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Would body dysmorphia be, for example, seeing a picture of yourself and not believing it’s you? like you know it’s you but it’s just hard to truly believe it’s you?

I’m baffled at this disorder. Honestly just baffled that one single thought won’t go away no matter how many times I sit through the discomfort and exposures and don’t do the reassuring. I feel a lot better than I did a month ago but the thoughts are still there. Even when I don’t have the thought I think about how I don’t have the thought and start to have the thought. It’s exhausting. I miss my life before.

Whenever I confess and think I get relief and reassurance it just gets worse and I remember a detail I forgot to add, as if it would change anything, and then remember other things to confess and start a new obsession. What a horrible vicious cycle ?

Guys!! I really need your help. I've been feeling good for the 1st time ever. No anxiety, no thoughts Like what if I don't love him. Even when i saw him my brain said he's ugly, and i said so what? Let him be ugly and I enjoed looking at him thru video call. Then he sent pics, and i expected myself to get some feeling and i didn't so i said it's fine. He looks good to me. I've experienced rocd for 2 months, no therapy, no medicine. I just prayed. Ik many of y'all aren't religious but i am somewhat. Anyway I'm scared now that this wasn't rocd. I've seen people suffer for 1 year.. and i feel better in 2 months... Now I'm wondering and a bit scared. That all those thoughts that you don't love him is true... Omg I'll have to breakup... Seee.. I didn't get any anxiety thinking or typing that.. what is this crap

Why does my resentful boyfriend not break up with me, but he always tells me to leave him instead? He is hot and cold, one minute I’m the love of his life, the next he says I ruined his life and brings up the past. Then he tells me he can’t get over the past and he will never be the same so for my sake I should just leave (the past is a series of fights and mental breakdowns I had after I lost my job. He’s a quiet guy so he’s never seen such behavior from a girl and it affected him badly. I’ve owned up to it and apologized and now take all of his resentful lash outs)

I’m in my late 20s and when I was 6 years old I remember being in bed with a buddy and I pretended to hump him pretending it was a girl. 20 years later that moment causes me a lot of distress with HOCD. Even tho the thoughts never bothered me in past and I been attracted to girls and been in intimate relations with women why does that one moment bother me so much. The exposure therapy works for looking at pics of men but I can’t seem to fathom that one. What is y’all a advice?

Help me

Peeps with rocd, do you guys ever get thoughts/feelings of irritation of why does my partner love and cares for me so much and why does he wants to be with me. Or is it only me?

Does anyone else feel like they have lost their attraction for men and you can’t even imagine being with one? I am so scared because my brain keeps telling me that I am never going to fall in love with a man but I have always wanted to be with men my entire life and instead I am going to fall in love with a women and be happier. Ugghhh can anyone else relate?

Wondering if anyone’s had any experience with hallucinogenics and helping their OCD? I have Pure O with harm as my main theme and was thinking about microdosing shrooms. Any thoughts?

I’m writing this even if I don’t know weather I really suffer from a mental illness or I’m just a real monster,narcissist,sinner,.. i’m writing it while i don’t know wither if I’m really suffering and dad or I’m just numb i just wrote it because i will explode if i stay silent...when i was young i have no friend only some of my older brother’s friends they are really bad they had sex with me soo many times and when i grow up I continued having sex with my gender without feeling any shame or guilt and it reached that i had sex one time in a church and i didn’t feel guilty after it...in this period of my life one i was sitting in my aunts house and i slept beside her with all sexuall thought in my head as if a monster or an uncontrolled animal... but in some point i stopped all of that i promised myself not to have sex with boys anymore and i should be a new human...and time passed and life was soo good and i never remimbered the old life and mistakes i did in the past... after this period my bestfriend died of cancer and i felt nothing!!! I felt numb!! I didn’t fell sad !! But i overcomed this by saying that i can do nothing about it ...until i knew the most beautiful girl when i see her beauty inside, her morals,her pureness, i feel like I can’t even deserve to know her...she loved me but she didint know any of these things ..but I became a new human snd i will not return to who i was again ...but my brain didn’t let me .. a devil’s thoughts started to came to my brain.. sexuall thoughts about any thing in this life..mom,dad,brother,a baby, a child,dog,cat even my dead best friend,martyrs of church,anything 
I think sexually about god about everything and i feel it and sometimes i feel that i’m who bring these thoughts or feel that i have a really bad imagination that imagine things these way..and i thought in extremes so every time a bring extreme thing like all these thoughts...my culture is so religious and good people who love and respect i feel that i don’t deserve life ..how dare me to think these thoughts andd sometimes i didint care much 
..my community is far away from these and i feel like I’m the only person between them .. the worsest of then didn’t do one thing that i did.. i’m comparing my self with them and i always lose no one did what i did no one think what i think Not just sexual thinking in different bad ways that’s makes me afraid that is not ocd

