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How do you guys make your mornings less hard? The ocd and anxiety is so terrible in the mornings… how do i make my mornings better so it will make a better start of your day

I get incredibly anxiously attached and I’m trying very hard to move past it but it’s been hard. I’ve been seeing this guy who’s incredible, his communication is top tier, it feels right and he’s always there for me, but planning to do anything with him is hard. There are a lot of attributes to it being hard for us both but it’s starting to worry me, is it something I have to worry about? We’ve both become exclusive with one another but the label of bf and gf he said he wants to ask me when the time is right. He works full time, I work as well, I’m usually free during the day or night after a certain time and he has no free time during the week during the day, he also plays football. We both don’t want to meet at night as we don’t want it to always be about sex, well I’m assuming that because he’s said it before. We also both live with our parents (21 and 19) so it’s hard for us both to have our own space, which makes seeing each other even harder. We also both can’t afford big flashy dates, yes he works full time but he’s saving up for big things and I don’t wanna force him to pay for anything he knows that. But people keep saying to me “he could make more of an effort” when we text and communicate everyday without hesitation. If he can’t speak he tells me, his great at it! But it’s the fact I haven’t seen him for 2 weeks now that I’m kind of worried. He has said to me recently he’ll try and find some time, but I’m pretty sure he’s an avoidant and I’m not gonna leave him because of this fact. I’m deeply in love with him but do I even have to worry about the fact we don’t see each other everyday?? We do talk about it but we just always have things stopping us

Hi does anyone else have this theme and can let me know if I’m crazy or in immediate danger? Yesterday when walking to work I saw something fly in front of me pretty close to my face. I don’t know if it was a bat or a sparrow. It was also 4PM but I didn’t get a good look. Should I get the PEP vaccine to be safe it’s really scaring me. I have had this theme before, but I’m never sure if I’m safe and completely healthy kr not. Please advise

Everything the past two weeks has been exponentially better until last night and tonight. I can’t stop thinking I need so much care and support from people around me that they are fed up. I don’t know how to keep living like this. The constant ups and downs, it just never ends

I'm sad because it's too late for me to get over OCD. 😢

Does anyone here take fluvoxomine ? Seemed like everything was going good at first but now after 5 months, I’m having trouble staying awake, having chest pains every day with dizzy spells. Just an overall feeling of being in a daze all day long. Like I have 0 energy what so ever, I also work outside so I was thinking maybe it’s a mixture of the medicine with the heat. I’m not sure, anyone else experience or have any advice, it’s the first time I’ve ever been on any mental health medicine so I’m new to all this

So 7 months ago, I've had a baby..I had Intrusive thoughts and refused to be alone with baby. Escalated to me thinking I could harm anyone and possibly Lose control. Not able to leave house. Now escalated to me thinking I just secretly want a life of harming others. And now I'm in a deep depression because maybe I'm just in denial of my true wants/desires to harm. Going to admit myself. Wondering if I'm making the right move? I've been very panicky /freaking out a lot.

I want to share some hope with all of you who feel stuck, depressed, like this is never going to end.... First of all, you are NOT alone. As much as your OCD mind wants YOU to believe you're alone, that no one understands, that no one has the same distressing thoughts as you- it's all untrue. OCD wants to keep you "safe", but it's not. It's robbing you of the things and people you love. Secondly, this isn't you, it's OCD. It might feel like you don't know yourself anymore, and I know that feeling, but it isn't YOU that you don't understand or know, it's OCD. Finally, I want to give you some advice. Stay off forums, take a break from this app, take a break from YouTube, don't give in to those compulsions. I would 100% recommend that you talk with a NOCD therapist, but resisting the urge to do compulsions (ruminating, researching, skin picking, etc) is a good way to start. Don't forget to go for a walk, eat something, call a friend, listen to a song you love and dance to that song if you want to!! It can get better, I promise. I've been where a lot of you have been/are right now. I've been to the bottom, I've thought that it's never going to end, I've withdrawn from people, I've stopped doing the things I love and engaging with the people I love. Everything takes time, but change and recovery can happen, I promise.

It’s only natural for us to tell friends, partners, and family members our strange dreams, unusual events, new ideas, or daily anxieties. Why would intrusive thoughts be any different? For people without OCD, they often aren’t. They might tell a friend about an intrusive thought they had, not in order to get any particular response, but just to share an odd experience. Sharing can be healthy, but OCD often tells people that they need to share their disturbing thoughts in order to get reassurance about them. The problem is that this can become a compulsion—and like all compulsions, it only makes OCD worse. Read more about why seeking reassurance can make obsessions worse over time, and how sharing in the context of a therapy session with an experienced, licensed therapist can be more helpful.

