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I’m really confused and I’m hoping someone can relate or help. I’m sorry if this triggers anyone. I did struggle with HOCD/sexual orientation OCD and it lasted pretty much throughout my formative years and I still struggle with it a little today. I feel like I have control over it for the most part, but now I’m just confused. Some days it’s really clear and others not so much. I can’t tell if that’s lingering OCD or something real and it makes me confused. Then aside from that I have really low sex drive. I don’t know whether that’s due to the OCD and just having a low libido because of it or if I’m under the ace umbrella, which I’m totally cool with either way (progress!) I’m just confused. I don’t want to set anything in stone. I just don’t like the concept of labels and trying to fit somewhere because I never can and it’s hard for me to tell what’s real and fake. I feel like some of this confusion is bring my Sexual Orientation OCD back because part of the problem in the first place was the uncertainty. I’m so uncertain about what I like now that it’s starting to come back.

Are distractions like listening to music and video games okay when you're feeling overwhelmed with thoughts of ocd in general?

So pedophile OCD... Im too ashamed to admit it to anyone. So I guess even this is a big step. But I do get intrusive sexual thoughts about kids. When I have been around kids I get thoughts like "what if actually did anything inappropriate". And if Im being sexual intrusive thoughts about pedophilia blasts me. So I stop and then I think what if this means I actually like kids. But what Ive been wondering, and its not meant to be reassurance seeking. I guess there isnt actually anything wrong with being a pedophile (they cant help it) as long as they never act on it. But isnt having thoughts about touching kids inappropriately, pedophilic in itself? Or is it literally just the definition of OCD? I kind of think that some thoughts shouldnt be possible to think unless its something to it.

Just throwing this out there with the hope that someone will relate. I have complex PTSD stemming from interpersonal trauma where I was accused of wrong doing in situations that didn't warrant that conclusion, and where I was left emotionally abandoned as a result. Ever since, I've suffered from instrusive thoughts that center around the theme of me questioning if I did something wrong, or if there is something wrong with me (in all sorts of different scenarios), which results in great fear and distress over possibly being abandoned again. This happens quite frequently. It's like I'm fine until I have a thought pop into my head that has me questioning my actions, my interactions, what people think of me, my every move and its consequences -- from both the present and past. It's like my mind is constantly bombarded with stress inducing memories and snippets of my life. I can hardly take it any more! Can anyone else relate to having OCD that follows a theme related to past trauma?

Dude being asexual with HOCD is crazy. Because like I know I don't want to have sex with anyone but my HOCD is centered on how I'm perceived. So I'm vibing and then all of a sudden I have a panic attack over what I'm wearing because "what if they think I'm a lesbian". Well babe I don't want sex and I've never wanted to be in a relationship with a woman so like...why doesnt logic work with anxiety? Thanks for coming to my random rant.

I just want to be loved. I want to be loved by my family. I want to be loved by my friends. I want to be loved by the NOCD forum. And I want to be loved by god and Jesus for who I am. I just want to be good. For myself and others. I want to share the amount of love I have for everyone I care about and cherish. But more than importantly, I want my HOCD and POCD to be gone for good. Because of these 2 I feel like the worst person on planet earth. I don’t want to be alone in a world where I’m hated by everyone and everything. My biggest fear is that no one will come to my funeral. I’ve had dreams where I would walk to my own funeral, and see my family crying over my grave, but the seats are empty. Not one person. All I could see was black and white. No colors. And in this dream I had never felt so alone in my life. That’s my biggest fear. I don’t want to be alone. Because when I’m alone, I have nothing. No family, no friends, and no help from anyone except myself. People always told me to pick up the broken pieces, and keep on going. But how can I rebuild myself if there were pieces missing to begin with? I don’t want to be gay or bisexual, and especially not a disgusting pedo. I just want to be a normal person. And most importantly, I want to love people the same way they love me. These past 7 months have been the worst months of my life, filled with despair, agony, regret, anguish, pain, and sadness. I’m sorry if I made anyone feel any of these things I’ve listed here. I love you all. You can beat this OCD, and live your life to the fullest. I just pray to god and Jesus that I can do the same. Because this doesn’t feel good. Not in the slightest.

I need help or a pick me up. I’m doing OCD treatment I’m around 6 weeks in and I’m really struggling right now. It’s been up and down, but I can’t even sit through another exposure because the panic attacks won’t stop happening. I’m scared for my life and I want to end my life so badly. I don’t want to die but I want to stop suffering, all hope has left me and I am petrified of who I am. I am merely a shell of who I used to be, I cannot stop crying and I want to just be put to sleep.

