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What are some tips to get outta your head ? It’s kinda rough

What is a good exposure exercise for need to confess? The obsession is being a bad wife the compulsion is confessing - what’s the ERP exercise? Struggling right now.

Why do I feel like I want my boyfriend to change? I'm also going through pms right now and it's so hard to see if it's me or my OCD+pms

Is it possible to have a relationship and get your normal attraction back for whoever has hocd? Are these thoughts gonna be always here? I'm so sick I can't even think about what I want without having these images

So, I anticipate my anxiety/intrusive thoughts. They tell me “you think about your ex, there has to be a reason for it.” And it really flip flops my stomach. I feel sick, sad, and guilty. The reality of the matter is that I don’t actually have thoughts about my ex, directly. I don’t long for her or think about her in that way. I have intrusive thoughts that just say, “You’re not over her, or you miss her.” And those thoughts bring me immense anxiety. I really don’t know how to get past this. I tried ERP but quite honestly, it scares me. I literally anticipate this though. I go to bed thinking, “I’m going to have anxiety over this when I wake up.” Our whole ride back from NY last night, I was having bad anxiety over it. My wife talked me through it and was extremely helpful. Unfortunately we were both exhausted and didn’t go to sleep until almost 3 in the morning. I had a dream about my ex last night, and in the dream it felt as if I cared for her. And I woke up this morning so extremely anxious, upset, and guilty. I gotta figure out a way to calm down, I just want to enjoy my life. I am so scared that I’m going to ruin something so important to me.

Does anybody feel weird when they try do to things they enjoyed before this ocd hit? Like I know I like these things but because I'm so into my head my ocd makes it feel forced

My birthday is coming up & all I want to do is die. I'm to the point where trying to get better is pointless. It never gets better in my many years of experience with this illness. I want to note that I'm not suicidal, just feel like I'd be better off not living. Life is hell.

My grandma is dying right now and with my ocd is like obsessed with her dying it’s like a part of me wants her to die. But I don’t want her to do! I hate ocd

Need some advice. Something happened to me in London a few years ago. I was drinking my sorrows away on a group tour during a pub crawl. I caused so much of a scene my “friend” left me for the night and I woke up in a strange house on the floor of a little girl’s room and a guy was waking me up trying to do things with me. I apparently went into a car with a group of Turkish guys (I’m Turkish so I was probably talking with them). I was so drunk waking up I don’t even remember that part too well. In the living room after everyone woke up the guys wanted to mess with me saying they gang banged me the night before, the guy who tried to get with me is a heroin addict with aids, etc. When I started to cry, one guy said ok that’s enough stop messing with her. I had to have my therapist calm me down from the US. Recently I got an obsession about this night and being on tape secretly. So I googled keywords like Turkish gangbang or Turkish slut with my name in it. I came across a blurry video titled Turkish girl taking a gangbang, and thin figure like me, same hair color but so blurry and I just assume it’s me because of the Turkish description and the year I was in London, even though I’ve seen other videos with similar titles. I usually seek reassurance from others but this time I’m all alone. I have no money to go back to therapy right now and my boyfriend doesn’t understand ocd. I keep having thoughts like omg I’m online I was really gangbanged, there is a video out of me I don’t deserve my boyfriend I’m keeping a horrible secret. It’s a horrible trigger and I feel so alone. Usually my therapist I think would tell me to say there is no evidence this is my ocd, or say some sort of exposure script but it’s so hard to try alone.

Today has been really hard. Anxiety is so bad

Are there ebbs and flows to OCD or anxiety. Last week there were periods of times I was feeling better. Moments. Times where the intrusive thoughts didn’t bother me and I didn’t had riddling anxiety. Now it’s back and I need help

Existential/philosophical obsessions? Anyone dealt with this before? I literally feel like I’m getting better with it and boom I get triggered by something I read unintentionally on the internet or talks with others, movies or tv and I feel like I’m back to square one with a new existential obsession that I feel like I need to solve. I just am so frustrated I’m trying to go about this in the right way I’m trying but I just don’t know how to go about it right. My ocd has taken many forms and everytime it’s one I wish for the other it’s so wierd. Like right now I rather be dealing with my health obsessions then this. But if it’s not one it’s the others it’s like I’m addicted to ocd and juggle obsessions. I just want peace but idk what to do. Does anyone else feel like they conquer one obsession and a new one pops up? I feel like I constantly am in a loop I look at old notebooks and realize I’ve been jumping around the same obsessions for over 3 years. Insanity. I would love to hear what has helped you guys and what I you think I should do?

For the older folks on this app. I just turned 34 and have struggled with OCD since I was very little. Anxiety has been a part of my daily routine. I have never struggled with getting older until now. This past birthday was hard on me and I’m not sure why. I keep thinking about my past, reminiscing to times when I was younger. I have three young kids and so much to look forward to, but I think I may be acting a little selfish. Maybe it’s because I feel like all the major events for me are done and now it’s all about my kids. And I want it to be, but I miss being young too. Feeling kinda down about it and I don’t know how to get out of this funk.