i look at people as heroes and all i wish to be one of them.. I’m really a perfectionist and all of the way opposite to anything perfect i see myself as the worst..i hate feeling that i dont care i hate all of these nightmares... i destroyed all the things love relationships,purity even a death for my bestfriend that all his friends still love and respect and remember ... also I remember that I didn’t love before or know what is love.i’m a mess 
.all i know that I don’t wanted to be a monster or do make all of these mistakes Or to be a mess i want if i’m w monster to turn to a good human and if i’m numb and have no feeling to love and respect.. if I’m narcissist I respect others and care for them..if i’m the devil itself to turn to a good human being i just don’t want to be this bad but word (if) just a dream and i cant do anything 
 I feel like I don’t know what is love so I don’t love and there is nothing real soo that’s why these thought isn’t ocd ,these thoughts because you don’t love your dad or mom or your friend so you think of them that way i reallu don’t understand anything
I’m sorry.

A fun (?) intrusive thought exercise: Has anyone else practiced singing their intrusive thoughts to themselves? Even dancing along to them? I know it sounds silly, but when I start signing to myself, “I’m in deniaaaallll yeah yeah cause I’m really a boy, not a girl, and my life’s all faaaaaaake” it helps make everything just sound so ridiculous and easier to digest. It certainly brings down the anxiety. If you try it, let me know how it goes!

Help please 

I’m writing this even if I don’t know weather I really suffer from a mental illness or I’m just a real monster,narcissist,sinner,.. i’m writing it while i don’t know wither if I’m really suffering and dad or I’m just numb i just wrote it because i will explode if i stay silent...when i was young i have no friend only some of my older brother’s friends they are really bad they had sex with me soo many times and when i grow up I continued having sex with my gender without feeling any shame or guilt and it reached that i had sex one time in a church and i didn’t feel guilty after it...in this period of my life one i was sitting in my aunts house and i slept beside her with all sexuall thought in my head as if a monster or an uncontrolled animal... but in some point i stopped all of that i promised myself not to have sex with boys anymore and i should be a new human...and time passed and life was soo good and i never remimbered the old life and mistakes i did in the past... after this period my bestfriend died of cancer and i felt nothing!!! I felt numb!! I didn’t fell sad !! But i overcomed this by saying that i can do nothing about it ...until i knew the most beautiful girl when i see her beauty inside, her morals,her pureness, i feel like I can’t even deserve to know her...she loved me but she didint know any of these things ..but I became a new human snd i will not return to who i was again ...but my brain didn’t let me .. a devil’s thoughts started to came to my brain.. sexuall thoughts about any thing in this life..mom,dad,brother,a baby, a child,dog,cat even my dead best friend,martyrs of church,anything 
I think sexually about god about everything and i feel it and sometimes i feel that i’m who bring these thoughts or feel that i have a really bad imagination that imagine things these way..and i thought in extremes so every time a bring extreme thing like all these thoughts...my culture is so religious and good people who love and respect i feel that i don’t deserve life ..how dare me to think these thoughts andd sometimes i didint care much 
..my community is far away from these and i feel like I’m the only person between them .. the worsest of then didn’t do one thing that i did.. i’m comparing my self with them and i always lose no one did what i did no one think what i think Not just sexual thinking in different bad ways that’s makes me afraid that is not ocd

i look at people as heroes and all i wish to be one of them.. I’m really a perfectionist and all of the way opposite to anything perfect i see myself as the worst..i hate feeling that i dont care i hate all of these nightmares... i destroyed all the things love relationships,purity even a death for my bestfriend that all his friends still love and respect and remember ... also I remember that I didn’t love before or know what is love.i’m a mess 
.all i know that I don’t wanted to be a monster or do make all of these mistakes Or to be a mess i want if i’m w monster to turn to a good human and if i’m numb and have no feeling to love and respect.. if I’m narcissist I respect others and care for them..if i’m the devil itself to turn to a good human being i just don’t want to be this bad but word (if) just a dream and i cant do anything 
 I feel like I don’t know what is love so I don’t love and there is nothing real soo that’s why these thought isn’t ocd ,these thoughts because you don’t love your dad or mom or your friend so you think of them that way i reallu don’t understand anything
I’m sorry.

So many people on here struggle with thinking about what they miss doing or feeling before their OCD theme hit. Some miss being attracted to the opposite sex and feeling giddy talking to a cute guy at the super market, others miss being able to sit with their partners in peace on the couch, others miss cooking with sharp knives without having thoughts about anything but the food in front of them. What do you miss? I miss feeling like I had a strong sense of self and identity. I miss doing or saying something and thinking, “yeah, that’s the type of person I am! And I’m proud!” Now, I say/do stuff and think, “well that’s how the old me would have done it, and I’m not sure what else to do. But it doesn’t really feel like it’s coming from me anymore. It’s just, a habit. My whole personality and identity is just performing a habit. And I have no idea what to replace it with cause I can’t seem to access the “real me” anymore.”

