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I’ve never had sex you I feel like I can but since I haven’t and I’m 14 I feel I might be dangerous and I could be a threat to women and society. Please help me get around this

Did all of you have a dyagnosis made by a professional? Or some of you know you have OCD even without a diagnosis? _ I had years ago a dyagnosis made by a psychologist. My symptoms weren't very developed as they are now so I guess my chances to have a formal diagnostic by a psychiatrist are higher now. However I feel I don't need a diagnosis bcs I already know I have ocd due to my symptoms and this psychologist opinion, and i won't take meds bcs i don't consider i need them. What I consider I need is some ERP so maybe at some moment of my life I will se a professional for that. By the moment I have no resources for therapy, but I receive help from some YouTube ocd sources, the advices of the people in this forum (thank you a lot) and the advice/ material the professionals from this site provide, thank you too

I have OCD and a while back I sent my mother an article explaining what OCD was like for people with OCD and she still doesn’t get it. Every time I have an off day she says I’m letting my OCD win or she will say that I should schedule my worrying for later. Sometimes she will even say that I like having OCD because I like feeling like a victim. I have told her time and time again that OCD doesn’t work like that but she keeps trying to relate it back to her as in she tries to say that she was anxious once too but then she just decided not to be anxious anymore and she got better. She is also the reason why my OCD got so bad before I decided to get help since she told me just to not be anxious anymore. It’s really hard because whenever I have off days she seems to make them worse.

My coworkers just busted out a loud and open discussion of Jeffery Dahmer. Talking about how he murdered, tortured, and ate people. And how he had some sort of mental health condition. I literally cannot take it anymore. I just came in the bathroom and started to cry. Im so scared of being like him. I can’t even enjoy anything anymore. Usually work is my safe space because I’m surrounded by lots of people, but now they keep bringing this topic up as a discussion. I’ve felt relatively good all day and then this happened. Like I’m so scared i don’t even know who i am anymore. What if i have the same condition that he did? What if i end up like him? What if I’m the next him? I think I’m crying because I’m scared but what if I’m making myself fake cry because i am a bad person. I keep saying that I’m scared but what if I’m not. I keep saying i would never want to be like him but with if i do want it. I cannot escape this maze that I’m in. I finally felt okay this morning and now i don’t know what to feel. I feel like I’m in distress but am i really? Please help. Does anyone else feel like this? Why did this happen to me? I was so happy literally 8 weeks ago. How does this just happen

i had a pretty severe anxiety disorder in 2017. I recovered in like 8 months fully. I couldn't leave my house without feeling anxiety. I couldn't walk around my house, drive with my mother in a car, go to school, the list goes on. With therapy I was able to do all the things I wanted. It was like I was a different human again, my old self but so much stronger. I got ocd just 3 months ago (intrusive thoughts with mental compulsions). It was like my brain suddenly just broke. The last few weeks were horrible. It felt like my life ended. Before, my life has been amazing and I felt such grief that I didn't appreciate it as much. I ended in a mental hospital 3 weeks ago but only stayed for two days because I realized I need to just go on with my life. And that's what I want to tell you: - Ocd is an anxiety disorder. It's not exactly like I had it in 2017 but the feeling is similiar - Do NOT stop your daily life. When you avoid it gets worse in the long run. I know it's hard. I feel it everyday and it gets easier when I pretend like it's not there. Ocd wants to get your attention. Let it be in the background till it fades - No matter what's your subtype you can still do anything you want even when ocd wants to get your attention. For example: harm ocd, you're afraid that you're gonna stab your family member when holding a knife. Take that knife and make some dinner or something. No matter how many times you see that image in your head doing it or your brain repeats "stab them". You know that ocd wants you to avoid things. Without ocd you would have preperad a nice salad for example. You can still do it. It's just your ocd that thinks you can't. - Learning by doing. Your brain needs to learn that there is no real danger. You can tell yourself 100 times that it's not dangerous but it won't learn. It only learns by doing. And it takes some time but it's not impossible. Lastly: You won't feel like this forever. You don't need to feel okay to do things. You need to do things to feel okay again. I only had ocd for a few weeks but i'm recovering everyday a bit more because I KNOW my disorder. Some people take years to figure out what they have and suffer in silence. I have to wait to get therapy but I don't have to wait to Start erp or get my life back together. I have the strengh to heal myself with my knowledge and patience and you can aswell! Sending lots of love and hope!