Hi - I’m a Mom of 3 with Harm OCD. I’ve had OCD for a long time since I was a teen, prior to kids. It’s been harm/sexual orientation, etc. pretty much every theme at some point. My harm OCD got set off so badly by the Lindsay Clancy case back in January. It seemed to settle down for awhile and now is so bad again. I question if it’s even OCD at this point or if I’m actually an awful person wanting to do these things. I’m really struggling. The thoughts feel like urges and it’s all day long. I think of the case everyday wondering and trying to figure out if it was OCD that she had that turned into her losing control and feel sick to my stomach then panic that will be me. Any other Mom’s out there dealing with similar issues? Thank you.🤍

I haven’t made in a post in a bit but I’m currently getting super bad intrusive thoughts and they all are different one of them is about a real event that happened when I was a child that caused me extreme distress because of how warped my brain makes the situation to be. The other one is about my boyfriend who I’m in a long distance relationship and the terrifying intrusive thoughts I get that he’s died and that I just don’t know it yet or that he’s gotten in a super bad accident and no one can reach me. The last one is about someone breaking into my house and killing me, which was the first time I realized woah these thoughts are ruining my life and impacting how I live. I have found myself checking locks multiple times, locking myself in my room, checking my closet and bathroom multiple times to see if someone is hiding, even forcing myself to stay awake until the sun comes up because I’m terrified of going to bed at night. I hate this so much and it’s so exhausting and terrifying, I keep self sabotaging myself but also feeling like an actual horrible human being and thinking I deserve to suffer and that I’m putting on this fake persona so people like me, it terrifies me and even while writing this those thoughts feel so true. I feel like I’m a monster who doesn’t deserve anything good and is such a horrible human being. I have constant feelings of guilt all the time especially with real events and I just hate everything right now. I don’t understand why I’m like this when so many other people are able to have normal lives. I feel like I’m weak but I feel like it’s my own doing but I also feel like I don’t deserve to get better. My brain hurts all the time and I’m just so stressed all the time because of these thoughts, I feel so lost right now.

I've been dealing with what I think is real event OCD about a past event where I physically hurt someone. The problem is OCD is supposed to be an anxiety disorder, but I mainly feel depressed and hopless. I've been trying to do ERP on myself since most the psychologist I've been through don't know how to do that. I try to accept the worst case scenario on what happened to this guy I hurt and lost contact with. You would expect loads of anxiety but instead my mind goes straight to the deep depths of depression (and I mean deep). Being this depressed triggers the I don't deserve thoughts about literally everything (including I don't deserve to have thoughts thought). This then in turn finally triggers the anxiety, not the obsession itself. I've been trying to accept this scenario for over 4 years though and I don't understand why I'm so stuck on it, and I do ruminate about the event alot. I've asked the psychologists and psychiatrists and they both go "you have I don't deserve thoughts, it must be depression". I've got no idea anymore if it's OCD or a bad case of depression. The first thing you need to make a recovery is a correct diagnosis and even after 4 years I can't even get that 🤦

Has anyone ever experienced this? So I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about a month and a half and I really like him and we have fun together but I’m so used to chasing people and I keep comparing him to how obsessed I was with the people I couldn’t have or that didn’t care that much about me and I also feel like I can’t accept affection as well because of it but I give it out so much and I’m always clingy and wanting to hang out with him but my mind tries to convince me that I don’t like him and we started out really fast, we had crossed paths and known eachother our whole life but never like this and we got so close so fast and all the other people that I’ve been with I’ve gotten to know and legit love/almost love before we even dated and now I keep overthinking and feeling guilty that I might not like him as much as I liked them but the like with them was like obsession and I love to chase people but I never had to do that with my boyfriend now (Alex) and the feelings with him I should just be letting the relationship and the feelings grow because I already like him so much it’s just whenever I get into this comparing I feel guilty and then my mind convinced me I don’t even like him like that and idk if it’s just because I don’t think I deserve something that good or I don’t know how to maintain something this good or be held accountable for something this good I just know I never want to hurt him ever I just wanna get closer to him but I feel like I can’t because ocd is keeping me at arms length! also my anxiety has been off the walls since getting off my meds and that makes it so much worse but when my mind calms down or I’m high like I feel fine the relationship seems amazing and there’s nothing wrong in my mind like what is going on with me I push away every good connection because of this ocd and chasing after people who never gave me things as good as my boyfriend gives me and that I give him…so like what’s the problem ? Attachment issues ? Fear of other people giving me affection? Like what’s going on with me? I can’t just sit down and enjoy my relationship with him because he brings me anxiety sometimes because I associate him with how I felt in the beginning when it was going too fast and I don’t know why I’m still ruminating on that because I love what we’re doing and the pace now but I find a cure for all this going back and forth all the time throughout the day but it always comes back it always comes back I just want it to stop so I can enjoy this amazing relationship I have with him and stop taking everything so serious ugh I can’t do it anymore. I’m tired of the comparing I’m tired of feeling guilty I’m tired of it I like him so much I’m so sorry this is so long but this was written in a very short time frame I’m pissed, this is taking me over and I can’t just enjoy it my mind has made him into an obsession that causes anxiety when he should just be my boyfriend and I shouldn’t feel guarded when talking about him and thinking about him and making sure I’m thinking about him as much as I should be and stuff like that ugh he’s being made into an idea rather than a person in my mind and it sucks so much I can’t even enjoy it sometimes please any advice helps