I have mentioned this in replies of others posts, but I’m having a bad flare POCD flare up right now. So backstory time. When I was 19 I was having bad HOCD and OCD that obsessed over my gender identity. I found a website that had lots of hentai comics. I found a lot there that I did like but I guess I was going into overdrive trying to reassure myself that I was straight and found myself clicking on a few shota ones. Now back then I had no clue just what shota actually was. I merely thought it was consent age guys that looked really young. There was a lot of things that I didn’t know about And for the record: I did not look up these hentai because of the fact that they were shota, and in fact I ended up picturing myself as the shota and having all the depicted acts done to me by someone older. I realized after a while that looking at those things was really bad and I stopped. And I was ashamed. And disgusted that I had let myself do that. So I vowed never to do that again. And it worked pretty well. I forgot all about having done that and when I did remember I chalked it up to being dumb and desperate for relief from HOCD and I looked down on anyone who actively enjoyed that stuff Well, cut to a few days ago. My brain tells me I should look up one of them again. And what did I do? I looked it up. And let’s be clear: I’m 25 now. There’s no good reason at all why I should have looked that up. And I fell into the old mindset of imagining myself as the shota and having those acts done to me. and I feel complete shame. And disgust. This feeling is consuming me. Even though now my brain is telling me that I secretly liked it all along and that I do like it and that I’m lying to you all by saying I don’t. My immediate thought is to lock myself in my room and not come out ever. I don’t want to harm kids. I want to protect them from things like this! I hate it when there blatant sexualization of minors in media. I want pedophiles to pay for what they’ve done to innocent children. I want to be a mother someday. The kind that protects her children from this no matter what. But I’m just so worried about this. I want to back to how it was before I looked it up again and banish the knowledge of its existence from my mind forever. I feel like I should be arrested and put in jail so I can’t harm anyone. And what makes it worse is I feel like all the characters and people that I know I’m attracted to (ie Claude from Fire Emblem, Leon from Sword and Shield, Dan Avidan from game grumps) I’m not attracted to anymore, or my brain keeps trying to label them as minors when I know they’re not

Cw for Pocd and Semi nsfw? I am a 17 year old girl. I was watching porn and came across an ANIMATED video, when i first watched it i payed no mind to the characters in it. I recently saw the thumbnail again and thought "Holy shit these animated characters are mostly likely minors..." yet continued to click on it. Im very wary when it comes to watching x rated videos, if the video has the "teen" tag in it even, i click away. So why was it different with the animation I found. Theres no clarification that they were minors, but even if they arent, i proceeded to watch it with the thought that they may be. I didnt purposely search children. I dont derive pleasure from watching children be involved in any nsfw situation, it fucking disgusts me to hell and back so this is testing me apart. I would NEVER purposely find content with children in it. Did i think it was ok bc it was animated? bc it had no confirmation that they were children? i have obsessively searched for the animator and translator all of her comments. No sign of them being minors,everyone seems to love the video, so are we all pedos or is it okay. I watched the animation fir the actions not for the characters. I dont know how to reverse this or what to do and i feelnlike a disgusting monster.

Does anyone know a lot about hocd ?

So does anyone else struggle with this. It's white lies in relation to OCD. For example, last night my partner did something that triggers ocd in me. She went outside and touched stuff and then ) whilst I didn't see I almost 100% sure she didn't wash her hands as I heard her lock the back door and come straight into the living room. I shouldn't of done it but I asked did she wash her hands. She said she did. Like I say I k ow almost 100% that was a lie. Now I k ow she did it because she wants a quiet life, and she didn't want to get in an argument and not to distress me. I'm actually managing the fact that she didn't was her hands OK but now I'm runinating over her lying. It's making me feel like 'if she can lie about that what else can she lie about' and 'how do I trust her around my ocd ever again'. What do I do? I don't want to talk to her about it as she will get annoyed and hate that I'm accusing her of lying and will never back down anyway but I can't stop the rumination (it feels like anyway, until I say something to her). I do t want this to spoil our day but I've already lost sleep over it and runinating like mad this morning to the point where I'm get to g annoyed with her. Help me please.

Has anyone had success with mirtazapine? I have health anxiety so meds are super scary for me. I had a bad reaction to Zoloft, so I’m supposed to try mirtazapine next week, but I don’t know if I can bring myself to do it.

Guys how ya all discover you have ocd? And what was yours reaction? Let’s share

When someone comes to talk to me about ocd & want some comfort or words of understanding I like to be there for them... But I start feeling hevaily uncomfortable like I start carrying their worries and stresses, I start thinking and ruminating about their intrusive thoughts. When I'm online I can control it to an extent as I can choose when to stop reading a post and when to stop talking to someone, but in person or when I'm having a convo with someone I know I feel like I can't just leave, especially when they're having a hard time and coming to me for advice and comfort.

When does TOCD stop feeling like denial? When is this doubt gonna let up so I can start feeling like myself again? When am I gonna be able to look at guys I find attractive without my brain telling me I’m a trans gay man or non binary. I am so exhausted.

How to stop checking in on how you're feeling? I feel like I have OCD about my feelings if that makes sense lol. Like I cannot stand being slightly irritated, sad, angry, ANY sort of mood change and it spirals me into hopelessness again and I isolate in my room to cope. Any books, podcasts, videos, tips from therapy that are helpful please drop them here I greatly appreciate your help

Hey guys! Do you know if it's possible for one person to have OCD, adhd/add, autism/aspergers and bipolar 2? I'm almost sure I have it all but in Poland mental health awareness is so tiny that no doctor will help me. I'm not sure if I have it cause sometimes I think " what if I just have hypochondria "

I hate my life 😞. I never really foresaw this coming

I'm having panic through my whole body. It is 3:09 am. I'm terrified of not sleeping but my brain is spamming me with panic and self abusive images. What the hell do I do. I thought I was getting better but I feel like I'm dying right now

I can’t do it. My parents want me to attend mass this Sunday for my dads bday but I literally can’t. I hated growing up there and being forced to go for 17 yrs of my life. I have so many bad memories and just imagining being there again makes my skin crawl it makes me so uncomfortable. I don’t want to disappoint my dad but at the same time I don’t think it’s fair of them to ask me (an atheist) to attend a service that makes me extremely uncomfortable.