I had therapy on Tuesday. We did an exposure by watching an interview with Jeffrey Dahmer. He kept using the words “obsession” and “compulsion” and said his thoughts became too strong and he gave into them. He said a lot of other things but Of course I fixated on that. When I was doing the exposure in therapy, I did not feel to bad but now I cannot shake the feeling that I want to be like him and I’m secretly this monster. It is crushing me and I feel so dark and disgusted.

Help! I’ve had contamination OCD for so long that I feel like I can’t escape! It’s mainly focused on trash and bodily fluids. It wasn’t so bad until I came across some used condoms on the parking lot one day and have been obsessed with the thought of stepping on it and spreading it in my car and in my apartment with my shoes. I can’t touch my shoes, car mat, floors etc anymore. If I did touched my shoes, I will stop everything and immediately wash my hands repeatedly, maybe even take a shower. I am tempted to just throw my shoes away but I have already thrown away so many things in the past due to contamination OCD. I don’t know what to do anymore. Am I crazy? Will ERP help at all?

My dad recently died and it’s really ramped up my real event OCD. He was only 63. The chronic guilt of my worst mistakes haunt me worse than ever and I want so bad to confess to my mother. The event happened 17 years ago and I never repeated the mistake. I was 19. I had or have a learning disability. I don’t think my moral compass fully developed until after that. I love doing good now and made a career out of it, but the chronic guilt eats at me. How do I deal with this? How do I not confess?

Howie Mandel's lifelong struggle with OCD inspired him to help others who have experienced similar suffering. During his guest appearance on the Jennifer Hudson Show, Howie used his platform to open up about his own experiences and bring attention to the widespread stigma that remains around OCD, other mental health struggles, and mental healthcare. Watch Howie talk about his own struggle with OCD and why he partnered with NOCD to combat stigma and make mental healthcare more accessible at https://learn.nocd.com/HowieMandel_JHud

Hello everyone, I hope your all good, I whant to share you my current situation for see if anyone can give me advice or relate to my actuals experience. I already had other ocd theme before, but hocd is one of the worst I experienced. It take something that I was living and felt confident and comfortable in it to torture me with it. During the last 6 month I almost had no relapse, just constant tought fear and bad feeling. I am tired to be honest, like a lot of us is. Just recently it took an other and worst way, because it make me feel like the false attraction is freakin real. Everything started when I got drunk at a bar and started to feel a weird feeling of "attraction" toward every guy I see, but without the anxiety, I just continue my day but the next morning, when I remembered everything, it was terrible. Because it was feeling like the proof, from this moment every male friend or other was making me feel attracted like a big thrilling and anxious feeling. It's weird, and in same time my brain when analysing all the time I was attracted to women was making me feel like it's unreal or if I was living to myself before. I will be honest I hate it, I just whant it to stop, now, but then a strange instant where I was in front of a friend and the feeling came back, I face it, and in the moment an BIG feeling came, like real attraction, then, nothing, it's diseapear during the day. I don't know anymore, it's feel like I'm convinced by my memory telling my it was not real attraction, it's a terrifying feeling, because I cannot look at any male in the eyes by fear to be attracted. I'm scared to lose women, my identity and discover that I was fully lying to myself to try to keep myself in denial. It's feel like denial. I hope anyone who will read that could give me some tips or tell me is story, sorry for my bad English.

I’m fairly new to treating my OCD and have felt crazy for most of my life. It didn’t help that no one in my life truly understood OCD and always said I was being dramatic. I very recently (within the past few months) finally got diagnosed with OCD and my whole life started to make sense. However, I recently opened up to someone I really believed I trusted about the intrusive thoughts I have and now feel worse than I ever have before. They essentially called me a psychopath and said they are worried for the people around me. Even though I would and could never hurt anyone. I’ve never felt more alone and broken in my life. I already try very hard to hide my OCD and everything associated with it because no one in my life understands so it’s been easier to deal with it myself than listen to everyone say whatever they have to say about my situation. After what happened today I’m even more inclined to just keep it to myself. I don’t know what I’m expecting from writing this but I figure this is the best place to write what I’m feeling. Going through OCD is hard enough on it’s own. But when people are telling you they think you’re a danger to society and are crazy because of your intrusive thoughts it really hurts. I’m just tired.

