because he keeps saying that everything he does - is never enough. It s complicated. I just want him to never doubt himself, his actions and our love.

I just can't bear it... My intrusive thoughts were killing me a few days ago, the worst was when I was thinking about the 2 weeks, before my rabbit died, and I took care of her. She had a stroke, She couldn't walk because she didn't feel her right side. I remembered how I wanted to give the best care to her, but also remembered the times, when She didn't want something, but had to do, because of her health. I remembered, that usually I cleaned her legs, ears, and her private areas. Then came the thoughts: what if I thought to push my finger into my rabbit's butthole, when I cleaned it, because I associated it with man's butthole or something like that, and it was a sick desire. It was killing me, because these kind of things, when people harmed or desired some way an animal, disgusted me really deeply. Plus, this rabbit was literally my everything, my precious first child, I had her from age 10 to 16. So, the thoughts really disturbed me. Anyway, I tried to reassure myself: if I really thought that, at least, I didn't act on it. And than came the thought: what if this thought was really there, and I really acted on it, and I harmed and abused my rabbit, I just didn't realize it until now, or I just thought this was natural, or I didn't want to remember how bad person I am, and that I didn't really care. I literally cried for 3 days, I became sick with migraine, and the thought, that I could hurt and traumatize an ill rabbit, MY rabbit who loved and leaned on me the most in this world, was killing me. I told my Mom that I fear, what if I hurt my rabbit (I didn't told her my exact fear, just hurt, because I was scared), and She said that wasn't my nature, and that rabbit wouldn't love me until her last breath if I did something that traumatized her. And I know it isn't my nature, I love animals in a pure platonic way, but what if teenage hormones and grief fucked up my mind really badly and I did that and didn't care about anything? It didn't help that sometimes I thought that I am a good person now, and I know I deserve life despite whether it's true or not , because then I thought, what if I find this thing acceptable, while I don't. I just can't sleep for a week now, I can't concentrate on studying or anything bit also I don't know what to do. I want to believe it's a false memory, I don't know how can I live on if it's not, but I also can't let it go, because what if it's really true, and I keep living on without guilt and punishment, while it's a thing that can't be forgiven. For years I thought I did everything the right Way in that last two weeks and now I am not sure. I know most of the intrusive thoughts were made by my mind, but the thing, that I don't have proof I didn't do anything, keeps my anxiety alive, and I don't know anymore what is true, and what is not. I must live, but I don't know how after that...

Europeans know that the media is full with the possibility of a war between Russia and Ucraine, and all i can see is that people are ready to the war, it will be a war here too,they will put us to fight and kill people to save ourselfs... and my mental health isnt the best for that right now, im thinking of i will not survive that, i will get crazy or super depressed, i will get lot of ptsd which will be worse bc of my weak mental health and it will be a suffering. Got to a point where i was affraid that life will not matter to me and the amount of stress will make me to kill myself bc i will feel so hopeless... and the scary part is that i felt the hopelessnes and im scared, my mind is so anxious that it thinks about suicide, bc theres no hope in a world like this... and that just made me more anxious and hopeless that i can think like this and actually i might thinked that if that happens i kill myself bc life will not be how i imagined. Can ocd confuse you this much? Im feeling guilty again, this is not how i should think...

As far as ocd , I’ve been feelings okay . But I feel like shit still. I can’t stop thinking about my ex friend who I also like . I am so envious too . It hurts that we’re no longer friends and we haven’t spoken to each other since our fight . It’s been 3 months almost . Bht last we talked , it was more of a confrontation and that’s when things got heated and things really ended officially for both of us. I happen to be obsessive of him not ocd related ik by heart. I am genuinely into him and I can’t seem to stop comparing myself to him as well. Which is why I am jealous of his own lifestyle and overall just him as a person. He’s the beauty faced, free spirited clear minded free guy who goes out does all sorts of things like traveling, clubbing , partying, just an active person off /on social media . He’s free spirited ! I’m surprised we even bonded and stayed close contact with each other . Me on other hand , the mentally ill , insecured , gay kid who suffers from ocd while also balancing social anxiety and everyday struggles of low self esteem . But just overall being mentally or emotionally unstable . I am hoping to reach out someday and reconnect with him and make things better. Meantime , I just have to suffer with the fact that he’s doing all fun and cool things without me . I am also into him too :( but I feel insecure so much because of my self esteem . I want to glow up so bad . I worry how one day he will find someone else 😔despite of not ever being in relationship with him . Nor has he known about my feelings I have for him. This puts me in a worse emotional state . I feel fragile all aside from constant struggle of ocd . This has been issue for me last couple of days is coping wit the loss of a friend . Anyone have advice ??

How do u get diagnosed with ocd? Do u like get diagnoed as a baby as something like autism,adhd or do u have to talk about it to get diagnosed?

I feel like I'm getting bored of my gf but I do t wanna feel his way. I wanna be with her forever. Everyone are so happy with their partners. I'm 16 and it's been 3months since we are together. The honeymoon phase has ended I guess. My mind is telling me to breakup with her, not because I've started liking another girl. There is no reason to it. It's just telling me to breakup cuz I'm bored. Please help me, I'm too young for all of this 😔😔

I get so angry and dissapointed when my partner doesnt do what he says hes gonna do or it takes him longer to do it. Like even for basic random stuff. Im annoyed at myself how much im being effected by it emotionally. When things dont go exactly as planned i get so overwhelmed i cant even handle it and just get so frustrated

After months of no harm ocd, something happened that triggered my anxiety and everything came back, i have unwanted thoughts about suicide. And im googling again about whats the difference between s real suicidal feeling and suicidal ocd... bc these thoughts arent make me just anxious... i start to feel depressed about them... i fight with them too much. Still cant decide and want to know what is this, real or just ocd suicide thoughts...