This is like my third post in the last couple of days and everything just feels like it’s getting worse. The idea of comphet is messing with my head so badly at this point I don’t know what to believe about myself anymore. I found myself in a rabbit hole on Reddit and saw a post where on the subreddit offmychest where a man was ranting about how his wife was apparently gay the whole time and just admitted it to him and it broke him. Someone in the comments mentioned comphet and it is making me spiral. It’s like every excuse I have for actually liking a guy is completely out the window, I always come up with a rebuttal as to why I didn’t actually like them and it’s just me convincing myself I did. Some of the posts were against the concept of comphet but between that and aesthetic attraction vs. sexual I feel like I’m losing it at this point. I just feel like my whole life has been a lie. Usually my ocd will go away eventually but this time the thoughts are so much worse than ever before and feel so unbelievably real. I don’t even remember what it feels like to be attracted to a guy like I used to be. And my head is telling me I never was, even though how can something that made me happy just not exist? I’m so tired. I don’t know why this has to happen in my brain, and why I can’t be so sure like I thought I used to be. But now I don’t even know that anymore. If I was going to like the same sex I wish I could’ve just been that since I was a child and lived with it instead of it coming on now. I feel defeated and like a liar to myself. It feels like the thoughts have finally won.

First off it was hocd now I'm having doubts if I'm bisexual or not. I've done so much googling trying to find out what I am and so far I've been able to label that I'm Aesthetically attracted to everyone which has nothing to do with sexuality and is normal but sexually I've only been interested in women. My sexual and romantic attractions are interlocked meaning I can't have one without an other. I know I shouldn't be doing so much compulsions but there is one doubt that's glued to my head and it's making me feel like I'm attracted to feminine men (twinks, femboys) even during hocd this was the case and what caused it to begin with. I can't figure it out no matter how much I research. Sexually it would be uncomfortable and without the feminine makeup on I wouldn't be aesthetically attracted. This is all confusing to me because I always saw myself as straight and found interest in just women. I just want these doubts to go so I'm able to have a girlfriend (broke up with mine few months back) I want to be able to be doubt free and feel secure in my own identity. It's getting to the point where I feel like I need to experiment just to find an answer even though I know I would be uncomfortable the fact I'm no longer disgusted fuels this theme too:(. I really need answers I feel like I'm close but then the anxiety comes back

Honestly it's a little bit better than having Harm thoughts but I think it's connected. I'm terrified of having schizophrenia. I'm almost convinced I have it. It's like my brain it's playing tricks on me to make it more believable. Those who are struggling with the same thing what are you doing to cope? I am doing the "maybe, maybe not" but it's not exactly working.

Basically, when I was 14-16 I was very naïve and impressionable and had a family member that would just talk about nothing but alt right stuff to me, like how women have enough rights and how black people are the ones at fault I took this at face value believing alot of it, I remember saying something to my ex about something about the blm movement (my ex are mixed) and it made them so uncomfortable I bring this up because I hate how I believed all of this, I was being racist as hell and misogynistic, I deeply am ashamed of my ideas and thoughts of thinking what I was saying was genuine, I wish I never was told any of this, because before my sister said anything I didn't think any different of black people or women until she did I want to take it back

growing up I always really liked being nice to people and doing things for them without reason in a helpful way. It made me feel good about myself. But I’m 21 now and learned through an Instagram article that being too nice is bad and manipulative. It’s been a long time since seeing that and now I’m worried all my kindness is to get people to do things for me in return when it isn’t. I really feel like most of my purpose is to be good (I’m not religious btw) I just want to do things that make people feel good and happy and I also just feel compelled to be the best I can be and do whatever I feel is correct and good

I broke up with my GF of 5 years a few days ago. About a year and a half ago , she went out with her friends and got a guys number and hung out with him all night and I broke up with her the next day , she begged and pleaded with me to stay. Since that point I have loved her deeply but did not trust her the same. Fast forward to about 4 months ago, she broke up with me and we were still seeing each other everyday , staying at seperate places , I even took her on an expensive vacation , as we both told each other we working things out. Come to find out she had another man at her place and had two “ sleep overs “ with him where she swears all they did was kiss. This bothered me because even though we were taking a break I thought that that was pretty low considering we were tying to work things out. Also found text of her saying she “ missed him” . When I told her how I felt about all this , she said “ but we were taking a break” which I thought was BS because we were still messing with each other, and she moved on so easily after 2 weeks . Mind you she doesn’t pay any bills, or anything ( not that that has anything to do with it ) . I feel as though I do not have a choice, plus having her around even when we aren’t arguing doesn’t feel right . I wanted to try and work things out but i fear she has no respect for me . I’m scared to lose her , but I feel she is already lost and she triggers my ROCD, HOCD. Any advice ? Thank you

Hello, 3 weeks ago I experienced something that triggered horrible intrusive thoughts. I have been having 5-10 panic attacks every day. I can't leave the house and haven't been able to work. My relationship with my girlfriend is in distress as she has 2 young kids and doesn't understand what I am going through. I feel so alone. It wasn't until last Monday that my psychiatrist identified it as intrusive thoughts and now I am realizing how many other OCD symptoms I am having. I can't eat from my anxiety. I am so so sad. I just feel like this will never end and I am going to be in this black hole forever. All I do is worry about losing everything and everyone I love because of this.