I haven't really been taking care of myself and my sleep schedule has not been great. I really dislike napping as I take around 4 hour naps so then it takes me a wwhhiillleee to try to sleep. I've also cut off my melatonin as I wanted to see how it would be to stop depending on it and hopefully improve but I've always struggled with napping so I just need to not give in. As with false memories / intrusive thoughts I'm still pushing through. Went to work today but just got another false memory type when walking around. Not the first kind. Its like I either see someone or I walk in an area and I get this sort of remembrance feeling. Like I've done something here, I've done this thing to someone. This same movement is something I've done before. And like all those false memories it correlates with real memories I have and the feelings I get with those too. Like right now I did a certain movement and I immediately remembered it from a video so now I'm like "Well if this remembrance shows something happened, then does that mean with the other false memories they are actually proven to be real ?" Idk its weird and I know it takes time I've been through so much with OCD already. Honestly dealing with existential I would think I'm ok snd then bam I randomly get a sudden feeling and I'm fearing everything yet there was nothing I was thinking about to make me fear it. Just stared out a window and had to deal with it all over again and honestly still continues. But again I gotta push through. Another thing I haven't been doing well on is my medication. I've been so lazy in taking it :( I've been so up to date with it but now its like I'm not caring that much but I know I need to go back. I have events happening soon and I need to get better. Look my best. I want to start living life. Currently lost my medication lmao I think its somewhere on my bed but guess I have to search for it. Also took a long nap today that was 4 hours so hopefully I didn't move around alot. Was also supposed to work on my cosplay and buy items but didn't get to. Hopefully tomorrow I'll be able to. Sorry for this long post I guess its just an update/vent. How was your day ? Anything good happen today ? I bought a cute sweater from my job and also bought this cute face palette :3 Hope everyone has a great night ! 🫂💕

Has anyone tried awaken into love or know anything about it?

I've been exposed to an absolute barrage of triggers over the last four days after months without any exposure. Doing my absolute best to practice ERP but almost in a state of shock.

I am new with OCD. No medications and just started regular therapy before getting diagnosed. I have horrible ruminating thoughts on past events that I have done to my now husband (we got married in August, have been together for 8 years). I question my love for him. I question literally everything even though I know I love him and I know I made mistakes in the past. I never physically cheated, but some nights the recurring thoughts of what I did get so bad that I think that I did cheat. I replay the things I've done over and over and I feel guilty for even thinking someone else is attractive. I get panic attacks. I get terrible intrusive thoughts. Sometimes I feel like the only thing to do is to repeat all of my mistakes to him and I know I’m hurting him in the process. Why can’t I forgive myself? I am absolutely miserable and I have no idea what to do :(

I swear ever since going through this, my mind comes up with the most dysfunctional scenarios and what if thoughts that I know if I was in a normal mind frame that it would bother me, but it bothers me knowing that it doesn’t bother me as much as it should. I feel so numb, and I feel like I’m morphing into a bad person when I haven’t done anything wrong. It feels so real and it really makes me question who I am. Anyone gojng through this right now?

I feel like I’m trying to accept myself as in behind homosexual, like I feel like I have to do this and eventually I’ll be okay… I don’t know what is wrong with me and I can’t stop

I’m so scared at the moment. I feel like i cannot differentiate right from wrong. I don’t know if what i like is truly what i like. What if i like the disgusting images that are in my head. Like i say that i am scared but am i actually scared? I think this is harm ocd but is it really? Are my thoughts really intrusive? How do i know if this is me or not? Like a family member of mine just brought up Dahmer and how he was a horrible person and now I’m thinking well what if i end up like that, what if I’m the next him? And i feel little to know anxiety. Like shouldn’t i be isolating myself if i truly don’t want to hurt anybody. Like how do i know if i like my thoughts are not. I think that i don’t like them and would never ever want them to happen but how do i know if this is me? I’m really struggling. Like what if i actually like my thoughts. Yesterday i was so excited talking about family vacation and now i don’t know who i am. Like what if i just go off at any given moment and not care. How do i know if i care or not? Has anyone experience this? Like i truly don’t know what i like and it’s such a scary feeling? What if i don’t care?

My counselor doesn't believe I have ocd because it's mostly mental compulsions. She also tells me to distract myself from my ocd as much as possible even tho I don't think your supposed to do that. She also thinks it's adhd (which I don't hwvr) I'm pretty sure imaging r#p3 and your s/o being brutally murdered isn't adhd. Thanks for nothing though I guess. It's just so hard because everyone doubts me.

Recently I’ve been stuck in this very odd and different feeling. I feel like I’m losing my identity. It feels like everything I ever wanted like a career, relationship etc., is something I no longer want and my fear is I want to be what my obsessions are. It’s really freaking me out because it feels so real. It feels like I don’t even know who I am anymore. It feels like I’m turning into this horrible monster and that the thoughts are just overtaking me. I don’t know how to get out of this. Please send any helpful guidance.