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is hocd worrying about your sexuality or not wanting to be gay??? because i have seen so many stuff and now i think this isn't hocd

im getting false attractions to dicks and it’s horrible, i’m a guy. i get this tension when i see one and it makes me feel like i want them. anyone else with some fixation like that? its horrible

I really need to speak to someone with HOCD. Right now.

Hey friends, I’m struggling. This is day 4 stuck on the same obsession and I’m not doing any compulsions and it’s not going away. I’m obsessing about what if I can never get this thought out of my head and it stays here the rest of my life and I always feel anxious, guilty, depressed, ashamed forever and never enjoy my life. Please leave suggestions for ERPs around this. Thank you 🙏🏻

I feel like I’ll never be able to fall genuinely for a guy and have a relationship with one. It seems like I’ll never gain my attraction back and I feel so hopeless 😞 I don’t wanna end up with a woman but it seems like deep down I do

I’m giving up with life

How are you doing today?

Does anyone else get triggered by a body part? It’s like I didn’t even know it existed or something before all of this. And now it just freaks me out all the time and I keep trying to check to see if I’m attracted or not.

Anyone have any advice on excessive hand washing and cleaning? I have to wash my hands a certain amount of times after using the bathroom, worst part is I constantly have to start over again through fear I skipped a number it was counting wrong (despite knowing I didn’t) - this lasts HOURS. My hands never feel clean until I’ve spent 90 minutes washing and starting over, it’s exhausting. Can anyone relate/ suggest anything to help? Thank you!

it feels like im drowning. i feel trapped. ***rocd vent*** my rocd has made things difficult in my relationship with my boyfriend, and i’m frightened that it’s the end i cant breathe without thinking it’s the end of him and me, i cant eat at all and i cant stop living with fear it’s been rocky lately with him, but i’m determined to keep going i want to because i truly cherish him, and love him yet my brain keeps asking me if i really do want to keep going, if i really do love him, and if i’m really okay with spending my days just dreading the end im obviously not, i want things to be okay again, but my ocd keeps haunting and haunting me and i’m so scared that these thoughts are my real ones, that these are my true feelings ive been open about my ocd with him, and this has contributed to the rocky patch it doesn’t help that i’m not formally diagnosed, and it also doesn’t help that i’ve been doubting whether or not i have ocd. (i have what i believe are a lot of the symptoms, but even then i doubt myself) i just feel like i’m drowning. i want peace in my head and in my heart. i want things to be back to normal with him and me, and i want to be happy. it just doesn’t feel the same, and i feel like it’s my fault for starting us on this rocky path. the last thing i want is a breakup, yet my thoughts tell me that i’d like freedom. they chant that i need to escape and run far far away. they make me feel like the only way out of the way i feel is by ending it, and i don’t want to end it. the only things moving me forward is the knowledge that i’ll get to speak to a professional soon (in two weeks), and the hope that things get better in time. thank you to whoever reads my rant, and i’m sorry if this is triggering. i just needed to write how i feel somewhere. reassurance has been driving me downhill, so please don’t reassure me. if possible, just give me advice on how to cope with feeling this way.

I am struggling a lot with guilt regarding my relationship. When I have intrusive thoughts regarding my sexuality, it feels like I am considering leaving my boyfriend. This makes me feel unfaithful because we have always been so committed to each other. I feel like such an awful girlfriend and accepting uncertainty only makes it worse for me because it feels like accepting that I might not love him. I hate this so much, and I want to go back to my old self. A few years ago I would’ve laughed at you if you told me that I’d go through this because I was so boy crazy and never considered that I might not be straight. I miss my old self. I feel like my brain is telling me I have to be someone I don’t want to be, and I have no control. I would really appreciate any advice anyone can give.

Anyone else get scared they don’t like the sex they like for the right reason? For me: I fear I don’t actually like men, I just think I like them because I am male-validation oriented / men are the default to be attracted to as I’m a woman etc

I feel terrible because a set of memories have been on my mind since march. i used to watch a lot of pornography. that included lolicon, shotacon, and even toddlercon. at the time i had been watching it, i didn’t think much of it. i don’t want to blame it on hormones even though at the time i had watch that stuff, i was very hypersexual and watch all kind of pornography (not including animals or real children). on top of that, i had watched that stuff up until before i turned 15 (16 now- started watching it when i was around 12 ish). It felt normal watching it and thinking about it now it was NOT normal. i feel gross and i’ve been panicking about it everyday. my sibling and my mom tell me that i was a kid and i didn’t know any better and i don’t listen to them because that would be reassurance. i don’t know what to do anymore because some of the intrusive thoughts i have are associated with the things i’ve seen. i really don’t wanna remember what i’ve seen and what i’ve done. can anyone give me advice on how to deal with reoccurring memories or what to do with it because i really don’t want to feel impeding guilt all the time. it makes me extremely suicidal. since my dad finally got out of my room and my parents are starting to feel better from sickness i’ll have to go back to my room and it reminds me of the things i’ve done and i’m scared i’ll end up driving myself crazy and killing myself because i’ve tried multiple times over and over again everyday before my dad was in my room because of the memories and i just wanna know how to deal with them.