I cannot express the anger I have when people ignorantly say that they’re “so ocd” and think of ocd as a quirk. My ocd got so bad at one point it was basically considered a disability because I could not do anything. People make these mental illnesses, also including like ADHD, as a quirk thinking that it is just a funny thing. It makes me really upset:(

I hate being around people I don’t know. It’s makes me feel like I have no control of my thoughts or actions. I’ve finally started trying to become an at home freelance writer. I’m hoping it picks up and possibly I can work somewhere I am comfortable. Just thought I would share.

Everything I'm going through is punishment for how I treated that girl.

i have an incest fear with my uncle and it’s been on and off. then today i just said to myself ‘okay, maybe you did find that thing he did attractive, but that’s okay and it’s not the end of the world. you guys aren’t even that close and it’s not like he’s one of your brothers’. i felt better after that but i’m scared it’s because i’ve accepted something i was repressing.

I just want to drink sodas full of caffeine so I can get my anxiety up. I know that sounds weird but when I would get my anxiety with my harm intrusive thoughts, it made me relieved that I feared the thoughts badly and that I didn’t like them. I don’t want to worsen my depersonalization though.

How should I tell my significant other that I've been suffering from ROCD as of late without making them doubt themselves or our relationship? my most common thoughts have been of me just cheating on her or that I dont find her attractive or thoughts along those lines and they hurt to think about it makes me feel guilty to think these things

I need confort words/advice. My friend likes a guy and she constantly talks about him and im going crazy. Like literally i cant anymore she mentions him everytime we talk and she doesnt like the fact that she likes him. And i dont want to be mean to her. Its just that i dont understand why she talks about him so much. And also i wish that my life was as simple as her sometimes because having ocd is a fucking nightmare and a constant battle against my own mind. And i wish my biggest problem was liking a guy. But i really love my friend so thats why im venting here and im just feeling annoyed rn because i feel like her life is so much better than mine, she has a lot of friends and a super nice family. And im really envious and jealous. Ik its bad but i cant help it. And now they're together as a couple and i gonna keep having to hear stuff about this dude. I just feel like I have so much anger inside of me and im so angry all the time. Like i wish I could just scream

Today I tried to resist compulsions and stay as calm as I can but then Rocd attacked me again in a massive way. I kind of feel like my mind is foggy and messed up.most of the time so get triggered seems easy. Every little thing I hear and seems suspicious I will overanalyze it for hours because I am so afraid of being betrayed, dumped or someone do something bad behind my back. These thoughts have stuck inside my mind in such a level where my days are spent like that. When I get an intrusive thought it feels so catastrophic and horrible that I feel I can't do anything. I am stuck there thinking and analysing. It is so difficult to handle it, I feel so scared and alone in this...

Wondering if anyone is in the same boat… For a bit of background, I’m 21 now and am away at university and have finally taken the first steps towards getting mental health help, but I can’t help but wonder why none of my many signs of ocd were caught by those around me sooner 😕 Beginning at around the age of 8 years old (maybe even younger to be honest) I had a compulsion to step on cracks just the right way, if I didn’t step on the very middle of the crack I would stop, go back and do it over again. If I turned my head around once, I needed to do it on the other side to be even, same thing with bumping into doors or walls, if I did it to one arm I needed to go back and do it to the other for symmetry. At school during quizzes or assessments I was almost always the last one done as I would double check my answers 10-20 times as a compulsion. My biggest was and still is knocking on wood three times, at my worst I was doing this from 50-100 times a day. Needless to say some of these (plus many many more) were pretty obvious, and looking back now I’m just kind of frustrated that no adults noticed and, if they did, especially during my younger years, that therapy or ERP wasn’t considered or suggested. I’m in a place now where I’m finally able to seek out mental health support myself, however it’s just frustrating there’s a 7 month wait list at my school when this likely could’ve been addressed over a decade earlier 😔

TW Real Event OCD and POCD 18+ Don’t ignore…Please help Even if it’s not reassurance just please help somehow I feel like I’m going crazy because this has been bothering me for so long to the point I can’t focus and I feel like I deserve to give up… If back then I was a teenager with no bad intentions at all not even aiming to make a mistake but I make a really bad mistake but I didn’t know it at the time or didn’t know any better until much later than should I be worried? I had a embarrassing tickling fetish when I was younger and I would look it up on ifunny a lot and I would look up just the fetish itself and I also unfortunately struggled with masturbation at this time as well and I non willingly came across certain people or things I shouldn’t have even though they were innocent normal videos and memes or whatever, I guess you can say I was at the wrong place at the wrong time? I don’t know but I’m scared to death of the what if’s. What if it was immorally wrong and I deserve to die? I have talked to my first therapist and my mom about it and my mom said to let it go that I’m being way too hard on myself and that I’ve punished myself enough but I feel as though she is lying to me. I’m going to talk about it with my therapist tomorrow and I’m worried to talk about it but I’m so desperate for help at this point. I don’t know what else to do. I don’t want to be a monster? I never have and never will. I feel so much guilt and I know I would NEVER make the same mistakes again. But the thought of I was a monster back then and it makes me one now is absolutely terrifying 💔