I'm feeling really distressed today. My thoughts are now telling me that I'm bi, with preference to women. Never wanted to date one, now It's giving me urges and saying that I should act upon them. It's so convincing, it's terrifying me. I'm trying to not give them much attention, but I'm still feeling awful. I hate hocd. I wish I had an OCD specialist to talk about this.

I feel like my boyfriend may be toxic to my life. We are 27, he doesn’t know what he wants out of life. Neither do I but like he’s changed his career path, now 4 times since we’ve been together in 2 years. He just got a job but before that was jobless for 9 MONTHS. His car broke, I’ve been driving him places. I love him but idk if I’m in love with him anymore. I was honestly thinking about breaking up with him when I picked him up tonight. But then I am so attached to him and it’s like idk if that’s just Security reasons. I always feel like I would be better off with someone else. But then I get scared cause I’m going to be 28 in less than a month and I’ve spent 2 years with him, and before that didn’t have a boyfriend for FOUR YEARS. Sometimes I feel like I’m settling. It is so hard to know what you feel and what OCD is telling you. Because this may sound bad but like I’m no peach either. I have severe ocd so he does so much for me, laundry, cleaning, etc. i have type 1 diabetes and he always takes care of me that way. Idk Idk Idk.

I don’t think my boyfriend loves me anymore

I’ve been doing pretty good these past couple of weeks. But a few days ago I saw my ex driving and all the sudden thought “do I care where he’s going right now” and ever since then I’ve been obsessing and having intrusive thoughts like “what if I wanna go back to him and leave my boyfriend” and stuff like that. Keep in mind this guy was my first boyfriend in high school and I broke up with him almost a year and a half ago. I am so so in love with my current boyfriend, he makes me the happiest girl ever and I don’t think I could have a better relationship. My ex was clingy and insecure and honestly now that I look back at him, not very attractive. I have never had these thoughts about him before and they’re causing me soo much anxiety. I’ve been having panic attacks and crying constantly and I haven’t been eating. I don’t know why I feel this way, it’s like I feel like I “have “ to go back to him or something or I just get this overwhelming feeling like I maybe want him back. I’ve been tackling this so much and I just feel like I’m back to square one. When I think about being with my ex it makes me cringe and sick to my stomach so I can’t believe it’s effecting me this much. I literally keep saying in my head that I wish he was dead or that I wouldn’t care if he died. I know that’s messed up but in a way it sometimes makes me feel better but honestly just need to see a few people comment and give me their wisdom. This is so hard

I don't know if this is because of my OCD... but my thoughts will force me to make irrational/dangerous/dumb decisions. I swim in chaos and enjoy drinking too much or smoking or doing drugs just to keep other things on my mind

My OCD has swapped around in the past- primarily focused on HOCD and then I just accepted maybe I was attracted to both men and women, (men primarily, women only sexually occasionally) after I had sex with a girl - I didn’t know at the time it was OCD - and now it has focused on beastiality. I’m terrified. I hate HATE to admit this but when I was younger I let a dog lick my private area, and ever since I can’t stop thinking maybe that was because I wanted it? Even though I know deep down it was just sexual curiosity - the actual act of intimacy and not the animal, but now I get scared. In the past few years I have seen images and checked my groinal response, sometimes I can get really aroused and I feel disgusting. I love animals, I would never want to hurt them in anyway, I don’t know whether I just have a fixation on the idea of having sex that is intense - sort of like a ‘I need you now’ thing - as comes with the term ‘doggy style’ but then this just makes me think maybe it’s all rooted down to animals? I’m so honestly terrified I feel like the government will arrest me based on searches of laws and me trying to figure out if I’m attracted to animals going on forums etc. I once read an erotic literature page and it had a beastiality section, I looked at it and was repulsed but again my groinal response was different. I feel so guilty, but I can’t tell if this is my OCD or if I am actually attracted to animals. I would NEVER have sex with one, the idea repulses me, but somehow I can get aroused by the stories (not particularly the images) and I’m so stressed and upset I don’t know what to do I’m too scared to tell my therapist incase they lock me up for it and it hinders my future jobs :(

I don’t feel well my back hurts, my sugar is all over the place, I have diarrhea, and I’m having a day where I just don’t want to go to work. So I called off. But I always feel bad when I call off like I always need to assure myself I was sick. This is a mix between my mom being strange about that my whole life (as a lot of parents are in this aspect) where she would make me go to school when I was sick unless I was throwing up, or kinda guilt trip me when I called off work if she didn’t think I was sick. And also me feeling like shit 24/7, so Because of this not thinking it’s worth it to call off unless it’s super bad.