For the past one year, I've been dealing with HOCD. So, that brings us to the problem at hand, which is that, last day at around 5 pm, I impulsively decided to bring an ultimate end to this problem and come out as bi. And I did that pretty publicly, I took to twitter, to tweet about it, I posted a screenshot of that tweet on my WhatsApp status and literally told my mom about that too. Everyone, who cared enough to respond was pretty supportive which makes the whole thing worse. So, I've got a bi friend of my own, and her and I got to talking about how she discovered her bisexuality or how she got reprimanded by her family members, after getting caught with a girl. Well, honestly, I just couldn't relate to that story at all. I just didn't understand why I couldn't find the same level of enthusiasm that the others were feeling for me. So, I thought to myself "could I just be gay?" but that felt weird to even think about. I am most definitely not gay, I've always liked guys and been attracted to them, imagined a future with guys, but HOCD just made me feel like I didn't and that there was a possibility for me to be gay. I don't know how to get out of this mess that I've created, I really could use some advice. I just can't for the life of me take any more decisions for myself.

just saw that one of the internalized homophobia symptoms are obsessive thinking and compulsive behavior. LIKE WTF? ISNT THIS OCD? so u are telling me my hocd is internalized homophobia??? oh gosh

Anyone else struggle with an addiction to p*rn?? I watch it a lot and I feel like that’s the reason my sexual performance isn’t the best, in terms of been able to reach the point of orgasm I mean, and this triggers my POCD because I’m wondering why I can’t get excited to the point of orgasm with someone of age and it makes me so nervous and anxious to the point where I don’t even want to have sex or engage with anyone to avoid the anxiety?

I've noticed that it's so hard texting people back. I see they text me but I'm too emotionally and mentally drained to respond. I haven't responded to a few of my friend's messages in days or weeks. A friend and I made plans to hang out. Haven't talked to him in months (because of school/life). We had a date and time set. But he canceled on me the day before because it took me 2 days to respond to one of his messages. "Whatever I'm making other plans, because obviously you aren't interested in hanging out". No, I'm just struggling! Other friends text me repeatedly, and give sassy remarks when I finally respond. "Well I prefer my friends who ACTUALLY take the time to message me. I don't need people who don't care in my life". I still care about you, I'm just struggling!! After awhile I become embarrassed that I didn't respond sooner, so then I ignore them further. I've been ignoring a long distance friend for 6 months because I'm so embarrassed, he texts and calls me at least 4 times a month. I've made plans to lie about losing my phone, or having it hard reset. Something stupid like that My therapist (former, he was an intern and had to move. Miss him!!) Said that I am allowed to take time off of texting, and to go back in and explain that I wasn't ready to text yet. But not a lot of people understand that. Texting and calling are very stressful. It leads to guilt, annoyance, anxiety, and frustration. But this is one of the things I plan on working on!!

NSFW 18+ I feel disgusting. I went to tik tok and there was this video exposing leaked videos in his link. It was malu on there and a censored video being played. There was this other girl named Mckenzie apparently her video was leaked. Comments saying shes 16. People were also saying check Reddit... didnt see anything it was all removed but still what the hell i feel like i can't be on tik tok or at least read comments first.

How did it all start for you guys? I see a lot of people scared of the possibility of being bisexual but I think that possibility depends on how you got it and what your worries actually are. I think a lot of people also come out as bi to nullify it, I even considered it extensively but I never felt like I fit in with it, how can I be bi if I don’t like men right? For me I thought I was gay for a couple days before finding out what SO OCD was. Even days after I didn’t know if it was even a real thing because people say it was homophobia or something. But I feel like it was a bit different because I was 90% convinced that I was gay just by precedent. I was in distress and I would go to the bathroom at work and hold in my tears, I didn’t wanna cry cause I felt that that would be me accepting it. It was a really confusing time and now that I’m a bit more sure in my sexuality I still get annoying thoughts. I saw that people in denial are classified as people who are just hiding the fact that they are gay from other people and that became one of the the thoughts in my head after reading that, I don’t worry about it while talking to family but everytime any topic regarding sexuality comes up I get pretty uncomfortable, not because I feel like I’m hiding something it’s just I feel like I don’t really want anything to do with the topic anymore, I am not a social person, I have social anxiety but I always had crushes on girls. Hell I even have a crush on a girl right now and that was enough for me. There’s one thing though. Not that convinces me that I’m homosexual but one that makes me wonder if I’m asexual or lack a preference of anyone. I always wanted to have a kid but in my mind I never imagined raising a kid with someone else. I always imagined it just me and the kid going about life, I even looked up solo adoption when I was 17. But there were also scenarios where I imagined myself completely alone, I constantly think that if I were in a relationship or have a kid then that would completely stop my life in its tracks, it prevent me from moving forward. Even so I still identify more with being straight because I’m the end of the day because I am sexually attracted to women and I try to put on my best look for all the girls I’m ever around.

Its like i can think of other girls and guys together and be like “awwww i want that” but then when i think of myself with a guy it feels like i dont want it and i get like a wave of disgust and it makes me so sad :( And then with girls my heart rate literally spikes and i freak out that i want that when i dont, but that i’ll like it more than a guy and it feels like i would and im just so so scared:( omg even rn typing this it feels real:( Anyone else experience this??