Ever since my OCD started when I was 14 (I’m 26 now), I get the biggest relief from confessing to my mother. It is getting harder as the years pass to resist the urge. I always feel like confessing all of my past mistakes and sins, even though a lot of it will upset her. But I always get a wave of calm across my body every time I get reassurance or a reaction from her. Idk why at 26 I feel guilty not telling my mom everything. I don’t even know anymore when it is appropriate to vent to her like a daughter and when it’s my OCD telling me to seek reassurance for the wrong reasons. I think of my past mistakes and feel so guilty around my mother.

I just found out that my girlfriend (we just broke up a few weeks ago) has feelings some feelings for this other girl and I think she has been emotiomally cheating on me. She was ditching class with this person and someone else every week for months and I had no idea, went to her house, recently had visited her at work, and the girl was confronted and knew my ex girlfriend was giving off some sort of flirty vibe. I feel humiliated and anxious and defeated finding this out. She kind of did this disappearing thing with someone else a few months ago and I freaked out but then apparently nothing was happening. I feel stupid because she would talk about this girl sometimes, they were texting all the time, she asked if she could give her one of our plants, then the girl gave her a gift that was a little to deep for me to think it was just a friend. My girlfriend and I had lived with eachother, been dating for 4 1/2 years, and everything was seemingly going amazing until she mentioned that she feels unhappy being in a relationship right now and wants to be alone to discover more about herself (I’m 19, she’s 21), but I had believed her when she was seemingly not making this a big deal. But then I had it confirmed from her mouth through soemone that she said she has some feelings. We were supposed to talk in August and talk about possibly getting back together after taking a few months apart, but when I found this out I blocked her on everything and decided that I wasn’t going to give her that chance after she wasn’t honest with me. I’m left feeling more anxious than ever, having a fear of depression but feeling sad, OCD coming back a little, haven’t wanted to drive, suicide OCD, etc etc. i’m really really sad because I really did everything for this girl, would have done anything for her, and am extremely in love with her. Even her mom saw me as family and thought we might get married in the future. We were very close. All this sudden she’s changed so quickly and started to act like someone I didn’t know, distancing herself from me, but I don’t know how to get over being so f*cking in love with her and knowing she has feelings for someone. I asked her to tell me up front if the break up was about anyone else so I could move on and she honestly said it’s not, and that it’s about her feeling lost with herself. I believed everything she was saying, but she also said she was content with certain things in our relationship and said our relationship didn’t have any problems and that it was her, but she talked about things she didn’t like about our relationship to a friend, so she lied about that. How can I rebuild my trust? I am more anxious and hurt than ever right now, can’t even sleep

Does anyone every worry about their significant other cheating on them with Rocd?

I feel numb towards my partner? I know I dont want to leave him but I havr no anxiety anymore, and I just feel numb and a little weird towards him. I want this to stop

Hi, l have a form of OCD where my obsessive thoughts centre on making a mistake/ doing something wrong and getting into trouble (e.g. going to jail). I don’t think it’s exactly harm ocd, because my main fear is ruining my life by getting into trouble- as selfish as that sounds. Does anyone have any idea what this type of ocd is called?

Okayed me start off by day I’m not seeking reassurance so don’t give it to me . I just need to know that I’m not alone in this trans theme . This is the second month that I had this theme . It has completely ruined me . I’m not going to lie it has me a bit suicidal I feel like I’m going insane and I feel like I’m a whole different person. Like I just turned into a boy out of nowhere . And it feels very real . And I can’t even look at myself in the mirror anymore without second guessing myself . My brain will either tell me I look like a boy or tell me I am one . I don’t like it . But I feel like I just have to try to deal with it now . Like maybe I am a boy now ? It pains to have to “accept” something like this because I know deep down inside no matter how real it feels , I am Naja Demsyn . But my brain just won’t stop no matter what I do . I stoped the googling , I stopped the compulsions, I’ve tried the sarcasm and it still will not go away . I feel like it’s erasing my entire life . I’ve been a girl for 18 years and never questioned it and did what I enjoyed . I was happy the way I was . I had minor insecurities but I was confident as a girl growing into a woman . I wanted a husband and to be married with kids . I looked up to other woman like Beyoncé and Michelle Obama . I wanted to be like my sisters . I liked doing things like getting my nails and hair done . It made me feel good . And all of that was taken from me . It tells me I hate my body , I hate my face . Can’t stop getting images of myself as a boy . Tells me I’m not really In love with my boyfriend and I never liked boys . It’s told me that I was really like this my entire life . Sometimes it even makes up little scenarios of the past as if I’ve questioned my gender before . This has to be the worst theme that has ever happened to me . I legit can not take it . I feel like I won’t recover from this and I am going to be forced to be something I never wanted to be and live unhappy. And this is where the suicidal thoughts come in . If I can’t be myself than what’s the point of living ? It associates me with Every man I see as if I am there equal . And I’m not and I don’t want to be . And I keep praying that it will go away and nothing works . I don’t know what else to do my options are getting limited I’m getting more depressed and life is getting so much more evil than it was before . Someone please give me some kind of advice at least on how to deal with this or what may happen to me . I’m scared , I’m lonely and I feel like dying .